The Season for Personal Reflection

Reflect on your life.
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Reflecting

“Reflect upon your present blessings -- of which every man has many -- not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
---Charles Dickens

Really we should be reflecting on our lives every day a few minutes of thought, but it seems there isn't always time. As the holidays roll around 'reflection' becomes more obvious and in tune with the holidays. Stopping to think and appreciate what we have, where we are, and even who we are should be part of our holiday celebrations. It is a time of renewal and a time to look to the future, not dwell in the past.

Granted you may want to look back and think about what you've learned, what your life has taught you....and make sure you don't make the same mistakes again. Remember, Albert Einstein said of insanity: "[it is]doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Though most of us may wonder about the current state of our minds, we know we aren't insane so, we shouldn't be making the same mistakes over and over again. I figure two times is enough, three strikes and you're out. That is sometimes easier to say than do but if we make a conscious effort to see our mistakes and what led us to make them, we can hopefully avoid them the next time.

What have you learned...
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Think about what you've learned

"There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves."
---Will Rogers

So, as you decide to reflect maybe one of the things you should ask yourself is "what have I learned?" You may have learned its not a good idea to leave your keys in the car and lock the door, or you may have learned that boyfriend that never calls really isn't a boyfriend after all....so many things you can learn in such a short time! You may have learned a new language or how to finally program the DVD player!

If you're not sure about what you've learned, how about what you've accomplished? Surely there are many things. You might've changed the oil in the car after putting it off for weeks, or maybe you mastered playing that piano that's been just sitting in the living room gathering dust. Of course if you're a writer, you may have written more than you ever thought you could....all accomplishments.

People in your life

"If your treat an individual... as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be."
---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

How about the people in your life? Have you called your parents lately? Have you told your children that you love them? Did you ever apologize for that argument you had with your brother?

How do you treat other people? Do you give out compliments freely? Do you appreciate those around you? What about helping others, even if its just holding a door opening or carrying a bag of groceries for someone who is really loaded down....of course there is so much more you can be doing for people, but that is up to you and your life and circumstances. It would be more generous for someone with little income to donate a can of food than it would for someone very wealthy to write a check .... circumstances sometimes dictate what we can do for others. If we do for others with love in our hearts we accomplish generosity. Maybe just helping a neighbor mow his lawn or rake his leaves, even the simplest things...

What about goals? Do you have any goals right now? This might be the time to reflect on your goals and what you want them to be? Do you have goals about your job or your education? What is your ideal future? What do you want from your future? Your goals could be a bucket list or a to do list!

Reach for the sky.
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Reflecting on goals

"Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now."
---
Denis Waitley

As you are reflecting on your goals and your future remember to keep it simple and attainable. If you set goals that are way beyond your abilities you are setting yourself up to fail. If you live in the city for example, don't set a goal to go on a five mile hike every day....be reasonable and fair to yourself. Set goals that you actually have control over....that way you will feel that sense of pride when you are able to accomplish the goal you've set.

Remember reflection is about focusing on yourself. This is a personal reflection and what other people do is not your responsibility and not something you can control. Maybe it is best for you to write down your reflections. Make a list to refer to from time to time. Write down the positive things you have in your life, your health, your relationships, maybe even your job. Think about all the things you like about yourself...you're tall or you're short...you're blonde or you're brunette...maybe you have a bubbly personality and always look at the bright side...any of the things you like about yourself.

Begin the journey
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Begin your journey

"If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else."
---Yogi Berra

As with any journey, the journey to personal reflection begins with the first step. Make a searching inventory of yourself. Who are you? How would you describe yourself, honestly? Are you a happy person? If not, that may be a goal...to become a happier person. Are you overweight...if so, that may be a goal, to lose a few pounds. In order to reach that goal you would need to examine yourself and your life to find out why you are not happy with that particular thing right now.

Now is the time to try to make sense of your life. What are your feelings? Does any of this make sense to me, in my life? What would I like to change?

As you reflect, that's what its all about, "ME". Worrying about me, thinking about me and helping to make a better me.

Wash out the old.
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"I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself."
---Mikhail Baryshnikov

What others do or think is not important in your reflections. Only you are important and what you want to do. You can't change other people, contrary to what some people think. You can only change yourself to make your life happy. Truthfully look at yourself and your life.

Maybe writing things down isn't for you. Maybe you need to take a walk by yourself or a drive. Whatever gives you the time to think about your life...that's the way to go for you. Each of us is different in how we live our lives so why not be different in how we reflect on our lives?

Take the time to reflect....take stock of your life and who you are....let go of the negative things rattling around in your mind...be happy and look to the future with pride and joy in who you are and if you think you need it, make the changes that will make you a better person and make you happy.

“The girl in the mirror wasn't who I wanted to be and her life wasn't the one I wanted to have.”
― Francesca Lia Block

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mactavers 4 years ago

Your hub is thought provoking and I love the quotes you have chosen.


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Mary - Strong suggestions that everyone should follow. If you don't know where you're at, you sure can't get to where you want to go. We all need to take a few minutes to consider what is going on in our life and what we need to do to improve it. Great Job!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Mactavers...so many great quotes out there to choose from.

My point exactly Rich...gotta know where we've been!


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Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

The hardest person to critique is the one you see in the mirror every day. I am as guilty as anybody of this non-reflection, yet I know I need to. Thanks for the inspiration. I will do my best.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

The quotes by Yogi Berra and Will Rogers are classic. I try to reflect each day before I go to sleep how my day went, if I hurt anyone, did I accomplish my goals, am I headed in the right direction. It took me a long time to learn these things but they are so important.

Loved this piece on reflection; well done Mary!...shared.


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Reflection is so necessary, else we end up taking things for granted. The quotes are precious too!! Thanks for sharing and I do as well.


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lrc7815 4 years ago from Central Virginia

Mary, this is so beautiful. I am the proverbial dreamer and can often get lost in personal reflection. Sometimes it's a nuisance because I don't do everything I should be doing but...I can honestly say that it is a healthy process that keeps me humble and recognizing the many blessings in my life. This is so well written and really good advice for anyone.


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FreezeFrame34 4 years ago from Charleston SC

We all need to take time to reflect and ask ourselves, "Who am I?" "Who do I want to be?" Great hub!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Here,Here, to the words of Denis Waitley and BRAVO to this awesome hub, oh wise and lovely skillet sister.

You speak truisms.....and I hope others can come to the same realizations. Happiness and peace, is all around, if we open our hearts and minds. Wonderful advice.

If, just for one single day, we vowed to chase away a negative thought and replace it with a positive......a simple practice run........Imagine what might come of this... I have no doubt you and yours will enjoy Thanksgiving Day, together with fun and love!!..........UP+++


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Mr. Archer you are so right...sometimes we are too hard on ourselves, but as you said, we need to reflect.

Billy, I somehow knew you would appreciate Yogi and Will Rogers...who better to quote? Glad you enjoyed this piece. Your writing shows you spend time reflecting as you always provide such good advice.

Midget, we all have a habit of taking things for granted. Takings stock makes us stop and think.

Linda, humility is a virtue we often lack, but somehow I knew you wouldn't from the things you write.

FreezeFrame, thank you.

As each of you has stated, we need to reflect, that's probably what brought me to write this...my need to take the time and reflect!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Your comment did not appear when I made mine (above) however, showed up after and I couldn't moderate my comment, however, it is always better to give you my undivided attention skillet sister and BFF.

We all have so much to be thankful for and so much talent inside, we just need a few moments now and then to remember that! Our friendships alone can take hours to reflect upon...just look at how lucky I am to have met up with a little girl from Upstate NY and all the other wonderful hubbers I've met and now call friend.

My blessings are many....may yours always be too!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Reflecting is a sign of personal growth when we use it in a significant way. You've written a first-class hub on the importance of reflection.

I loved the video. It reminds me of all the vocal students I've trained to sing this beautiful song when it first came out.

This time of year is hard on my heart. It was Todd's favorite time and he stayed up all night putting toys together for the 4 children. I miss it all -

Still, I am blessed as I am free to reflect on the great blessing of having him as my son.

We all have so very much to be grateful for. I love my hub family and I love my Lisa and Randy and grandchildren. Yes, every minute of everyday that we breathe is a gift to be grateful for. Blessings to you, my friend!


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Mary, great hub and I loved the quotes too (and your photos). This time of year where the passing of the seasons is so stark does seem to be a time for reflection and you have described it very well here. So time for some 'Spring cleaning' in Autumn and chucking out the crap in our lives and being positive about all that good stuff that is still there when the rubbish is gone :o) Amen to that!


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cleaner3 4 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

great write on personal reflection , well put together and excellent words that make you realize that the world spins but we sit still often and don't realize that time is passing us by.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

wow what a great hub.. with great thoughts and quotes.. and so true to life.. thank you now I am going to reflect on my life and my day to day skills and life.. many blessings to you

Debbie


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

It is good to know your joy overcomes your sorrow. Your memories are what keep Todd close. I thought the song fit in so well with what I was trying to say. Thank you for reading vocal coach and may God bless you as well.

I love how you said we need to do "spring cleaning" in autumn Jools! Getting rid of the rubbish is something we often forget to do.

Thanks for stopping by Mike, long time no see. How true, time passes us by if we don't do something about it!

Deborah, I think a lot of us will be reflecting in the coming weeks, with or without my hub ;) God Bless.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

You are right, we all need time for reflection and I also agree that there is more than one way to do it. Meditation works for some people, but not all, and for those of us who are writers, that's a great way to do it.

Interesting hub!


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

At the end of each year, I reflect on the past year and try to make plans to be a better person this next year. I will do the same this year.

I enjoyed your Hub very much and especially the quotes from some of my favorite people.

I voted this Hub UP, and will share.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

I totally agree with your hub. We should all take the time for reflection and it seems as I've aged I've done this to a greater degree as the years come and go. This is a very thought provoking hub and I liked your quotes as they fit in with your words perfectly. Voted up and awesome for a very well written hub! Shared.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

I never thought of writing as a personal reflection but since you mention it Melovy, I have to agree and you're also right that it's a great way to do it.

Mary I can't imagine you being a better person. You are such a warm and wonderful lady....and you bake too ;)

Pamela, you make a great point, we realize so many more things as we get older and the need for reflection is definitely one of them.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Mary,

Your life philosophy shines so brightly in this piece. The comments seem to reflect a need for self reflection.

I can hear myself think best when I am either walking or writing freely in my journals. And I need to reflect most definitely.

Loved this from start to finish. Hugs, Maria


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Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful hub that is just right for this time of year. The quotes are inspirational. I've never seen Mulan and the song was a perfect selection. Rated up/and across except funny. :)


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Debby Bruck 4 years ago

Dear Mary ~ I love your writing style interspersed with quotes and images. Quieter times. Autumn leaves. Changes in the colors in the sky above. Thanks for introducing us to these thoughts of "Who I am inside?" Gratitude for friends, the ability to read, write and reflect. I hope you are safe and warm. Blessings, Debby


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and awesome. A wonderful hub for thought and reflection. Enoyed the quotes. Great pics and video. Much enjoyed. In fact reading this put me in a quiet mood and I could imagine myself taking a nature walk. Passing this on.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Maria I imagine any reflections you have are warm and loving....walking or writing, anytime, anywhere. We know what a giving and loving person you are. Your liking this piece gives it even more credence. Hugs right back at you GF!

Denise, I haven't seen it either but like you, thought the song was a good fit! Thanks for the votes.

Debby your comment was warm and the kind of comment that makes one want to stop and reflect...a lovely opening for reflection. Blessings back at you you!

Gypsy, I too, can imagine you taking that nature work and soaking up all the beauty around you!


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carol7777 4 years ago from Arizona

Some really good thoughts and reminds you of the could ofs, wouldofs and should ofs in life. However we make decisions that seem right at the moment and cannot go back. So reflection of good in our life is the best thing.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Would of, could of, should of....so true Carol. A good place to start and go on to what will be!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Mary, this is a very useful hub. Very pertinent questions to ask oneself. Only by reflecting can we know where we are heading, rather if we are heading in the right direction. Very valuable lessons here.

Voted up, useful. And sharing.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thank you Rajan. I am truly glad you found this useful.


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b. Malin 4 years ago

Wonderful, Inspirational Hub Tillsontitian. "Reflecting" is also (I feel) Growing & Learning... And we are always learning...Very appropriate Quotes and Imagines...An Educational read as well. Also an Interesting Video. Thanks for sharing, and making me Reflex...On what I might do better...Somethings, we can change.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

b.Malin...hopefully we are always learning and learning what we might do better. Thanks for stopping by.


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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi tillsontitan... I needed to read this today... thank you for sharing from the heart and something we all need to do is reflect on who we are, who we should be and the importance of love... voted up and away... awesome piece of work here.

Hugs from Canada


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thank you Rolly. After just reading your hub about the two people you lost this year, truly a reflective piece that made me feel how important reflection can really be. I appreciate your coming here to read my hub! God Bless.


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missolive 4 years ago from Texas

Useful, beautiful and bold. Very wise words. We must reflect and this season does tend to have this awareness raised. We must all be the best that we can be and this includes reflecting on our strengths and weaknesses. Admittedly, I have always loved a little bit of competition, it helps drive me but I have always said, I'm my own biggest competitor/challenge. Mini goals set to reach a bigger goal have worked best for me. With that said, Misha's quote is one I've smiled upon and I was glad to see it in your hub, "I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself."

Thank you for a timely and thought provoking hub. Oh, I have always been a fan of Mulan's 'Reflection'....it was a pleasure to hear it again, thanks for sharing.

Cheers! MO


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

It sounds, Miss Olive, like you and I set similar goals for ourselves...it is not important to me what other people do or don't do, but what I do and if I can do it better or not! So glad you enjoyed! Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

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