So Mature

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How It All Began

She'd always loved to flirt and now that she was working in a hospital in a secretarial pool for doctors the field was wide open! There were doctors everywhere with one better looking than the next. They were all sizes and colors and of course the married ones were off limits. Some flirted back, others were just polite but not interested.

When this particular doctor, Dr. Dee flirted back she was flattered. He would stand by her desk and rub her back as she typed. He would tell her how beautiful she was and how smart and talented. He knew all the right words and tricks. She was only nineteen but oh so mature.

He stopped by her desk for weeks and built up a relationship between them. She actually looked forward to seeing him and basking in his flattery.

She Never Saw It Coming

Finally he asked her out. A few drinks and maybe dinner. How exciting! She was going out with a doctor. Okay, he wasn't the best looking but he wasn't the worst either. He had dark hair and eyes and smiled a lot. He seemed like a nice guy so she said yes.

The day of their date she took extra pains to look good. Not just nice, but good. The dress that accentuated her slim waist and larger than normal chest. Let's face it, a girl had to show off her good points. She wore the highest heels in her closet to make her legs look good.

After work they met outside the hospital and got into his car. He told her he had to stop to have a pair of pants altered. While she was waiting in the outer part of the dry cleaners, the wife of the man altering his pants, came up to her quietly and said, "Get away from him. He's no good and you're a nice young lady." She didn't know what to say so she just smiled and said nothing. When he was done they went to a nearby bar and had a few drinks. She didn't drink much, ever, so two was her limit.

After they had drinks he said, "okay, let's go to dinner." They got in the car and drove out of the city. She began to get a little nervous because she had no idea where they were going and it seemed such a distance to go just for dinner. They drove for quite a while when he suddenly pulled into the parking lot of a motel. "Uh, where are we eating" she asked. He replied, "don't worry, there's great take out here." They got out of the car and went into the motel...into a motel room. Now she was more than nervous. She could feel panic rising in her throat and her heart beating faster.

He went to get food and brought it back to the room. He talked while he ate, she sat silently, not eating, wondering what she had gotten herself into. Soon after they ate, she knew. He began to caress her and make moves she was not ready to deal with. She tried to fight him off but here, alone in a motel room, she had little chance. She began to cry but he took no notice. When he was finished with her he said, "okay, let's go. I'll take you home."

Statistics on Sexual Violence (Females)

    • Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.(U.S. Department of Justice's National Crime Victimization Survey)
    • 1 out of 6 women have been victims of rape or attempted rape in their lifetime. (National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention.)
    • 38% of women who have been raped were ages 14-17. (PSU)
    • 60% of rapes/sexual assaults are not reported to the police. (U.S. Department of Justice)
    • 73% of sexual assaults were committed by a non-stranger. (U.S. Department of Justice)

(Statistics from The Center for Family Justice http://www.cwfefc.org/svfacts.html)

So Mature

She knew now she was not mature. She had been tricked into a situation she couldn't handle. Now she felt her life was ruined and she was partially responsible.

When she returned to work the next day she was very quiet. Her supervisor asked what had happened. She really didn't want to tell the truth but said Dr. Dee had come on to her and she was afraid of him. Her supervisor told her he was notorious for that. Her supervisor told her boss, Dr. McAfee. Shortly after Dr. McAfee called her into his office. He looked at her and said, "I want the truth, no matter how hard it is." She didn't tell him the whole truth but most of it. Dr. McAfee said, "this isn't the first time we've had trouble with Dr. Dee. His harassment has reached an end and we are going to suspend him for this."

She had learned a very hard lesson. One she would live with for the rest of her life. Eating away at her and making her ashamed of her own stupidity. His suspension made the days easier and eventually she put it in the back of her mind, to reside there for the rest of her days.

Have you ever found yourself in a potentially dangerous situation?

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Date Rape

Rape is an act of aggression or violence. Date rape is still rape.The perpetrator of date rape has most likely planned it in advance. No victim is responsible, ever.

It is said statistics for date rape are hard to find because most date rape goes unreported. There is no shame in date rape and it is vital to tell someone, a family member or friend. Tell someone you can talk to. If you afraid to talk to a family member or friend, talk to a counselor or your local pastor.

Obviously this young girl did not use common sense. She should have spoken to her co-workers about this man's character. She should have listened to the lady in the cleaners, but, she didn't. Once the situation has occurred the most important thing to do is get help and not blame yourself.



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55 comments

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sallybea 2 years ago from Norfolk

tillsontitan

Some valuable advice, not only just for young people but for anyone who finds themselves in this situation. Thanks for sharing. Voted up.


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btrbell 2 years ago from Mesa, AZ

So sad and still so prevalent. As the mother of a daughter, this is so frightening to me. I know you are, as well and thank you for compiling the statistics for us. Well done! Up+++


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

So Mature has useful points and should be carefully considered as a helpful read. You have a very important message here.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

A wonderful way to drive home the central point. I love the way you used the story to point out how it can happen and what you can do about it. Excellent writing, Mary....really a wonderful example of how to write about a common topic and yet give it a new approach. Well done!


Jane Arden 2 years ago

This was excellent and a stark warning for all us ladies. But even if we're foolish, we don't deserve to be raped. No one does. Hopefully reading something like this would urge someone who has suffered this abuse, to do something about it.


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa

Oh, I can write a book on this topic. If only we know how to listen to our gut feeling since the day we are born. But curiosity, hope, our sense of adventure, or maybe an urge to demonstrate protest against whatever, tend to lead us into this kind of misery.

In her favour: More people than only the lady at the cleaners could have warned her, but scoring against her: She had enough time to 'disappear' while he was getting their food.

I would like to add a category to the statistics on Sexual Violence (Females) - A high percentage of females makes it too easy for a man to overpower her with his charms and favours, not to talk about his anger and determination, if that is the drive of his actions. The kind of man who wants sex with no intention to get involved is a dog, and a dog is a dog. Some are only more dangerous than others. Just know they are dogs, and beware! Human/animal nature should never be underestimated. Nature speaks harder than morals and rules.

Excellent and arty demonstration of a very real scenario. Thank you, Mary!

PS: Did I sound like a know-it-all? But only because I was a victim more than once, and I will forever and a day regret my stupidity. BUT, at the same time I am rejoicing my victories and all the good that has sprouted from the bad.


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Becky Katz 2 years ago from Hereford, AZ

Beautifully done story. This should be required reading for young girls. I vote up and shared.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Til.....A serious topic, you've presented with tact and truth. This should rightfully be printed up as a hand-out to every young woman every where. This issue is too real and too rampant, I'm sad to say. What concerns me as well, is the reluctance of the victims to report......and society holds the shame for this antiquated creation of "stigma."

In no other crime has there been more egregiousness in attempts to "blame the victim." Your story is the perfect scenario to wake up the public and pull their heads from the sand!

Martie.....is it the "Aries" factor? I smiled only when I read your comment about this young woman missing the perfect chance to escape. That exact thought went through my mind.....as I imagined myself, flipping off my pretty stilettos and running like hell!

Til.....UP..U&I...and spreading the word via share, tweet and pin!


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Mary, Your story was so well told I was totally captivated from beginning to end. It will undoubtedly serve to help other women think through this all too familiar situation before it's too late.

I know I chose at times to ignore the warning signs or excuse the improper action of the moment - a hand lingering a bit too long, an inappropriate comment about our how we fill out our dress, a meeting called when we are the only one who shows up at the designated place...

One boss, years ago told me (not asked) to attend a dinner meeting with him after work. I tried to make excuses but he knew my boyfriend lived out of town and we both had to eat anyway so why not. He drove. After dinner he said he had to swing by his motel and pick up some paperwork - he was staying at an extended stay as he was a contractor from South Africa. I should have run for the hills when he pulled into the parking lot of the motel. You can guess what happened next. Fortunately he stopped when I admitted he was strong enough to force me but it would still be rape. Things became quite uncomfortable at work following the incident and I was subsequently passed over for a promotion, just part of the games played at work. All these years later, I still remember. We often wish and hope that our initial instincts are wrong, only later in the clarity of the moment do we admit we "should have known" something was not right. I wasn't so lucky other times.


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JayeWisdom 2 years ago from Deep South, USA

Great hub about a big problem that's too often swept under the rug, Mary. In this story, it's obvious that an older, experienced man used his professional status and flattery in his game to "capture" new prey.

All I can add to Paula's comment is that the young woman should have taken off her stiletto heels and hit him hard in the eye with one to disable him...then run like hell!

Voted Up++

Jaye


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Great advice Mary, and your story was so chilling and does happen all the time, this should be told all over the place, even if it only stops one young woman from being harmed, voted and shared! nell


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Excellent hub on an important topic, dear Mary. I remember when I was 19 and working at an insurance company in Tampa, Florida, after getting married and my husband was in the Air Force and was stationed there. One day, out of the blue, one of the head bosses moved me up to an office closer to his office to work on some sort of project and took me away from my regular job for a couple of weeks. Oh, he was a much older man, and lived across the Bay in St. Petersburg, or had some kind of set up there, and he was just as nice as he could be. Then one day, suddenly, he asked me did I want to go over to St. Pete to "have lunch" and we could work on the project there. Thank goodness, at the young age of 19, my instincts kicked in and I told him that I really did not want to work away from the office at any time, but thank you. He insisted, but I continued with the no thank you, repeatedly. Then, I got up and went back to my regular desk. After that, he never really spoke to me much and I was glad of it! If we pay close enough attention, our intuition will kick in when something is just not right, and we should pay close attention to it and heed it!

Sadly, this happens far too often. Up and more and sharing.

Blessings,

Faith Reaper


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Mary,

How curious that our dear Bill to date is the only man to have made a remark...just an observation...?!

You have done a powerful job of delivering a message that women of all ages need to read. We need to know that the choice is always ours and we always have the right to walk, if not run, away from an undesirable / dangerous situation.

I would be proud to join Martie, effer and Jaye in shoving my stiletto where the sun doesn't shine before I went on my way...

Beautiful work from a beautiful lady. Love, Maria


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AudreyHowitt 2 years ago from California

You did a wonderful job of pointing out how subtle and scary this can be--


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jhamann 2 years ago from Reno NV

What a well told story and effective hub. Date rape and rape in general is a horrible reality and I think alot about how my daughter will have to deal with these situations. No matter what it is never the woman's fault, our culture needs to change to realize that this behaviour is never acceptable. Jamie


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

The men are flooding in now...lol. Great hub on an important issue, and a lot of important issues raised in the other comments. The real problem is that such a high percentage of date rape goes unreported. I suppose in a lot of cases the girls blame themselves for getting into the situation and feel ashamed to report it. There is also way too much of bosses or supervisors taking advantage of younger female employees. Maybe our culture is slowly changing, but still not fast enough. Every young lady should read this hub, so they can realise how devious some men can be and how easy it is to fall for charm.


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Frank Atanacio 2 years ago from Shelton

Til, this is a must read, anyway we can get a message across, provoke awareness is so important hubs like these should be hub of the week only because of the information/ and message revealed.. I do have a problem with this paragraph:

She knew now she was not mature. She had been tricked into a situation she couldn't handle. Now her life was ruined and she was partially responsible.....

nevertheless a well worth the share hub


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Thank you for reading Sallybea. Definitely a message we need to share.

Btrb, we always worry about our daughters but hope and prayer gets us all through.

Thank you DDE.

Thank you Billy. It started out as just a piece of fiction but then took on a life of its own.

Yes Jane, the message can't be spread enough, it is never the woman's fault.

Martie, she was too afraid to run, not knowing where she was....I know. It is something you live with forever, but in time learn to cope with and see the reality of who is at fault. You are certainly not a know-it-all. We share.

Thank you Becky.

Thanks Paula, but as I told Martie, she was too afraid to run and didn't know where to run too. Guess I'm not the strong woman you thought I was ;)

Peg we've all been there and probably more times than we'd like to count. Fortunately you were forceful and he may have had a bit of a conscience.

So true Jaye. Some men use whatever means they can to get to their end. Such good advice too.

Thank you Nell, and that is what I hope. At least one, maybe more.

So glad you followed your instincts Faith. We are so often fooled so easily. Sending angels and hugs your way.

Seems your comment has prompted our gentlemen to add their comments and add they did! Thanks for the compliment.

Thank you Audrey.

You are so right Jamie. I think our culture is beginning to see the true horror and degradation of rape...hopefully it will help to stop it someday.

Thank you Jodah. Yes, no matter the situation many women blame themselves going over in their minds what they should have done differently.

Thank you Frank. I have gone back and changed that line to "Now she felt her life was ruined" because it certainly wasn't. I so appreciate your pointing that out as well as sharing my hub. So glad you stopped by!!


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Ads have been disabled in this hub due to content. I don't know if the hub itself will remain but I think it will.


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Blond Logic 2 years ago from Brazil

This should be on a leaflet and handed out in junior high and high schools. All girls think they are in control of the situation and some are manipulated into things they don't wish to do.


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Sheri Faye 2 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

Great information and put forth in a story form gives it impact. I just bet most women have a story of, a some time, being intimidated sexually, if not worse. I know I don't feel safe walking alone at night, always keep doors locked etc., and have often told my husband how I don't think it is fair how women always have to be on guard....and how it is so unfair to most men, who are fine people who won't hurt a soul, get painted with the same brush as the predators. Great hub!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

"Ads have been disabled due to content???!!!" Oh please......I wasn't aware we write for "HIGHLIGHTS" for children.

Are they frightened by adult, "REAL life", informational, mature and well-written articles that increase awareness and help to caution the public? What a shame.


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

I can't believe ads are disabled here due to content either. I have one hub the same. I wasn't aware they had to be PG rated, I mean how many children are members of Hub Pages? Censorship to the extreme.


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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Give them an email Mary, maybe they will reinstate the ads, I am sure it was done by one of the over enthusiastic censors, if I remember right this happened to me ages ago, good luck!


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

With all the explicit photos I've been seeing on the feed from new hubs, I'm floored that the ads have been removed on this useful and appropriate story, Mary. That's just not right.


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AudreyHowitt 2 years ago from California

Wow--they pulled the ads on this? Do they ever read these??


sheilamyers 2 years ago

I also liked the way you used a story to point out many of the things that should have been signals of danger. This is a great hub and I hope a lot of women (both young and old) get a chance to read this before going out with someone. I'd also add another mistake the girl in your story made. No woman should ever climb into a car and let the man drive for a first "date". That automatically puts the man in full control.


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teaches12345 2 years ago

I am so moved by your story and the message it tells readers. I have heard from women how they didn't know how to get out of a rape situation, as you say, they never saw it coming. I agree, women need to make the choice and run from it, do whatever it takes to get away. Voted up and more!


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

I have a hub where they disabled the ads because it said "Do you know this is about men's sexual health?" Well, of course, and it is a serious hub about a serious condition facing a lot of men. I left the hub without the ads, and it is one of my highest scoring hubs. You can leave the hub and just do not concern yourself with no ads, as this is an important issue, and if they were smart, the ads should stay! You are not showing pornography!!! Good grief! I do not understand from their rationale on topics.

Have a great weekend and thanks for the important hub dear Mary.

Hugs,

Faith Reaper


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MPG Narratives 2 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Every time someone writes something slightly controversial ads are disabled. This is an IMPORTANT message to get across to not only women but men as well. Please leave this hub Mary, it needs to be read. Voted up, useful and shared.


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Anamika S 2 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

I like the way you have narrated the story. Good Job! I had a hub on types of rapes and rapists and precautions one can take to avoid such situations that got a lot of comments. When HubPages disabled Ads on the Hub, I got pissed off and deleted the Hub. Now I feel that I should not have done that. I was really frustrated and angry for branding a useful hub that way. Now it's not possible to put it back as the hub was copied and posted by many.


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Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

Oh yes Mary a great hub which gets the important message across.

Voting up and sharing for sure.

Enjoy your weekend.

Eddy.


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States

I hope all women pay attention to this entire hub, as you spelled out this story very clearly. Obviously, she should have refused to go into the motel, among other things. This hub gives us an important message because you might expect such behavior from a guy that looks a little rough, but you may not think a fairly well dressed doctor would act in this manner. We really have to be on alert all the time to be safe. Excellent hub.

Have a nice weekend.


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b. Malin 2 years ago

Date rape can happen to any woman...it happened to me many years ago...and a sad lesson was learned.

An excellent Hub on the subject Mary.


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Writer Fox 2 years ago from the wadi near the little river

A very powerful presentation! The kind of behavior you illustrate is that of a bully who enjoys intimidation. It's not about the sex but about control. We teach kids about 'stranger danger', but there is more danger from people who are known to the victim. Voted up!


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TIMETRAVELER2 2 years ago

Years ago I wrote a poem that some friends turned into a song. Before long I was to meet with a record producer about it. I met him in the lobby of a large hotel where he said he had several business meetings. He tossed me his room key and said he'd meet me "upstairs". He left, and so did I. Even though I was young, I was aware of what this man was trying to do. All women need to be alert all the time. If not, well...you've already discussed those results. Great article.


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diogenes 2 years ago from UK and Mexico

Women tend to down-play their own part in these affairs. "She accentuated her large breasts," etc. That increases the male libido and sends out a signal that she also has sex on her mind. And why on earth would she enter the motel room when the outcome was so obvious? Apparently, she eventually consented rather than was raped? That wasn't clear in your story.

We just have so much of this going on in the UK at the moment and women are coming forward after as many as 40 years and claiming they were assaulted, or merely "touched" and male celebs are being arrested and made to face charges from as much as half a century ago. In my mind, it is all too often a matter of mature women (now) grasping for attention and money. I mean, Jimmy Saville, the late DJ, has 600 charges laid against him by all these girls he was purported to have interfered-with to some degree or other!

Yet we see young girls throwing themselves as groupies at male celebs all the time, then they cry "rape" if the artists take advantage of that on offer.

Of course I am not defending real rape or rapists, but there are two parties involved and we so seldom see the actions of the "victims" in the limelight.

I believe we need a statute of limitations for all sexual contact NOT involving actual rape, to do away with all these women coming forward with complaints years after the event, not all for genuine reasons...their excuses as to why they didn't make a report earlier are so lame sometimes.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

diogenes. I know you are a really smart man.....liked and respected here on HP, as far as I can see. Sadly, your comment is disappointing, to say the least. I, for one, am so sorry to read your opinions on this.

"Of course I am not defending real rape or rapists....." Kind Sir, all due respect....any act of sex, forced upon someone against their will/consent is REAL rape...and the perpetrator is a REAL rapist. There are no pretend rapes. There are hundreds of reasons why so many rapes go unreported. Please re-think. Thank you.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

I don't mean to make light of a serious hub and comments but I would like to explain why I am so late in responding to all you wonderful readers. I went to NJ to babysit a sick granddaughter and got snowed in! Just got back late yesterday and as I'm reading this today I'm getting snowed into my own house! Hope you are all safe and warm as you read.

Thanks Blond Logic, we are sometimes so unaware of what is right in front of us.

You are so right Sheri, but we have a habit of using that paint brush with just one stroke. Being alone at night though we tend to see the world, and men, in a different light. Thanks for reading and commenting.

You know the funny thing Paula, I toned it down so it wouldn't get thrown off HP!

I guess the moderators see things in a different light than we do Jodah. As I just said, I toned it down so it wouldn't get thrown off but I guess the word "rape" is as dangerous as the act.

I did send an email Nell. We'll see what happens. Having the ads off isn't such a bad thing as long as the hub is still here.

Thanks Peg. I appreciate your support.

Thanks for your support as well Audrey.

Good advice Sheila, about climbing into a car with an unknown man. I have to admit THAT is one I didn't think of!

Thank you Teaches. Sometimes they see with their heart instead of their head...I speak from experience.

Thank you dear Faith. I appreciate your support and intend to do just that, leave the hub without the ads. It certainly won't put a hole in my pocket.

MPG thank you so much for your support votes and shares. They are all appreciated.

Thank you for sharing your story Anamika. We never really know what to do on HP but I do intend to leave the story. As you said, the message is the important thing, not the ads.

Thank you Eddy. Hope your weekend was great.

Thank you Pamela. Sometimes we need to even double think ourselves. How do we wind up in these situations?

Thank you for sharing b.Malin. I certainly know what you mean about the lesson learned.

You too share an important fact Writer Fox, "more danger from people who are known".

Bob, obviously this is a tricky subject and your could say there is a certain amount of "contributory negligence" on the part of the woman but even so, there is no reason for the man to go to finish the act without consent. As for the celebrity accusations that is a tough one. How many of them are real and how many are just for publicity? It is hard for us to judge the answer to that so it is best left to the courts.

Paula I understand your feelings (remember this story is from a true account) but I have to defend Bob's comment. I think he is more talking about the publicity seekers where rape was never even an issue. Am I right Bob?


diogenes 2 years ago

Have you seen these "reality" shows on TV where kids are filmed in holiday resorts in Spain, Greece, Thailand, etc? Both sexes are engaged in sexual acts of all kinds and are usually drunk. Why is a drunken young man any more responsible and able to think rationally than a young girl? We hear "The man should know when to stop and be able to interpret the mixed messages girls give out in these circumstances. It's a different world where sex and permission is concerned. Sex to young Brits is about as significant as sneezing! Girls here are more likely to carry condoms than are boys!

Britain is a matriarchal society wherein what women say and dictate goes. But many women have it wrong where blame lies. Again, forcible rape with or without violence is quite another thing, but where drinking or drugs are involved a whole new set of parameters come into force.

This is not a subject I feel comfortable commenting on and I'm sorry I began, but I was the "victim" as a young man falsely accused of rape and lucky to have found exculpatory evidence. My accuser was unpunished for a crime which could have ruined my life.

Bob


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

And so we see both sides of the story. Having been the "other victim" I am less tolerant I guess.


diogenes 2 years ago

Yes...I should have said my accusation wasn't rape, but being with a girl under age...the police found she had done this several times and "seemed just like a young women of 20" (I was 18 at the time)

bob


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b. Malin 2 years ago

Hi Mary,

Having gone through the ugliness of a "Date Rape" many years ago... and the stigma of blaming my self...and in doing so, becoming a Victim twice...BUT, with the proper help, I realized, it was NOT my fault...And I was able to move on, wiser and ok with myself.

I found your Hub to be very well written. And so my Votes of UP, and Useful I give to you.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Bob.

I know b. Malin, I know. Thank you for the votes!


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midget38 2 years ago from Singapore

As long as any force is used in any context, it's rape. Sharing, Mary.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Michelle.


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Bob....IMO, it is just as egregious to be "accused" of something you are completely innocent of and I'm sorry you had to go through such an unpleasant situation. I am relieved to know the truth came out.

Yes, I freely admit there are those scheming, scamming individuals in this world who will go to extremes to falsely accuse. This is reason enough for all of us to be very grateful for (honest) law enforcement, today's high tech forensics and thorough investigations.

In these cases, I believe the "scam artists" should be held accountable and go through the justice system for their crimes.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Amen to that Paula! My daughter always says there are three sides to every story, "yours, theirs, and the truth".


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Your daughter learned some good lessons from her awesome mother!


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bdegiulio 2 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Mary. This was a chilling read. I felt as though I was reading a book. How sad that this scenario does happen somewhere every day. This should be a wake call for all young women. A wonderful hub and a very important message. Voted up, shared, etc.


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nighthag 2 years ago from Australia

this was an centralizing way to make a great point, date rape is the most under-reported of all forms of rape for so often the victim feels responsible. I enjoyed your story and applaud your goal, this is an important read


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

It really is sad Bill, I wonder just how many times a day it happens. It is so hard to wake up those who do not even know they are asleep!

Thank you nighthag, I truly hope it will save at least one girl.


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aviannovice 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

This was an excellent topic, and you handled it so well. Nobody ever deserves to go through anything like this.


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Brett.Tesol 2 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

A nicely written and clever approach to a very difficult subject. This is a difficult subject, one that is hard for anyone to talk about I would imagine. It happens to both sexes too, but admittedly far more often to women. The issue is tricky, as you also have the other side where people falsely claim rape from innocent people. The problem is proving the case without doubt, but as there are normally only two involved, this is hard! Either way, I feel that the victims have nothing to feel ashamed of, angry yes, but not ashamed.

Shared, pinned, tweeted etc ;-)


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York Author

Thank you Deb. Unfortunately it is a topic that is all too prevalent.

You make good points Brett. The he-said, she-said of rape is what makes this crime so difficult to prosecute. Again, I so appreciate your shares!!

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