When Life Hands You a Box of Craziness: Part Two

What to do when I can't sleep...

I am sitting here at midnight, racking my brain for my next hub. A mouse is staring at me, with its beady black eyes, from between the molding of the floor board and the floor. It looks as if it wants to contemplate how much danger I will be, when it shoots across my hardwood floors to the safety of the kitchen. The yucky thing is the least of my worries...for now anyway. At least it isn't sitting there eating a roach while it stares at me. (How grateful I am that I don't have roaches! I have seen a mouse doing that before.)

I am fuming with frustration. Cold weather is preventing us from working. My time spent on HubPages is filled with interruptions from household guests, to telemarketers trying to sell me their latest deals. Even my dog wants to join in the action by making demands like a two year old.

Really Mom! Really!

This is a photo of Bella, my spoiled one that likes to interupt me when I am working.
This is a photo of Bella, my spoiled one that likes to interupt me when I am working. | Source

It's not my fault you wanted to roll with the maggots!

Bella, my dog, doesn't like to be dirty, but enjoyed a good roll in a dead carcass at my sister's. Since she managed to entangle herself with stickers while she was at it, I had to shave her bald before bathing her. Now she lies at the end of my couch staring at me with a pout on her face. I scold her for rolling in the carcass and tell her I am trading her in for a cat, if she doesn't catch this mouse soon. She tilts her head at me with a “whatever mom” look, and flops her head back on her paws, to continue pouting.

I am feeling the makings of a migraine working it way up the back of my head to rest behind my left eye. I am hoping it is just from a pinched nerve, and not the stress I seem to be putting myself under. At least I have my sense of humor...I think...

Words can't express how sorry and embarrassed I am...

My child had put me in a predicament earlier this week, making me want to run off to hide, while licking my wounds. Oh how, I would like to have beat her, but alas, due to new laws, parents aren't allowed to discipline their children like the “good ol' days”. Instead, I have to think up a new punishment, in hopes that she will learn a well deserved lesson. (“Good luck with that one.” I tell myself.) To the hubbers that supported me, I thank you very much!

It was a mistake that many teens make, and don't think twice about the consequences that come after ward. This was one such mistake. The thing is...I had to wonder why it took so long to be flagged. I am anal about my stuff showing up as duplicate content, so I have spent months trying to find out whether or not my stuff had been stolen, or by some chance flagged as duplicate. Then a couple of days ago it happened. A poem I had posted for my daughter was flagged as duplicate. In her defense I went in search of the source. What I found set me back a bit. The website claimed this poem had been posted four years before I posted my daughter's poem (which has been up for a year and a half.) I had to confront my rebellious teen. With a shrug of her shoulders, she claimed it was her's but there was a chance it could have been his. I am now furious. This is my reputation on the line. This child is a brilliant writer, but at the same time, very lazy. Rage pulsed threw my veins as I stuttered to control myself. At that moment, I was too embarrassed to claim this person before me, as part of my spawn. Here I had gone to the forums in her defense to warn others of a possible theft. Her grandmother even went to bat for her, and all she could say was, “Just delete it, it will take care of the problem.”

My mother reminds me that I needed to lift it to the Lord in prayer. This reminded me of a hub I had read earlier called “Praise The Lord in Every Situation” by hubber AnnRandolph

So, here I am, spending days trying to figure out a way to post an apology to my fellow hubbers and fans without tearing my daughter apart. I am truly sorry for my daughter's actions and that I had involved so many in a false claim. I still have my doubts about the situation, but without my daughter being upfront with me, I feel I am backed into a corner to wonder who wrote the poem, without any answers. Instead, I did the best thing there was to do. I took it down, along with other posts she had made, and had the forum closed so that the situation didn't get blown out of proportion. It is a sad day when someone is too lazy to be creative on their own and resorts to stealing another's hard work. I can't count how many times I have tried to pound that lesson into my children. I am proud of her for stepping up and posting an apology without being strangled to do so, but it will be a long time before trust can be built up again. Betrayal from a child cuts deep. Now, it is time to lick my wounds.

When all else fails...laugh!

I am trying to focus on something positive to break up my negative world. I miss my quiet time. My time to fulfill my addiction to HubPages, to work on my schedule, to write when the mood hits, or to rip gas without worrying about who is around me.

Laughter is the best medicine, so I place a phone call to my mother. She tells me of a few humorous hubs she had read earlier. We pass ideas around for our next hub. The phone rings. It is my sisters wanting to do a four way phone call. As soon as the calls are complete, the chatter begins. I began to laugh as Pie tells me about an idea to add to my Redneck cleaning hub. It is disgusting, but effective...

Sucking up turds with a shop vac.

“Leave it to Pie to come up with that one.” I think to myself, until Bean pops up.

“I have had to do that before. It really does work!”

I can picture tears in my mother's eyes as she is laughing on the other end of the phone. My black cloud begins to lift a bit, as a story begins to form...

Just a note...

I just wanted to let my fans know that, do to some family issues that need to be taken care of, I am going to be taking a leave of absence from HubPages. I don't know for how long, but hopefully, I will be back before I am missed too much. I will try to do my best to answer any comments as I can. I could use some prayers from those that pray. Thank you so much to my readers, family, friends, and fans. You have been supportive and uplifting in ways that I can't describe. I appreciate every friend I have made here; every comment, follower, prayer, and helpful advice.

~Blessings and Hub Hugs~

If you can't get enough of my crazy life, here is another to be read...

When Life Hands You a Box of Craziness: Part One


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mljdgulley354 4 years ago

Hang in there daughter, it will get better. I don't think you have lost your humor. Give this situation some time and it too will be healed. Love Mom


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momster 4 years ago

Taking a leave of absence RIGHT like you can keep away from hub pages for more than 2 days. Slap the daughter and move on. Just dont hit her to hard crap splatters and no one wants to clean up that kind of mess. HA HA dont tell her i said that :) SMILE someone still loves you.


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

I can so relate..defending a child to find out later..but thats what mothers do and should do right or wrong until we know..then we can do some back strokes..lol Wishing you the very best and please come back soon. I applaude you for this hub and I can see you are such s wonderful person with much strength and integrity. God bless,

Sunnie


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I too can relate to how you're feeling. Have had similar but not exact instances with one or two of my boys. It's not easy being a parent at times like these. I wish you well and will be waiting here when you return.


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homesteadbound 4 years ago from Texas

Oh, you will be missed! I hate to hear that you are having such troubles. I can tell that you are there, and "when all else fails, just stand." Don't give ground! my prayers will be with you and your family. Here's hoping that you are able to return to us very soon. Blessings to you!


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Sky9106 4 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

I admire your truthfulness, and I love the source. God Bless.

First I started with a haughty laugh at the mouse , then I got swallowed up in the moment while reading , my mind racing out of control, then the way you wrote , which is nothing short of beautiful, took my mind ant feelings to follow carefully and then the answer I knew had to be there showed up in many ways. But this is the one that I like.

I missed it but when I read again tonight I will find the part. Bless. It shall be well.

After which the ending again grabbed hold of me again and I felt the truth that I know exist in this family and the kids are always the ones that will threaten it's solidarity , but the good news is , a great family as you will revert to those same tactics , as it was in the days of big Nam.

Truth will always prevail it's in you and it's in the core of this family , This too will past, take as long as you need , but come back even stronger in truth , knowing it truly sets your soul, that which is most important FREE!

blessings to you and the entire family, knowing that this too will past, your roots are srtrong and runs deep!

I FEEL SO PROUD SEEING YOUR MOM AS THE FIRST BY YOUR SIDE.

I found joy during this sad moment , and that's what it is a moment.

Bless.


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donnaisabella 4 years ago from Fort Myers

Hey, I know how you feel about your teenager and I am sorry it had to happen like that. But, you are all behaving so graciously and I am sure everything will be just okay. At least she gets to learn early in life what repercussions some things have. You sure will be missed and I will be keeping you in my prayers. All the best!


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stephhicks68 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

I will miss your humorous, clever writings! I hope that you get things worked out and manage to balance the craziness with laughter. All the best, Steph


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phankinson 4 years ago from middle of nowhere

So Gabby, you can't leave hub pages even for a shrt break because I don't want to have to start writing to pick up your slack, and to momster when crap splatters just use the shop vac. lol Gabby things will pick up and life will get better just focus on the good and not the bad. I heard that there is always silver lining the clouds. Figure the grammer of that last sentence. love ya


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tlpoague 4 years ago from USA Author

Thanks Mom, It will take a long time before I can trust anything she has to say. It angers me to know that she wasn't raised this way, but chose this path anyway. I am going to need some ideas to keep the well of humor going.

Thanks Sis!, HAHAHA! It's been longer than two days...I have just enough time today to stop in and catch up on some comments. I would make her clean up her own mess if I slapped her that hard. We will see if she learns a thing or two.

Thanks for the support, Sunnie. It is humiliating to face this kind of music, but I guess it helps us to grow into a stronger person. I just keep reminding her that some day she, too, will be a parent. It is going to take a lot of prayer with this one.

Thanks Susan, it is nice to know that there are so many people that are understanding about the situation. She has always been my rebellious challenge of a child, but at the same time, humorous, bright, and very creative. Oh the hubs I could right about those days of disciplining her and my son. They would be horrified, but the audience would be in stitches. Thanks again!

Thank you very much for your prayers and advice, Homestead. I don't know how long I will be gone to take care of things. Today, I am trying to catch up on comments. I am a sucker for giving ground to quickly, so this time, I am trying my best to stand firmly on the ground.

Thanks Sky, I have always tried to use humor to deal with something traumatic. It keeps me from breaking down. Mom has been pretty supportive, along with the rest of my siblings. I don't often speak of my husband, but he has helped me along the way to take a stand and not give in to the guilt we often feel when it comes to punishing a child. We talked about how we would raise our children early on. Neither of us wanted them to grow up without feeling confident that they could talk to us about anything. But, somewhere along the way, like any child, they felt the need to hide things that are coming back to bite them. I have always told them to remember the ten commandments, and that when you play hard, you will pay hard. (And their children will be ten times worse than they are.) This will take time to heal, and I will continue to lift it to the Lord in prayer.

Thank you Donnaisabella, Just when I seem to think my path is clear for a bit, God throws another challenge at me. I am glad that she is learning these hard lessons now and not later on in life. She does try to be a good kid and walk a straight path, but she is easily swayed to temptation. I keep telling myself, things could be worse, so I am blessed knowing that God will give me the strength to keep moving in the right direction.

Thank you Steph, Oh, the things I wanted to be a smart aleck about, when it came to talking about raising children. I came across a VHS video of my son the other day, it made me miss those days when they were tots, and the little things they said and done. As teens, it was the unexpected maturity as they shared their world with me. It will take me a bit to settle down the craziness in my life. I am looking forward to writing more humorous stories to share. (I don't think I will be in short supply anytime soon, with the family I have.) Thanks again for your support and understanding. :)

Thanks Sis!, HAHAHA! I am tempted to stay gone a bit longer, just to see what you come up with. That is a lot of slack to take up...LOL! I guess I am going to have to keep the shop vac around for a lot of these messes then. I can't wait to see what the brothers have to say about a few of these crazy antics. You know me, I am always trying to find a positive in a negative. Love ya, too!


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James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

Bella is awfully cute! :)

What is this world coming to when you can't even beat your kids?

You rip gas? I didn't know girls did that.

Awwww. I am sorry you are going to be mssing in action for a while. You will be missed. I hope you rejoin us soon.

I am going to pray for you right now.


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oceansnsunsets 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

Tlpoague, I don't want to see you go. I hope it is just a short time away, and people understand.

You have a very fun and funny way of writing that is very enjoyable. What you write tends to linger in one's memory, and I hope things get better real soon in your family.

We will be watching for you to come back. Take care, and I will pray for you and your family.


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tlpoague 4 years ago from USA Author

Thanks James, I could really use a lot of pray right now. I finally have some time to stop by and answer a few comments. Oh the stories I could tell of us girls and our gas...LOL! I could beat my child right now, but it would be a waste of energy, and I would loose some IQ arguing why I want to beat her. I am hoping to be back to my addiction soon. I have a few more issues that need to be ironed out and am currently working on a part three to this series. In the meantime, I am going to miss everyone here. You all have been a terrific support when I am having a down day and need a pick me up. Thanks for everything!

Thanks oceansnsunsets, It should be for a short time. I can't say exactly how long though. I am still writing when I can, but as for reading and commenting, I haven't as much time as I use too. Thank you so much for the prayers, I need them. My family, friends, and fans, have been a great support. I am looking forward to being back full time soon. Thanks for waiting for me!


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi, Oh how I know how you feel, I think the problem is that we presume our kids are going to do the right thing just because they are our kids, my son has done some things that I could have happily strangled him for! but thank goodness at the grand old age of 32, yes 32 he has finally grown up! I think.....! haha! take care, nell


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tlpoague 4 years ago from USA Author

Thanks Nell, It is getting better and better as each day passes. I still have my frustrating moments, but for the most, am learning to deal with overwhelming issues. I am back to reminding my children that someday they will have kids. Until then, they won't grasp everything my hubby and I have been trying to teach them. I am slowing getting things to calm down a bit so I can have some time for my HP addition. (That is until summer rolls around, then I will be traveling.) Hopefully by the time I get back into the swing of things, I will have some better entertaining stories to add. Thanks for taking a moment to stop by!


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B. Leekley 2 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

Up, useful, and interesting.

I missed out on the experience of being a parent, so I can only go by what I recall of my own and my siblings' youth and what I've observed. The teenage and early 20 years are a time to decide through trial and error what one's life guiding ideals and principles will be. Will they be the same as those learned in childhood from parents, teachers, at church, etc., by precept and example, or will they in some regards be different, in degree, in kind, whatever? What goes against my conscience? What faults will I allow myself? What sort of person do I not want and do I do want for a mate? What, broadly speaking, is the sort of career or life's work or purpose that I want? What are my standards of behavior for myself? And so on. My siblings and I all made mistakes during those years, including ones with long-term consequences for self and others. Out of all our negative and positive lessons from experience, and from seeing what we admired in others, and from another look at our parents' values, we developed into good, though not flawless, persons. Growing up is a life-long process.

Beyond punishment, you might -- and likely already have -- express heart to heart to your daughter why the matter of taking credit for the poem is important to you. (To me it seems a matter of being true to herself, of settling for the counterfeit reward of being praised for another's work or of striving to do her best and better and better at her own creative work, thankful for both positive and negative feedback, and getting the real reward of accomplishment.) She will ponder these things in her heart, and they will be part of her developing her character through her choices.

The movie Amadeus comes to mind. In a fictionalization of history, a popular and pretty good composer realizes that, next to Mozart's masterpieces, his own music is mediocre, and he tries to steal Mozart's Requiem and claim it as his own. He fails, but even if he succeeded, so what? He would know the truth about himself and the phoniness of his reputation. Better to be as good as you can be, even if that is only, say, the creator of A- work, than to be a living lie.

Am praying for God to give you, and your daughter, whatever guidance and comfort you, and she, are open to when life gets troubling. He'd / She'd do that anyway, but maybe prayers help, too.


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tlpoague 2 years ago from USA Author

Thanks B. for stopping by to leave a comment. Live has been a bit more crazy for me since writing this. I have found myself hovering over the delete button but something stops me each time I think to push it. Could it be that this post could help someone even though it is so outdated? I would like to hope so.

I use humor, prayer, and my faith in God to get me through my stressful moments. That was one of the fun things about sharing little tidbits of my life here. My relationship with my daughter has improved greatly. She has grown into an amazing woman with children of her own now. (Which shows how fast time flies!)

Being a parent was a challenge but one that I would never trade in for a moment. Thanks again for the prayers and the comment. I wish you the best of luck with your writing.

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