SHAKEN, NOT STIRRED - Thinking Positive

The Crossroads...

We have all been here. At one time in our lives we jump forward and leave the fear behind. Whether it is a job, a situation, a relationship, or anything else that has laid dormant for quite a while. Right now I see so much change around me. I see a lot of people moving around, making big life changes and moving forward to a different life. It is not because a lot of them have pushed themselves to new beginnings, but it is mostly because situations have forced them to change. They have had no choice.

The world is a different place now. The economy has turned a lot of peoples lives upside down. Quite a few friends of mine have lost so much and when I get really scared, I look at my favorite quote and I recite it and post it over and over again wherever I can. This quote brings me great calm and reminds me of my strength.

"A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water."
Eleanor Roosevelt

I have clung to this quote quite a lot lately. It started with the fact that I have been helping a lot of people close to me and sometimes I feel overwhelmed and my foundation has been "shakin." That is the reason for this title. We all feel at times of our lives a bit "shakin" but what "stirs" me is a whole different thing all together. For something to "stir" me it has to hit deep.

Lately I have been "stirred" like James Bond's favorite drink. The way I look at life is constantly changing. It is as if my time has come and I am preparing myself for bigger and better things. Things that move my heart and my passion all at the same time. I am reaching out to people and have brought in such wonderful human beings in my life. I have such good and caring friends who have assured me that they "have my back." This means more to me then everything because deep down all I have ever wanted was to be loved.

It is hard to realize that when my mother died that a lot of love was taken away and then I spent most of my life trying to bring it back and hoping that I had nothing to do with the love that was lost. As a child I was so full of love but I hid it from a lot of people because I was scared and I knew that it could be taken away at anytime. Relationships with men would come and go and I was part of it because somewhere along the line I just shut off. Eventually I learned that this was a protective mechanism that was deep in my core. One day I woke up and finally realized that I had to stop blaming myself for everything and except the fact that it was never "just me."

So we all go through "blame." We have to find our way and accept the change. We have to accept the fact that we are all in it together and the support is very important. I feel the most love when I give to others and I have always been a giver. At one point I thought I was selfish until I had my children and I always put them first nomatter what. This was when I found myself and wanted to know more about the "giving me." So, in these trying times it is really important to support friends and family in a big time of change. Even virtual friends too. Infact I have felt so much love from "virtual friends" lately. Some I have known in person and some that I do not, but the love is there and I will take it however I can.

I have connected to some amazing people and I am enjoying it so much. So, if you are going through a lot of change in your life....just remember to reach out to someone you love or cares for you. Life is short and we are all in this together.



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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey

Beautifully written very moving words. You made my day - having an under the weather one. I love Eleanor Roosevelt, too!

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drbj 6 years ago from south Florida

When FDR was president, he was such a powerful leader I don't know if most people realized that Eleanor was also very powerful, too in her intelligent and charitable way. Great quote and well-written hub, G.

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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

I very much enjoyed your hub. I think many of us are going through more difficult times right now and thank goodness we can sometimes help those we care about. We will prevail!

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

fetty...thank you so much. Sending you positive thoughts and I hope you feel better. G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

drbj...thank you for stopping in. Thank you so much for the compliment and mentioning Eleanor. Always love strong women! G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Pamela...I am so glad you enjoyed this hub! Thank you for your positive words! We shall prevail! G

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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Very inspiring! I'm lucky to have a great support system!

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LilianEden 6 years ago

Love love love the hub!!! Hoping many more people who need a little helping hand, or voice of positivity, will be lead to your hub!

((We're all in it together!!!!!!)) XOXOX

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HappyHer 6 years ago from Cleveland, OH

It does seem to be a time of great change for many people. I hope all your change is wonderful, and the growing pains few!

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tracykarl99 6 years ago from San Francisco

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! I really enjoyed reading this ~ change is good, they say. I remember the first time I heard the quote from Eleanor; it was in Hilary's book - another strong woman - she worshipped Eleanor all through girlhood and beyond! Thanks and God bless :)

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Michael Ray King 6 years ago from Palm Coast, Florida

Excellent hub, as usual! Uplifting and encouraging, there is nothing more valuable than the ability to see past trials. Thank you.

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

habee! thank you so much. Always appreciate you being here. G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

LB! We are all in it together.....YES for sure! I love ya girlie....GXOXO

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

HH!! YES YOU ARE RIGHT! Thank you for your lovely words...G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Tracy. Nice to see you here. I appreciate your comment. I love strong women! G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Michael...thank you for your lovely comment! I so appreciate it! G

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Deni Edwards 6 years ago from california

Thanks for a beautiful hub. I love it.

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Deni...thank you so much! GPAGE

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Seafarer Mama 6 years ago from New England

Beautiful hub, GPage. Keep spreading the love and it will keep coming back to you, sister. :0)

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msorensson 6 years ago

Beautifully done GPage. This is true...many of us are undergoing a lot of angst about the economy. There is only one thing we can do and that is to deal with it the best way we can and as you said, reach out.

Last week, someone did that to me. She took the time off of her very busy schedule to answer an innocuous, seemingly funny email from me.

I had sent her a funny story but she KNEW behind that story was pain and with a single email, my whole world changed, for that one moment, I saw myself in her eyes...and I was transformed.

I do not know if this makes sense...

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Seafarer Mama...Thank you so much and lovely to see you here!!!! Best, G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author does make sense! This has happened to me. People from my past have come back into my life and my heart feels full. It is time for all of us to be there for eachother! I am so happy you are here!!!!! I have reached out to many. G

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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas

awesome hub GPAGE and I agree with you. I have been going through some changes lately as well and although it is tough sometimes the outlook is very positive and I look forward to all the changes and welcome them. Its funny but your quote from Eleanor Roosevelt was the one that I had on my facebook for a long time. I love that one. Great read, cheers.

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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

Great idea to always share you love to everyone. You are not alone, my friend. You still have good people around you . Including your "virtual friend". We are family here, who felt happy and sorrow together. You have done it well by helping people close to you. I like your word, "We have to accept the fact, no matter what". We life in the real world. By technology the world so small. Your virtual friend always support you.

I agree with you that life is short. Why we don't start doing something good for others. Just share your heart, I believe God always smile looking at us. Always thinking positive is a good for us. That's why I love you very much. My pray always for you. Take care!


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Ask Your Mama 6 years ago

GPAGE, Thank you for having the courage to write this. I see your greatness shining through, and Like Oliver, I say, "More Please?"

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

AYM! Thank you so much! I so appreciate you being here! Let's keep writing my friend and sharing the love!!!!!! Amen! G

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cheaptrick 6 years ago from the bridge of sighs

The word to cling to is"Endurance" G...This is the time for Stoicism and holding to our values while allowing attitudes to change with circumstance.I don't know if virtual admiration has the same value as real life but All of us certainly have it for you!I have not used the "L" word in a serious manner since Linda was taken from me but I believe I can aim that arrow at you.I actually worry about you at times[between my bouts of Heinekens that is:)].You know I'm going to do my Damnedest to cheer you Up don't you?So here goes..."A woman is like a tea bag.You cant tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water"...Hmmm...Do you suppose I might have the teeniest taste...since your brewing anyway...I promise to savor you and swish you around in my mouth so your wonderful flavor lingers in my memory...HOLY SH*T!!!Did I just say all that??Now I'll have to go to the Range and shoot my Nine mil so I can Be a HARD ASS again!!..........Please don't tell anyone about this side of me...what would my buddy's think? Hey You!XXX


lemmyisgod 6 years ago


This is the stirring stick in your cocktail baby - all u ever wanted was to be loved - dont we all - the difference is now u know u truly are. This relationship has come and aint going anywhere. More to the point I am a tea drinker!!!!

Yours as always

Richard XXX

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epigramman 6 years ago

G - your hubs have me shaken and stirred (up) and I feel like a juiced up cocktail ready to explode! C.

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author really made me giggle! Thanks for making me smile too! VERY funny you are!!! AND I ALSO appreciate the lovely things you said about me before you took your gun to the shooting range!!!...YOU TOUGH GUY YOU! ha

Thank you also for your caring words and always being here to make me feel good. I do appreciate you and also the fact that you are always YOU! Not many people can do what you do with your writing and heinekens...ha ha how many?!!!!. Sometimes crazy stories but always heartfelt. Never change my friend.......I promise I will not tell anyone about your soft side........ha G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Richard...... stir me up every single day! Glad to know that you have quit the booze for now and you are now drinking tea! Tea for two darling?

Thank you for the love Richiepoo......Meet me under the moonlight in the garden? ..........right now lovey......


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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

E...thank you so much for your comment. I am so glad you enjoy my writing. Awesome.


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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Lady Jane...I must of missed a few comments! forgive me! I am so glad you liked this hub. We seem to have a lot in common......thank you so much for coming by.

Best, G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

PRASETIO.....I always love to see your positive words on the page! It is so wonderful to feel your heart and it means a lot. Your blessings and powerful feelings and prayers that you leave here make a wonderful impression and a difference in my experience here on hubpages. You are one of the best virtual friends I know! With a love for all sorts of interesting subjects and people. Thank you again for being you!!!!........G

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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

Good morning, GPAGE. Thanks for your confirmation through my hub and your comment really appreciated as you appreciate my comment. That's make our friendship stronger from day by day. Just keep in touch, my dear. I just create a new facebook account, this account is special for my virtual friend. I hope we can share some news each other or just giving smile. You can find me on:

I am glad if you want add me. Thank you for all your kindness to me and your pure heart always share love with others. That's make you so special. Have a nice weekend. Cheers


nir17 6 years ago

really moved by and liked your post...

thanks for motivating

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Springboard 6 years ago from Wisconsin

It's never just you is right. Sure, life is largely what we make it. We make our own beds most of the time, and yes, we have to sleep in whatever bed we make. But not EVERYTHING in life is what we make it. There are outside influences that pull and tug, and twist and churn, and sometimes life is a matter of simply doing all we can to take good care of the things we have control over, and accepting the challenges that we face for the things we are not in control of.

This economy has given us plenty of challenges. Parents dying are certainly outside of our realm of control. Cars quitting is something we can't always prevent.

I guess the plus is that every time we face a new challenge successfully, we come out wiser and stronger in dealing with the next one.

TattoGuy 6 years ago

"Life is short and we are all in this together", how true and personally I hate change, still trying to get my life together xo

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

nir17...thank you so much for stopping by! Best, GPAGE

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

Springboard....I really appreciate you taking the time to leave such a great comment...

I am so happy you stopped by......Best, G

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

ART! So happy you are here my friend....I think you are wonderful you know.......


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viryabo 6 years ago

You know something G, i read this and sat for a long time, thinking of how to put my thoughts down into words.

It made me think a lot, and remember how as a kid, i was so full of love for anyone and everyone around me. But i felt i wasn't supposed to express it openly.

So the only way i could express my sometimes intense feelings was by just being kind. But the bottling up of emotions i couldn't express made me strong.

Of course, as i grew older (well, much older actually), i found that reaching out to people gives me so much joy. And that explains the way i felt as a kid while interacting.

Just a word of encouragement, a smile, a lingering hug...... any way we can openly express what we feel is not only good to whom we reach out to, wherever they may be, but its great for us, our hearts and our health.

Dont know how i missed this wonderful article when it was published. And i greatly enjoyed it G.


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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

viryabo...I always love your comments. They always bring love and light to the page here.You shine in everything you write. Your heart is always here. Thank you for always sharing your heart with me and everyone who reads my work. G

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James McV Sailor 6 years ago from Northern California

Change.... either you're on the edge or you're buried by the wave..... thanks for your words and strength G..... I'm re-energized again - endeavoring to persevere! Happy, HAPPY Holidays! JM

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GPAGE 6 years ago from California Author

James! We know about the waves for sure! I'm so happy to see you here. Pease send me an email and let me know how you are? G

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