Those Three Little Words

Those three little words

No, not the ones that everyone thinks they've learned

I love you - surely those words go far

They carry a lot of weight in the heart

But those other three. . .

I am sorry

They hold a lot of meaning too

Especially when they require courage to use

They don't always mean regret for what you've done

But they always mean you care when you've hurt someone

"Hello" - to me, might even be

The same as "I'm sorry"

It really all just depends

I guess, on how one wants a story to end

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Jodah 3 months ago from Queensland Australia

"I am sorry".. three simple words but very difficult for a lot of people to say. If more people admitted to being sorry and showed remorse for their actions the world would be a better place.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi, Jodah. I rarely ask for apologies from anyone. I sometimes just hope someone will offer on their own if it's obvious an apology is needed, but I'm not afraid to say it even when it's an especially humbling experience. I've just grown up believing it is part of good character. My dad wasn't afraid to apologize to me when he was wrong and I've been willing to say it to my children. I wish more adults would say it to each other. Sometimes it's all that's needed to heal a rift or a wound. It's a powerful way to express caring because it requires some humility to offer. In other settings besides those intimate relationships of family and friends it, to me, is a sign of leadership and strong character. Not a sign of insecurity or lack of self -confidence.


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Fiddleman 3 months ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

Powerful words when spoken and meant. Feelings and emotions can often bring out the worst in all of us. My wife wisely told me once when I commented that I was going to give someone a piece of my mind, you better not you can't afford it. Keeping short accounts and a genuine I am sorry will go a long ways to repair conflict and bring about hearing relationships.


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Ericdierker 3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

There is this cool little tucked away verse in the Bible about love: "it keeps no record of wrongs"

I am sure everyone is different in this way but for me -- I just have to say I am sorry before I can really move on. I always have a part in things.

Your work here is wonderful. You bring the depths of our hearts to the surface.


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billybuc 3 months ago from Olympia, WA

What a lovely message in such a small package. Well done, Shannon!


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manatita44 3 months ago from london

Noted. Worthy of mention. Another part in the struggle of human wayfaring on this journey. Expressed in an easy and simple way. Much Love.


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always exploring 3 months ago from Southern Illinois

I must admit that ' Those Three Little Words ' are difficult for me to say sometimes, but as I've matured it's much easier. Words can be sharper than a knife and just as deadly. Your message is clear. I remember once when I received a call from a friend who had lost contact with me, her hello was sweet, so I see your connection. Thank you for sharing wisdom..


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hello, Fiddleman. Sounds like your wife is wise indeed. Some people I've been indirectly dealing with lately would deserve a piece of my mind though and I've no doubt saying I could afford it and have some left over for later! LOL. . .But, of course, that is most often not the case.

You keyed in on one very important thing in my message above. Those three little words are most powerful when they are sincere.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Eric,

1 Corinthians 13 - my all time favorite bible passage. I think, perhaps, if we truly love someone else, we don't keep record of those wrongs. We apologize if need be and move on. Even the most monumental blunders can be gotten past if love is involved. But sometimes it requires two willing people, not just one.

I see what you're saying about always having a part in things. I've no problem saying I'm sorry if I feel I should. But I don't think people should apologize for every little thing said or done. Sometimes things are just petty and people are over sensitive. I don't expect one if I"m the one being petty and over sensitive either. However, it takes two to argue and two to create huge misunderstandings that could otherwise be fixed through a little open and willing communication. And sometimes "I'm sorry" drops the guard enough to accomplish that. Defensiveness and pride can be enemies. I should know, I am at times too defensive. LOL


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Bill,

I've been told more than once that I do some of my best when I say a lot with less. LOL. Thanks.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hello, manatita. Thanks for your kind thoughts. It is a struggle. Sometimes people apologize too often for things that aren't really their fault or enough to let people use them. Other times, people do not apologize due to pride or stubborness at the expense of things more precious than pride. Like I said, it's not always an admission of regret and full remorse. Not always a claim to blame. But the words always mean one cares. And that is the most important message conveyed, I think.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

I think, Ruby, it definitely does get easier as we get older. We learn to accept personal responsibility for our part in things even though we can't always control how others will react.

I'm glad you see the connection with the "hello" I included. I was thinking of estranged relationships when I included that. Sometimes after time passes and it seems too late for "I'm sorry" people don't reconnect because they don't know what to say or how to do it.


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BeccaHubbardWoods 3 months ago from Outside your window...

I really enjoyed this. You have a way with painting words that makes me want to read more and more. Excellent job!


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Larry Rankin 3 months ago from Oklahoma

Great poem.

I have a tendency to overuse those three words. I try to use them enough so folks know I can say it, but no so much they lose all meaning.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Becca. I looked at your profile and your hubs look like they'll be an enjoyable read as well. I look forward to reading some.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi, Larry. Good idea not to overuse an apology. Not everything warrants one.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 3 months ago from Riga, Latvia

Wonderful poem. At times both I love you and I am sorry can be difficult to say.


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Ericdierker 3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Came back to read comments. You have wonderful friends. This sure gets you thinking about being sorry and saying so. Funny concept that "I am sorry you are upset but I am not sorry at my brutal honesty".

Really great stuff here.


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Faith Reaper 3 months ago from southern USA

Beautifully penned, Shan!

You do say so much with few words, which is certainly a gift.

Yes, those three little words can do a whole lot of healing, if we just get over our prideful selves. I am reminded that God tells us to make amends right away.

You are a wonderful poet.

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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Shannon.....Just about to close up shop until tomorrow when I spotted this adorable poem that says so much without lots of words. That's what I like! Short, sweet, sincere and to the point. Say it, mean it, add a smile & a hug! What more can anyone need? (Well, I suppose it depends on whether he happens to be tall, dark, handsome and rich!!) LOL.....I know, I know....I'm bad! :) G'night!!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

You're so right, Rasma. Often pride is the reason On both counts.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi again, Eric. Yes, we do have some wonderful friends here, don't we. Many have become friends offline or outside of HP as well. I love that.

Yeah, it is a funny concept. But honestly, being sorry someone is upset is the message that says you care, right? So unless those words are said harshly or not received well for some other reason, they still get the job done.

But on another note, there's probably a hashtag somewhere. . .I think it is #sorrynotsorry.. . .Can be used for things like when I was walking across my.college campus late at night with a friend. I was in a skirt and carrying a big bible and two of another friend's cds. I tripped over a crack in the sidewalk, sliding a few feet with my arms outstretched as if catching a baseball while sliding to home plate. I didn't want to break someone else's property. Well, realizing how ridiculous that must have looked, I sat up, wrapped my arms around my knees, put my head down in them, and laughed so hard no sound came out but my entire body shook. My friend asked tentatively if I was okay. She thought I was crying at first. Then she said, "Good. I just had to make sure you were alright before I laughed."


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Sweet Faith, always a pleasure to see your comments. I certainly prefer to make amends right away, but I can only offer my own and it takes two most of the time.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Much of my poetry is short, Paula, as you've probably noticed by now. I agree with the general consensus that most of my best pieces are short and concise.

Here's a smile and a hug just for you. But if you're looking for tall, dark, rich, and handsome. . .I'm afraid I am a little short on supply.


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ladyguitarpicker 3 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

shanmarie, I am sorry, is had for some folks to say when they are wrong. I have no problem saying it if I am wrong. Great poem, stella


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Missy Smith 3 months ago from Florida

This is a simple but to the point poem, Shan, and I like it. :) Sometimes we don't need lengthy, just a great message.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Hi Stella,

I was sure I replied to you - but if I did, it's gone! You're so right about both phrases containing three little words are hard to say sometimes.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Missy. Glad you like it. :)


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

OK Shan......so I embellished a little. It's really just the "rich" part I prefer.......but Hey, like I've said, Never turn down a hug! I don't think anyone can have too many!!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

I'm a little confused. Am I turning down a hug from you? A rich stranger? Are you searching for a hug from Mr. Rich? LOL. I'd take a hug from you. . .some of these strange men are questionable, however.


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

No silly! I was accepting YOUR hug.....which means of course I hugged you back!! Shan, C'mon, get with the program girl. I'll admit "some of these strange men are questionable!" In fact MOST of them are!

Finding the right guy these days is worse than going on a scavenger hunt! Not to mention the cost of the investigation by the CIA, FBI, Records of Vital Statistics, IRS, and don't forget the interviews with their former wives & girlfriends! Whew! It can wear a poor girl out!

And in the end, all that's left is a Total nerd who lives with Mama, wears coke bottle glasses, plaid pants, sandals with socks and hikes his slacks up over his navel!! Oh Shan, there's no hope girl!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Ah, well then. . . glad you accepted it. I told you after Sherlock arrived you'd either disown me altogether or think I'm just as bat-shit crazy as so many others I know seem to be.

As for the men. . .you're doing it all wrong if you're actually paying for those investigations. LOL. Don't you know. . . .Google knows everything these days?

And that nerd who lives with Mama might just be the guy in the Brad Paisley song. Even he lied, remember?

If you work in retail long enough, you'll see some strangeness. LOL. This weirdo hit on a cashier I was working with the other day by asking her to run away with him to Florida. He was probably twice her age and she's maybe early 20's. I'm not even gonna get started on some of the things I've had directed at me before. LOL. Nasty tobacco breath and scruffy beards. Yuck! Or one guy who was actually pretty good looking and around my age, but he insisted I was making goo-goo eyes at him and didn't seem to give a damn when I said I was married. I think he just enjoyed embarrassing me, really. I don't flirt well even if I tried. hahahaha


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Too bad you have to be polite and professional at work......When the guy accused you of making goo goo eyes......you could have said IN YOUR DREAMS LOSER!!!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

I had a CSM standing beside me waiting to give cash to be put in my drawer for change I needed. Otherwise, you never know what might have popped out of my mouth. Although, I doubt that particular supervisor would've said anything if I had.


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AudreyHowitt 3 months ago from California

So very true!! A great message here!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, Audrey. Glad you stopped by for a visit.


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Shyron E Shenko 3 months ago

Shannon,

I love your poem of empathy

I am sorry

Sometimes showing sympathy

But never ever said to easily

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I love the dialog between you and Paula, what fun!

Paula reminded me of words I have said

Out with a couple of friends, when at our table

A stranger came and sat down

And the stranger wanted to take me to bed

At which time I said

“Sorry Charlie, only the best tuna gets to be Star-Kist “

At which he replied

“I could have you eating out of my hands by midnight”

At that I leaned close and whispered so everyone could hear

“In your dreams Charlie”

He took his coat from the chair, where he was never invited to sit down

And he said with a frown “F*C* YOU!”

I replied with the same sickening sweetness

“That would take a man, which sure leaves you out”!

My friends sat with mouths gaping wide

At quiet little me they were sure surprised


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Sunshine625 3 months ago from Orlando, FL

What bothers me about "I am sorry" is when people use those three words as an excuse for not learning from their mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and say "I am sorry" less often. I know quite a few who do this, but I think I am finally getting my point across. I think. :)


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Shyron....I love you! Had I been there, I'd have given you a standing ovation! The utter NERVE of that bold, ignorant A-hole! How dare they? Wow....that ticks me off!

Your response was perfectly genius!.....

Linda Sue:

Exactly!! Once is fine. OK, so you're sorry.....Twice can be terribly ANNOYING.....If the lesson didn't sink in ....there's no 3rd Apology, thank you, but no thank you......Unless they're sorry for being plain STUPID!! Yeah, girl. You said it!!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Ladies, you crack me up!!!! How lucky am I that you two would grace my hub with such amusement? LMAO!!! Now. . ..if I can stop laughing, I'll attempt a response to y'all.


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Shyron, Paula keeps us all laughing. You should read what she said on my hub called "Underneath the Spell." Those comments really had me laughing.

I love the way you handled that guy. Sounds like he deserved it! For some reason, you just reminded me of my prom night. . . .I didn't go with a date. I went to a restaurant with a rather large group of friends before going to the location of the prom. One of my girlfriends rode with me. When I stopped at a redlight, a car full of young men pulled up beside us on my left. They held up a sign asking if we needed dates. She said something snappy about it that made me laugh and nod. They took my nodding as a yes and were hot in our pursuit! I had to dodge them and couldn't go straight to the prom. LOL

As for inappropriate advances on cashiers. . .one guy asked one of the cashiers out that I worked with and she was totally disgusted by him. When he asked her when she's going to go out with him she blurted out, "Never!" I laughed when she told me. You'd have to know her perhaps to understand why it is so funny.

Maybe I'm a little too nice most of the time. It takes really pushing me before I snap, but when I do, it usually isn't good. I only got in trouble once for snapping at a customer, though, and not much trouble at that because they knew it wasn't my normal behavior. This woman deserved it, however. She practically stuck her finger in my face and snapped at me first. She's lucky I had enough restraint only to say, "Good grief!" when I yanked the bag of potatoes she didn't want out of her hands. Some of the rudest people go through those self-checkouts. I voided her potatoes and then went about my business as nice as I could be to everyone else without saying another word to her. She told my managers I was rude and by golly, when one of them came to speak to me about it, I stood there and told the truth just as it happened. I didn't soften it up one bit. LOL. Get huffy with me and I can usually keep my cool, but stick your finger in my face and you deserve much more than I gave! Not sorry I offended her. haha


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

I hear you, Linda. I wasn't thinking about petty offenses and apologies when I wrote this. More like monumental screwups that seemingly cause damage beyond repair. Hopefully, those who really know us do learn what buttons should never be pushed and don't have to apologize multiple times for the same offense. But those petty things can usually be overlooked as mere annoyances or the other person just being themselves while other things go much deeper than they seem on the surface, know what I mean?


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Paula, your humor keeps us all on our toes! Thanks for returning to share it. :)

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Is that what you mean?


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fpherj48 3 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Oh I suppose I mean that old adage.....it works. That was my Dad's favorite...but he always, ALWAYS had some sort of comical thing to say because my Dad was a firm believer in Humor being the spice of life and the best way to remain sane in a crazy F*&$#ed-up world. He would take an expression and just alter it enough to crack everyone up.

There's that one old saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say about someone......." We've all heard that kind of crap a hundred times. Well, my Dad would get a serious look on his face and say, "Now remember, IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY ABOUT SOMEONE...........It's probably because he's an asshole.!" People weren't expecting that & they would just fall on the floor laughing. he did that sort of stuff all the time. I plead innocent. I had no hope but to turn out as I have!! It's all my Dad's fault!

BTW Shan.....speak for yourself. Maybe you can "usually overlook the petty stuff" BUT it's the annoying continual, repeated PETTY $HIT that makes me want to shove my fist in someone's face!! That's why I carry a can of RAID with me where ever I go!! Works great on pesky idiots always buzzin around!


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shanmarie 3 months ago from Texas Author

Thanks, now I have that commercial in my head! The one where the roaches are crying "RAAAIIID!"

Sounds like your dad had a lot of great paraprosdokians! I remember my dad changing things up in silly ways in response to things I said. He'd tell us things like "thumb your twiddle" if we said we were bored. I do things like that to my daughter more than the boys quite often. She usually appreciates that kind of humor. But tonight she told me I'm not allowed to be weird in front of her friends. Time to step up my weird game, I guess. LOL

Yes, I do speak for myself. Hahahaha. In dealing with the public, I rarely have to deal with those people longer than a minute or two anyway, especially since I'm not a manager. See, I can just pawn the really intolerable ones off to someone else who must keep their composure. Although. . .if you really wanna know. . I don't do well with being yelled at. I can and have yelled right back at customers in the past. Last time was way back in my college days. But this guy was so far out of line that when he said he'd tell my manager for my reaction, I told him I already did!!! I worked at a Starbucks and there were only two of us working. I had the drive thru and the manager had the front counter. Being a college town and an event going on there, you can imagine how packed we were. The inside was completely full up and the drive thru line was outrageous as well, but we could only do so much when taking orders and making drinks at the same time for so many people and only two of us there to handle it all. So this guy decides to call the store and I answer the phone as I'm making a couple of drinks and he proceeds to cuss me out, yelling all sorts of profanities. I hung up on him. NO time for that shit. Then ge gets to the window and starts up again and I lost my cool. He was still yelling when he drove off making a scene. Too bad for him. Could've had a free drink or something. I would've refused service to him anyway for treatment like that, however.

As for friends. . .if those minor annoyances call for RAID, they probably aren't really your friend in the first place. LOL

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