44 "There, I did It" - (About family)

Every story has a silver lining.
Every story has a silver lining.

This is a story about putting things off until it's too late.

“There, I did it, I sent letters to each of my three children.”

That’s what I proudly said to myself a couple of years ago, after putting it off for so long. I kept telling myself I should do it and I finally did it. I had written the letters in hopes of getting them all together for some sort of a family reunion. For some reason the whole family had drifted apart with everyone having differences.

My oldest daughter is the only one that I have been close to for the last several years.

I have to say that I am very proud of her and what she has done with her life. She did deal with her teen pregnancy, finished school and put herself through school to be a registered dental assistant, which is what she has always worked. She raised her son and she is now putting herself through school for the college degrees she needs to become a teacher for special children.

My second daughter, with whom I had lost contact with for about 12 or 13 years, has 4 children. 1 boy, 2 girls and 1 boy, in that order.

I am also very proud of her. She was married to one man with whom she had the 4 children. She was married to him until he took his own life when something from his past, before they married, raised it’s ugly head and threatened to ruin his life. My daughter and I lost contact before that even happened, for what reasons I’m not sure.

When we did get back in touch, I found one 20 year old grandson with a daughter of his own. An 18 year old granddaughter, going to college, with a son of her own. A 14 year old granddaughter that sings in a band that does gigs for money to fight drugs. And an 12 year old grandson. My daughter had raised these kids basically on her own for about the last 11 years.

I found that my daughter had received her BA for training medical students at Platt College. She is now going for her MA and is in management at the college now.

Now, we come to my son. I’m not really sure what happened between him and I, but my understanding is that it had to do with when his first son was born.

I’m not making excuses, but the night his son was born it was pouring rain and the only transportation I had was a motorcycle with at least 15 miles of freeway between us. For whatever it’s worth, I’m sorry I wasn’t there, but that could be a reason I’m here today. Then by the time it stopped raining enough, the mother and baby had been released and staying at the house of my ex, and we weren’t getting along.

I have seen him and talked to him a few times, mostly just hellos, at the soccer games of my oldest daughter’s son and those were for short times and the last time for that was about 9 or 10 years ago.

The sad part is that we all live within a 1 hour drive from each other.

Anyway, back to my son. I am very proud of him also. He has managed to raise a family of 1 girl and 2 boys and is still happily married to the same woman he married out of high school. His daughter is married to a Marine and they have a daughter too.

My son, from what I understand is an excellent diesel mechanic. And even though we haven’t gotten back together, I am very proud of the husband, father and man he has become.

And now that you know a little about my kids and the background for the reason I had written the letter about 2 years ago, I will get back to the story that I started.

I had written the letters telling my 3 adult children that no matter what their differences, I would like to at least one time before I die, see them all together. I did this in hopes for a bit of a family reunion.

I was sitting alone watching TV this morning when I heard a knock on the door. I asked who was there and got no answer. I rose from my chair and walked o the door. I noticed that someone had slid and envelope under the door. As I picked up the envelope, I noticed what seemed to be a slight glow. The glow had to be my imagination. I opened the door to see if I could see who left the envelope. There was no one around anywhere.

I closed the door and opened the envelope. Inside the envelope, that still seemed to glow, was an invitation. It read;

Mr. Greg Schweizer, you are invited to the family reunion at the house of Bill and Belinda Schweizer on January 10, 2012 at 12:00 noon. After I read this it had me so excited that I almost killed myself getting ready and rushing over there.

When I arrived the front door was open so I walked inside. I didn’t see anyone but I could hear voices. I walked through the house to find that there were a lot of people in the back yard. I walked over to the sliding glass doors and stood there for a few moments. I was so happy because I saw all 3 of my children, all 8 of my grandchildren and all 6 of my great-grandchildren. All in one place at one time, just like I had asked for. I was getting teary-eyed so I decided to get some Kleenex for my nose and my eyes before I walked outside. When I turned around that’s when I saw it there on the dining room table. There were flowers, a picture of me and a plaque that read;

“In loving memory of our father, Greg Schweizer, May 8, 1947 to January 8, 2012.”




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CMerritt 5 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

WOW!

Excellent read and food for thought....up and awesome!


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi C, Thank you for the comment and assurance. I wasn't sure how this would be accepted My girlfriend won't read it a second time. She didn't like the ending. But, it does make a person think about puting things off. Again, thank you. Greg


Sueswan 5 years ago

“In loving memory of our father, Greg Schweizer, May 8, 1947 to January 8, 2012.”

Wow! The last sentence says it all. A lesson to all of us that it can be too late.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Sue, Thank you for the comment. I even learned something from writing this, and I thought I had learned all of that in the past 27 years myself. Again, thanks. Greg


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Sneha Sunny 5 years ago from India

Hey greg....it's been long. I would say another awesome piece of work. We can understand why your girlfriend didn't liked to read it for the second time. But yes you did taught me a lesson, well to everyone. I like the way you presented.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Sneeha, Thank you for the comment. I always appreciate the input. Greg


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grayghost 5 years ago

This says so much on so many levels. I really enjoyed it. It causes one to reflect on those important things "left undone".

Thanks!


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Grayghost, When I was writing it, I was thinking about how many times I was the one that put things off thinking that there is always tomorrow. What's sad is that sometimes that tomorrow just doesn't come. Thank yoy. Greg


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

This is a great story, reminding us that time is short. I have things i need to do too. Thank you.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Never, never let yourself lose contact with your children. grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Do everything you can to get back in touch with everyone. Love of family is so important. My dad was always my best friend and I only had him for such a short while. He died when I was only ten. I lost my mom when I was in my 30s so at least I had her in adulthood. But to this day I miss them so very much. Don't let the time slip by. Life goes too quickly.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

Only one word here;Brilliant !!


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi AE, Thank you for the comment. Time is short, sometimes shorter than we think. Thank you. Greg


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Gypsy, Thank you for the comment. I just hope my kids get the message. I was bad about NOT staying in touch with my mom and dad. I lost my mom in '98.I had gotten back with her and saw her a few times before she left us. My dad I contacted after many years of not seeing him or talking to him. The picture is him and I almost 2 years ago. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Thank you for sharing your feelings too. Greg


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Eiddwen, Thank you. I take that as a real compliment. I just hope the all read it and get the hint. greg


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

This is just beautiful..restoration I believe is Gods best for us..I am so happy for you..


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Sunnie, Thank you for the great comment. I'm really looking forward to restoration. I just hope this story brings a little light on the subject for the kids and lets them see what happens when you wait too long. I always look forward to your visits Sunnie. Greg


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Gave me chills at the end. That was powerful.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Denise, I just hope people, including my adult children, somewhere along the line. It was meant to have a bit of a kick to it and I believe it did. Thank you for the visit and the comment. Greg


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Rosemay50 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

Oh my goodness, I'll be weepy for the rest of the day now.

Absolutely beautiful and a lesson to us all.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Rosemay, Thank you for the visit and the comment. I am sorry about the sad part, but it is good to know because I was shooting for that nerve. Greg


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Mark Pitts 5 years ago from United States

I could see this in my life, both with me and my dad, as well as my sons. I don't see how it happened either, butu for what it's worth it happens to a lot of us.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Mark, Thank you for the visit and the comment. It happened with my dad and I too. I did get back in touch with him. He passed away a month ago. It happens and all I can do is hope. Greg


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jenntyl99 4 years ago from Pennsylvania

Greg, This is such a poignant read and I am glad you were able to accomplish what you wanted. It is a hard topic but one that I can appreciate. My father died at such a young age (58) and there were things I never was able to express to him. This reminds us why we need to say what is important while here because once someone is gone we can never do that. Thanks for sharing!


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Jennty, Thank you. I didn't get to tell my mom some things befoer she passed, but I did get in touch with my dad and was able to let him know how I felt before he passed. Greg


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donnaisabella 4 years ago from Fort Myers

What a beautiful story. I wish you and your family well. It makes me think about all those phone calls I have been meaning to make to my dad but keep on postponing, I hope tomorrow will be a good day to call him and mom. It has been over a year since we talked and I love and miss them but as you say, I keep putting it off because I do get busy or the time differences sort of get in the way. Thanks for writing.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Donna, Thank you. Remember what they say, "Don't put off for tomorrow what you can do today". Greg


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Dee aka Nonna 4 years ago

This was so incredibly beautiful and awesome and thought provoking on so many levels. I am wowed and speechless and inspired.

My best wishes to you and your children...that everything come together as you dreamed very quickly.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Dee, Thank you. Things are better and I am getting closer. Greg


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

Greg, You got me one this one..I have to tell you I am so happy for you and crying here this morning. How wonderful to be restored with your children. It is a gift as many do not have that. I know you will run with this, making the very best with this time you have been given. A perfect gift in so many ways. It was so great you wrote those letters. Than you for sharing. Wishing you the most wonderful future with your grandkids and children..Your life has been touched with a great blessing!


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clairemy 4 years ago

We cannot live on what ifs and what was or maybes, and in this hub you have shown that. Thankyou for sharing , and I am glad you reunited with family, very glad.


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sgbrown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

Life is very uncertain and the unexpected can always happen. I am so very glad you re-connected with your family. I hope all goes well for you. Great hub, voted up and interesting. Have a wonderful day. :)


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Sunnie, Thank you. I'm sorry if it made you cry. Actually I'm not, that means I made the point I was after and it shows that you have a heart too, but that I already knew from reading your hubs. Greg

Hi Claireme, Thank you. You have to live on what life brings you and don't let things get away from you. Greg

Hi SG, Thank you. We have to expect the unexpected and accept the uncertain in order to make it all work. Thank you for the vote too. Greg


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uzma shaheen 4 years ago from Lahore,Pakistan

great piece of work.loved the ending, very emotional and thought provoking.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Uzma, Thank you. I love to be thought provoking. Some people need a lot of provoking to make them think. Greg


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angela martinez67 4 years ago from Manila, Philippines

apart from the sad part of the ending, well that was a lovely story Greg. the point of making up for lost times with family is quite right. i'm just not sure i would have the feeling to patch up broken ties with my dad tho' right now. but i do get ur point and hopefully either one of us makes the move before its too late. thanks for sharing this hub. voted up!


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Angela, Thank you for the comment and vote. I understand where there are times and cases where it may be almost impossible to forgive someone for pat incidents, but if the heart is left open, there is always hope. I hope the best for you Angela. Greg


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angela martinez67 4 years ago from Manila, Philippines

G'morning! (my side of the world). I should thank u for sharing this beautiful hub that invokes hard-hitting lessons. "Time heals all wounds" they say...and i just hope its not too late when it comes. Wish u all the best too Greg.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Angela, Thank you again. There is also a saying that "It's never too late". But then, in my story, it was too late. Greg


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learner365 4 years ago

This is great writing. How masterfully you have just sent out the message to all those who really need some serious thinking to do!!!

Voting up and my best wishes!!!


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KimberlyLake 4 years ago from California

This story reminds me of my father. We had a fight about 3 weeks before he was killed in a drunk driving accident, it was over some family finances that had been unpaid, that were held in my name. Long story short, I briefly spoke with him 3 days before he died about family business, I was still upset about the bill but didn't bring it up. After he died I was going through his bills and paperwork and he had paid the delinquent bills out of our family account and written some very sweet notations about me and my siblings and had written plans for us in his date book. I love my Dad and miss him very much, your story made me cry too. Thanks for Sharing.


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forall 4 years ago

Hi Greg. Sometimes it needs just a step for that the impossible to solve becomes solvable. But delaying makes it even harder. I am glad that you were the one who did the 1st step. I hope that things will get better. Voted up!


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Learner, Thank you very much for the encouraging comment and for the vote. Greg


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Kimberly, Thank you. I am sorry about your dad. Sometimes we let the wrong feelings stand in the way of affection. As for making you cry, I am sorry. But if it makes you feel any better, I cried when I was writing this, and I knew it was make believe. There was just a lot of feeling in it. Greg


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi for all, Thank you. It does always take someone to take the first step. Sometimes that person falls flat on their face too. Thank you for the vote. Greg


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KimberlyLake 4 years ago from California

Excellent hub Greg I had to come back and read it again. There is a lot of wisdom here. Thank you.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Kimberly, Thank you for the re-visit. I'm not sure as to how wise I am, but I do feel I put a lot of feeling in it, as I do all of my writings. But I do thank you for the vote of confidence. Greg

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