There Is A Friend

Nellieanna Is Her Name

She has helped me so often

To many times to count

When others wouldn't

Because that's the kind hearted person she is

She is one of the busiest people I know

We have never met in person

In my mind we have known each other forever

There are ten no closer to twenty plus years between us

I am the lucky one

She never once said your wasting my time

I can't be bothered

I don't have the energy for this

These are all things other people I trusted have told me in the past

She will lend an ear

Write a few good helpful hints and suggestions

Even though busy with her own life, family and friends

Taking care of her health

We all know age is only a number

She is the new forty

She still manages to squeeze me in

Even though her experiences are endless and her talent stunning

She stops to listen

Taking what she knows and has learned

Making it simple for me to understand

She is the grandmother I never had

She is firm, honest and direct

If she was here

I am sure she would take my hand and say

You can do what you want

You know what's right

You have to learn for yourself

Just remember what we talked about

When you see for yourself the value in my words

Don't think I told you so

Think now I get it

It took me awhile

Then weeks or months later I realize

I needed to hear it again and again

I have a thick skull

For safety and protection

It's o.k.

We learn at our own pace

I have all the answers I will ever need

Sometimes it takes a friend to remind you

Someone to take the extra effort

To say I am here

You may forget me in time

As life is forever changing

That is how we grow and learn

Without it we are dead like Texas sand

It is up to you

To turn the sand into a work of art

Many plants and animals call it home

It's all how you look at it

It can be coarse and hot

Dry and painful if it gets in your eyes

Well I just want to say

I won't forget you

You have made me think of all the wonders I have missed

Even when life smells like rotten eggs

Take the egg shells and crush them up

They are good fertilizer for plants

You can find the good in the bad

Eat the eggs sooner they won't spoil

Don't pick a fight

Just do what has to be done

Do it right

At four o five A.M. in the morning

When I didn't want to go to sleep

My eyes tired and bloodshot

Like an old farm hand after a long days work

We have many differences between us

One thing we have in common

Writing

It brings us together even though the news says

The whole world has gone crazy and everything is falling apart

I leave you with a few simple lines

I have but one life

I live it with joy

I have but one heart

I use it for love

Goodnight sweet Nellieanna

May all your dreams come true








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Jodah 2 months ago from Queensland Australia

Dream On, Nellieanna helped me get my start on HubPages and was a huge inspiration and encourager to me also. I once wrote a tribute poem to her as well. She is a wonderfully caring and giving person and this is a very worthy dedication. Well done.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Jodah I am happy you are first to comment. Nellieanna touches many lives. I know life can get confusing and passes so quickly. Sometimes we forget to tell the people who help us the most. Thank you for reading and sharing. HubPages has been a wonderful place to meet so many extraordinary people who just so happen to be incredible writers too. Life is funny like that. We might even pass each other in the street one day and we would of never known we are friends and leave as strangers. In the world it is sad we all can't be friends. Have a great day.


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shanmarie 2 months ago from Texas

It's good to have people in our lives that challenge us to grow and that we can still trust to care even though we keep screwing up. Those people that take the time to let something sink in rather than giving up on you. I've been getting to know someone lately that I can see is going to challenge me in ways that no one else ever has before because of her direct honesty. She already has, actually. It's very different, to me, hearing things from someone I know is just that way and that is a friend with my best interests in mind. As opposed to hearing it from a mere acquaintance, for instance, or someone who doesn't know me intimately at all. And if she doesn't give up on me (I can be quite stubborn and difficult at times LOL), I hope I'll have many more years to come to keep learning from her.

I've been exploring myself a bit more for quite some time and these past few days have led to me thinking more about my passive aggressive tendencies if I'm frustrated or hurt or both. I haven't decided yet if it is a good thing or a bad thing, but I'm leaning more towards both. There are advantages and disadvantages, I suppose.

You know that Avicii song, "Wake Me Up"? I sort of feel like that lately. "All this time I've been finding myself and I didn't know I was lost." Somewhere in the last few years especially I began noticing something was missing beyond the rather obvious things I knew that I was missing. I suppose I was just slowly losing parts of myself and not fully understanding other parts. I'm working on that.

You keep reminding me that each new day is a day to start over and try again if need be. I already knew that because I've had no choice but to get back up when I fall or else just give up. Giving up isn't an option. Nonetheless, it's always nice to hear again and again, as you say in your poem. It helps to have others encouraging you either through their examples or through comments reminding us of what we already knew but forget to stay focused on. :)


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Shanmarie I love friendships that continue to grow and teach. I learn a lot from you too. I don't think we should ever compare friendships one against the other. I love that they are all different and unique.You have a fire and desire to share with the world so many things you are passionate about. I enjoy the way you have a strong will and confidence to do what you want and you have a great big heart. I seem to pull towards people that have similar qualities I draw from the energy and richness of each experience. Thank you for commenting and sharing. My writings would shrivel up like a old balloon that has never been used.


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shanmarie 2 months ago from Texas

I have a fire alright. LOL. But I burn myself a little too often. And I think you are right about not comparing friendships. They're all unique in their own ways.


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shanmarie 2 months ago from Texas

I can't see my comment to edit this in. . .thank you, too!


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Shanmarie Think how much fun we can have in our life. Then think of how much fun we can share with other people to create so much excitement and pleasure. Thank you for reading and caring.


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Nellieanna 2 months ago from TEXAS

I’m so amazed and deeply touched when someone gives me sincere and meaningful compliments, actually mentioning things I can know happened. It feels good to recognize those, to know that they mattered to you and to be able to say, oh, yes, we did share that and he/she values it & is reminding me. It helps to know that some things one does are done right and make a positive difference to someone else. It’s not that one does it for recognition, but just knowing it’s helpful at the time and mattered to someone is encouraging. Some of us just ‘be’ who we are and don’t set out to make huge changes. We want our influence to be positive, and if it reflects back positively, that is the best reward.

The best way for me to see that is in how you use your positivity to pass on to help others and to grow from it yourself. That is REALLY encouraging and gratifying. It’s a little like the parable of the leaven which works under the surface to make the bread rise. When we met, I didn’t set out to ‘do’ anything-for-you, other than to be myself and respect you. You’re simply such a thinking, caring person, Michael, that you readily see value where there is value for you which you can take and make it all yours and let it shine forth for others. You already had it, but weren’t afraid to polish it up. That is what makes me feel really good! You meet each day fresh and ready to go-forth and do your best, to find the good in it and share it with others. I’m sure your life has always taught you and honed your awareness and you’re always responsive in the best ways.

I learn from you, too. If I need a positive ‘shot in the arm’, I can find it in your writings. You utter much wisdom in your words. Whatever your words are about, they find the best in it and caress that. They don’t ignore the problems, but they keep them in perspective. Yes, we’ve been friends on Hubpages a LONG time. You go on being who you are, with or without encouragement, because it’s really who you are.

I have and have had so many people in my life, during both the 65 years before anyone online entered it and since. So few of those I’ve known all these years are still living. That really makes one aware of how precious these relationships are. In the 19 years since I first visited a chatroom online and made new friends (without physical presence) I still count many friends, though some of them have died, as well. Some of them I’ve met in person but most, I’ve known only here on the screen. How amazing that many of them live on the other side of the planet, yet we get to know each other so well! We relate like ‘real people’ and often grow close in special ways, sharing common interests or learning new things from each other. We share our human thoughts & experiences, and in some areas we share our most personal writings. In my case I’ve shared more of those in my poetry online, especially in Hubpages, than I did in all those years before I came here, 6 years ago! That’s amazing.

The most wonderful thing is that we learn from each other and develop relationships spontaneously. I hold them most dear. You, Michael, are a joy to know, as are the others who've commented.. I thank you from my heart for such a beautiful poem for me! Hugs and SHELLS. (Thank you for that acronym, too!) :)


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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 months ago from Riga, Latvia

A most wonderful tribute to a beautiful and loving and most talented lady. Nellianna has always been like a ray of sunshine on HP.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Nellieanna I am happy that you could experience the inner happiness that I receive from all your comments. It is one that is hard to translate into words.The depth of your love for life and your continued help is like calling a great body of water the ocean. When we can go and explore the wonderful, magnificent, great, blue sea to eternity. Thank you for reading and sharing.


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Nellieanna 2 months ago from TEXAS

Yes, Michael. Life is like a great body of living water. We’re all on its shoreline and eagerly exploring it for greater understanding. No words need be applied, since it’s a mutual experience, this living it. We feel ad experience it deeply.

We’re all in different stages and places on our own journeys. It’s so good when we overlap and can feel the mutualities of our life experiences. Thank you for sharing yours! Hugs.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Gypsy Rose Lee I am fascinated and thankful for modern technology that brings so many lovely people together. I believe that is what life is about caring and sharing. Thank you for reading and taking the time to leave a comment. If we spend more time enjoying the good in life I think the bad will become less and less even if it can never completely disappear.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Nellieanna I noticed how people forget to act like people. In work bosses want us to perform like machines. To do the job and not to question why. It bothers me how people don't care and lack feelings and compassion for others. We are not mechanical machines and shouldn't be treated as such. We are so much better. We are living, thinking, emotional beings. Thank you for reading and sharing.


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Nellieanna 2 months ago from TEXAS

Yes, Michael. People are first and foremost, human beings with all the many amazing traits and resources which make us unique on this planet. We have empathy, we have intelligence, we have sensitivity, we have the ability to self-discipline and self-correct deliberately. No other creatures have all these abilities and traits. With them, comes opportunity to goof up, of course, but those abilities also have the abilities to learn from it and then to fix it when we do. Machines are only equipped to do what their designers build and program them to do. They may not tire so easily, but when they break down, they’re ready for the scrap-pile.

Yes, because we have the ability to question the status quo and ask ‘why’, we require more attention and care than machines. But virtually all the great advances and improvements came right out of some persons’ questioning things and needing to know why. But unscrupulous leaders in business, government, corporations and so forth really try to make people compliant and unquestioning so they’re easier to control and exploit. The first freedom that’s taken or minimized is the freedom to learn and to think and doubt of people’s own self-confidence that they can do more than they may even think they can.

Of course, if we need to comply in our work and to our laws, which we we must and we do, but we should never accept it as being the extent of what we’re capable of. We have to know within ourselves that we can always accomplish and think clearly for ourselves. We may not be perfect, but we can be excellent in what we do. We may have to encourage ourselves when it’s not coming from others. But that is within our power, too. And we always have it within us! It’s not others’ to give or to withhold.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Nellieanna Your right it is up to each individual to find it inside of themselves to reach their greatest potential. I just thought it would be a lot easier if people worked as a team for a common goal. It would benefit society from the talent and creativity of each individual. Thank you for reading and sharing.


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Nellieanna 2 months ago from TEXAS

You're such a good thinker, dear Michael. I love the way you genuinely and deeply consider ideas and apply your own wisdom and understanding to them. When we move along life's path being observant and giving thought to lessons and ideas, we can continue to grow and to become more of all we ARE. We also need to be willing to accept help from others. To be a shining light, one must be able to let it flow through oneself, both directions.

Of course, teamwork is valuable, when each individual is well directed from within and each person benefits the whole. Individually, though, we each need to think of our parts as contributors, not as takers.. To do that, each must be securely self-directed and self-motivated and self-reliant. Then each can be contributors and if there are needy members of the group, they can count on the group to be strong and effective and 'there' for them till they can get their own bearings. It's not all or always the easiest thing, but it is the one which works best. We don't want to become dependents or to make others dependents. We can help each other and encourage each other to be independent and still caring.

Individual strength IS group strength for the group where they are. Groups made up of all needing and taking eventually run out of steam. So finding one's own inner source (including God) is what makes it possible to reach out and lend a helping hand to others. Sometimes we each have had to flounder a bit to discover this.

Someone once told me that if she had to prop me up, we'd both soon fall down. We need to instill in others that they have the power within to BE and to encourage them to find it and rise to it. We need to be an example of it and to do that, we need to know that we can be and that we are.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Nellieanna I thought of a creative idea. To give thought to something is to expand our knowledge on that subject. The more time we spend on any subject we find new solutions to old problems. Most people don't have time to focus on one subject because in any one day we deal with so many different issues.From personnel to family,work, friends and to our society's views. It's not that we don't care it's hard to spend the time needed when our children need our attention. Our own pets, neighbors, coworkers all seek time. What if people who are in prison could turn their time into a valuable resource by contributing to help society where before they caused harm. Their are many intelligent people who are behind bars. Why not give them the opportunity to create and have other people in society benefit and opening the door for opportunity and change for generations to come. No matter what crimes they have committed they may not be able to mix with the general public but can dive deep into societies short comings and mistakes. Who knows them better than people who have experienced it first hand. Thank you for reading and sharing.


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Nellieanna 2 months ago from TEXAS

You’ve really been thinking constructively, Michael. If we always are looking for and open to new ideas about old situations, it’s far more likely that new progress will be found! The idea that prisoners have the free time to work on improvement for the society certainly has merit and can be agreed with on sight. The only factors that need more consideration involve their motivation to do so. They are live people whose minds, hearts, and spirits were functioning for a number of years before they ended up being criminals and being imprisoned and have led them there.

They, themselves are not change by having more time to think, however they actually do. In prison, they suddenly also have new challenges and threats to steal their attention, just by being there, among other criminals and even often very unsympathetic prison guards and officials. Their thoughts are surely occupied by many things, regardless of not having jobs and families to occupy them, though they may have families whose welfare concern them. If they were to be enlisted to help resolve societies' shortcomings and mistakes, they'd have a lot of other debris to resolved first. They'd also need a willing audience for their ideas which would need to be prepared in non-angry and in reasonable terms.

Despite all the obstacles, though, there are some examples of prisoners who have turned their lives around and who came out of prison to become positive, influential, successful citizens. Many of them would trace their turnaround to using their time in prison constructively and, most of all, to WANTING a different life and devoting themselves to the pursuit of it.

If you go to Google and type in “Convicts who turned their lives around” or something similar, you’ll find sites about those cases.

Just as people who are just out here living our lives, though, a person must have a motivation to do good and to contribute to the betterment of humanity before it can happen. I’ve heard it said that if you want a job to be done well give it to the busiest person you know. It’s not just a matter of having free time or extra time to pursue the better paths, it’s the desire, determination, and ‘inner push’ to do so. If having time to think and consider better options changed criminals into outstanding citizens, the typical prisoner would soon be changed and get paroled. That’s not the typical result, partly because whatever led the person to commit crime has not been resolved and may even have taken over the person’s deepest soul, and also that prison conditions may contribute to feeding those negative tendencies which were in the person before ending up there. Sometimes perhaps eve those running the prisons contribute to feeding the bitterness and negativity of the prisoners. There are many factors which are complicated and far-reaching into the very foundations of our civilization. And the fact seems to be that IF a person lands in prison and has, or finds and cultivates a better spirit and motivation while there, that the person can and sometimes will rise up and use whatever is at his/her disposal in the prison, (time, library, etc) to become a much better person than before, or at least more capable of cementing his/her better inner resources into being all he/she can be.

You know, during my very confined and personally hurtful first marriage, ‘The Birdman of Alcatraz’ became my hero. Why? Because as a prisoner many years in solitary confinement, he saw a little bird come daily and light on his cell window outside the bars. He became so fascinated with that brave little creature that he pursued learning more about birds and somehow was permitted to study in the prison library to the extent that he became a leading authority on birds. It’s true story and was made into a 1962 movie, which was where I learned about it. I see that it can be viewed online, in fact. I should go watch it. It’s been a long time since I saw it. Well, here is a more official description of the story:

“. . .Sentenced to life in solitary confinement after killing a prison guard, despondent inmate Robert Stroud (Burt Lancaster) combats loneliness and tedium by nursing an ailing bird back to health. Stroud develops an interest in caring for birds and becomes a talented ornithologist. After publishing a book on bird diseases from jail, he meets and marries Stella (Betty Field), a fellow bird enthusiast. When Stroud is suddenly moved to Alcatraz, though, his marriage and work are both threatened. . . . “ There are many articles about it online.

So your idea is a basis for some REAL prison reform, in which the idea is to find and encourage positive motivation among prisoners. It also simply realizes that every person locked up may not be a 'bad person' by any means and some may have the seeds of greatness. History supports that, in fact. A lot depends on how just the system itself is and how fair the laws are. Generally, someone in prison has defied the most basic laws of decency OR has opposed a system whose own justness is questionable.\

Anyway, I greatly admire your thought on it. Don't stop exploring it!


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Nellieanna Change has to begin somewhere. If we see only problems that's all are going to get. If we see solutions in time they will poke their little heads up like nails on a board. One will stick out from the rest even though all are doing their job they were meant to do. I think I have also watched that movie when I was little. It would be fun to watch again. I thought a little deeper. During egyptian times they used slaves to build the great pyramids. In society we have used slave labor on plantations in the south. Both used their bodies but not their minds. There are a growing number of prisoners that can make a difference. I agree they have to want to and if they did it might work. There is only one way to see if it works through trial and error. Of course all letters from jail would have to be sensored and could create a hassle.Maybe I could make a story and pretend there was already a program in place and see how it would pan out. At least on paper. Thank you for entertaining the thought. Have great night.


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shanmarie 2 months ago from Texas

You remind me of the hub I just did. It actually came about because I was irritated about the way someone else called for change by insulting those who didn't think like she did. Funny thing is, I actually did agree with most of it. So I wrote about doing something good with anger and how change in society starts within the individual. I mentioned a book I had to read in college about a reformed prisoner who became a leader in society, promoting peace among gangs and better education particularly in schools with high poverty rates. It's very powerful and a true story.

You can read the hub if you're interested. It's my most recent. I am going to see if I can get some sleep. Smells like.burning wire outside and the kids kept flipping the breakers today trying to run too many things along with the air conditioners. Maybe I am paranoid, but one smoke detector doesn't work and one fire in my lifetime is more than enough. Plus, I am on the opposite side of the house than the kids. Maybe I will go sleep on the couch.


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DREAM ON 2 months ago Author

Shanmarie I always love to read your hubs. It is wonderful to see and hear stories about amazing people.have a great day.


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manatita44 6 weeks ago from london

Very very cute, very real-life poem. Honourable mention of my Friend and so beautiful to touch on her attributes. God bless your life, Dream On.


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DREAM ON 6 weeks ago Author

Manatita44 I think if we all took the time to tell the people in our lives how special they are the world would slowly change for the better. Without even trying. Instead of picking each persons faults and making you and them more uncomfortable. Thank you so much for reading and caring.

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