When You Need True Love to Be Real: Poem 05

- It Don't Matter -
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So how important is it really?

- Love # 05 -
- Love # 05 -

Like many things that tend to get attached to dreams, love is not always what it seems.

'When You Need True Love To Be Real' is poem #05 in a series of profound 'reality' poems by New Zealand poet Pearldiver. This poem is an allegory, which means that there are several ways in which its message can be interpreted. As this work has been written with a beat, even its flow may have been used to take the reader completely away from the poem's primary meaning and interpretation. It takes skilful writing to build good allegories that don't force an obvious message upon the readers.

What the author does here, in his own unique style is to intentionally engage his readers, with his choice of words and do so in such a way, that it ensures the poem creates a thought provoking outcome for all readers, irrespective of which interpretation is chosen. Often because of the depth of this style of poetry, it may take more than one reading to gauge the full impact of the poem, which in itself is thought provoking.

Love is not always as it seems, which of course when viewed from a positive perspective, is one very attractive benefit of being in love. However conversely, not always being what it seems, often can be one of the most destructive influences on those unable to read, or understand all the negative signs. Often early in the peace, those signs may be too subtle, but they can indicate the presence of flaws, which could ultimately have the power to reduce one unsuspecting party, to the point that all their self respect and esteem are lost. Controlling behavior, for example, creates casualties due to an absence of mutual respect and very influence of needing the love, one had hoped to gain from the other.

Copyright © 2012 - 2013 Pearldiver - Art of the Diver with all rights reserved.

Within the dance of the desperate lobsters - Love Don't Matter!

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Now seduction really does matter!

Fibonacci - Seduction #05 -
Fibonacci - Seduction #05 - | Source

Why do some hide behind the illusion of love at all costs?

We often see this effect when someone refuses to accept the fact that they are in an abusive relationship, yet they have lost every shred of self respect and cling to the hope that their abuser will eventually love them enough to not abuse them, if they remain submissive. Such love, or the belief of its existence, is holding them back and is actually the last thing they need, to deal with their issues, as it provides an excuse illusion not to walk away and regain their dignity.

Throughout the course of a lifetime, many things do or don't occur, as a result of the belief that love matters and will justify the depths some people sink to, in the name of love. In reality, there are many situations in which love doesn't matter, irrespective of any belief otherwise. Within one's lifetime, most of us have encountered times when love has nothing to do with our actions, our expectations of ourselves, or what we demand of others. When you need true love to be real, sometimes that sought after reality is so elusive, that it is almost impossible to see, until you look deep within yourself and realize that often the true love that you seek, can only be found, within one's own self esteem.

Try to not ever lose or give up your self esteem, at any cost; it is your greatest asset (even though it does not seem to be) and without it, you can never truly find true love of yourself. That is the essential platform for recognizing the ability to find true love, with someone else! If you lose your self esteem, then hope, that it can salvaged and restored, by facing your need realistically, honestly and within the true context of a second chance.. maybe! Please enjoy this poem and consider if you can the whole meaning of the allegory... Poem 05.

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Love don't matter to any lobsters, dying to be in a lobster's dance.

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An irony of not telling the truth.

Fibonacci - Lies.
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Poem 05

When You Need True Love to Be Real - ( Love Don't Matter )

Love don’t matter when the cheap vodka bites

And when you do all those things, you never meant

Love don’t matter on those endless, black out nights

If you can’t remember, where your dignity went


It don’t matter, it don’t matter

In the midst of shark attack screams

It don’t matter, it don’t matter

When nothing is ever, what it seems


Love don’t matter to a player with style

When they flirt knowingly, in front of you

Love don’t matter, behind an empty smile

It’s just to show, which hollow people, knew!


It don’t matter, it don’t matter

To a proxy server, stealing dreams

It don’t matter, it don’t matter

When nothing is ever, what it seems


Love don’t matter when the rush ends

When nauseous cramps of reality drop you, to the floor

Love don’t matter, if you only have rats for friends

As you bastardize the hope in you, no others saw


It don’t matter, it don’t matter

To any moon devoid of moonbeams

It don’t matter, it don’t matter

When nothing is, ever truly, what it seems


Love don’t matter, to any ‘too bucked’ cowboy, who fell

When he’s paid the price, to use a velvet lasso

Love don’t matter, if all the gates open up, to hell

He’s riding for the bell..... that’s just what cowboys do!


It don’t matter, it don’t matter

To bloody hands, washed in virgin streams

It don’t matter, it don’t matter

In your fantasy, nothing is, what nothing seems


Love don’t matter, unless you know, all true love’s rules

Like the love you find, when find your self esteem

And you find self esteem, when you stop walking with fools

So turn around, get real, and change the theme!

Or it just... don't matter...

___♠___

* Words by Pearldiver *

{Dedicated to: All those with the courage to fight back and against the odds, win!}

Copyright © 2012 - 2013 Pearldiver - Art of the Diver with all rights reserved.

In reality, even some lobsters aren't what they seem to be.

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'When You Need True Love to Be Real - Love Don't Matter'

- Poem 05 -
- Poem 05 -

Be Real - Or You Fool Yourself!

Be real in the way you approach every relationship you enter into and if terms are required, then establish them before entering into the relationship. That will allow it to develop on terms that best allow the relationship to develop equally, respectfully and without any need to compromise, or abandon your self belief and esteem.

If you start out, as you wish to carry on, then you will not undervalue the relationship potential, or your partner and yourself. On top of that, if you feel as though you can't be real, in your approach, then you also only fool yourself.

I hope that you enjoyed the poem, 'When you need true love to be real' - there are many ways to take the meaning of this piece... the message is not necessarily only relating to love... find the clues and you will appreciate the art of the diver, in choosing a quality pearl... take care.

There's currently plenty of fish - but most aren't what they seem!

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HattieMattieMae profile image

HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

very nice! :) Enjoyed it! Very true! :)


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Hmmm...... Lost for words!!

The poem is very real, an advice to the ones who are in a relationship that is not pure! I think, people who stays in am abusive relationship assume that there are no other alternatives. And as you mentioned, they might have low self esteem. And another factor that plays a role here is fear! Last part, be real, is very true, but how many of us Plans to fall in love and carry an instructional booklet..... And a check list :) Love is spontaneous, won't you say so?!

I have to read it again to find the 'Clues' :)) do you do that on purpose? Throw your readers back and forth just to confuse them.... LOL, OK, JK

Wonderful piece, by the way!


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi HattieMattieMae, thanks for reading this work and for your comment.. glad you liked it... cheers.. take care


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Yes the poem is very real and it's first casualty of interpretation may already have been found.. I don't think I throw my readers back and forth to confuse them... I explained at the beginning what this was all about.. I am trying to make a point, that is written into the page, if it is of no significance then that's cool, but then I'm experimenting in my own creativity, so where I want to take that is my call... but it's an excellent message that takes a bit of common sense and lateral thinking to work it out... think of it as an Easter egg hunt.. it don't matter... :) Glad you appreciated it and the manual..


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Now I am curious..... You are saying that there is a message there and I really haven't found it! Right? Why do I have a feeling that you won't tell us :)

And, that throwing people around was a joke :)) Anyway, too early for me to be looking for E.Eggs right now, but will come back to find as many eggs as I can! Isn't that the main purpose of the game? Not one, but many.....


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Nope.. no clues, it is a very complex allegory and perhaps you noticed the poem and the text don't seen to match perfectly... nice job on having those tattoos removed btw... good hunting.. eggs are quite hard to catch.. :)


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snakeslane 4 years ago from Canada

PearlDiver, Yes, sad when 'love' goes wrong. The scorned and broken hearted lover has to pick her/himself up, dust her/himself off and carry on, hopefully with some dignity intact. Been there, done that. Regards, snakeslane


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi snakeslane, yep I'm sure we all have our share of that situation at one time or another and I guess some just jumped on the next passing horse, irrespective of common sense. Thanks for taking the time ... take care..PD


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Not for this gal! :) found several eggs....... Where is the message going? I see your creativity, .... Not so much as the poem and the text, but it's the lateral display and the words within! Am I right or not? I am still that fish in the aquarium, displayed in a classroom with 100s of children watching!

Tattoos?! You mean the mask! That comes off before the full moon rises, then comes the time of transformation and returning back to its shell! :) No Lies ...... Some sees the truth, and some can't accept it!

Take care!


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HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

Lathing..there is very much truth in her hub...perhaps you are just looking for someone to harass for the fun of it. I'm not sure why you're trying to throw confusion her way. We are all creative in our own ways...not sure what your deal is, but it is a very nice hub.


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Sorry, Hattie, not trying to confuse anyone here! I love this hub and all the other ones from Pearldiver. And i agree with you, this is a wonderful hub! I guess I should send the messages separately then in a general comment box...... Thanks for the reminder :)

Take care, and have a great day!


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lilyfly 4 years ago from Wasilla, Alaska

Biting! Great!Oh pof suks anyway! love yaz, lily


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

My feeling is that the message is that if one looks externally to anything or anyone else for one's own 'realness', one is on the wrong track and destined to crash on it. One shouldn't go to love, or parenthood, or college or anywhere as an unrealized person, expecting to 'find' self in those other sources.

On the other hand, when one IS real, one brings oneself fully to love, where it can blossom, provided it is with another realized person. Love become real when it's felt & contributed by real people - or animals, for that matter. What's sad is that looking anywhere for oneself outside oneself ultimately leads to being even further from one's own self and reality, and of course - any hope of dignity is lost in that futile chase.

I must mention, though, that forms of relationship abuse can & do occur involving other factors than either lack of self-esteem or a panicked hope of winning love in the 'victim'.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Lizzy LaThing, I don't mind having articles and poems that create an opportunity to interact with others, or for them to do so with me, on the basis of a hubs context.. having engaging articles are from a SEO perspective, is a great way to ensure positive search engines results.

However, because one's search engine standings are generally related to the relevance of those interactions, from a page ranking and alglo perspective, a positive intention can easily become a negative, in that personal conversations attached to the articles, tends to undermine the quality and SE standings of the article. Can be simply because others don't want to be involved in 3rd party conversations!

In short, what I have learned is that having protracted conversations that can be seen as detracting from the subject context... always tend to give the article / poem / whatever, a less authorative status search engine (SE) wise. I rely on the fact that the bulk of my views come from SE's and my success in having been read in a total of 191 countries in a world of 193 countries, has come about as a result of the fact that search engines 'like' my efforts and format.... (not detracting from the subject etc)... I'm not interested in losing the ground gained over a few years, for the sake of a series of comments that appear to have little or no relationship to my hubs and other comments..

Not being rude... but real and I'm sure you appreciate that no successful net writers engage in this manner... for those very reasons! Plenty of other ways to communicate, that don't put one's efforts at risk... This might help you understand why I object to anyone considering it appropriate to communicate in a ('Robby') manner that gives an impression that the post is a personal one on what is a commercial article! I take everything I do seriously.. that is my ethic.. my ethic is the reason I have been successful in what I do... Please don't take offense to what I'm saying... I take genuine friendship seriously also! Cheers.. PD


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi HattieMattieMae, thank you for your concerns in relation to the previous post and your message to that poster. We were detracting from the main subject and that came about from a previous discussion that we had had on a another issue.... cheers for your positive support... take care.. PD


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Cheers LaThing, thanks for appreciating where Hattie was coming from and why...


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Lily, Yeah.... I thought I might try my hand with something Biting! And I'm glad I did, because it is a rather complex issue, biting! I don't understand what your word (pof) means... we don't talk the same down here you know.... thanks for taking the time and yes... I know my reading was overdue.. your work is ace mate! Take care... PD


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Point well taken! I didn't realize that Search Engines scans the comments also, and that personal comments are harmful..... I usually address most of my hub friends as such, ie. Mar, Franky, billy, Richy. I guess I have to stop doing that!

I have no problem if you delete my comments that looks too personal.... Thanks for the input.


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Stop Sparring! What I'm saying is Important to ME.. and I'm trying to take Your feelings into consideration as well as respect your web presence... How you address your hub friends is fine, but that's not what I am saying... My web presence is Not some dude called 'Robby" who seems to not know what he's talking about and thinks that people in a relationship need a manual!! I know exactly what I'm talking about... perhaps that is why my web presence seems to offend those people who choose to promote that I don't... Factually, if you actually knew me and did so for positive reasons, you would know that I am genuine and maybe appreciate my point of view, positively. I don't make a habit of deleting people's comments.. unless they are trolling, or stalking...


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hello Nellieanna, 'When You Need Love to Be Real' - you have read and understood this piece really well from the interpretation you give here... Yes you certainly have summed up a very relevant aspect of the message with this:

"My feeling is that the message is that if one looks externally to anything or anyone else for one's own 'realness', one is on the wrong track and destined to crash on it. One shouldn't go to love, or parenthood, or college or anywhere as an unrealized person, expecting to 'find' self in those other sources." and endorsed it with:

"On the other hand, when one IS real, one brings oneself fully to love, where it can blossom, provided it is with another realized person. Love become real when it's felt & contributed by real people - or animals, for that matter. What's sad is that looking anywhere for oneself outside oneself ultimately leads to being even further from one's own self and reality, and of course - any hope of dignity is lost in that futile chase."

I think maybe it might be almost impossible to comment anymore on this Nellieanna, without giving the rest of it away! Clearly you know how I write and the mindset that goes with it... I will add to that reference to abusive relationships... you are right, I should have written a fuller statement... cheers for your excellent and real review... take care my friend... PD


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

It takes a lot of searching inward to fully realize that life continues after a loss or a deep hurtful experience. Your poetry brought that forward for me. Thank you..


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Ruby, yes, absolutely, it does and because it does so deeply, that is why we must deal with it deeply and directly... if that doesn't happen, then we wake one day and realize that 20 years has been lost that never can be regained and could possibly represent all the time that we needed to be building a new life... easily said I know, but I also know what it is to not face the problem practically, giving way to emotive influences that really ultimately take our own lives away also... I hear you and wish you all the best... I'm glad that my words could be of some comfort, albeit a harshly stated one... thank you for your support also Ruby.. take care.. PD


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and awesome. Much enjoyed. There are all kinds of loves in this life but it takes one true one to stop us from searching. We must always keep moving on to find that love.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

I expect that you know that when I express my response to a work it's just my own spontaneous response, based on my own experience, rather than a primary attempt to decipher the author's intention or message. Of course it's that which he's written which triggers my response, so it very much relates. But I'm ever aware that trying to see accurately from another's perspective is bound to be incomplete, inaccurate or worse.

Plus - it's not as though it needs my recognition or alignment in order to be firmly what it is as he designed it. But we learn from the comparison with ideas and ways of expressing them. We flesh out our own perspectives, which are, after all, limited by our own subjectivity. When we can see correlations and especially, underlying background of experience and development of the ideas, we've upgraded our own and done no damage to theirs!

I always wait for more of your meanings and intentions to emerge - they're always worthwhile and never disappointing!


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Hi Rasma, thank you for your positive comments... I appreciate your insight in relation to this piece... glad you enjoyed Poem 05 as it is a bit different in its energy than others... I'm sure that search for 'the one' comes from deep inside our individual subconscious quests to find the apex of who we can be.. as we climb higher, we see from a higher perspective and perhaps those we find within that perspective are more aware of our journey, as become also aware of theirs... of course, I could be completely and totally wrong... hahaha.. it might just be everything to do with which 'mountain' we 'climb' ??? ... cheers.. you take care... PD


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Pearldiver 4 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time. Author

Oh I know that Nellieanna and without saying, appreciate that perspective and its associated comments, which I must say I take (today :) ) in the objective perspective. I respect your wisdom and the fact that you take the time to digest your food for thought anyway, apart from as it was suggested, within the 'reading' instructions...

I'm mixing many things into a poem like this... some ingredients will work and some won't or will detract on first perusal.. that's what I'm aiming to do, without completely destroying the dish... I love that I have gained a range of tastes prepared to sample this piece. I have at the worst, an allegory and at the best, a good one, one that could also perhaps say, "this guy is mad!" hahaha.. but to the chef... it's the exact taste required for a dish that is yet to be found on this menu, or served within this venue... why not multitask with the possibilities?

Factually, Nellieanna... if 3 or 4 words are changed then the whole thing could unravel... you must always (though I know you do) keep in mind that I'm playing... making sandcastles, with words... but irrespective of that, my ethic is to build them with good sand! I'm glad and very honored that you do, or you don't like all my works, as that respect allows me to never lose sight of the sea... Cheers for that.. take care.. PD


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SEM Pro 2 years ago from North America

I've missed you Rob. This and the other poems I've just finished reading/enjoying and allowing to fulfill me to the brim with love and possibilities and connection and well, I miss you my dear kindred spirit! Thank you for sharing your incredible talent with the world! with me... :-D

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