Is One Lifetime Long Enough?

Do you have the time?

How often do you think about time? You want more time? More years added on to your life yet you want to hurry up and have everything done quicker right now? Time is like love- you can't see it, we think about it often, it consumes us, it drives us, and it's so valuable in one way or another to us. Nobody knows who or when any of us will fall in love or how or why any of us will have no more time left someday.

I pose this question to the person that thinks about time obsessively (I fall into this category), counts the minutes or thinks about life and how many minutes left of that as well. If you don't think about time, you live in a cave perhaps. I have a feeling by the time (no pun intended) you get done reading this you will be thinking and thankful of your time.

The Book

What does time mean to you? Recently, I had to ask myself this extremely important, yet overlooked, question. I just finished reading an interesting book. If this were truly a book review (which it is not), I'd give a C grade. The plot lacked, the writing was predictable, and many parts skipped forward awkwardly without direction. However, the book did not fail in one aspect- it made me think.

The Timekeeper by Mitch Albom is a book that does little for the reader at the time they are reading it and yet it does wonders for the reader (and the mind) after reading it. And...back to my question. More or less time to live the rest of your life? I know what you're thinking, it sounds quite obvious. Have I gone completely mad? The majority of us would answer, More time please! But now it's time (there's that word again) for me to make you think...

What is time?

Time dates back to 1500 B.C Egypt when the first methods to measure or track time were a T-square shaped device that measured the day's shadows and the water clock that was able to measure the hours. Then we got more sophisticated with sands in an hourglass.

However you want to measure it, time in general is without a distinct definition. Time could even be a figment of our imagination. Yes, we all use a system of measuring time, but not one definition fits time for everyone, everywhere. It's still arguable whether time is fixed or time is fluid. Whether you're discussing time with Sir Isaac Newton or Einstein, I would rather come to the agreement that time means something personal and different for everyone.

Time changers

I constantly think about time throughout the day. Probably more than I think about anything else. Will I have enough time to do this or that? seems to be the constant chant in my brain. You can;t necessarily get (or buy) more time so we are given no more or no less than what is intended for us, yet is there a way to change time? YES!

We've been doing it for years now. I remember my first attempt at changing time- I took a "Time Management" course in junior college many years ago. If I could manage time, then certainly I could change time. Nope, the more time I managed to get with time-management the more time I needed, rendering it useless to have more time in the first place. Technology is another way in which we've tried to change or manage time any yet it's caused us to crave more.

However, I have found one way to change time. I will refer to kids as "time changers". When you have little kids, like I do, they have no patience so you feel as though you're flying by the seat of your pants at warp speed 24/7. Have you ever tried to do something fast enough for a baby who wants something NOW!?! Kids also have the ability to freeze time- you can get lost when you're playing in their world and time seems to stand still (or not matter). You can get lost in a moment while the years fly by. As most of us who have kids would agree, kids are a mixed blessing sometimes. I say that with love...

Another interesting thing happens when you have kids, you begin to think about how much of their life you will live to see. How much time do you have with them? Possibly their children? If you have more than one kid, there is never enough time for either and you realize the sheer deficit of time once again. Then you find yourself reliving one aspect of your youth in your child and suddenly you are transported back in time.

Who the hell invented the damn alarm clock?
Who the hell invented the damn alarm clock?

You get what you get and you don't throw a fit! That's exactly what I say to my young daughter when she is unhappy about something that is not a choice or I feel like she should be happy with what she has. The same advice could easily apply to my own life and to yours and my time in general. You or I don't know how much time we ultimately have and yet both of us are probably wishing there were more hours in a day or measuring time by accomplishments and failures instead of the sun rising and setting.

The longer you have the less you want

Could there possibly be a downside to having as much time or as long a life as you desire? Could you imagine living another lifetime while those you care about in this one pass on? Would you start all over, another family? Another career? Different hobbies? Live life with more feeling or less?

Let me refer to The Timekeeper book again. The premise of the book was loosely based on the story of Father Time and how he invented the first time keeping. He was so consumed with counting and tracking time that he did not enjoy or take time to savor his life, his wife, his children, etc. Of course this ancient fable of Father Time resembles people on earth today- consumed by the minutes, the hours, the days- consumed by time.

Time seems to be flying by us- we have more time than ever because of advances in technology and yet we waste more time than ever because of technology. Perhaps there will come a day when we feel almost no emotions because the moments are speeding by us so fast and we take no time to be in them or feel them.

Popular self-help books remind us to 'live in the moment', 'the power of now', 'awaken now'. What I've gathered from this theme is we should not want nor need more time if we are living a fulfilling life now.

What are the reasons someone would want more time? Think about this for yourself:

  • Is there something left unsaid to somebody?
  • Is there something you still want to do?
  • Some place you still want to go or see?
  • A regret?
  • Are you spinning your wheels at something you don't want to do now?
  • You didn't spend enough time doing what you wanted or being with whom you wanted
  • You want to control the future...to be here to see it.
  • Can we find a way to enjoy our time more?
  • Have you found quality in your time? Rather than wishing for more, how are you spending what you have?

Time quotes in The Timekeeper

"Everything man does today to be efficient, it does not satisfy. It only makes him hungry t do more. Man wants to own his existence, but no one owns time."

"The very next moment may be an answer to your prayer."

"It is never too late or too soon. It is when it is supposed to be".

"Speed now triumphs the quality of words. A fast send is more important than a sealed envelope containing carefully composed thoughts."

"The hands of a clock will find their way home."


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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

There are things I have done that I regret in my past. But, I cannot undo them. But there is a quote that says "Scars remind us where we have been, but they do not dictate where we are going" I heard it from a television show. But, I liked it a lot. For me it meant a lot.

Voted up.


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GALAXY 59 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I wouldn't mind another lifetime or two or three. I would want my family and friends with me too. There are so many things I still want to do, so many places still to see.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Michele I like that quote a lot. I think regrets are only a regret or waste if we didn't get a chance to learn from it. Thanks for the vote.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Galaxy~ I definitely know how you feel. I would like more time- maybe not a whole lifetime but if my loved ones could have more time too then I'd want even more.


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kj force 4 years ago from Florida

izetttl...very interesting write..makes one stop and think..I try to live everyday as though it were my last, so pretty much everyone knows where they stand with me.

If I had more time, I would probably do what I do now, and that is write about prioritizing our lives, tossing out the garbage and laughing at most of what society thinks is important..getting back to basics and learning to be glad for what we have and not so much " how much we could have "..just my thoughts...thought this was a very good question..will be interested on what others say..


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Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I like the fact that "time" is a fixed entity, meaning every single hour has 60-minutes...no more, no less, despite how we may wish otherwise. What we do with each hour is an individual choice. Demands aside, the choice is ours, with consequences, of course. With so many unknowns in every life, I am grateful for the predictability of each hour equating to precisely 60-minutes.

I read, and agree with the concept of our most complete happiness relating to losing track of time. When I paint, I am as fully engaged as a child at play, unaware of anything other than what I am doing. In fact, before I was laid off, my job occupied me in the same way. I did not have workdays where I watched the clock and I enjoyed the challenge of multi-tasking, feeling competent and productive, fully engaged and never bored. When I think about it, izettl, I think it's why I prefer living alone. The bane of my existence has always been interruptions in whatever I was concentrating on. I felt distracted, scattered and always short of time. For example, before I had my daughter, I prepared meals like a gourmet chef. After Megan arrived, I tried and finally gave up. On the weekends, my husband grilled and during the week, I resorted to quick, easy meals. I gave full concentration to the exhausting, hands on, important, 24/7 job of keeping my daughter healthy and happy. Of course, we all have some demands that must be met. I now help my mom often, my daughter and even my ex-mother in law, but regardless, when I am home, my time is my own and I love it.

As always, another great, provocative topic, izettl, that I will always be conscious of, except when I'm painting!


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

kj force~ I like your thoughts on this. I respect where you're coming from. I'm not sure if I live everyday to its fullest but I do strive for living every day without regrets. Doing and saying what I needed to each day. I don't let time get away or take it for granted. Thanks for your wisdom and comment.


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triciajean 4 years ago from Bantam, CT

izettl, this is a thoughtful hub. I particularly like the part about the children, losing oneself in play with a child.

For the wider perspective, I don't think of myself as a body. I'm a spirit inhabiting a body, and while the body will die, I will not.

But on the "this life" perspective, I would love to stay to see my grandchildren grow up and choose their life paths. Fascinating. Still, I should die next (many years from now). No one wants to outlive her children and grandchildren.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

El Seductor~ we're a lot alike on that one. I love to learn to and need more time to learn as much as I'm interested in.

Triciajean~ good to see you. I was just re-reading one of your hubs on kids and still refer to it. yes, great perspective about the spirit versus body. It's true- I just think I will miss interacting one day with my kids as they mature into late adulthood as you would with your grandchildren. I hope to live to see my kids have kids. I started rather late in life with kids.

Hi Amy~ Whoa, your thoughts about living alone resemble mine. I miss those days. I love my children and they tend to be my source of "losing myself" nowadays but yes I miss the bliss of not being interrupted and letting the day take me where it may. We must be creative types. I need hours now for my creativeness to kick into that type of losing myself mode. the thoughts and preoccupations of life now don't let me get into that zone. Thanks for stopping by. Appreciate your thoughtful comments.


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triciajean 4 years ago from Bantam, CT

Thanks for reminding me that I wrote "How to Raise Confident Kids," one of my best. One of the reasons we need more than one lifetime is so we can use the wisdom we gain. I would know now how to help my kids in many ways that I didn't know when I had them to raise.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

I had that one posted near my desk for quite some time- now in a file of my favorite hubs that I read periodically. You understand kids and are very wise in general.


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Dan Barfield 4 years ago from Gloucestershire, England, UK

Great hub - you make some excellent points. I think I'll have to investigate that book... Have you ever read 'On the Shortness of Life' by Seneca? It is a couple of thousand years old but is relavent nonetheless and makes many of the same points regarding peoples perceptions of time and how it is wasted especially by those who claim not to have enough of it :)


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

I've heard of that book by Seneca so I'll check it out. Time is one of those age-old philisophical ponderings that will always "plague" (depending on how you view it) our society. Kind of like man's purpose, etc.


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triciajean 3 years ago from Bantam, CT

Your hub is thought-provoking, izettl. It opened my heart a little wider. How I enjoy sharing this "time" with you and many, many others.


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Thanks Triciajean!

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