What Does He Really Want From Me? The Teen Years

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This a Journey in a teen's life. Sandra, a 15 years old teen, is ready to write her first words on a diary that she got for Christmas...

HELLO WORLD!

(~~erased)

"Hello dear diary. Is January and oh my God! It's has been the best Christmas ever. Want to apologize for already erasing my first two words. I'm going to start off again; time to open up to you and avoid telling my girlfriends about my own crap."

JANUARY 1, 2012

Have seen Josh since last Summer and we have been dating behind my mom's back. Dad left Home when I was 6 years old. Did you know dear diary, that since then... my whole life has changed? No more daddy's girl and Hello Stupid world! Since I was was 12, so many changes happened in me, that...(blush) could be just embarrassing for you and for me...just to write about it. So, I better keep on going with the story of my life. Josh was my confident and best friend ever. He kept those bullies at bay and away from me; and if it wasn't from him, I think I would've... or could've taken my life. He is 16 as you might know it by now. We have been going out to the movies and sometimes he had helped me with my homework....Gotta close for now. Mom is calling me down, I can hear her now..! (Close)

JANUARY 3, 2012

Today was Josh's Birthday and I loved being next to him. We blew the candlelight together and made a wish. "I wish, I wish...I want to keep Josh, just for me!"

He never knew about this wish, but we did smile and his mom and mine were...or did already know about our relationship. We were invited by his mom and we felt that our little tiny love was growing and... like my girlfriends told me, I was feeling those butterflies too. You should get a partner notebook and see how it feels, you know dear diary!? (Close)

JANUARY 5 2012

Just crying of happiness, because we did it finally and it was beautiful. Mom would kill me if she ever reads you dear diary. He was pressed by his friends and he asked me politely and I told him that I wanted him to....to just love me as His first and last girlfriend. Is hard to explain, but life is wonderful after all. I have good news for you!: I will get my books of poetry and introduce him to you!! This way you will be happy as I am...(Close)

JANUARY 7, 2012

Margaret, Josh ex girlfriend just sent me nasty text messages... and I asked him if he really loved me for who I was. Silly me, was hard enough from me to prove him how much...Why I feel like crying?? He wasn't looking straight into my eyes, and that wasn't a good sign dear diary. I feel like I was used and I don't know what to do...(close)

JANUARY 9, 2012

I confronted him and, this ass**!, he finally told me... that he 'just' wanted his friends to stop teasing him and, OMG! He was on a rebound with that stupid Margaret. That made me feel like the lowest...and I wanted to break his head and kick him right between his legs, but I held...What should I do now? I have to see his face at school whether I like it or not. Why did this have to happen to me? My mom was right all along, but we never listen. I have a headache and I need some rest (Close)

DEAR READERS,

This is an example of just a week in a teenager's life. Can you give her some advice? Do you think she needs to focus on her life or education? Many teens will read this Hub, and hopefully will think before acting. We know how hard is to raise a teen nowadays and they need to take heed. Thanks for your feedback in advance.

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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

This is interesting and insightful. Young teens always fly by their hormones as opposed to their instincts and common sense. I didn't have this experience but I would say really consider what's going on. Sharing such a huge part of yourself is always hard and you have to think of the lifelong consequences instead of just doing what feels right. Great Hub!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Thanks Alecia, This hub can relate to so many parents. Sandra did her mistakes and now she will have to deal with a crude reality. Hopefully mom will help her to grow out of that first mistake in her life. Thanks for taking your time in commenting.

LORD


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

A very creative hub told through the eyes of a teenage girl. Well done! I think the only thing that will prevent this scenario in teens is having a strong sense and love of self that peer pressure can not destroy. I have also noticed that teens who have faith in God also tend to be more resolute. Well done and I hope it helps many!


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mythicalstorm273 4 years ago

Although I enjoyed this, I know from experience that it isn't always like this. Now days teens are under more pressure than ever to do well in school and to have a good future. Some teens do not even have time for a social life because of everything they are expected to do, unfortunately that is when these types of situations occur the most often. It is a form of rebellion and also a desire to feel needed and loved. I never had this issue because my parents only pushed me as hard as I needed to be pushed. I had a rough life growing up (who can't say that) and I was bullied pretty bad, but I still felt loved at home. My parents still do not know what I went through because you can never talk to your parents about stuff like that, but I loved going home at the end of the school day. Many kids do not have that chance and that makes it even more rough. The truth of the matter is that teens need to have support, feel love, and have a way to release the frustrations they experience as life gets more difficult for them. As Tammswallow pointed out, God can be one of those releases. Still there are other things as well depending on what the kids are interested in. Every teen goes through problems and screws up, but the most important thing is that they make it through the mistakes and know that everything will be okay. Only then will they have the greatest chance of making smart choices and not depending on things like sex, drugs, or reckless behavior. Although I guess this is a lot of opinion, it is what I noticed while going to school and even with other kids that I have seen growing up. I greatly enjoyed your hub and you capture the spirit of a 13 year old girl quite well! Especially because you do include the distance she feels from her parents... I think that is essential and great! Nice job :-)


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Tammy, I learned a lot from my teen and his friends. The rest is pure inspiration that leads the writer. You make good sense and MythicalStorm backs you up in pointing out a 'love of themselves'. Hopefully will reach the right people and will understand how things can get worst by just letting your heart make the decision. I know is hard for them and hard on us Parents too. Thanks Tammy!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

MythicalStorm!

You did really go through a rough time, like many I guess, getting your education together. Feels like your comment weighs deep in our piece, and adds an almost post-teen superb and strong opinion. I agree with this being appreciative of their own lives, before trusting an infatuation. Thanks for your comment dear friend!

LORD


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PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

Lord, You are great in whatever to desire to write.

Well, I do not have children, but I taught Phonics to them, and I have 6 nephews.

I never called their judgment bad, nor, did I title it as a mistake. I would just explain it this way:

In life we have many steps to climb to reach the place we are designed to be.

And in our journey to our place, we have a few missteps, and this is a learning tool. You realize later that your mind does not always follow where your heart leads you. But it is important to stop and ask yourself---is this right for me—how will I feel if I do this? All of it is called learning from one’s experience and making sure you always are kind to yourself, as well as others. Share what you know with ones who needs your help.

This is what I told all my children whom I did not give birth, but loved them just the same.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Being a teen in today's world has to be very hard. I don't envy them! They are torn between what they know to be right and honorable, and what their friends think. My grownup kids still laugh and tell me about things in their past that I never knew about. Good Hub, Lord


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

I didn't listen and many teens won't listen, but some will, so it is worth writing hubs like these. Vote up!


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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

This is a wonderfully written story. They aren't the problems that I had, but I was friends with some who did. My problems were different. I am glad I am not growing up now and don't have to raise children in today's era.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hi Lord - all I can think of is:

1) Did you steal my diary?

2) Behind whoese barn yard?

LOL


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

Well it's been a while since I was a teenager.. but I still remember it like yesterday. yes young love.. we didn't have text way BACK THEN.. but boy there was a lot of other things.. plenty of other things.. we were always in trouble.. lol.. but I survived.. it was hard. but I had great mother.. she got me through it. Mr.Lord.. this is a great HUB..

I VOTED UP AND AWESOME AND BEAUTIFUL

DEBBIE


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi PurvisBobbi,

You did say a lot from the Auntie's side and with so much love and care. hopefully some teens will read these wonderful tips and share them with their little sister and those boys, who in the end are learning at the same path like the other sex. You did give a wonderful example of Love! Thanks Barbara!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Mary 615,

We feel you, and we know that is hard enough for them to keep everybody happy. The turning point start When they say that they would like to go to the mall with their friends and not with mom and dad anymore.Your daughters might have had excellent and maybe funny experiences.Good night friend!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi there Pickles and rufus,

You have said so much in a paragraph, that we appreciate your openness. Kids will listen to a certain point. But depending in how they were raised,from the crib all the way to their pre-teen years, they will face unknown territory with certain values adquired in their early years. Sandra didn't have a dad around, so she was an especial case. From her age, or earlier on, they will be by themselves and will make mistakes and learn...as some of us did. Thanks for your comment my friend!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hi there! Flora Breen Robison,

You had your own upbringing and support, until you decided to get your independence. You have comfirmed that some of your friends went to a dilemma similar to our 'Sandra', and is not easy at all. Reading all these, you will think twice before starting a new family of your own. Don't mean to rub it, but we never know about the future and things might change in our own priorites and goals. Thanks Flora!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

RHW Kelly!

You are funny. Did I steal your diary...well ask Maddie; we don't know nothing...or don't want to hint you. Hahaha, behind whose barn? I didn't check that one yet. Thanks for the Chuckles for this late at night!

LORD


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

So sweet of you Deborah!!

Plenty of other things? That would get you in trouble? You might know of games we never played, huh? Just kidding! Actually you have an angelical face that can tell us that you were sweet girl. Thanks for the comment and have a good one!

LORD


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

The teen years can be so frustrating. This girl needs to put it all behind her as a lesson well learned and concentrate on her studies to finish high school and get on with her life. Sure we all have at one time or another thought that we will never love again like in high school. I thought my high school boyfriend was the love of my life. What did I know? Nothing but it was a great experience and I wouldn't change that for anything. High school is fun but life and reality are always just a few steps away.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Hello there Gypsy Rose,

You are right. When we are young, we don't think too much about tomorrows, and we will make mistakes, like a newcomer to a life ahead of us. your comment is quite important my dear friend!

LORD


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raciniwa 4 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

going through teenage life is so difficult especially if nobody mirrors the exact way on how to be one...that is a common problem among teenagers...


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

I saw some of my students in this hub. Living and learning is what it is about. Teens live in the here and now and don't realize the future is ahead of them. I am pretty sure I lived in the here and now when I was a teen. Keeping secrets, keeping things from my mother, emotions changing on a dime... It all happens in a week, even a day. Something I see the wise teens do is learn from their mistakes and revel in their strengths. Some have horrible home lives and look to other adults (teachers, guidance counselors, other parents, etc.). Hopefully, they will see wisdom in advice given. Most teens will listen to common sense from others before going to parents - probably out of fear, maybe respect, and/or maybe because they just want to be independent of parents. I agree with Raciniwa - "teen life is so difficult..." I think moreso today than ever before because there are so many choices set before them - some good, some not so good. Hopefully they will see the good. Great hub and insight!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago Author

Raciniwa,

You are right. Teens and their hormones go as fast as their first car wreck around 17.

Susan Holland,

You did write half of a hub regarding the teen years and probably there is more hidden from us, adults that were raised 30 yrs ago. Technology is ahead of us and teaming up with them...Thanks friends!

LORD

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