Meet the Family - 1960's Style

My Grandparents

Written in Answer to a Question

I have written this hub in answer to Terri Meredith’s question

‘What is the funniest thing you've witnessed but couldn't laugh outright because it would have been rude?’

I had already given a short answer to this question but when I read wychic’s answer, it reminded me of an event that took place some 46 years ago which I now want to share with you.

Because you can only answer the question once on the answer page, I have decided to write a hub about it so that I can share it with you.

My Sailor

This photo of him was taken just after we married
This photo of him was taken just after we married | Source

My Fiancée

This is about an event that happened when I took my fiancée to meet my Grandparents for the first time.

I had recently become engaged to my boyfriend who was a sailor in the Royal Navy and my grandparents who lived about 150 miles away wanted to meet him and give him the once over.

In those days, it seemed that it was more important to us that our family approved of our choice of husband as the expectation was that we would only marry once and that it would be for life.

Both my parents and my grandparents enjoyed reaching their Golden wedding and I am now only about four years off reaching mine.

Families seemed much more involved in one another's lives back then maybe because they often did not move far from where they were born and so normally lived quite close to their relatives.

Some of the family

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Nervous of meeting the family

My fiancée was a little nervous at the thought of meeting my grandparents and the rest of my family on my mother’s side.

I can understand why as there was quite a lot of them as my mother was the oldest of ten children most of whom at that time still lived in the area.

The photograph is of my grandparents my mother on the left and one of her sisters and two of her brothers.

It was taken at the time of my grandparents Golden Wedding which was about a year before this event took place.


The Street where my grandparents lived

My uncle Tommy standing on the street outside my grandparents old home
My uncle Tommy standing on the street outside my grandparents old home | Source

Staying with my grandparent

We stayed with my grandparents in their new flat, which they had moved to recently after their old house was demolished as part of a redevelopment plan.

They had lived in their old house for over fifty years and raised ten children in that two up two down house.

My grandparents house was the first house in the row of terraced houses on the left of the photo. The actual house is out of shot but the houses on that side of the street all look the same on the outside.

They had only been in the new flat for about a month or two and were still getting use to it. Their flat was brand new, it had been built to rehouse those displaced by the demolitions.

The flat had all the mod cons, which was very different from their old home. Their old home still had outside toilets and working gas light fittings etc.

A Shadowy Figure

The flat had two bedrooms so I slept with my grandmother in their bedroom my fiancée slept in the spare bedroom and my granddad slept on a bed settee in the living room.

The next morning my fiancée told me that his bedroom door opened in the middle of the night and awakened him. A shadowy figure then came into the bedroom and walked across to the wardrobe where it opened the wardrobe door, went in and shut the door behind it.

My fiancée still half-asleep was little alarmed and wondered what was going on, there was a muffled commotion and a little swearing now coming from inside of the wardrobe.

The wardrobe by now was rocking a little, which was quite alarming in itself, and then the wardrobe door flew open and the shadowy figure re emerged still muttering and exited the bedroom.

This is a photo of me

This is me with a big grin wearing my brand new engagement ring
This is me with a big grin wearing my brand new engagement ring

Granddad and the wardrobe

The next morning my fiancée told me all about the shadowy figure that came into his bedroom during the night, he was baffled as to what had taken place.

I spoke to my grandmother later that morning about what had happened during the night in my fiancée’s bedroom. Grandma nodded as she listened to my tale and then told us what she thought had happened.

Grandma said that my granddad had probably woken up in the night needing to go to the toilet and while still half asleep had on automatic pilot taken the path that he had walked for over fifty years to where the toilet had been in their old house.

Unfortunately, this route did not lead to their nice new inside toilet but to the wardrobe in the spare bedroom.

Fortunately, granddad had realised in time that he was in the wardrobe and not in the toilet where he wanted to be before he made a mess lol...

As my grandmother told us both this, we nodded sympathetically not wanting to laugh aloud at what my granddad had done. Granddad was already embarrassed enough by what he had done and we really did not want to add to his embarrassment by laughing.

It turns out that this was not the first time that he had done this but it was the first time that there had been a guest in the spare room to witness it.

Later that day when my fiancée and I were on our own we laughed quite a lot and nearly fifty years on it still raises a smile when we recall this event.

I am now about the same age as my grandparents were then and I can now understand how hard it must have been for granddad to get use to the new place after being in the same house over fifty years.

I am so glad that we did not laugh at my granddad at the time but it was funny.

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old albion 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Wonderful memories maggs. They all bring a laugh, a smile or a tear, but they are what made us what we are.

Best Wishes.


iamaudraleigh 4 years ago

Maggs, I really enjoyed your writing here. It was a pleasure to hear your story! Voted up!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thank you Graham I am glad that you enjoyed your little stroll down my memory lane I have enjoyed my stroll down yours through your lovely hubs


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thank you so much Audra for the vote up and the lovely comment that you have left I appreciate both very much. I have just enjoyed my virtual visit to Lamberton Conservatory in Rochester via your lovely hub especially the photographs of the turtle :D


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Snurre 4 years ago

This is really funny, Maggie! I enjoyed the story very much. And the old photos are lovely.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thanks Lizzy when I look at these photos I am reminded of just how fast time goes by and how important it is to enjoy every day to the full.

I enjoyed to the full the re-telling of this tale and I am so pleased that it brought a smile to your lips too :D


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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

Delighted to have found you maggs, funny, funny story. Thanks for the chuckles.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thank you BJ you gave me some chuckles too your comment on your profile

"Just my belief that laughter is the best medicine -- unless you're diabetic, then insulin should be at the top of your list."

I read it aloud to my family and we all fell about laughing :D


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Great story and great photos, thoroughly enjoyed this hub.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thank you Julie you have just made my day :D


Renae 4 years ago

That is so funny. Always enjoy your writing.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Hi Renae nice to see your name on here, thank you so much for commenting I am glad that you enjoyed my little reminisce lol...


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itakins 4 years ago from Irl

What a wonderful story.I bet your grandparents had a chuckle too when you went home.I thoroughly enjoyed this hub -still smiling!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Hi itakins I am sure they did my poor hubby wondered what kind of family he was marrying into lol...

Well 45 years on and we are still married so it seems he survived the first encounter though I still think he wonders what he married into.

Thank you for your lovely comment it has made my day :D


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

Hee Hee-What a great memory Maggs and I do understand how your grandfather would be use to a place he lived in so long that he'd walk to the dresser. What a funny way for your fiance'to meet your grand dad. So glad you shared this with us Maggs. I had to hit every button.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

What a great memory Maggs! I think I would have giggled at the time, but then laughed politely behind my hand! but how funny! lol! I have heard of this sort of thing happening before, but never with witnesses! lol!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

It still makes us smile when we think about it all these years later Nell lol...


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Hi Linda, my fiancée wondered what was going on when his bedroom door opened in the middle of the night and even more so when granddad came in and got into the wardrobe lol...

I bet he wondered what sort of family he was marrying into lol...

Well 46 years on and my hubby is still with me so it didn't scare him off thanks for commenting Linda and how is that little dog of yours getting on?


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

Thanks for asking Maggs-Joey is healing up very nicely. His hip that's always bothered him is even better now that he's on a pain medication/anti-inflammatory. He's laying next to me right now just snoring away and all cozy.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

I am so pleased to hear that Linda and I hope things are still going well between you and your neighbours too. Take care of yourself luv maggs :D


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RNMSN 4 years ago from Tucson, Az

this is too funny/my hat is off to you and your hubbie to be/ at the time/ for not laughing!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

My granddad never tried to be funny but he had some odd ways that always made me want to smile.

My granddad for some reason didn't like Catholics and wouldn't set foot in a Catholic church. When I got married I was married in a Church of England Church that was a high church we had latin and hail Mary's etc.

We convinced him that it was not Catholic and all was going well Malcolm and I were up at the altar about to make our vows when he spotted a statue of the Virgin Mary and that was it!

His voice rang out loud and clear it's bloody Catholic, I'm not stopping here, you can pick me up at the pub when you are done.

I could hear the people in the pews trying to get out of the way so he could get out.

After the wedding was over we fetched him back from the pub so he could be in the photos outside of the church with the rest of the family.

Never a dull moment lol...


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RNMSN 4 years ago from Tucson, Az

oh my goodness Maggs! too funny,your granddad then must have had a statue phobia !!


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Barbara, granddad had all sorts of phobias, he was a man of his times, but he would not fare well today because most of his views that he had back then are not considered PC today.


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

What a great story Maggs! It is making me smile just from reading it. Loved your family photos. You make a handsome couple! Congratulations on your long marriage. We are a few years behind and will celebrate our 42nd anniversary in October. Family approval was important back then and most marriages were conducted with the idea of them lasting "until death." Not all bad! Many up buttons on this and tweeting. Still having a hard time sharing with my HP followers for some reason unless it appears on the main feed page.


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maggs224 4 years ago from Sunny Spain Author

Thank you Peggy for your lovely comments also thank you for the congratulations and my congratulations to you for your 42nd in October :D

Times were different back then things have changed some for the better and some not. However, like you Peggy I am still living life to the full and enjoying it very much :D

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