Best Pain Relief - Mind Over Matter

Pain can only feed on pain. Pain cannot feed on joy. It finds it quite indigestible.

ECKHART TOLLE, The Power of Now

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Overcoming Pain With Your Mind

When pain is at an all time high,

I suffer in the still of night

My pillow dampened by my cry

I beg relief there’s none in sight ~

So I turn my thoughts to a time without pain.

When life deals me an awful blow

And I feel I’ve reached an all time low

I seem to have lost my inner glow

There’s nowhere to go, no where to go~

I get down on my knees and ask for direction

One of my four grandchildren - Nick.  Taken just a few weeks before his Dad lost his fight with Cancer.
One of my four grandchildren - Nick. Taken just a few weeks before his Dad lost his fight with Cancer.

When my heart is hurting 'cause I've lost my son

And I think to myself “ I don’t want to go on”

I picture each grandchild one by one

And how they too must strive to go on~

I thank God for what once was

When my little light has lost its shine

And hides behind a faceless mime

I hear a voice from another time

Assure me “soon, all will be fine”

And I carve a smile for what will be

So I’m on a journey and I don’t like the end

I want to wake up and dream once again

Of a place full of rainbows and colors that blend

Where all animals smile 'cause they know I'm a friend

I bring one home to love and give care.

Clancey - A rescue, now with my son, Todd.
Clancey - A rescue, now with my son, Todd.
From “Studies of Advanced Stages of Meditation in the Tibetan Buddhist and Vedic Traditions. I: A Comparison of General Changes” Alex Hankey
From “Studies of Advanced Stages of Meditation in the Tibetan Buddhist and Vedic Traditions. I: A Comparison of General Changes” Alex Hankey | Source

Inventing A New Way To Deal With Pain

If you do a search on the internet for "How to cope with pain," you'll find more articles than you can possibly read. Everything from the right painkiller to visualization will come up. And many of these will be helpful and work well.

But what may work for one person may not work at all for another. It depends on the person as well as the level of pain. One thing's for sure...none of us enjoy being in pain ( uh...well, most of us.)

And are we talking about emotional pain or physical? Since I'm the one writing this hub, I get to choose. So I choose both.

Now I'm not a witch doctor or a psychic. I'm just a woman who has been in a whole lot of pain both emotionally and physically. And sometimes, I don't know which came first or whether they both collided on me all at once.

I'm not here to talk about my woes (I already voiced all of that in my poem.) My intention is to introduce a new ( at least I think it's new ) way to deal with pain. Remember the old saying " necessity is the mother of invention?" Well, I was desperate to find a new way to deal with my own pain which was driving me crazy.

I have already stated ways for dealing with pain at the end of each verse of my poem, in case you didn't notice. But I'd like to elaborate on this a little more. So please indulge me.

Pain has a way of clipping our wings and keeping us from being able to fly ... and if left unresolved for very long, you can almost forget that you were ever created to fly in the first place.

WM. PAUL YOUNG, The Shack

What is Pain?

I've been told that the mind is the most powerful tool we have. I've recently had an opportunity to put this theory to the test. For the past few months I've had pain...lot's and lot's of pain. I still have pain. Some pain is temporary and some is chronic.

Marriam Webster describes pain as: a state of physical, emotional, or mental lack of well-being or physical, emotional, or mental uneasiness that ranges from mild discomfort or dull distress to acute often unbearable agony, may be generalized or localized, and is the consequence of being injured or hurt physically or mentally or of some derangement of or lack of equilibrium in the physical or mental functions (as through disease), and that usually produces a reaction of wanting to avoid, escape, or destroy the causative factor and its effects.

In other words, pain hurts. It interferes with actions. It interrupts our state of being. Pain - stay away from my door.

Steps to Overcome Pain Using Your Mind

As I said before, our levels of pain and ability to cope with pain are different. That being the case, it is possible that what has worked for me may not work for you. But it won't hurt to try.

Here are a few suggestions:

  • Take a deep breath using the abdomen. The purpose for breathing deeply is to put your body in a relaxed state. Increased tension equals increased pain. So take several deep breaths and as you do invite the pain to leave your body.
  • Place your pain in a different part of your body. By moving your energy and focus to another part of your body the pain can be re-directed.
  • Take your mind to a time when you were pain free. Allow yourself to stay in that place and enjoy a pain free body.
  • Adjust your attitude. When my pain was the worst, I became angry and impossible to be around. I finally decided to stop being angry and start being grateful. When I had pain in my feet I began to think about how lucky I am to have feet. Some people would give anything to have their feet back even with chronic pain. I began "speaking" to my pain. I even gave thanks that I had a body that could feel pain.

It wasn't long before I learned that by changing my attitude I could change my level of pain. Resistance only adds to pain. I decided to let go by putting a different spin on how miserable I was feeling. It worked.

Final Thought

To overcome pain with your mind may take some practice. Especially if you resist or tend to be skeptical. And I'm not for one minute suggesting that you replace prescriptions from your Doctor or his instructions with the above methods. I am NOT a Doctor. I do suggest visiting your own Doctor when you are plagued with pain.

These suggestions are meant to be an aid in reducing pain. They have helped me and I also hope they will help you.

Of all the things we can feel with our minds and bodies, severe pain is the purest, for it drives everything else from our awareness and focuses us as perfectly as we can ever be focused.

DEAN KOONTZ, Dark Rivers of the H

How do you cope with pain?

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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

Wow, what a powerful poem and I love the way you worked the coping mechanisms into the last line of each verse.

I agree that there is a connection between emotional and physical pain, especially when we are in the throes of intense grief.

I also think that pain can be stored in our bodies unless we take steps to deal with the roots of the pain.

I personally find meditation and prayer helpful, as well as walking in nature, but as you say, each person has to learn the most effective way for them and for some people that may include the use of medications or other coping mechanisms such as music, etc.

I enjoyed the video conversation between Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Wayne Dyer even though I'd seen it before. Both these men have been instrumental in changing my beliefs about genes. I used to think our destiny and health was very controlled by our genes and now I know that isn't true. Genes get activated or turned off by many things including lifestyle choices, exposure to environmental factors, our thoughts, our beliefs and our emotions.

Thank you for sharing your own experience and some different coping mechanisms.

Voted up, useful and interesting.

Sending Hub Hugs and Love Your Way and prayers for your well being, comfort, and healing.

Gail


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I am a firm believer in the power of the mind, and I do believe, in quite a few circumstances, one can control pain as you have. Beautiful hub my friend, a testament to your strength and inner-fight. Bravo!

Peace and happiness to you today and all days.

bill


Sunnie Day 4 years ago

What a powerful hub. I am a believer in prayer and meditation. Sometimes tears cleanse us too, offering a clean slate until pain comes a calling once more. You are such a gift and one that I admire so much. Your words come from a place that has felt pain so you are able to offer comfort to those who are hurting.

God bless you

Sunnie


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teaches12345 4 years ago

I believe some pain can be eased through focusing on positive mental imagine and thoughts. Meditation and prayer are forms I use in conjunction with this suggestion to overcome the thresholds of pain. Great hub topic and well done! Voted up.


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carol7777 4 years ago from Arizona

I am fortunate so far and rarely get a headache..an occasional muscle ache from exercise. I do try to ignore it. You have some valuable ways here to deal with pain..and I like natural. When my neck gets sore from the computer.....I rub lavender, rosemary, peppermint oil combo..and it works immediately. Thanks for great hub. Vote UP


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tamron 4 years ago

Putting to much focus on pain gives the pain more power. Tension always worsens the pain! A good cry is a cleaning of the spirit and is great for mental pain. Share & Vote Up


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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

The poems are beautiful and expressive, the article is very interesting and useful. I think many people can use this in a positive way.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

I love this, coach....very positive and inspirational. Going forward after the pain of tragedy is one of the greatest struggles of our life....but with your hopeful and humble attitude, we can get through with less difficulty. This can be applied to most pain, as you point out.....depending on several things. I admire your attitude and you put it so beautifully in your poem. UP+++


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Audrey -

First, Great Poem! Very heartfelt!

Essentially, what you're talking about is the Power of Positive Thinking, only in dealing with pain. A state of depression is one to which we allow ourselves to fall. It's an inability to cope with what seems to be the world crumbling around us, and our only option is to fall with it. Focusing on hope, a better time, thankfulness, and any thing that brings a bit of sunshine to the day is the only way to self repair and a brighter future. This is not hocus pocus by any means. It's a will to survive and an inner strength that can be called upon in time of need. This is a great hub that more people, especially those wallowing in self despair needs to see. Up & Useful & Awesome & Interesting!


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

I am using a new drug to help my R/A pain because otherwise I can't move so well.

Your have written a wonderful hub here and I am so sorry you have lost your son, kudos and hugs to you, Joyce.


PWalker281 4 years ago

I'm a big fan of Echart Tolle's teachings and was recently introduced to Bruce Lipton via another video. I've learned to deal with emotional pain by "observing" it, without judgment, simply watching it. After a while, it dissipates. Physical pain is a little tougher, but the same method works.

I recently watched an interview with the late Phyllis Diller in which she talked about an old book called, The Magic of Believing, and how powerful the mind is. She said in a later interview that she's used the methods to eliminate physical pain.

Our minds are so much more powerful than we give them credit for. Thanks so much for this enlightening hub. Voted up and shared.


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bridalletter 4 years ago from Blue Springs, Missouri, USA

I will try that imagining a time without pain. Thank you for the ideas.


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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi vocalcoach... awesome hub here and some recommended reading for everyone. I have little or no pain but when I do I try to rest and prayer is always a good thing. I think the worst pain I ever suffered was a kidney stone. I was working a high steel job which required some balance and dexterity and when it hit I was on the ground and blessed to be there... I must admit the Demoral and morphine certainly helped...

Hugs from Canada


writeronline 4 years ago

Very nice work, vocalcoach. I enjoyed the read, learned a lot,was touched by your elegantly direct poem, and by the way you're determined to find ways to go on coping. And willing to share those with others in similar distress. Thankyou.

Unfortunately, but not unexpectedly, I also came across the comment from rcrumple. I say 'not unexpectedly', because it's almost guaranteed that in any discussion about the power of the mind, someone will jump onto the simplistic 'you can change if you really want to' bandwagon, and smack down the mentally unwell.

Judgemental cliches like, "...A state of depression is one to which we allow ourselves to fall. It's an inability to cope...", and "wallowing in self despair " serve little purpose, other than displaying an ignorance of what is anything but a discretionary ailment for many people; and allowing the writer to 'wallow in a sense of superiority".

As you point out, the challenge for any of us dealing with chronic pain (and mental pain/anguish is every bit as real as physical pain) is just that - finding ways to deal with it. God preserve us from the eternally and patronisingly smug attitudes of those who can't, or won't, allow themselves to express the most important human qualities of all: unconditional love for others, a willingness to believe, rather than a need to judge, and just plain respect for what other people are enduring every day - not 'wallowing' in.

I could go on, but out of respect for you and your inspiring hub, I'll shut up now. I apologise if I've intruded.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Happyboomernurse - First I want to thank you for being here. I always feel your beautiful "spirit" as I read your comments. Also, thank you for noticing the coping mechanisims at the end of each verse of my poem.

I too, always thought that my health and destiny were controlled by my genes. I learned in the same way you have and bless these men dearly for teaching me differently. There is so much we don't know which is why prayer is so important to me.

Thank you dear Gail for sharing your thoughts with me and others. You are and always will continue to be a shining light as you give so much to others. Blessings and good health to you, dear friend.


IntegrityYes 4 years ago

I meditate and pray for sure. I pray for others too. That is so useful. I voted way up.


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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

Your poetry is meaningful and exquisite, Audrey. But then I would expect no less from you. And your suggestions for overcoming pain are all realistic and 'doable.' Thank you for reminding us.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

billy - I want to tell you how much I appreciate your sending me "peace and happiness for today and all days." I hold that in my heart and repeat it throughout the day.

Your support is constant and means so much to me. Thank you for being here and thank you for your comments. Your friend.

Dear Sunnie - I like what you've said about the cleansing of tears. Wonderful! And the admiration goes both ways :) Pain can be both debilitating and depressing. I so hope you are right and that my hub will help others. Hugs to you my friend!


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Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

I like this poem very much. This is an inspirational hub.

Pain, like depression, can be lessened when we condition our mind to react in a different way, or focus on more positive things. Whenever I have a bad headache, I notice that it begins to abate if my thoughts are turned toward optimistic pursuits and thoughts. It doesn’t always work, but I’m not a pill person, and it helps to lessen the control of the pain over my life at that moment. Up ++. :-)


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

excellent hub, excellent ideas, excellent topic~! And..i feel your 'pain'! (lol) Being an ex-gymnast, horse, and harley enthusiast - i've broken, dislocated, sprained, strained, concussed - you name it! But - the worst pain i've ever felt was when i was diagnosed with chronic fatigue about 6 years ago...omg! it was then i discovered tai chai and yoga - and yoga is still a huge part of my life today! People think they have to be already flexible etc to do it - but - i couldn't open a jar and could barely walk at the time! It was - and is - a lifesaver! I highly recommend - it - and your hub! sharing, tweeting, voting..


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I have known pain! When I had kidney stones that destroyed my right kidney, it felt as though someone hit me in the lower back with a baseball bat. Horrible. I feel bad for people who live in constant pain. I'm sorry you have had to deal with pain.

My best to you. I voted this UP, etc.etc.


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breakfastpop 4 years ago

You are just the right medicine for me this morning. I did a real number on my right leg and I could use your helpful suggestions to deal with the pain. Voted up.


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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

You have done such a public service here vocalcoach. Your poem does express part of your pain suffered through your beautiful life. You express tremendous will power and point in the direction that many of us need to know. You have expressed yourself so well here.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Hi, I totally agree that the mind is a powerful thing, and if directed properly it can be taught to control pain, I had really bad myalgia caused by an allergic reaction to my thyroid tablets, I did deep breathing and kept trying to get my mind to give up the pain, it certainly helped. Your poem was amazing and I feel for you, nell


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

teaches12345 - Yes my friend, both meditation and prayer bring relief from pain and I do both. Being positive actually changes brain chemistry and does wonders for the level of pain. Having said that, when we have terrible pain it's not always easy to feel positive. That's where the deep breathing comes in. Thank you so much!

carol7777 - You are fortunate to seldom experience pain. I hope it stays that way for you. I love your sharing in your comments - "When my neck gets sore from the computer.....I rub lavender, rosemary, peppermint oil combo..and it works immediately. "

I am on my way to mixing this up right now. Sounds wonderful and thank you!


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Audrey -

If my earlier comments sounded callous, my apologies. They were not intended to be as such. I have had many tragic events in my life. Two, when I was only 13, when my mother passed and I witnessed my best friend die after being hit by a car.

I've been to the point of considering suicide before, but luckily, didn't follow through. I may not be as wise as writeronline (who obviously knows the answers to all of life's problems), but I do know that ultimately, the individual has to make the effort to rise again. No one else can do it for them. Whatever route a person chooses (prayer, therapy, time, etc.) it is the power of the mind that raises one back to the level of life they can survive. Pain will never be absent in one's life, but staying concentrated only on that pain and not the recovery. Your poem was beautiful, as I stated. I have always respected you and your writings, as you can attest. To have my words twisted as "cliches" and "bandwagon" serves no worthwhile purpose. My sincere apologies to you and others in witness of this disgraceful occurrence on your hub.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

tamron - "Putting to much focus on pain gives the pain more power." How true! And I agree with crying and it's benefits. Thank you for taking time to read my hub and for your helpful comments.

Curiad - It's always a pleasure to see you and to read your comments. I hope you are and will continue to be pain-free. Thank you!


writeronline 4 years ago

Vocalcoach, it appears that I've upset one of your readers. I won't degenerate into name-calling myself, although, (because obviously, I don't expect you to publish this comment, and you'll want to delete my earlier one, offensive as it apparently is) I would like to say to you that it is disappointing that before leaping to the defence of their own judgemental (like it or not, that's true) words and statements that are very offensive to people like myself, I wish people would take a moment to think about what makes them so. Like reading Hubs I've written on living with of suicidal thoughts, depression - and surviving, because I developed the (mental) ability to live with them - not die because of them.. But anyway, it's not a contest of who handles life better, and clearly I've intruded into a group of friends, where dissenting views are apparently not welcome. It's a shame, because I actually have Hub relationships with some of those who've commented, on both this hub and those of mine that I mentioned. But hey, that's life. Please accept my apologies, and please do remove my initial comment. I have no desire at all to spoil the truly inspirational qualities of your Hub. Thanks.


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shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

A beautiful poem, really well written! And i agree with your thinking, mind is the epitome of your attitude. The way you control your mind, is the way you can lead your life.

Yes, i do see a lot of pain, Hope all is well. Take care :)

Voted up and shared!~


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Deepak Chaturvedi 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

I liked it and actually it a lot.shared and voted up!


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Deepak Chaturvedi 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

I liked it and actually enjoyed it a lot.shared and voted up!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

One of the best hubs ever! Excellent ideas and points.


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Deepak Chaturvedi 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

Interesting hub.thanks to share.


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idigwebsites 4 years ago from United States

I am coping with pain. I know it will be a part of my life, but instead of letting it dictate with my life, I instead find it as a useful source of motivation to be a better person in the future. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. :)


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ShubeyThePoet 4 years ago from Williamsville,NY

This is simply great!

I really appreciate "Overcome Pain with Your Mind"

it's such a true poem and very touching.

Exactly how we deep writers like it!!

Keep up the good poems! :)


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Laurinzo Scott 4 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

This is a very important hub vocalcoach, and I am sure I stumbled upon it, because it is God's will I very much love your writing and haven't been able to be on hubs as much as i'd like sometimes... and I so needed to read this because I am going through some physical pain right now... but I claim victory through my faith in an almighty God. Science and faith is more interrelated than most want to admit. Thank you!!!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

fpherj48 - So happy to hear that you found my hub positive and inspirational. You are one of the few who remembers the pain I've carried since the loss of my son. I so appreciate that. And thanks for liking my poem. I've learned that Pain is the path to freedom. My hope is that others who suffer with emotional or physical pain will find comfort in what I've written. Thank you my friend!

rcrumple - I'm so very glad to have found you here on hubpages. You reflect in such a much better way than I what I feel. I found the following comment left by you such a marvelous addition to my hub. "Focusing on hope, a better time, thankfulness, and any thing that brings a bit of sunshine to the day is the only way to self repair and a brighter future. This is not hocus pocus by any means. It's a will to survive and an inner strength that can be called upon in time of need." Thank you so much for these very inspiring words. Take care!


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epigramman 4 years ago

...well I overcame this pain I have with my mind when I paid a late night visit to you my delightful Audrey at lake erie time 12:59am and now I can't sleep because you are such a world class sweetheart and loved by so many here at Hubland and your attitude and outlook on life and living is so contagious - that you must be the greatest cheerleader for the human race ever - and the best looking one too - sending you warm wishes and good energy from ontario canada


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Writer20 - I wonder if you are using the same drug for R/A that was prescribed for me? I do get relief when I take it. I just concern myself with the side affects (stomach.) Thank you Joyce for your comforting words. I really do apprecite that so much. Take care.

PWalker281 - The book, The Magic of Believing sounds very familiar to me. I may even have it laying around the house somewhere and if so will read it. Thanks for mentioning this. And as you say, our minds are so powerful...I've had to learn that lesson and glad I have. Thank you for your enlightening comments and the nice things you've said.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

This is a useful hub for anyone experiencing pain. It ironic that we so often tense up at pain, which only makes it worse. Your exercises sound good - I tend to do the breathing one, when I remember! I also learned a technique of focusing on the sensations and then on the space around them, and sometimes find that helpful too.

How great that you were able to turn your pain around to find something to be grateful for! I will give that a go for sure!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Hi Vocal Coach. Hope your pains are not as bad as you mentioned. Positive thinking produce certain morphin related chemicals. Prayer is another option for so many nowadays. Most of us see life with a different shades of blue. So certain remedies don't apply to all of us. From birth I have been eaten healthy food, like Lisa suggested. Hope this hub helps so many, and you have a nice evening/day!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Wow...Audrey.

This was such a motivational piece to read the first thing in my morning. I have this headache and am gonna use the above suggestions.

It is always good to read other's insights 'cause that makes one more aware of oneself...Thankyou!!

sharing it across!


KDuBarry03 4 years ago

Whenever I'm sick or in pain, I usually think this: "In order to repel pain, accept pain" and I repeat that in my mind until the pain greatly diminishes and I go my merrily way unless it's something more serious like a broken bone.

I have to say though, Audrey, this is a very motivational piece and I'm definitely sharing this with my friends. Great Job!


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

Chronic pain whether it be emotional or physical can be life force sapping. When in tandem, oh boy. Like how you've done this one with the poem, suggestions and vids Audrey. Most glad to know you've gotten some relief.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

bridelletter - Once you practice visualization you'll find that it will come to you naturally. A wonderful thing to be able to control the mind. Thanks for being here.

Rolly - I've heard that kidney stones are unbearable and I'm so very sorry for your terrible pain. And yes...there comes a time when Demoral and other pain killers are a welcomed blessing.


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Lady_E 4 years ago from London, UK

That poem tugged at my heart. I read it twice to check if the first paragraph was personal to you. I'm sorry to hear that about your son. It's more than pain. ((Big Hug)), not sure what to write..... but I will later..

I have also come to learn only in the last few years that our mind is a very powerful tool. However, we need to know how to use it, particularly when dealing with pain / disappointments / motivation etc.

Thanks for sharing on how to deal with pain. I am glad you know Wayne Dyer. You might find Louise Hay (of hayhouse) helpful too. She went through terrible pain but she now helps people deal with their own.

May God comfort you and give you renewed strength for each day. Treasure those beautiful times you shared.

Take care.


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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

VC, this was eye opening. I have concentrated on keeping physical pain at bay many times, but I never thought about applying that to emotional pain (which has, at times, controlled my life). This is wonderful. Voted up and sharing. Thank you.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

I exercise through the pain. I refuse to allow any sort of pain hold me back. Oh I do have a tendency to rant, swear a bit and get angry which seem to help me. Then I exercise again. Excellent, useful and insightful hub.


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mmsu 4 years ago from Pakistan

Great.Interesting hub.Really like it.Voted up and shared.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

writeronline - Thank you so much for enjoying this hub and for liking my poem. I appreciate it. Both pain and depression calls for an understanding by others. That is the very least we can do. We can't do much more. How many times I have wanted to take the pain myself for those I love. It means so much to me that you are inspired by my hub.

IntegrityYes - Praying for others when they are in pain is a powerful call for healing. Good for you. Thank you for being here.

drbj - You are such a marvelous support. Hearing that you liked my poem means a great deal to me. Thanks for confirming that my suggestions can all work. Take care my friend!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Genna - It feels good to hear that you like my poem and find this hub inspiring. Thank you for that. I agree totally with your thoughts regarding how we can lessen pain by going to a more positive place. I think the more we practice this, the stronger our ability to control pain will be. Take care.

ImKarn23 - Hi there. OMG - CFS is just awful! Been going thru something for the past yr that show much of the same symptoms. Finally saw a sleep specialist and took an all night test for possible sleep apnea and waiting for the results. As soon as I begin therapy and begin to sleep better I will regain my normal energy and will take up yoga. So glad you shared your story with me. Thank you so much!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

rcrumple - I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your mother at only age 13. That must have been so very difficult with a lasting impression that remains throughout time. And to lose your best friend to an auto accident is also hard. How do I know? I lost my older son to cancer leaving 4 children without parents. I also lost my dearest best friend to cancer. I only mention this because I want you to realize I know something of your pain. Thank you for this second comment and please know that all is fine. Loving one another is really all that is important.


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

Interesting Audrey and so very useful also.

Take care and enjoy your day.

Eddy.


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remaniki 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Hi Audrey,

This is a subject close to my heart because I have undergone all kinds of pain (as most of us have) including physical and emotional.

It was not before I learned to meditate that every pain in my body/mind decided to leave me in peace. Meditation is a very powerful tool that helps us overcome pain and misery.

Of course, the events that have caused us misery will stay in our minds, but by practicing meditation, we learn to accept them as those that had to happen and learn to live with the pain. This is easier said than done but taking to meditation was the best thing that has ever happened in my life.

Especially after a meditation session, I used to feel very happy and resolve to never think about my past. This helps at least for a few hours and then you come back to normal but give the cause of your pain a serious thought and how best to cope with it in future.

The suggestions you have given here are great, one of them being meditation of course (breathing deeply) and I am sure we'll all get help in overcoming our pain.

Thanks Audrey for handling the subject beautifully. Cheers, Rema.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

As a student of Buddhism, I believe life is sorrow and pain follows us where ever we are. Pain reminds us the nothingness of life.

The poem you have shared here is wonderful.


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Audrey,

Your poem is beautiful, heartfelt and inspirational.

You have provided excellent ways of dealing with pain.

Voted up and away

Take care :)


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Senoritaa 4 years ago

I suppose we've all been in pain, in some form or another. In my experience I have found meditation and prayers to be immensely helpful. Both of them pull your inner power to the forefront in order to help you deal with the pain. Nice work.


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Audrey,

Your poem is an affirmation for surviving and thriving.

Your philosophy is beautiful, sound and one I firmly believe in through both my profession and personal experience.

Voted UP and UABI...excellent work. Hugs, Maria


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shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

I loved the poem and the explanation. Excellent topic and beautifully delivered, all of us go through a lot of pain at some point don't we? I am sure this hub and your ideas are useful to all of us !

voted up and shared :)


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

Audry, I also agree there is a connection between the emotional and physical pain. I have also suffered from both. I like your suggestions. I find it I can keep my mind in a positive place that the physical pain becomes more tolerable. I had to reach the point of acceptance and forgiveness over things which I have no control in order to release the emotional pain. Grief takes quite a while to resolve I think.

Having a chronic illness is something I've learned to live with and I have found adequate rest and not pushing myself too hard does help. I loved your poem and voted up, beautiful and awesome.


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Brett.Tesol 4 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

Wow, that was a very powerful piece. The pain you talk about is something that is hard to relate to unless you have experienced it, but your advice is good for many different types of pain.

Sharing this one, voted up, awesome, beautiful and interesting.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago

Thanks for the sharing Audrey, agree with you that changing attitude could really change the level of pain. Stop being angry and start being grateful somehow really work, and it actually works on me. Appreciate this useful hub of yours, thumbs up and shared!


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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida

Pain can cause darkness to creep in. But shooing it way from us is possible. Leave the pain behind through mind control...as you suggest. Those of us who live with chronic pain know there really is not a choice. You leave it behind or it takes over.

Your carefully chosen words have said it for all of us. Voted up .


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

A brilliant hub Audrey ;it will benefit so many.

Eddy.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Eddy - Than you for reading my hub and taking time to comment. Just to know you came by, brightens my day!

remaniki - I'm sorry that you have had to live with so much pain in your life. It has certainly given you compassion and understanding.

Remember that old saying, "What doesn't kill you will make you stronger?" I think I'm strong enough for now :) Love your thoughts on meditation. Thank you so much.


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That Grrl 4 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

I sort of talk myself out of it when I'm in pain, physical or emotional. I grew up with asthma. But I learned to control it, not panic when I can't breathe and etc. I have gotten myself through a lot of emotional pain too. It takes time. But, part of that might be that it's less urgent than the physical pain of not breathing.


Deb Welch 4 years ago

A powerful Hub for eliminating pain from your life by your mind. The brain is never completely used - we all could accomplish so much more if we could learn how to use our brain to a fuller capacity. I have had enough of long suffering. I dismiss pain emotionally and physically. I will not self-inflict suffering anymore even when people will go out of their way to make me suffer for their own agenda. The video of Eckhart Toller was perfect - I must learn more about him. At the moment - I am pain-free - it took a lllloonnnnnggg time getting here. Thank you for this useful, awesome and interesting piece - great work.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

mary615 - I understand that kidney stones are the most severe type of pain. How terrible that you had to suffer through such a horrific experience. I'm very sorry to hear this. I imagine you have to be very careful now that the kidney was destroyed. I can't even imagine what that level of pain must have been like.

I do hope, mary, that you are now comfortable once again. Take good care and I will continue to send you my best. Thanks for the great votes.

Breakfastpop - OMG - how's that right leg doing? (six weeks later). I sure hope by now you have fully recovered. Nothing worse on this earth than having constant pain! Do take care, my friend and thanks for coming by!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

mcbirdbks - You make me feel good about sharing my painful experience as a writer here on hubpages.

It is important to me that when I go through something like this, I learn and grow to the point that I help others in some way. That's really all that matters in this life ~ serving and helping even one person from what we learn.

You are so dear to me and I respect your comments. Thank you!


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CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Dear Audrey, thank you for sharing this with us. Very expressive, powerful poem and interesting article. I've known pain--physically, mentally and emotionally. I thought, I wouldn't make it to this world anymore but I made it and as you said, "I thank God for what once was".

The scars are there but I now take them as a reminder of how strong I've been to endure the pain.

Great hub! Voting up, beautiful and absolutely sharing.

Peace and love to you.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Vocalcoach ! I have noticed since following you that YOU are one of the most inspirational people on hubs ! I think it would be a pleasure to "know "you ! You have several gifts , writing , advising , coaching and smiling !.........on and on , You my friend..... inspire me ! I went to the doctor a few short years ago and said "Doc , I am in pain constantly would you check me for Lyme disease ?" and after getting to know me he said" I want to treat you for depression" , I would never have dreamed that clinical depression would make you actually ache ! .......Cured now for the most part ! Please Be well my hubber friend !.......:-}


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Ruby H Rose 4 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

Thank you so much for leaving me some fan mail. That directed me to this wonderful hub to find a better way to deal with my physical pain. I will get back into meditating and trying out some of the other ideas I read about here. Your poem is very emotional and lovely. I too feel physical and emotional pain are connected.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Ruby - I'm pleased to see you here and thank you for reading my hub and leaving such useful comments. I wish you relief from your pain Ruby. I have learned just how strong the mind is as we allow it to generate it's healing power. Take care , my new friend.


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Om Paramapoonya 4 years ago

Thanks for your beautiful poem and practical advice. Glad you found a way to cope with your pain. I always believe in the power of the mind. Although it won't actually make the pain go away, it can certainly enable us to handle the pain better. Thumbs up for this hub!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

writeronline - I'm not deleting anything as we all have a right to our feelings. And that's one reason we are all here on hubpages - to say what we have to say. You are fine. And I'm on my way to read your latest :) Thanks for enjoying my hub and take care.

Dear Nell - You always bring a smile to my face! Your comments always show an appreciation for my work. I'm sorry to hear that you suffer with myalgia - very painful. Thanks for likeing my poem. Pain stinks!


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

shruti sheshadri - Thank you for being here and I'm pleased to find that you like my poem. Pain is a difficult thing to conquer and sometimes we never do. I love what you said in your comments and will share them now ~ "The way you control your mind, is the way you can lead your life."

My thanks to you, my new friend.

Deepak Chaturvedi - Thank you for reading and commenting. And thanks for the vote and sharing!

unknown spy - Wow! Your comments have certainly put a smile on my face. Thanks so much!


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acaetnna 4 years ago from Guildford

Wow this has such a powerful message. The mind is capable of blocking out pain. This is usually the way I cope with pain. Great hub.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

unknown spy - Thank you so much! So great to see you here. I'll be over to visit you soon. :)


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Lovely poem Audrey and I love the suggestions for tackling pain. Most of all taking the mind off pain and diverting it elsewhere works for me.

Voting this up, useful and interesting.


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Olde Cashmere 3 years ago from Michigan, United States

I enjoyed the message and truth which you laid out in this hub vocalcoach. Remarkable job with this. Voting up, sharing, and rating useful and awesome :)


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Thank you rajan for being here and giving your "stamp of approval" on my hub. The mind is more powerful than we can imagine.

I appreciate the vote up, sharing and rating useful and interesting. Thank you, my friend.

Old Cashmere - It is such a delight to read your comments on my hub. Means so much to me. I truly shared this as a means to help others who live with pain, whether emotional or physically.

The power of the mind is so amazing! Thanks for voting up, sharing and rating useful and awesome. Hugs.


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brakel2 3 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Audrey - Thanks for the lovely poem and the tenderness used to convey the message.. It makes you almost see the person in pain but then see it go away. I am familiar with changing thoughts, so thanks for the tip about letting the mind control the pain and make it subside. The brain is fascinating and can do marvelous things. I plan to try the method with pain. Hopefully your pain will be lessened by your methods and your beliefs. I always remember you, as my name is Audrey. Take care.


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

brakel2 - Dear Audrey (I love our name.) Thanks so much for your touching words. I'm thankful to have a visit from you. Pain seems to have found it's home with me. One type finally moves out - only to make room for another :)

Your kind wishes make me feel better. Again, thank you Audrey.


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Rolly A Chabot 3 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi Audrey... thank you for this and all you have shared with us. Pain is something I learned to control a long while ago through very similar methods you have explained here in wonderful detail.

The mind is an unlimited resource of power and strength when you study it in depth. Pain is never fun for most people. Far to often we are prescribed with drugs to help us deal with it. When I think back of years ago when our ancestors were settling the land, "What did they have to help deal with it other than the mind?

Very informative and thank you for sharing with us...

Hugs and Blessings to you friend...


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dear Rolly ~ I have often wondered how our ancestors dealt with pain. I think of giving birth without any help at all. I had ancestors crossing the plains from Missouri to Utah. Some died and some lived - unimaginable circumstances.

We will never realize the full power of the mind and what it is capable of doing. We must practice daily using mind power - so much to discover about ourselves. Very exciting.

Thank you my dear friend. I admire you so much, love every hub you've written and am blessed to know you here on HP. Hugs!


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PurvisBobbi44 3 years ago from Florida

Dear Vocalcoach,

You are surely the most multi-talented lady on HubPages, with your musical background, helpful hubs, poems, informative and informational work. You have inspired so many as it is proven by your many followers and fans.

I am one of your fans and followers---it is my pleasure to be one.

We are truly blessed to be in your orbit.

Bobbi


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Bobbi - I am so very blessed, to have found someone like you, here on HP. I think you must be my guardian angel - I know you are an angel, for sure. Your beautiful and sincere words fill me with joy and touch my heart to make it sing. It's no wonder that I feel so close to you and treasure our friendship. Stay close dear one and thank you for your appreciation of this hub.

Audrey


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Victoria Lynn 2 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Such a helpful hub. Fortunately, I haven't had to deal with much physical thing (good thing since I'm a wimp), but I have and do feel a lot of emotional and mental pain. I need to train my mind better. Thanks for these helpful tips!


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ahorseback 2 years ago

Victoria, has it right ! Physical pain is kind of easy for me , however mentally . I'm a wimp ! Awesome hub !......Big ole hub hug !


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Victoria - Oh, I do envy you! However, emotional and mental pain can be much worse than physical pain. I've been there too, so I can compare. Thank you dear friend for being so supportive - I really appreciate it. Hugs ~ Audrey


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

No way, ahorseback, are you a mental wimp! You are way too creative and strong. But I am so jealous. Physical pain is kind of easy for you. Not fair! I want that. Oh well... I will settle for one of your magnificent hub hugs instead!


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Just Ask Susan 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I am in the process of weening myself off of hydromorphone and your hub is of great help to me. Thank you coach so much and I'll let you know how things work out for me after following your advice. Loved the poem!


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Good morning Susan -

I'm happy to hear that my hub will be helpful to you as you begin the process of weening yourself off of hydromorphone. The mind is so powerful, more powerful than the pain itself. I congratulate you for your courage and fortitude. You are a strong and courageous woman.

Thank you. - Audrey


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Acer Unjust 16 months ago from Philippines

Great work Audrey. :) Very inspiring for me.


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vocalcoach 16 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Acer - Thanks for being here. I appreciate your nice comments.

Audrey

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