Why Men Love bitches: A book review

I recently read a book entitled “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov; this is a book which helps enlighten women about their position in a relationship. It is quite intriguing because of the gravity of the title which is an absolute attention getter for me. It might be safe to say that I am completely blown away by this book because of the facts it presents. She (Argov) discusses her ideas about women being a bitch and a woman being the nice one. It might give a different impression on the readers because of the word “bitch” , no sane person would like to be tagged as one but the author repeatedly emphasizes the meaning of “bitch” on her book. According to Argov(2002)* in her book a bitch is someone who doesn’t give up her whole life to a man, stands her ground, knows how much to give and when to stop giving and definitely realistic.

This book is quite an eye opener for me because it beautifully explains the different situations and emotions a regular girl experiences in life. This book is so realistic that I often find myself nodding and agreeing with the author (extending a hand to the author and saying, “point well taken”); however, sometimes I do want to debate about some certain point (a quizzical look saying, “Really now, that doesn’t seem fair”) but to elicit this emotion from a reader is a sign of how good a book is. I can feel that she (Argov) wants to empower the women with the knowledge we already know but tend to ignore. Let me share some of the enlightening words of the author which might be very helpful for us girls.

1. Anything a person chases in life runs away.

- Sometimes, we extremely like something or someone that we try to do everything in our power to get it; it‘s all or nothing. We do extreme measures regardless of the consequences. The chase might be fun but the result might be aggravating because there are times that the faster we chase the farther it slips away. Think about it, is he really worth the run, will he value you like you do to him?

2. Overcompensating or being too eager to please will lessen a man’s respect.

-In some ways, this might be true but I cannot fully agree with this because sometimes a person needs attention to show how much you care. It’s not bad to show the eagerness to please a guy especially if the feeling is mutual because it will strengthen the relationship and there will be security as well. On the other hand, if we’re talking about doing extreme measures just to make a guy glimpse your way is out of the question .A woman needs to preserve her dignity; sometimes, she needs to put a crown on her head and act like a queen because she has an image to protect.

3. If you are not giving him a lesson in punctuality, what you are doing is showing him he has a 100 percent hold on you.

- “Give me a minute, I’m on my way”, nobody wants to be on the other line because it feels awful to stand/sit in the corner and wait for your man to show up and push through with the scheduled date. It is fine to wait for a few minutes but it’s another thing to wait for an hour (especially when there is no valid reason). If a guy doesn’t value your time and you allow it then he’ll most probably come up with tons of excuses whenever he’s late for your date.

4. A man will always want what he can’t have.

- Is it the thrill of the chase that makes a man wants someone that they can’t have? How about when the chase is over will they still be as eager as before?

5. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.

- A woman is similar to a priceless gem; you should put more value on yourself and see yourself as one. If a guy sees you as a gem then he’ll treat you with care and shower you with love; even if you do have some rough edges, he’ll still think you’re exceptional. We don’t want to be worshipped we just want to be appreciated and respected. Moreover, we are always treated by others depending on how we see ourselves.

6. The difficult part isn’t getting a man’s interest. The trick is knowing how to sustain it.

-“How do you keep the music playing..? How do you make it last? (Sing with me). There might be various tips over the net on how to keep the fire burning but it only boils to one thing; how eager are you to keep the relationship? It’s not a one way track; both parties should work hand in hand to maintain a good and lasting relationship. It’s not always the woman’s call because it will be senseless if the other is not willing to make it work.

7. In the beginning, don’t make yourself so accessible. If you do, the relationship will always be on his terms.

-If you make him feel that you’re someone that can be at his beck and call then you do have something to think about. It’s like making him feel that you’ll pop out of the blue whenever he feels like having you around. In the end, he’ll be so at ease with the situation that he might be insensitive about your feelings because you turned him into one. He might feel that the ball is on his court and eventually manipulate the direction it should take.

8. Don’t make him feel as though he has to ask permission for the day-to-day things he wants to do.

- When we love someone too much we tend to be a little possessive. We become like a mother hen that he needs to report his every actions. We might be unaware of it but we do feel like that we need to monitor his activities because we want to always be a part of his daily life. We feel bad whenever he forgets to inform us and spends too much time with others. Well, let’s face it we don’t own our partners. We need to have a life of our own because our day does not start and end with him.



*Argov, Sherry (2002) Why Men Love Bitches, Adams Media, 57 Littlefield Street, MA 02322 U.S.A

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Tanja Wanderlust 2 years ago from planet earth

Thanks for writing this article! I love her books and I really laughed a lot while reading it.

I can totally recommend it, its like The Rules Book but contains the practical things.


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hunter sakura 2 years ago from Philippines Author

Thanks! Yeah... she does point out the obvious that sometimes we're just too stubborn to recognize. ^-^

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