The Sad Death Of A Marriage: A Poem

The Death Of A Ten Year Old Marriage

It didn’t come as a complete surprise,

He had been expecting this to happen for a while,

But, like the Ostrich with his head in the sand,

He chose not to believe this could happening to him for the second time.


Now, she said the time had come,

To go their separate ways,

She said she needed some space to find herself,

She told him she didn’t love him anymore.


And so, with a heavy heart, and his mind in a daze,

He began to gather up all his belongings in the house they had shared,

It had been 10 years since they exchanged their vows,

The past 5 years their lives had been drifting further and further apart.


He took all his jeans and tee shirts from the double chest of drawers,

He folded them all and put them in a cardboard box.

The underwear drawer came next to do; then the shoes,

Then he carefully took out the hanging clothes from the walk in closet they shared.


He looked through the pots and pans, and took out just a few,

He got his odds and ends from the kitchen junk drawer,

The next stop was the bathroom medicine chest,

Where he took out his medications, his shaving gear and soap.


He took his power tools from the backyard shed,

He would leave her the lawn mower and hedge trimmers,

He thought of the lawn they both had worked so hard in,

He had no need for those things where he was going.


He disassembled the side by side desk they had built,

He disconnected his computer and phone from their stations,

He took down his grown children’s framed photos,

From the Living Room shelves and left just her family photos there.


His books and music were the next to be packed,

She had never had any interest in his taste at all,

She called him a hill billy because he liked country music,

Her choice was classical music which he never understood.


They both knew from the beginning their interests were different,

Now they know the other person is not going to change,

She liked to socialize, dress up and party, and go out to dinner,

He preferred quiet evenings at home dressed only in his shorts.


He will give her the space that she says she needs,

Maybe she’ll be happier without him in her life,

But he knows he will miss her, and will always love her,

He feels his heart breaking as he drives away.

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homesteadbound profile image

homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

Your words evoked sadness yet knowing what must be done and doing it. Great poem.


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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Such a sad, but beautifully written poem that will have the ring of truth for many people who have experienced the break-up of a marriage.

You did a great job on this poem.


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

how many times has this happened in our lives...but it never gets easier. nice work! vote up


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

A sad wonderful poem, voted up and awesome.


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wildove5 4 years ago from Cumberland, R.I.

Ugh! I will never forget that day! I left first, left the house, the pool, the dog :( , the swing set and him! Looking back that was a difficult day to say the least, yet for the first time in my life, I put myself first! Nicely written!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi homesteadbound, thanks for reading my poem,and for the compliment. Yes, it is pretty sad when people break up. Goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, HBN, you're a lucky girl! You'll never have to worry about this situation. This really was based on a true life situation: a couple who are friends of mine. My heart is breaking for both of them. Thanks for reading, and goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi picklesandrufus! Good to see you. Thanks for reading my poem, and for the nice votes. Goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Evening writer20, thanks for reading my poem, and thanks for the votes. I do appreciate your taking the time to do that. Good to see you again. Goodnight.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi wilddove5, thanks so much for reading my poem. Sounds like you've been there; done that! It is so sad when people break up, but sometimes it has to be done. you are right; you have to do what it best for you! Goodnight.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

I am so sad... I want to cry....I have been there and done that.. It is awful.. Your poem is awesome..

Merry Christmas


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Deborah Brooks, I'm sorry you have been there. It is really sad when people can't make it. Thanks for the compliment. I'm sad because good friends of mine are going through this now. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas, friend.


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Archana G Saha 4 years ago from Bangalore

@mary615 beautiful poem, someday even I wanna write poems like this for I have tons to say but can't really get the rhymes or the words... :(


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mljdgulley354 4 years ago

Great poem mary615. You captured the feeling of breaking up and the details of separating what is mine and what is hers/his.


Ghost32 4 years ago

Most excellently written for a "single divorce". Probably a good thing I didn't try writing all that much for the totality of my six.

Voted Up and Awesome.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Archana, nice to see you! Thanks for reading my poem on the death of a 10 yr. old marriage. Thanks for the compliment, too. I'm certainly not a poet, and when I read some of the works from my fellow Hubbers, I even hesitate to publish one, but if you have something to say, just say it! Have a wonderful day!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, mljdgulley354, Thanks for reading and commenting. I do appreciate your taking the time. Hope you day is great for you!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hello, Ghost32, good to see you today. Surely, you jest! Thanks for the votes, too. See you again soon, I hope. In the meantime, hope your Holiday season is wonderful for you!


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anndavis25 4 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

I wonder if she thought...one less egg to fry? Or will she figure out why she uses poor souls when she needs them and cast them aside when done. You worded this well. Up and interesting.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi anndavis25, thanks for reading and commenting! thanks for the votes, too. Yes, I remember that song well....one less egg....People do drift apart, and that's sad, I think. Guess that's life in a way, huh? I can't help but feel sorry for the guy, though. If I don't "see" you again, have a wonderful holiday!


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Hyphenbird 4 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

I am always saddened when a marriage falls apart. It is so easy these days to walk away with a broken heart. I wish things were so different for this couple. Thank you for your compassionate and loving heart Mary.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hello, Hyphenbird, good to see you today. Thanks for reading my poem about the 10 yr. old marriage that fell apart. It makes me very sad because I know this couple. I'm hoping something will touch their hearts and make it right. My heart breaks for him! Good day, dear friend.


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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Very sad mary615. Just stopped by to wish you a Merry Christmas


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, mckbirdbks, so sweet of you to stop in and read my poem about the 10 year marriage breakup. It is pretty sad, but true. Thank you for the well wishes, and I hope you know I wish the same for your and yours, friend.


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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

You captured so well the sadness of the break-up of a marriage after ten years, Mary. What may be even sadder is when a couple grows apart but neither leaves.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there, drbj, thanks for taking the time to read my poem on the breakup of a 10yr. old marriage. It is sad, but you're right, it is even sadder when people grow apart and stay together unhappily. If there are children, I guess they try to stay till they are older. Fortunately, there are no small children here. As I said before, it makes me very sad because I know this couple. If I don't "see" you again before Christmas, I hope you have a wonderful holiday. Keep those puns coming, girl!


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

THis hub rings so true for so many. I wonder if it's harder for the man or the woman to leave but most of the time we hear of the man leaving.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Gypsy Rose Lee. Good to see you this morning! I don't know which is harder: the man to leave or the woman. In this case, the man sold his house when they married, and moved in with her. It does seem the man usually leaves, though. I just know it's sad when a 10 yr old marriage falls apart. I hope you have a wonderful day in your beautiful Latvia!


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Mary,

You have done a wonderful job in describing the death of a marriage.

I have never been married but I would not want to be in either position to have to tell my husband that I don't love him anymore or hear that he doesn't love me.

Voted up and awesome

Have a good day.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Sueswan, thanks for reading my poem about the break up of a ten year old marriage. It is really sad. What makes it really sad for me is that these are two of my best friends. I still hope they can work out their problems. Thanks for the votes, dear. MERRY CHRISTMAS


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear mary,

This is written from the heart, obvious how you care for your friends. A sad situation indeed, seems to be increasing in today's world. I'm sure your support is appreciated.

Voted UP & Awesome- have a peaceful night, mar.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi marcoujor, thanks for reading my poem about the end of a ten year old marriage. Yes, it is pretty sad. I love them both, and wish only the best for them. Thanks for the votes. Goodnight.


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

Such a sad thing to read about a marriage breaking up. I felt so, for the man who was digging in his heels. I hope both parties will find peace during this tough time.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Minnetonka Twin, yes you are right. It is sad when a marriage breaks up. I am hoping this won't be permanent. Thanks for reading and for the comment. Regards


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stephhicks68 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

It is always sad when a marriage ends, and I have sadly witnessed the demise of several this past year. Reading your poem, I imagined my poor 30-year old cousin, starting out life and making plans for the future, when his wife of less than a year announced that marriage was not for her. He moved out, and I hope that his heart will start to heal soon too.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, stephhicks68, thanks for reading my poem about the break up of a ten year old marriage. I am sorry about your cousin. I hope his wife will reconsider her marriage, and everything will be OK for them. I don't have much hope for my two friends. It looks like it's going to be permanent. I hope you have a wonderful 2012!


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Ruchi Urvashi 4 years ago from Singapore

Great poetry. It is a very difficult time for couples who go through break ups.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Ruchi Urvashi, thanks for reading my poem about the break up of a ten year old marriage. It is very sad. I feel bad for couples who go through this, my friends included. Goodnight.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

This seems so real. Great hub. Our Lord'a Loving Heart To You Forever, And To Your Family . GBY.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, stars439. Thanks so much for reading my poem about the breakup of a ten year marriage. I appreciate your reading and taking the time to comment. I hope you and yours have a blessed day.


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xstatic 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

Many of us have experienced this kind of thing, some even after longer than ten years. It is not an easy thing to deal with. You capture the emptiness, sadness of packing it all in.

Tony Bennett has a beautiful ballad about it called "Where Do You Start?" Great sad song.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there, xstatic. Thanks for reading my poem about a 10 yr. marriage breakup. Yes, it is pretty sad. This has happened to several of my friends. Yes Tony Bennett's song is a tearjerker, for sure. Goodnight.


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sammimills 4 years ago from California, USA

Made me teary eyed mary. It's really a sad story about a long time marriage breaking up. I guess in every relationship, it's the love that keeps them together. Once its gone, the relationship ends. Wonderful poetry! Voted Up!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, sammimills. So nice to see you today. This couple I wrote about are dear friends of mine, and it really made me sad when they ended their 10 year old marriage. Thanks so much for the vote, I appreciate that.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

Mary615 you hit a nail. Voted up and all the rest...except for funny. Blesses!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi there, Lastheart. So nice to see you! Thanks for reading my poem, and thanks so much for the votes. I appreciate that!


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Difficult when marriages break up over irreconcilable differences. It's even more heartbreaking than if it is over a third party because it's harder to admit making the wrong choice for that reason, at least it to me. Thanks Mary, you've given me a lot to think about!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, midget38. Yes, it is sad when two people feel the need to separate. I wrote this after learning of a friend and her hubby.

Thanks for reading, Mary


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Wow, Mary such a sad poem and I couldn't help feel bad for the man throughout the poem and especially at the end. I would think it would be hard leaving someone and something behind even if you knew deep down it was for the right reasons, especially if you still loved this person. Nice job conveying that point here and have of course voted up, shared and tweeted too.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Janine. Thanks for reading and commenting on my Hub about the death of a 10 yr. old marriage. Yes, I felt extremely sorry for the man. He had to leave his home and everything. I feel bad for any couple who find they have to end their marriage.

Thanks so much for the votes, and the shares, Mary


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Only yesterday I heard the sad news of another split from a friend. You've captured the tragedy and the turmoil beautifully here Mary. There is so much sadness in the break up of a long union especially when the roots are intertwined .... beautiful!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, Docmo. Thanks so much for reading and commenting on my Hub. I'm so sorry your friend is going through this kind of heartbreak. I felt so bad for this poor husband who had to leave everything they had worked for.


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CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

So weird that while reading this I am listening to Elvis- "Are You Lonesome Tonight?" (:

Ten years! It wasn't a joke and it's indeed sad that it has to end. Must have been hard for both to stay and try to save the marriage but one must do what's best to keep a much healthier and happier life.

Not a delightful situation but definitely a good read from you. Thanks.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Oh, how I loved Elvis! This was a sad day for me when I learned of my friends splitting up. I just sat down and wrote this poem.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Mary


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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

Breaking up, one of the saddest thing to do. You've capture the heart ache and pain so brilliantly.

Well done.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, tobusiness. I wrote this poem after learning two of my good friends were separating. It was truly sad. What a surprise! His heart was truly breaking,

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and for the compliment, Mary


Mike 3 years ago

How sad.

My wife moved out of our place several months ago, leaving with me the dog she had wanted. I moved out several weeks later and am now staying with relatives more than 100 miles away. She too said she needed "space". We too were different and she believed I would change. Now what?


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi Mike. It is so sad when a couple splits up. My poem was based on a true story; of two of my good friends. I wish you all the best in putting your life back together. You can do it, it will just take some time. Good Luck.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Oh Mary this broke my heart...it is bad enough when both people want out but when its only one and the other one is hurting so...you certainly mastered this one!

Voted up, awesome, and interesting.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida Author

Hi tillsontitan. Thanks for reading and commenting and for the nice compliment. When this actually happened to my good friends , my heart broke for him.

Thanks for the votes , Mary


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Anna Haven 2 years ago from Scotland

This has happened to a few of my friends now.

You captured the pain and stagnation really well.

At the end you say how he does still love her, that is probably the case a lot of the time with one partner or another.

A sad reality and you captured it perfectly.


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

Good Morning, Anna Such a nice compliment from you on my poem by you! Coming from such a wonderful poet such as yourself means a lot to me.

Yes, it is sad when a marriage falls apart.

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, Mary


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teaches12345 2 years ago

A beautiful poem. It is sad but so many relationships suffer in this way.


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida Author

Hi, teaches12345 Thanks so much for reading and commenting on my poem. Yes, it is sad but so true for many people.

Hope you have a wonderful Labor Day! Mary

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