The Life That Could Have Been: Our Own Road Not Taken

"You are the person who has to decide. Whether you'll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you'll lead or will linger behind. Whether you'll try for the goal that's afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are." -Edgar A. Guest

“Then I imagined if I didn't take that fight

What would my world be like?

Would I be standing at the altar by her side?

Would her child be mine?

And I think that I've just seen

The life that could have been...

The life that should have been”

All our choices in life, whether good or bad, they make and pen our own autobiography.

Sometimes, once in our life, we make a wrong decision – perhaps financial decisions, picking up the wrong career and landing at the wrong job, and the most painful one is about relationship decisions for this one if you get hurt, the scar will forever stay in your heart.

And after so many years, that awkward eye contact with somebody who used to mean the world to you will make you think of your path not taken.

Although it is important that we have to accept that we cannot be right all the time and we have to move on and learn from our mistakes.

Most any wrong choices or decisions can be corrected, all you have to need is the courage to face it and this time, make it right.

We learn from experience – and this experience is what we always take with us whenever we go and whatever we do. When we decide something important in our life, there are no guarantees that it will be 100% risk-free.

No matter how much you weighed the consequences it will bring; there will always be a little doubt.

That’s why we call it a decision.

Sometimes, a wrong decision can haunt someone for years especially when your options are all gone.

You will ask yourself this two-word, ‘what if’. Yes, there will be a lot of questions that will pop on our heads. What happens in our life is the result of our decisions.


As you listen to the song, you will see how the young woman looks at her past and think of her road not taken. But the song reminds us that if we don’t make up our mind on something, we will never know what will happen.

"What If"

And as we go along life’s highway, we’re going to make a handful of wrong choices. These wrong choices will end up disappointing us and that’s not what we want.

But these wrong choices will be our guide as we march forward, pocketing all the lessons learned from it. And these will not be a hindrance for us to remain on ground.

Get up and face it.

So when we make our choice on something, a choice for a lifetime, think first and listen. Choose the one that will make you happy and contented. Our future is molded by our own unique decisions. We cannot just go back to the past and choose the other way around if our first choice didn’t turn out good for us.

Don't say "I have no choice", we always have a choice even when you thought there is no option left, surely there is always something else that can be done.

Decide, stand to it and move on. Live the life to the fullest. Never regret whatever choice you have made because at one time, it was the one you wanted.


© 2012 Mycee. All Rights Reserved.

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theseus 4 years ago from philippines

Beautiful.

I can totally relate. God bless you.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank you theseus for the comment and for reading my hub.


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Charlu 4 years ago from Florida

Wow what an awesome hub filled with great advice, beautiful songs and the needed reminder that there is always a choice. Voted all the ups except funny and thank you for sharing


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank charlu for the great comment and vote! i really appreciate your time reading this one.


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kj force 4 years ago from Florida

Very interesting hub...gives food for thought.I chose years ago to live my life as a "weed"to show others you have options,I took refuge in the cracks of life.My choices were not always the best, but they are what made me who I am today. Whatever we chose at the time, was what we needed at the moment, this is called taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions..move on it's a learning experience.


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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

Very good hub. People do have the choice. If a choice is bad, we can change. We do not have to stay the same. We can learn from the past and become better in the future.

Thank you for sharing this hub.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

@michel and kj force: wow, thank you for the great comments. i've done so many many bad choices in the past and sometimes i did regret it but how can i regret it when at that exact moment when I made that decision, it was the one i wanted all along.i guess some of these bad choices helped me and let me grow into a strong person.


guest 4 years ago

wonderful writings.


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

A great hub and I now look forward to so many more by you.

Take care and enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank you for stopping by and reading this one. Take care, God bless :)


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Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

Unknown spy: I know for myself, if I've made the wrong choice, I've learned from it. Sometimes we have to try something to find out if that is what we really want. If we find we don't want it, at least we KNOW it...If we hadn't tried we would always wonder if we should have...so mistake or not, we have the answer. Voted up, useful and interesting. I listened to both videos. Superb. THANK YOU...you made excellent points. Your statement, "Choose one that will make you happy and contented" says it all. Blessings, Sparklea :)


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

this is an excellent comment Sparklea! yes, if we wont try, how can we know?anyway,mistake or not in the end, just dont regret it, learn from it and remember, it was the one we wanted at the first place..those two videos made a great example of making choices.. Thank you for your time and by reading this hub.


Larry Wall 4 years ago

unknown spy:

I cannot begin to count the number of wrong choices I have made in my life. My comfort is that I know I have made more good choices. We are faced with choices every day and when they are good, we move on. When they are not good, we move on, but perhaps change our direction. You stated this in an excellent manner. You are a worthy writer, who speaks from the heart. Stay focus and always look ahead--I think that is something you would say.

Larry


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Larry, Hello there. Yes, we always have to look ahead, move on. Past is now only a dream that we will use to face our future. Well, at that time you made that choice, its always the one you wanted at the moment. Glad to hear that you have made more good choices in your life and be happy of it. We are what we are now because of that choices. Larry, thank you again.


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Krowie 4 years ago from Phils.

I almost cried on the song "the life that could have been".. one mistake can haunt us for the rest of our life just like the man who met this 'should have been' girl of his life. so sad, and nice writing unknown spy!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

That's my favorite song Krowie. song by a1. the lyrics tells of regret, of something that should happen but at the twist of fate, it never came. so sad but it happens on real life..


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Lot Rillera 4 years ago from Philippines

I have so many roads that i should have taken too.. Nice hub and I love the song too.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Yes Lot. The songs is very lovely though you can sense the regret and sadness. WE are what we are now because of those choices we made, whether it's good or bad.


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Lot Rillera 4 years ago from Philippines

You are very very correct unknown spy. Lovely hub.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank you for stopping by Lot. Bless your kind heart.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Why, thank you so much . Very much appreciated.


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

Correct in your thoughts.. perfect hub! We should not regret the choice we have or had made...

Great work Unknown!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Hello my friend, its nice to see your comments again. Thank you much much!!


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Esther Earl 4 years ago

Great hub! This is the second time I read this hub and I'm sure few days I will visit this hub again and re-read it... I like your writings. You're not only imaginable but also realistic. I've done lots of wrong turns too but soon I realized, the next turn is for the better...perhaps without those wrong turns I won't knew the right ones. Love your hubs so much.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thankkkk you so much from my heart. Those wrong turns made you just the way you are right now. It may teach us a lesson or two about making decisions..

Thanks again! I really apprecite yo coming back again!


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dmop 4 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

We all make hard choices and perhaps sometimes they may seem like the wrong ones in the future, but who knows even those that seem wrong may have been for the best.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Hi dmop! Thank you for the message. Yes, i also have that notion sometimes that maybe those wrongs have cultivated the best on us.

Thanks for stopping by!


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DS Duby 4 years ago from United States, Illinois

This is a very inspirational hub M. i really enjoyed it. It is so true to the point, I know I have made many mistakes in my life and I'm sure that I will make many more, but I will always pick myself up, brush myself off and move on with my life, with any luck I'll be all the more knowledgeable for it. I give this hub an awesome, interesting, useful and beautiful thumbs up. I also want to thank you for the inspiration and bright outlook you have given me.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Hi DS! Thank you for your kind words :)

Mistakes are part of our life, and you are right that we have to always pick ourselves up everytime we fall.

thank you for the up and votes, really appreciate it :)

xoxo,M.

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