She Wanted Him To Grow Up

He wanted her to stay the way she was
The way she was the day they first met
She wanted him to change the way he was
She loved him but he wasn’t there just yet

She was so wild when they first met
But she was ready to grow up
He was still just a wide-eyed boy
It takes a man time for him to catch up

They didn’t realize it was happening
But they started drifting apart
She only thought about the future
He only thought about her heart

He’d watch her when she was reading
She knew but pretended not to notice
She felt the pressure of his eyes
And wondered if she could satisfy his lust

Twenty years passed
He wondered why she had to grow up
Twenty years passed
She wondered when he would catch up

It seemed they were never really together
They would make love but then talk about the weather
She didn’t know that he would always be a boy at heart
He didn’t know she wanted to be an adult from the start

They didn’t realize it was happening
But they started drifting apart
She only thought about the future
He only thought about her heart

Twenty years passed
He wondered why she had to grow up
Twenty years passed
She wondered when he would catch up

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Sad, but oh so true.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

Oh dear. I've heard that women marry thinking he'll change; men marry thinking she won't. sigh. Tragic.

But maybe such pronouncements solidify them? It doesn't have to be that way. Does it?


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

i love it much :) i'm a fan of poetry.. voted it so beautiful.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Sunshine - Hi! Thanks for commenting. It's just a piece about why sometimes men and women have problems. They have different expectations.

@Nellieanna - Hi! I owe you a response on that other hub. What you said is what I believe. They are not on the same page. Somehow you have to accept that a person is somewhat a finished product and if it doesn't work with who you are then don't change them. Just find someone else.

@unknown spy - Thank you!


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sandrabusby 4 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

Yup! Classic story. Are you a fan of Jungian psychology? And the puer? That boy in us has to stay alive -- and we also have to develop the Saturn in us. Opposites attract, so that we can see as in a mirror what we are trying to become. Poetry is such a wonderful way to share those feelings. Thanks for SHARING. Sandra Busby


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Sandra - Well to be perfectly honest I'd never even heard of the puer. I've read some Jung in passing and it is very interesting. Opposites do attract because of the initial fascination and our need to learn and expand ourselves. But sometimes what was a blessing becomes a curse and in the context of a day to day relationship it just becomes defined as an annoyance that morphs into a bad relationship. I am 53 years old and have experienced quite a bit in life just like eveyone and have thought long and hard about this. The poem is just how I feel about relationships and the mistakes people make when "accepting" a new partner. I am free right now in my life and my next "partner" will be deliberately chosen by me. I am happy living alone because of the problems that I discuss in the poem. I know now what can happen and the need for a companion has been tempered greatly. And the good thing is that I am not desparate nor do I lack for choices. Thank you for your comment.


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prairieprincess 4 years ago from Canada

Poet, I think this is a classic story, that describes many men and women. And how would they have known? We all want to believe in people and we don't know how we will be in twenty years time. I love the way you wrote this: so sad but so understanding. You write with compassion. I enjoyed reading this.


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acaetnna 4 years ago from Guildford

Unfortunately many couples do drift apart, but some have a really special connrction and readjust and come back together even stronger. Great work as always!


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raciniwa 4 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

yeah, the paradox of life...i am also wondering when that would happen, until i grew myself a beard...


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@prairieprincess - Thank you for your nice comments. I guess when we're young we're selfish little beings full of superficial thoughts... we have no ability to see inside one another so we go with what we want out of life for ourselves and go about constructing this dream; but many times we don't even know ourselves much less our partner. No wonder we fail so much...

@acaetnna - Thank you as always! You always bring hope and a smile and I love that about you.

@raciniwa - Yes. There are many.... a beard! Ha....

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