Stepmother Quotes

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Quotes

  • Stepparenting is like working at a late-night convenience store - all of the responsibility and none of the authority. - Valerie J. Lewis Coleman
  • An essential stepmother lesson...to accept that you are not perfect, you never will be, and that's good enough. - Unknown
  • A step parent is so much more than just a parent; they made the choice to love when they didn't have to. - Unknown
  • It's not the blood you share that makes you a mother...It's the heart you share with one another. - Patty Rase Hopson
  • Am healthy stepmother knows that somedays she's a stagehand, some day's she the leading lady, and some days she's the audience, and she plays each role with grace and style. - Unknown
  • Loving your own kids is easy. Loving another woman's children as your own is what makes stepmoms really special. - Unknown


Hurray for Stepmom's
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Tips for being a great stepmother

  • Always remember...they are not your children. You can teach them things and you can love them but you cannot take the place of their real mother.
  • If their mother is alive try to create an open, working relationship with her. Many mothers resent step mothers, they feel they are trying to take their child away.
  • Try to keep an open communication going between you, your husband and the children.
  • Leave the discipline to their father.
  • Be consistent, cchildren need consistency to build trust.
  • Spend quality time with your stepchildren and enjoy them. Have fun.
  • Make sure you all get together and establish and understand House Rules.
  • Try not to take it personally when your stepchild rebuffs you. In some cases they feel that they are betraying their mother by becoming close to you.
  • Treat your stepchildren the way you wish to be treated, with kindness and patience.
  • Do not try to change the daily routines that your stepchildren are used to.
  • Don't tell them to call you mom. Again, this will make them feel disloyal to their mom.
  • Do not expect to be appreciated.
  • Understand that relationships take time to build.
  • Never ever say anything bad about your stepchilds mother. They may be the worst mother in the world but they are still the childs mother.
  • Start your own family traditions.


Happy Stepmothers Day.  Celebrate it on May 20th.
Happy Stepmothers Day. Celebrate it on May 20th. | Source

Stepmother's Bill of Rights

  1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
  2. I will be part of the decision-making process in my marriage and family at all times.
  3. People outside the immediate family – including ex-wives, in-laws and adult children – cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.
  4. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.
  5. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when they can visit and how long they will stay.
  6. I will not be solely responsible for housework; chores will be distributed fairly.
  7. I will be consulted regarding all family financial matters.
  8. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my possessions without my permission.
  9. I will never be treated as an “outsider” in my own home.
  10. My husband and stepchildren must treat me with respect.

This Stepmother's Bill of Rights" was posted on The Wicked Stepmom's blog. I thought it was hilarious and thought you migth enjoy it. Stepmother's, in some cases, do appear to need their own Bill of Rights.


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vox vocis 4 years ago

This was a funny read! I didn't know there was a Stepmother's Day! I agree that step-mums deserve to have their Bill of Rights and a festivity to honor them.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

vox vocis, I agree. I have two step children myself. I am lucky, I obtained them after the teen years. Teenagers can be brutal.


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vox vocis 4 years ago

Hahaha, they sure can! I'm glad you have a positive experience with your step children.


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Virtual Treasures 4 years ago from Michigan

I became step-mom right before the teen years, just like mentioned above, with all the responsibility and none of the authority! It's been tough, but everyone has come out alive! :-)


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

Being a stepparent is often difficult and your advice is spot on. Following your guidelines will make for a much more loving and peaceful home. Up and useful.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

vox vocis, I am too. Actually they're great kids (adults).


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dinkan53 4 years ago from India

Patience, acceptance, tolerance and a loving heart are the keys to success for a stepmother. It takes time to build trusting relationships and lasting bonds. Nice work KoffeeKlatch Gals, voted up.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Virtual Treasures, it can be tough joining the life of a child mid-way. But, with a whole lot of patience and understanding it can be quite rewarding.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Pamela99, Thanks. I tried to included everything I could tyhink of to help. Step parenting is not an easy job.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

dinkan53, it's for sure that you need a boatload of all of them. But it is so worth it.


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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

To be a respected stepmother may be one of the most difficult roles, KK Gals, that any woman is ever asked to play. Love the Bill of Rights.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago

Yes, I didn't even know there is a stepmother's day...thanks for the great sharing and frankly, I love this the most..."It's not the blood you share that makes you a mother...It's the heart you share with one another. - Patty Rase Hopson"...an UP and useful for you, cheers KoffeeKlatch Gals!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

drbj. true. It's especially hard because in some cases you feel like you are under a microscope - everything you do is judged.

Injured lamb, thanks. When I started this hub I didn't know there was a Stepmother's Day either.


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sgbrown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

This was wonderful! I wish this had been around 26 years ago, when I first became a step-mother. I could definitely used some of the advice here. You should really have the opportunity to have a child of your own first as you learn so much, but that is not always possible. My two sons (step-sons) and I went through many ups and downs but developed a love and respect over the years. Your hub is full of wonderful advice! Voted up and awesome.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

sgbrown, I suspect that many step families go through the ups and downs. It takes a whole lot of patience and love to get through it all.


KatrineDM 4 years ago

Great quotes and wise words..I love this: 'It's not the blood you share that makes you a mother...It's the heart you share with one another.'

It must be truly challenging being a stepparent.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

KatrineDM, being a stepmother can be quite challeging. It can also be wonderfully rewarding. I love the quote you chose.


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vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

I think if every stepmother followed the advice you give in this Hub, there would be many more happy step families! It's so true that step mothers are under-appreciated, and they have a bad rap all the way back to the days of Cinderella. My in-laws just came to stay for a month and even though my stepmother came into the picture after my husband was grown and so didn't have a hand in raising him, we give her the respect she deserves. It makes our time together pleasant and enjoyable. Thank you for more beautiful quotes and advice. : )


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 4 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

Thank you vespawoolf. I know it can be hard at times to follow aadvice such as this , but life is so much enjoyable if everyone knows from the start how they are expected to behave.


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

A friend of mine is soon to become a step-mother and we were just talking about this the other day.

I have a few friends that had step-mothers not one of them liked their step-mothers. One friend's step-mother apologized to her years later for the way she had treated her, to late the damage had been done.

I’m hoping my friend will love her soon to be step-children and get along with them. Voted up on your hub.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida Author

moonlake, it's not easy becoming a step-parent. I have two sep-children and I am fortunate that we get along. I love them like my own. I wish your friend luck.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Stepmother Quotes great hub with so true quotes. Stepmothers are often not liked and feel rejected your quotes are dead right.

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