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How very rude!!!

I currently work as a volunteer at a well known charity. I sort through the clothes donations, price the stock and get it on the shop floor, culling clothes that have been out for two weeks as I go. Often though, I am on the till sorting out refunds and dealing with customers. This can be a rewarding and sociable experience but sadly NOT ALWAYS!

On occasion, the customers can be so incredibly rude, it really does leave you speechless, yes, even me! I really do have a bee in my bonnet about this and would love to hear what other people have experienced in their place of work. I always treat people as I'd like to be treated myself, with courtesy and respect. I WILL NOT TOLERATE RUDENESS! Those that are, do so at their peril as I won't take it lying down!

In addition to rude customers, we get some real characters too. Perfect writing material! You actually couldn't make it up! There is a rather dishevelled older gentleman that comes in on a regular basis. He wears the most dreadful wig! I have to stop myself from going behind it and giving it a good shove so it fits on his head properly! The quieter the shop is, the more mischievous thoughts seem to pop into my head. Oh dear! I really am very bad!

There is a gentleman that stands and talks to the shoes, the two little old ladies that leave an unsavoury reek of stale urine in their wake. Also, a man who thinks he is Elvis Presley. I hasten to add though, the majority of the customers are thoroughly pleasant, polite individuals. Sadly though, it's the grumpy ones that have got the focus in this hub!

I always endeavor to deal with situations calmly but when a customer is being downright rude, I have been know to give them a piece of my mind! A rather brusque lady came in once about 10 minutes before the shop was due to close. She demanded I find her a Man's shirt. I patiently found her one and as I was putting it into a carrier bag for her, she totally flipped!

She snatched the shirt out of my hand shrieking 'What do you think you're doing? You'll crease it!' (the whole shop were staring in disbelief and curiosity at this point.) When I had recovered from my surprise, I informed the irate woman that the shirt in fact, wasn't creased and she didn't need to shout at me. She didn't take on board what I was saying and in an even shriller tone, wailed 'It's creased, It's crumpled,' grabbing it out of my hand again.

Frankly, by this point, i'd had enough of her unreasonable, erratic behaviour. I asked her 'Perhaps she'd like me to iron it for her?' She fired back, 'Yes I would, I want it ironed this minute!' I then responded with 'Perhaps you think you're in Harrods? People usually buy clothes from charity shops and wash them before wearing them!' She was not pleased by this!

She screamed that she was going to make a formal complaint about me and wanted me sacked. She yelled 'I'm going to call the Police!' I was all for it as they'd probably arrest her for being bonkers! She told me I was 'rude' and 'aggressive!' Me! I told her She was a 'thoroughly unpleasant woman who needed to work on her social skills.'

In an unexpected twist of fate, the heat was temporarily taken off me. A rather eccentric gentleman with an intriguing collection of facial hair asked her to stop making a fuss as he was waiting to be served. I could have kissed him! Actually, no, I couldn't, but back to the story. She then started balling at this man that she was 'disgusted by the attitude in this shop and wanted to make a complaint.'

She then accused the said gentleman of pointing his walking stick at her! This triggered an argument between them and I was finally allowed some well needed respite from the crazy old trout. She came back into the shop twice to make a formal complaint against myself and the hairy gentleman. Happily, she didn't get what she was after.

I volunteer out of my own good will and do not deserve bitter, attention seeking harridans talking to me like i'm dirt! This sort of rudeness sadly seems to be on the incline. What on earth happened to good manners?

There are several incidents like this that occur, I could go on and on with such stories but for now, i'm going to take a deep breath, then run a hot, oily bath. Just watch all that stress wash away........ I'm feeling better already!

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Tara, it's so nice to see you writing again. I worked retail for a number of years and there are infinite stories about rudeness and just bizarre characters....it truly is entertaining but like you, rudeness will not be tolerated. Loved this hub! I'll be talking to you soon!

bill


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Bill, I really enjoyed writing it! There are so many stories like this I could share. I'm working on another embarrassing incident for the next one. Why do I humiliate myself?!


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leni sands 4 years ago from UK

Oh my, I so know these characters - the old ladies you refer to early on used to rub the prices out in the books and put their own prices in. The old gentleman with the wig, the awkward insulting woman and the eccentric old gentleman with the stick - not forgetting Elvis! I have often thought of doing 'a day in the life of...' but coming from a volunteer would be even better. The shop floor is full of strange characters and that doesn't include the customers (lol) - see you Monday!!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Ha ha! It's certainly an interesting place to work!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

I commend you for your Volunteerism....more people should!.....Crabby, grumpy, rude people are everywhere......I do far worse than you. I LAUGH at them...in their faces....then tell them they have no business being out in public....and walk away.

Some people deserve NO RESPECT...and that's what they should get.....NONE!!! UP+++


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

fpher, I like your style! I would love to do that but I have to bite my lip. They'd certainly be shocked if they knew what I was thinking! The long soak in the bath was just what the doctor ordered! I feel cool and calm again (yeah right)!

Thanks for commenting.


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dahoglund 4 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

Seems like this could make a good TV series.


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Borsia 4 years ago from Currently, Philippines

Oh my; I have so many, having been the owner of a manufacturing company that sold 90% mail order for over 25 years.

I made suspension and brakes in the automotive aftermarket. Here is one of my favorites.

A man and his son literally stormed into the shop trying to push past another customer I was helping with some very involved calculations for his application.

I told them that they would have to wait their turn as we are very purely first come first served. The man slammed down a box on the counter and began pacing, trying to be a distracting as possible.

When his turn came he shouted that the part his son had bought had failed and not only done considerable damage to the car but could have very easily gotten him injured or killed.

Of course I was concerned because I made critical parts and took great lengths to insure their quality; I even gave a lifetime warranty.

He grabbed the box and dumped a pile of broken pieces across the counter.

Humm, I murmured seeing that the parts weren’t anything I made.

“Perhaps you could tell me where you purchased this?” (Of course I recognized the counterfeit parts instantly.)

“He bought them from an outfit in Barstow California.” He growled.

“And perhaps you can tell me why you are bringing them to me?”

“You make them and Barstow is at least a 4 hour drive!! That’s why.”

“Sir; I’m sorry that you bought some obviously inferior parts; but they weren’t made by me, nor did you buy them from me.” I glanced over the terrible workmanship, I use that term very loosely.

“You will need to take them to the place who did make them and from whom you did buy them.” I put the pieces back in the box and handed them back to him.

I pulled out a cut away part that I used to show just how my parts are made, with all the interlocking and reverse pressed fit, insuring that even in a case where the part could be damaged in an accident they couldn’t fail as his had.

“Oh! So you aren’t even going to stand behind them then!” He practically roared.

“Sir, why would I stand behind something that I didn’t manufacture or sell?” I was trying not to laugh.

He then pulled a magazine from his pocket and pointed to my add.

“It says here that you invented these and warranty them against any defects.” His finger pounding on the add.

“Yes sir that is right; but as I pointed out I didn’t make these, so why would I warranty something that I had nothing to do with?”

I continued “Perhaps you can tell me why you chose to buy them from someone else that is further away?”

“That’s easy, they had them on sale for $15 less than you sell the same part for.”

“No sir I don’t sell the same part and in this case you got what you paid for,,, junk!”

I offered to bring out my map book and show him the most direct route to Barstow.

“Well; this is just outrageous!” he quipped as he marched his son out the door.

I could probably write an entire book about all the crazy things businesses go through with those who are determined to prove that the customer is wrong just as many times as they are right.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Ha ha! People really are bizarre sometimes! Reason seems to go out of the window. I could write a book about it too! Thanks for sharing your story. I could imagine a TV series or Radio play about rude customers being very entertaining! Thanks to both of you for your comments. Take care. Tara.


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Kate Mc Bride 4 years ago from Donegal Ireland

You wrote this so well,I could just see it all happening.People like that aren't happy unless they're causing trouble.You have the right of no reply and that gives them a chance to dig a bigger hole for themselves if you don't react which is what they deserve.It is great that people like that are scarce and that you meet so many characters in the shop.


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AlexK2009 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

If you keep your cool it can be fun winding up rude people. I doubt I could manage it though.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Kate and Alex. I'd better get some kip as I've got to deal with it all over again tomorrow! Who knows, I might get a few rude ones again to write about!!! I hope not but i've got to be positive :D


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and funny. lol I admire your patience. I would have probably wanted to smack that nasty yelling woman my fingers would have been itching. Thanks for sharing this amusing story.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Gypsy. Oh, my fingers were itching all right!


Cherry 4 years ago

Your story was brilliant


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Cherry for your lovely compliment!


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi Tara, lol! I know just what you mean! I worked in a charity shop too and totally recognise all those type of people you mentioned! and yes I have been through similar things too! one day an old man who was deaf, I hasten to add, ended up shouting at me to get him some socks! I told him we didn't have any, and all I got was, 'what? what? why not'? I then took him to the door and pointed to the nearby mens shop, and said, there you go, that shop sells socks, and he replied, 'well I don't believe it, I thought I was in there already!' haha! oh the great characters we have to help! haha!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Ha ha! We really do get all sorts in charity shops! It's never boring that's for sure! Nice to hear from you Nell. Thanks for reading and commenting.


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prettynutjob30 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

Great hub and I totally understand what you mean by not being able to tolerate rudeness.I am a usually a very shy quiet person but when rubbed the wrong way I go from zero to 100 in like five seconds.I used to work at a retail beauty supply store a couple of years ago I had some of the rudest customers.People would literally come in with broke items that they broke cause they used them improperly and demand money.One day I caught a woman stealing hair so I confronted her about it and she hit me with her purse some people are just crazy.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hit you?! No way. That's well out of order! I think i'd have hit her back and lost my job! How dare people treat others like that! Thanks for reading and commenting.


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Pollyannalana 4 years ago from US

I ran my own business for many years so I know just what you mean!

Did you ever get your hubs fixed to highlight?


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Polly, I bet we could share some stories! No, I can still only highlight selected hubs.


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That Grrl 4 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

I worked in retail for a few years. There are always interesting people. One of the nicest customers I had (who was a regular too) was well known here in Canada. He had been charged, arrested, gone to trial and been jailed for life as the murderer (serial killer) of children. After a few years new evidence came along and he was exonerated/ released as he never had been the guilty one. He had been in jail for a few years meanwhile. I never forgot how calm, patient and kind he was. I think the experience could have made him a very bitter person with a big chip on his shoulder. But, he chooses to be otherwise.

When I have to deal with people who have too much attitude, like your shirt customer, I get angry too. Others will cave in and try to give the loud and obnoxious types whatever they want. I don't. The more they push the less I give. Even as a paid employee, I'm only obligated to go so far. I'd rather go out of my way for the customers who have a good attitude, or at least something approaching normal. I actually enjoy not giving in to the screamers and yellers. It makes me feel good to thwart them.


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John Holden 4 years ago

Hm! I too work as a volunteer in a charity shop. We seem to have the same customers :)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

That Grrl, Hats off to you for not judging that man. So many people would. People who portend to be objective in their view are often the worst bigots! I respect him too for not becoming bitter by other people's attitudes towards him. I feel good by not giving in to rudeness too. It's exactly what they want, by not rising to it, you have won.

John, I think we probably have! Do your customers smell of wee too?


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John Holden 4 years ago

Only the cleaner ones!!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Am I alone in keeping a trusty bottle of Febreze spray under the counter?!


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John Holden 4 years ago

No, not at all!

We're fairly lucky, nobody has donated any dirty nappies or traded in their soiled trousers for clean ones. Both have happened to others. Mind you we are plagued by thieves, often the most unlikely people too.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

We are plagued by thieves too. We are wise to the tricks though. I've had to go through a bag of donated worn knickers before now. Not nice. What goes through people's minds I wonder!


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John Holden 4 years ago

That's maybe where we go wrong! Anything at all iffy just goes straight to rag, if they hid their jewellery in their dirty knicker drawer, we won't find it :)


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bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Hi Tara. My god...what do folk expect when buying stuff from a charity shop ? It sounds like this old bag had a screw loose..well actually a whole bloody tin full. Loved your account of life as a volunteer in a charity shop..and especially loved what it say´s on your mug..Nice one. Wish I´d have had one like at when I worked as a security guard, and got ear bashings from people trying to get into where I worked without their ID :)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi John, Wastesaver might contain a few gems then!

bac2basics, the mug's brilliant isn't it! I forget sometimes and use it on the shop floor. Shame I wasn't that day! Rude people really wind me up!


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John Holden 4 years ago

We use a good old fashioned ragman, they've been trading since the 19th century! They're so straight they'd probably tell us if we ragged any jewellery! I remember when I was young their blokes used to come round with a handcart.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Back in the day eh? Ours gets picked up each week. It's good to know that everything is recycled. There's so much waste these days!


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John Holden 4 years ago

In the few years I've been involved the amount recycled has increased tremendously. When I started it was just rag that was recycled but now there's virtually nothing that comes through the door that can't be resold for recycling.


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Mazzy Bolero 4 years ago from the U.K.

Great stories, Peanutritious. I had a part time job in a department store as a student and there were the regular eccentrics even there - the old woman and her daughter who came in every single day and loudly slagged off the merchandise but never bought anything, the woman who always chose underpants for her husband by trying them against her patient teenage daughter who was "about the same size" and the little old lady who attacked the floor manager with her umbrella when he wouldn't give her a refund. I should think in a charity shop it's all multiplied to a much higher level. You could probably write a book about it:)


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Redberry Sky 4 years ago

Jeez, the perils of working in a shop - and you're doing it as a *volunteer*! Some people just seem to live in a world of their own and don't have a clue that others deserve respect. I'm glad you take it all with such good humour, Tara - it would drive me nutsbananas. Your kindness (working for free in a charity shop) deserves better rewards than silly and selfish customers! Your writing does make me giggle, though, so I hope you write down more of your trials and tribulations in work :)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks John, Mazzy and Red, There are some people out there who really are BONKERS! I try to take it with good humour but it's not always easy! I will write more about the strangeness of customers as there's so much fodder! I'm glad you enjoyed the read. It almost makes the rudeness worthwhile!


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John Holden 4 years ago

It gets to the point where the ones who stand out and are remembered are the sane minority, bonkers is everyday people!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Isn't it just! I'm not sure if it's me getting older and more cynical generally, but walking down the main street in Macclesfield, I feel like i'm on the Jeremy Kyle show!


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barbergirl28 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

I hate to laugh at your expense but this is just funny. And I love how you handled the situation. I just don't understand why people feel the need to be so rude all the time!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Barbergirl, Laugh away! You have to laugh at people like that or you'd end up punching them!


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Having also worked as a volunteer counselor at an assistance ministry for about 15 years, I would hear stories from the cashiers in the thrift shop similar to the one you just told. We would often laugh over the eccentricities of people like this in the lunch room. Laughter is a great diffuser for tension. Volunteers are special people! Thanks for the part you do in that...and keep your sense of humor! Perhaps that man's wig DOES need an adjustment! Haha! Up votes and sharing.


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jessefutch 4 years ago from North Carolina

As Jim Morrison said, people are strange. Very funny hub! Thanks for the laugh. Voted and shared.


whowas 4 years ago

Hi Peanutritious,

You have a decided talent for getting me to laugh at your misfortunes!

I have, in the past, worked in various roles of public service and I sympathize entirely with your feelings about the difficult customers. Many, many, many years ago as a very young man, I waited on tables in a seaside restaurant. It wasn't a very classy place but had a certain number of regulars. Most of these were perfectly decent people - and I relied on their tips for the lion's share of my income. However...

...there was one obnoxious individual who clearly compensated for his total inadequacy as a human being by treating the staff with utter and fascistic contempt. I did my best to be polite and patient (I even sought to forgive him in my heart) but at the last i could stand it no longer. One lunch time, when the restaurant was practically full, he detained me at the table with a series of complaints and insults that challenged me personally to a degree that i could no longer tolerate...

...I told you that it was not a very classy place? I had in my hand one of those aerosol cream squirters...oh yes! It was not a moment of rage. It was not a crime of passion. It was, as I slowly raised the cream squirter to his face, a calm and rational decision.

Once I had discharged the entire contents of the vessel over his person, I tossed the empty cartridge into his lap, told him in the most gentile of voices to F*@k off and walked away.

About an hour later, after a most invigorating walk by the sea, I returned to the restaurant. I was sure that I was now unemployed. However, to my delight, as I walked in I was met with a round of applause from those diners who had witnessed the incident! The fellow concerned was long departed. My boss said that I still had my job as I had done only what he had wanted so long to do!

So there you have it. the customer is not always right and sometimes deserves a good creaming!

:)


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi Peggy, My fingers are itching to re-adjust that gentleman's wig! I'm going to do it one day! Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

jesse, so glad it made you laugh. People are strange indeed! Thanks for sharing!


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi whowas, You are a legend! I would have loved to have seen that and would have given you a big cheer! I've poured a few pints over heads in my youth but i've never creamed anyone! Inspired!


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Ozay 3 years ago from North Yorkshire

I think it's great the you're doing volunteering. You'll find strange customers wherever you go....it's life unfortunately! I used to work at a Theme Park and that was customer orienatated as you can imagine, and I was in the thick of it by working in a Leisure Centre in the Holiday Village and I had to put up with some unbelievably outlandish and rude people! Yeah....rude people do my nut in too......seems to lots of them about! I'm weary of saying 'all right' to people first if I walk or cycle past them in the countryside near where I live as they can be a bit funny and just blank me. Most cyclists I go passed tend to blank me especially if they're kitted out and with others....I don't know why they bother they're only doing it to keep fit not because they appreciate the landscape like me! As you can see I am fairly opinonated! Manners cost nothing....but tell that to the majority of our society!!


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Ozay, indeed! Good manners cost nothing, I just don't understand why so many people are rude. It's like holding a shop door open, I just do it automatically when people don't thank me though, I get really cross and shout out 'Thank you' to show them up! I doubt it does any good but it makes me feel better!


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Ozay 3 years ago from North Yorkshire

This guy at our local supermarket, a young lad, I find him rude to me, and I don't know what his problem is. You can get rid of your loose change, get a voucher and either use that to pay for shopping with or ask for cash for it (I do the latter, as it's easier!). Well all the other staff when they work on the Kiosk they're okay about it, but this lad is like: 'are you going to buy anything here?' and when I have told him yes and also that I'd like cash, he looks at me like I've done something wrong! He isn't pleasant at all! Yet it says on the machine that you can reedem your loose change or have a voucher. He seems to think I'm just using them, which I'm not! Unbelievable! He's made me so angry that if I see him now on the Kiosk I won't bother redeeming money when he's on the till. He shouldn't be working he has no customer care skills whatsoever! Some of the Bus Drivers can be rude too! I think it's ace your idea about shouting 'Thank you!' I have thought about doing that myself. Some of these Bus drivers they say nowt to you when you get on the bus and when you thank them they say nowt too!


Silkekarina 3 years ago from Germany

Good manners really do cost nothing, but there are some people walking among us who have been so badly treated in life, they find it very difficult to be civilized to others. I noticed that just about all of the responses to your hub were negative towards people who use thrift shops or who are bad mannered. You have had to deal with old women who were smelling of stale pee, customers who were not able to speak to you in a civil manner, have you given a thought as to why they cannot be civil to anyone any longer. Just like you, perhaps they have been confronted with difficult times, but unlike you they are too old to change their situation. Everyone reacts differently to poverty and being outcast socially. From reading your story I would have thought that you, above everyone, would have more compassion. I am one year short of seventy, but I am lucky enough to be active and also to keep myself and my home spotlessly clean. I hope that I shall never reach a stage where I am ridiculed by someone much younger than myself who hasn't experienced the ridicule that old age brings with it.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Silkekarina, I am sorry you feel i have no compassion, on the contrary, I have copious amounts of it. I work as a volunteer for one thing, many people would not even consider working for nothing. I haven't had an easy ride in life by any means but still endeavor to treat people with respect.

There is no excuse for rudeness unless i'd been rude myself to this woman. I am trying to get thorough the difficulties of a job that is thankless at times. I regularly have to deal with customers that belittle me and frankly shouldn't have to.

I am trying to look at the ups and downs of the job with a sense of humour, maybe you should try and do this too! Life is not always easy but with a sense of humour intact, we can get through it.

Thanks for your comments, enjoy your day.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Ozay for commenting again :)

Silkekarina, I note that for someone so opinionated despite being a member of hubpages for 2 years, you haven't published a single hub! That seems rather odd when you have so much to say...


Silkekarina 3 years ago from Germany

At my age one has enough experience to be able to have opinions and also to write about them. I dislike seeing people ridiculed whatever their age, colour, origin or orientation. This was probably not your intention, but it did seem to point in that direction. You have obviously checked me out so that you have something to throw back at me, but this is not important. I have not written a hub yet, but I have been writing for almost fifty years. Hub pages are interesting, but not my highest priority at the moment, although I do have more than enough written material to upload. One thing I have learned in my life is that I am subject to criticism as well as praise, but so are we all. Keep writing and I hope your personal troubles take a turn for the better in the near future.


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John Holden 3 years ago

Silkekarina , did you miss the bit were Peanutritious said -

" I hasten to add though, the majority of the customers are thoroughly pleasant, polite individuals."

or did you see that and decide to take offence anyway?


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

It would seem Sikekarina that you seem to have been offended by what I (and others in their comments) have said. That's a shame but but frankly I find your observations unfair. You really need to lighten up. That's great you've been writing for 50 years, perhaps you should share some of your wisdom on here.

Writing has helped me enormously and others seem to have enjoyed it, so you trying to make me feel bad about myself will not stop me doing so. I have not had one bad comment about this hub other than yours, that tells me a great deal.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Hi John,

Thanks for your support :)


Silkekarina 3 years ago from Germany

Too many people nowadays take offence without giving thought to the reasons why older people are occasionally loud or offensive to others. There could easily be a very sad and disturbing story behind their behaviour, one that they perhaps cannot cope with. However, before making fun of these people and broadcasting it to the world it is good to first stop and think of the damage that might be caused. I am almost seventy ( I don't shout at people) and I hate to think of my future if more young people take your stand in life. I am not trying to make you feel bad about yourself, I have also been criticised by older people during my younger years. When I think back on this, I believe they were right, they did know better.

I have no argument with your writing, your hub, the one I have read, was extremely well written. Write more, publish and get away from work that is below your talents.

To answer your question about my comment being the only negative one. I was the only one among the people who commented, who saw the other side of the story and the sad existence of these pensioners. You are young enough to get out of your situation. Please remember that even though I was the only one who commented negatively, as long as it is constructive, it is allowed. That's life!!


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Silkekarina,

I am not out to belittle pensioners and label them as fools. I happen to find that usually, the older customers are far more polite and pleasant than the younger ones. The ones mentioned in this hub are in the minority.

You mention your age a lot in comparison to mine. You seem to think that because i'm 40 i'm naive and haven't experienced life. You are wrong. I taught for 13 years, here and in Thailand and Nepal. I travelled round Asia on my own which was no mean feat, particularly in India where I was harrassed constantly.

I have dealt with addiction, abusive relationships and Prison so i'm not quite as naive as you seem to think. I'm not perfect by any stretch of imagination but I try to be a good person and to be kind to others.

My mother is 70 this year and loved this hub, she didn't take it as a personal attack. She knows I find the work frustrating at times and thought it cathartic for me to be able to look at the humorous side of the job. That was reinforced by all the comments I had here agreeing with my predicament and sharing more stories.

I do appreciate that much of society are vile towards older people and show them zero respect. This was never my intention and i'm sorry that you feel i've done this. I would always support anyone in trouble as long as they weren't abusive towards me.

I still insist, whatever people have been through in life, they don't need to shout or be rude to an innocent bystander who's only trying to help them.

I am not some sensitive little soul who can't stand criticism either, if I was, I wouldn't have published your comments. I could just have left the positive ones and made myself feel and look better. Of course criticism is allowed, that's why I decided to publish my work on here! You don't learn without constructive criticism. I am used to being scrutinized throughout my Teaching career, I survived a good few ofsted's!

You think this work is 'below my talents', I am only writing about my experiences. I'm in the process of writing a novel about my story which is traumatic and painful to write. Writing short anecdotes such as this remind me to look at the light hearted side of life and try to keep upbeat whilst reliving memories i'd rather forget.


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Ozay 3 years ago from North Yorkshire

Good on you! I think what you are saying here is treat people how you find them or how you want to be treated yourself. It shouldn't matter what age you are, if someone is going to be a muppet to you, they really can't expect you to give them a pat on the back!! You have some good points here. xx


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Thanks Ozay,

I really feel I've been misunderstood here, I never intended to be unfair to anyone. Thanks for being supportive and backing me up. Take care. x


Silkekarina 3 years ago from Germany

You haven't been misunderstood. All I have done is pull your hub apart and animated you to consider the reactions of the people you were laughing at. One never knows where one is going in old age. Your experiences in exotic countries were your own choice, but probably eye-opening too. I am clearing my backlog of work and then I will write a hub that you can trash if you wish. I have not questioned your abilities, just this one off attitude that sadly is shared by many in our society.

Good luck for the future.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Silkekarina, actually the man who talked to shoes and Elvis were both young but you seem to be adamant that i'm out to bash pensioners. You seem to have quite a chip on your shoulder in fact. I can't do a lot about that other than respectfully agree to disagree with you.

I wish you all the best and hope your future in a happy one.


Silkekarina 3 years ago from Germany

Thank you Peanutritious. Oh, by the way, there is no chip on my shoulder, I am satisfied with 'my life' it has been very interesting and I am very grateful to still be alive. Go back to your work and have a look at the people you criticise and see if you can see some good in them. We all need a little happiness occasionally, as you well know. Ridiculing people does not bring that happiness even when you have a hubpage audience to support you. Let's end this now, we are adults not children.


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Peanutritious 3 years ago from Cheshire, UK Author

Indeed we are, I'm glad you see me as an adult despite having 29 years more life experience than I do :) I have the right to defend my viewpoint just as you have the right to be offended by it. I do however, not take kindly to being patronized by anyone, however old they may be!

As I said earlier I respectfully agree to disagree with your viewpoint.

All the best.


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John Holden 3 years ago

Silkekarina, I shall never see sixty again, and yet I saw nothing in the hub that I could take offence at.

Some twenty year olds are ancient, some eighty year olds are young.


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Ozay 3 years ago from North Yorkshire

Yeah! you tell her John!

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