"Telling Your Girlfriends Personal Business To Your Man Will Destroy Your Friednship"

"Telling Your Girlfriends Personal Business To Your man Will Destroy Your Friendship"

I think this is about the saddest situation , I ever encountered in my life involving girls friends, friendship coming to an abrupt end, because of telling personal information to a live in boy friend. Ladies, if you're telling your man , your girlfriends personal business,then your friendship with your friend will soon be a distant memory. My daughter 's friendship with a suppose to be friend of nineteen years , came to an end, when she realized that all of her personal business was put on front street by this suppose to be friend, who told her man all of her personal details, who in return told a man friend of his. What on earth was she thinking, girls should keep personal stuff between girls and keep the men out of it, because it's not their business in the first place. When a friend tell a friend,personal stuff in confidence, you 're not suppose to tell anyone especially not your man. This type of situation is very embarrassing for your friend. My daughter found out and was heart broken that this suppose to be friend told her man all about my daughters and another girlfriends personal business; that should have been kept with the girls. My daughter and their other friend was blown away that all their very personal business was now on main street.

I didn't really think this actually happen ain reality, but it happen to my daughter and a friends hers, by a suppose to be friend to both of them. Now, days it's sad to know you cannot even trust your girl friend to keep her mouth close about your personal and embarrassing idiosyncrasies. This is all new to me, because in my fifty years of friends ship with my lady friends, I never had anything like that happen to me. What it all boils down to is, it seem you can't really trust your suppose to be girl friend with your dirty laundry, you really have to know a person before you put all your cards on the table, because you never know who's out to get you.If you get up enough confidence to tell a friend make sure you tell them this is in strictest of confidence and not to be told to anyone else, especially not your man. Hopefully that will cover all your bases, but I gues now days, you just can't be sure. I have always believed that what ever you tell a friend should be kept with that friend. There are men and mostly women that doesn't following the code of truth, honor and ethics. It's sad when a women can't trust her women friend to keep personal stuff about you from her man. Ladies, we don't tell our men about our lady friends personal business that's totally not acceptable, I'm sure you would feel the same way if one of your friends aired your dirty laundry especially to a man. Wow,how embarrassing is that to happen to you. Ladies if you can't find anything to talk about with your man except for your girlfriends personal business, then you shouldn't talk about anything, because your girlfriends business is off limits to your man friend.

Ladies, just a warning, if you cherish your friendship with your girlfriend, please refrain from putting your girl friends business in the streets. Friendship is all about love and trust, but if you're spreading your girl friends personal business around town, then you a friend and you sure as heck, can't be trusted.

Benny Faye Douglass

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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

A friend is a rare jewel that most have few of, so we must cherish and respect them.

Thanks for sharing.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you,truth hurts, because if anyone fall into this catergory; you're right that is a big problem. Thank you for your visit and comment. Godspeed. creativeone59


truth hurts  5 years ago

thats a problem


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you loveofnight, you are such a wise lady. I appreciate you, your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Audrey, for your honest input, comment and feedback. God bless. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, for your compliment, comment and feedback. God bless. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Melinda, for your input, no we shouldn't tell,but there are those that do. Thank you for your comment and feedback. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you dashingclaire, your honest opinion, I really like it. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Blackreign for visit my hubs and leaving positive feedback anfd your comment. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Lancelonie, I agree totally, about the privacy act. thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much BK, I truly believe what said between friends sould be kept between friends. I am an old fashion lady that believe in genuine friendship, and make sure I return the favor. Thank you for your precious feedback and comment. I appreciate your candor. Godspeed. creativeone59


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loveofnight 6 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

maybe the trails of life have made me hard but there are 2 things that i keep in mind when dealing with others and that is: 1. if you are ashamed of it don't do it. 2. if you don't want it repeated don't tell it......


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Good advice - I always think there is a lot of common sense in holding your tongue on ALL levels!


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Very good advice. Thank you.


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msorensson 6 years ago

This is very important, creativeone59. Thank you for the reminder. We should not tell, anyway...

Blessings,

Melinda


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dashingclaire 6 years ago from United States

Some people have diarrhea of the mouth and constipation of the brain!


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blackreign2012 6 years ago

I heard that!! good hub


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lancelonie 6 years ago

This is interesting! We sure need a level of privacy between people.

Thanks for sharing! :)


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

When in the world are we going to learn? There is no reason to ever tell anyone else a friend's business. It doesn't even have to be personal business - it is between you and your friend and not you and your friend and your man and his friend and his girlfriend and everyone else.

This smacks of a certain jealousy. Sometimes friends in our youth must remain in our youth - as we get older it is okay to change the dynamics of a friendship. It's okay to grow closer or even slightly apart or totally apart. We have to be aware of changing feelings and be prepared to adjust.

Sad that someone will do this to a friend but it happens so often - we just have to be aware that it can happen and to know when a friend can no longer fit in our adult life - just because they have been around so long.

Thanks for this reminder - it can't be said often enough! Don't do it!

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