The best way to be happy uncovered! The secret revealed

The reality of the situation.

Okay, when clicking this article, I'm sure you're expecting to see one tip, or piece of ground-breaking advice that'll solve all of life's problems. You'll go to bed, and wake up a millionaire, with 5 Brazilian supermodel girlfriends/boyfriends and have a Ferrari on the drive. Well, I'm very sorry to disappoint you, but there isn't a tip, "lost for generations but yours at a small price!" in this article.

Now, if there was, I can assure you, that you'd already know it. If the actual secret to eternal happiness was sat on man-kinds doorstep waiting to be opened, it would have been already. Long ago. And why do I tell you this? Because the secret to a care-free life doesn't really exist. We'll always have troubles, some more than others. "So what's the point in carrying on reading this?" You may ask? Well. You tell me.

You see, happiness isn't discovered. It isn't found within a secret formula of some form. And no, by paying "The low-low price of £400", you will not end up any happier. Well, you might...But that really depends on the type of person you are.

You can probably think of a million things that will make you happy, such as a new car, a bigger house, a win on the lottery or even something small, like a cookie.

However, we're wrong.
Firstly, our mind doesn't have the ability to react to changes that haven't been made yet. So by this logic, you don't know what will make you happy. Yet we tell ourselves the latest 52" Plasma screen TV, or a house on the seafront will. Adverts actually are the worst culprit for this.

Secondly, getting what we want actually doesn't make us happy. You'll see on TV a million actors and actresses looking all smug in their million dollar homes, but famous people are 4 times more likely to commit suicide. I once heard someone say "There are two trajedies in life, not getting what we want, and getting it."
Not only this, but when we have achieved something, such as winning the lottery, our mind automatically spirals our moods downwards, to push us towards reaching the next goal...But if you've already got enough money to last a lifetime, 3 cars, a mansion and a horse, what's the next goal? There isn't one would be the simple answer.

So money, possesions, fame etc don't make you happy. "Then what will?" you may be asking yourself. Well, since we have no ability to judge non-existant emotional changes, I'd be tempted to say "Nothing"...But that isn't true. One last little thing...What does make us unhappy is constantly thinking about what will make us happy.
So perhaps what does make us happy, is just thinking less of ourselves, and more of others. Why not try and make a difference to someone less fortunate's life.
It'd take our mind off our own problems, give us clarity and time to think about solutions to our own issues, and let you give something back to the community and make a difference.
Besides, who doesn't like to feel the satisfaction they've made an impact on someone elses life?

(reading gave me the inspiration to write this)

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Scarlett My Dear 5 years ago from Missouri

You're right, Ryan. We're looking in all of the wrong places for happiness. The source is within.

Humans grow weary early in life when, what they're lead to believe will make them happy, does not. We spend years upon years denying the truth of it, because IT IS HARD! To quote one of my favorite comedies, "Life is pain. You have to scrape the joy out of it."

I think it is through life experience, in love, loss, and frankly, our own suffering, that we learn that lesson!

Certainly, helping others within our local and world community is an excellent way to find true fulfillment. What better teacher than experiencing others' suffering first hand?



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Ryan-Palmsy 5 years ago from In a Galaxy far, far away Author

Thanks again Scarlett! That's pretty much it all summed up, it's a shame to see so many people my age and older, or even younger squander their youth, all because they'd rather sit in their own disappointment, just making it all worse.

Earlier for example I was on the train looking at some beautiful scenery, and in front of me was this bloke who was moaning on his facebook status. It made me think, there is such an amazing world out there, yet you're just interested in moaning about it!

Thanks for commenting!!

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aslanlight 5 years ago from England

Living in the present moment is the way to happiness; letting go of the past and not worrying about the future if only for a few moments causes changes, spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally.

I've been using the mindfulness technique of quieting my mind and relaxing each day. I feel more in touch with myself, more relaxed, calm, happy and powerful.

The book 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle is helping me to do this. It's very simple!

Great hub!

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Ryan-Palmsy 5 years ago from In a Galaxy far, far away Author

In reality, what is happening now is the ONLY emotional change your body can respond to. Your mind just can't emotionally respond to what will happen in the future, and as a result people who say "man, I will be happy if I'm richer/older/more experiences/famous" are wrong. Well, they're not wrong, because they very well might be happier, but when they say it their mind just doesn't know if it will.

In fact, the thought of getting what you want is actually what screws you up. It makes you less happy, etc.

I'm not sure what mindfulness is, but it sounds like a good idea! I hope it goes well for you!

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