Life Choices.....

When I was a child, my life was not really "normal." I think inside my head I wanted to have a normal existence but the cards were stacked against me. Growing up with a father who was wellknown in the music business and a mother who had mental issues was not the best mix for "normal."

I often wonder what it would have been like if I grew up with normal parents. People who just have a normal career and work a normal job for 20 or more years and then retire. Would I be who I am today? NO FRIGGIN WAY! ha

Somewhere in the mix it was never meant to be so I created my own "normal" world at the time and pretended that my life was completely "normal" like everyone else. As the years went by I noticed that no one I knew was normal. My family and extended family were crazy and I could not stand most of them! Infact I have memories of relatives actually asking me for favors at family funerals! Is nothing sacred?!!! But one great thing came out of it all and let me tell you "what it is!"


I have enough material and "characters" to put in about 5-10 novels and a couple of screenplays. Really, one day I am hoping that a comedy of mine ends up on the big screen just so I can show everyone some of these wackadoo's! My Aunt who used to cackle should have a starring role for sure! I used to imitate her all of the time and made my father cry from laughter! It was worth it just for that! I'm not sure my father realized how messed up his family was but he tried to give us some sense of "belonging." So I guess I can say it was nice to have somewhere to go on holidays! Great food and a lot of head trips at the same time! I guess these crazy people seemed "normal" to my father who was not "normal" at all! ha ha

Finding A Normal Mate

So when I was younger I met and married someone who was sort of like my father. I mean not exactly, but let's just say he too was a "character" who loved attention. So did his father who was a famous comedian and who never was "normal." Not even for a minute. I can't blame him or his family because they grew up in the entertainment business and all sorts of wacko's were always around them. When I married my first husband, I became part of the 24 hour movie that existed almost every single day. It was fun but after time it just took it's toll. I was out of control and seeking some sort of "normal" place and I just could not find it. After I left, I started my journey back to normal. I have to say it took me many years, another marriage, two amazing children and finally a place of peace. Seriously....sometimes I just don't know how I made it where I am now! Especially after such a crazy beginning here on earth.

The second man I married (he was a boy at the time) seemed to be normal when I met him. A college graduate, British, brilliant writer.....but after time and realizing how alcohol effected his family and his upbringing, the disfunction run off eventually hit me and my "trying to be normal life" just kept getting thrown "off course." I was desperately seeking "normal." So once again I set off on my journey to "trying to get back to normal."

Almost There....

So one of the things I had to realize is that my life has not ever been very "normal" even when I think it is. I really try to give my children a normal home with lots of healthy people around and this is a good thing. Crazy causers and wannabes are not allowed to set foot on the property. I don't even keep in touch with most of my real family members or cousins. Most of my closest circle is made up of really amazing friends who are the most "normal" I could find! ha

Let's face it, NORMAL can be really boring! But the best part is that even if you try to get back to normal, it is better then making "stupid choices" over and over again. I can honestly say I'm the happiest I have ever been with a NORMAL home away from crazy Hollywood and when I do work in the business, I keep it very far away from my private life.

To preserve NORMAL you need to preserve a sacred place where you can exist with out crazy people around. This is the only way to live a peaceful life. Trust me.

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Michael Ray King 3 years ago

Nice G! I love how you've been able to reign your life in to a manageable place. Well written, as always!

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GPAGE 3 years ago from California Author

Thanks Michael! I try to do the best that I can. Always a work in progress! Ha. Glad you enjoyed my hub. G

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btrbell 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

Grace....I love this! I grew up with those "normal" parents you feel wistful for, and you know, I am far from normal! I think most of it was just a facade! I also tried to give my kids the most normal upbringing. For the most part, I succeeded in keeping our little family of 3 fairly copacetic, but....they may tell you different!

Thank you for sharing this. I really enjoyed reading it and the pictures are great!

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GPAGE 3 years ago from California Author

Thanks! I really appreciate your comment! I was married for almost 20 years and STILL a single mother. I was the sole "adult" in my home. Now moving past that marriage and a few years later, like you I have succeeded in keeping my little family of 3 in a great, calm and solid place. There is another special someone around who is very kind, so NO crazy people in our stratosphere! ha ha ......All the best, GPAGE

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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Well, Grace, 'normal' (whatever that may be) may not always be what we desire and it IS far less exciting than 'crazy,' but all in all, much better for you in many ways. I have spoken! :)

Don't hesitate to start writing a novel about those not normal relatives, m'dear, I guarantee it will be a best-seller. Here's a title suggestion: 'Fifty Shades of Crazy.'

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GPAGE 3 years ago from California Author

LOVE it drbj! I'm currently writing a comedy and they will appear throughout it I am sure! I will let you know when it is out on amazon! Thank you for your comment! Lovely to see you here! G

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carter06 3 years ago from Cronulla NSW

Interesting hub GPAGE..I think 'normal' is a little overrated but trying to find peace and contentment in life is so important..glad you are nearly there ..cheers

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viryabo 3 years ago

Hi G, it's so good to see you after such a long time, and I've missed you. I totally enjoyed your article and learnt something new, as i usually do.

Life is such a paradox many times isn't it?

I remember growing up and absolutely "hating" my normal life. I yearned for something totally different, and even admired "crazy" people because i kind of envied their out-of-the-ordinary ways and their "i don't care what people say" attitude. I felt they were always so full of life.

Today, im still so different from members of my family and their normal life, and im enjoying every bit of it.

Let me know when your comedy books comes out. I'm sure it will be a really great read. You write so beautifully and your topics are so engaging.


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khmazz 3 years ago from South Florida

Very interesting and awesome hub! I agree with carter06, that normal is over rated but finding a balance in life is needed! Well done!

Ausseye 3 years ago

Hi Gee,

I couldn't help but become a comet-tator from another world far, far away.

The dryer is an amazing place

It has so many settings to embrace

One is hot, one is cold and yes the normal is really bold

And yes there are our worldly figs

A way of frigging our amazing worldly settings

But then you turned the speed down low

And showed us all what it is we need

A normal self is quite a sight

Cause mostly it is minb in our inner bright

And normal gold is such a sight

Has value, glows and economic might

What beauty you espouse

A land which Alice would embrace

And super mum would take her place

To keep this world a much, much better place

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GPAGE 3 years ago from California Author

Hey there everyone! Thank you so much for your comments! I have been traveling so a bit hard to check in! Wow! Viryabo! So nice to see you here. Been quite a while! I miss you too! I too always enjoyed the antics of the "less normal" set. Ha. Thank you always for your support! G

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GPAGE 3 years ago from California Author

Special thanks Carter and khmazz......and Ausseye! Enjoyed your poetic comment! Thank you for always leaving such a creative comment! All the best, G

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