Write A Love Letter

How Cyrano de Bergerac Won Roxanne's Heart

Despite his looks, Cyrano de Bergerac won Roxanne’s heart with his passionate love letters. She would wait for them longingly and she would faint in ecstasy when reading them.

Does the above scene sound familiar to you? Maybe only in remembering the Cyrano de Bergerac film or book, however if you are under 30 years old, the chances are high that you have never received or written a love letter. For others, perhaps you might have been lucky enough to be someone’s muse or you may have expressed your feelings to a loved one through a letter.

Very few people realize the bewitching power that a love letter can have. A love letter is a demonstration of personal attachment. Unfortunately, most people are too self-conscious to express their true feelings in writing, because writing is permanent. A love letter lasts forever. A letter written today will be read tomorrow, in a few months, in a few years and even decades.

“How obvious it is now--the gift you gave him. All those letters, they were you... All those beautiful powerful words, they were you!... The voice from the shadows, that was you... You always loved me!"

— ― Edmond Rostand, Cyrano de Bergerac

A Love Letter

A Love Letter is a Present That Lasts A Lifetime

I find it extremely romantic to receive a love letter. There is no more intimate or valuable present and it lasts a lifetime. I have been very fortunate to receive and write plenty of emotional letters. Not only from lovers but also from my grandmother, my mother, my children and even friends. I have a little box with my dearest love letters. Sometimes I open the box and re-read them. Reading my letters reminds me of times of happiness, sadness, joy, and important events in my life.

Reading a letter is like seeing yourself through the eyes of others. In a way, I regret the use of the internet and the phone. Modern technologies are great for keeping people in touch, but they are so detached. An email does not convey all the feeling that you could put in a letter, never mind a mobile text message with its puzzling phrases; trying to cram as much detail in as few lines as possible. An SMS transforms a love declaration into “I Luv u” and even though it is nice to receive such a message, I do prefer to have a hand written letter with nice calligraphy saying “I love you” instead.

Why write a love letter if I can send an email, a text message or phone instead?

Love letters are powerful, more than a phonecall email or sms. They express your feelings more accurately and permanently. Recently my 80 year old grandmother shared with me a love letter that a lover had sent her in her youth. She keeps the letter and the photo of her lover as one of her most precious treasures and her eyes still shine with love when she reads it. I hope one day I can share a similar letter with my own granddaughter.

To who can I write a love letter

A love letter can be written to anyone you love. A boyfriend, a husband or lover are the most usual recipients of love letters. But you can also write letters that express your love to your parents, children and friends. I wrote several letters to my unborn baby when I was pregnant; it was a way to relate to the little being growing inside me. One day, when my daughter is old enough I will give her these letters.

A love letter is just that; a letter that expresses your most intimate feelings, the only thing that varies is the tone used according to your relationship with the recipient of your letter.

"A Woman Writing a Letter"

painting by Dutch artist Frans van Mieris, 1680.
painting by Dutch artist Frans van Mieris, 1680.

How To Write A Love Letter To A Lover

If you are not used to writing letters, a love letter can be a bit daunting, but don’t worry, once you get started it just flows and takes life by itself. The only proviso to write a love letter is that you must love the person you are writing to. The rest are just formalities.

  1. First of all, you need to open your mind to love. Identify your feelings. Why do you want to write a letter?
  2. Choose a quiet time when you are not going to be interrupted.
  3. If it helps you, put on some romantic music, dim the lights, get a glass of wine.
  4. Close your eyes and visualize his or her face, see yourself in their eyes, feel your fingers running through their hair, caressing a cheek. Feel the softness of their lips brushing against your lips, your neck… Let your skin anticipate and vibrate remembering their touch. Breathe deeply, try to remember the scent that they leave on your skin after they are gone… Breathe again and open your eyes, you should be ready now to start writing your love letter.
  5. Start with a few basic ideas. Write down your core letter. Later on, once you know what you want to write about, just come back and let your imagination fly to “decorate” your basic ideas with romance. During the “decoration” stage, you can even try to write a poem or quote your favourite poets to help you express your feelings. The important thing is that your core letter is particular, private; it only belongs to the two of you. The “decoration” can be general, using songs, poems and popular rhymes.

How to Write Love Letters

Tips For Writing Love Letters by Bruce Littlefield

The Formalities Of Writing A Love Letter

  1. Writing a love letter is an art and as such it is better to do it by hand rather than using a computer.
  2. Use beautiful stationary according to your age. Use a good quality paper (cream is less harsh than white) not too thin, not too thick.
  3. Bear in mind that your letter is meant to last, so it is essential to use a good thick paper and a black pen.
  4. Unless you are a teenager forget about pink paper, stickers, drawing hearts and cupids.
  5. A love letter is a serious business and it should be treated as such. You don’t want to distract your reader from the main point which is to show the intensity and seriousness of your feelings.
  6. Date your letter; remember that your letter will become a keepsake for years and years to come.
  7. Start your letter by greeting your recipient, so there is no doubt who the letter is mean to be for. An informal greeting is fine and you can use a pet name if you want.
  8. In the first few paragraphs, you should write why you are writing a letter.
  9. Do not make any assumptions. Be as clear as possible. More than likely you will not be present when your letter is read so you will not have a chance to explain any misunderstandings. Use clear language: Do not assume that your reader knows something that isn’t obvious and do not pretend to know what your reader is thinking, which will only confuse things.
  10. After you have finished your first draft, leave your letter for a few hours or days before you go back to revise.
  11. Check for grammar, spelling and use good calligraphy when writing your final letter.

How to Write a Love Letter

Poems For Love Letters:

A Valentine: A Bouquet of Poetry for Lovers
A Valentine: A Bouquet of Poetry for Lovers

Includes many of the world's best known and most celebrated poets--including William Blake, Emily Dickinson, John Donne, Robert Frost, James Joyce, Christina Rossetti, William Butler Yeats, and others-illiam Butler Yeats, and others-


Some ideas for writing:

  • Recall your personal story, how did you meet, when did you fall in love.

  • Recall times together.

  • explain how your life has changed for the better

  • describe how much you miss him/her when you're apart

  • write how wonderful and complete he/she makes you feel

  • list qualities that set him/her apart from everyone else

  • quote poems or songs

  • Thank him/her for always being there or for a special event.

  • Tell him/her about things that he/she does on a regular basis that shows you he/she cares about you.

Some Closing Sentences For Love Letters

  • All my love
  • With undying love
  • Forever yours
  • Dream of me
  • Love always
  • Romantically yours

A Red, Red Rose by Robert Burns


O my Luve's like a red, red rose

That's newly sprung in June;

O my Luve's like the melodie

That's sweetly played in tune.

As fair art, my bonnie lass,

So deep in luve am I;

And I will luve still, my dear,

Till a' the seas gang dry:

Till a' the seas gang dry, my dear,

And the rocks melt wi' the sun;

I will luve still, my dear,

While the sands o' shall run.


Comments 35 comments

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Benjimester 7 years ago from San Diego, California

Right on! I agree completely. But now I'm bummed that I don't get to write anyone a love letter for Valentine's Day :( Oh well, the day will come. Being a romantic, that's actually one of the things I really look forward to in falling in love: being able to take the time to write down all the things I admire and appreciate about her. Thanks for the hub!

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Joe Scuderi 7 years ago

Princessa, you inspired me with all your thoughts. I wrote this love letter:


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fishskinfreak2008 7 years ago from Fremont CA

Just don't overdo it like Sara Wilson and Nigel Lock

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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

Great hub in the theme of Valentine's Day. When I was watching the movie time in the Love of Cholera, based on the novel, it was very cute how the jilted lover turned all of his correspondence into love letters. He was even addressing business letters as love letter :).

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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

I have a collection of love letters that remain unsent. I guess what's so great about them is the purging of repressed emotions that daring and boldness can't conquer. Yes, I still do keep a journal that I write on. They're like a sketchbook for my hubbing. :D

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BrianS 7 years ago from Castelnaudary, France

Great timing for this hub.

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ripplemaker 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi Princessa, nothing beats receiving a love letter and writing one the old fashioned way...in a sweet smelling stationary sealed in an envelope! Thanks for this hub! :) Happy valentines day...may you receive and give many more love letters in your lifetime. :)

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

Benji: I am sure that soon you’ll find someone worth receiving your letters ;-)

Joe: Nice to be someone’s inspiration. Thanks!

fishskinfreak2008 : good point, no overdoing.

SweetiePie: That’s a book to read and a film I need to see.

Cris: That’s so cute. I have a bunch of them too. Sometimes just getting things out of your heart into paper can be a great therapy. It works for me, and it looks like it works for you too

Brian: well... I was writing a couple of Valentine’s Day letters so I thought I’ll write about it here too. It is a cheap but very meaningful present.

Ripplemaker: Happy Valentines and plenty of love for you too.

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SweetiePie 7 years ago from Southern California, USA

Most of the book and the movie Love in the Time of Cholera are on the more sad and bittersweet side, but I did find the one part of the movie comical. It is a very good book and movie though.

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

Hi SweetiePie, I just realize that this is "El Amor en los tiempos de colera" by Gabriel Garcia Marquez, isn't it? And the love letters are the ones writen by Ariza! For some reason the tittle did not sound familiar to me in English...

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waynet 7 years ago from Hull City United Kingdom

I wrote a love letter to my mrs and it was filled with the stuff that I just cannot form into clear words in person and now she is my number 1 fan, making me cups of tea more often and other things. I asked her for a back rub and she did wahey!! get in there!!!

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

Waynet: I am so happy to hear that writing to your girl worked for you :)

Usually, in a relationship we only receive what we give. Women like to be reasured often about being wanted and loved, you provide for that and you are on your way to a happy relationship.

Keep writing...

byajero 7 years ago

I have used love letter before to express my feelings. This the easiest way for me during my teenage days.

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

byajero: sometimes writing can be a lot easier than talking. Writing a love letter you can carefully choose your words, something that is not always possible when you are face to face with someone.

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Benson Yeung 7 years ago from Hong Kong

Always a delight.

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malinda913 7 years ago from Chicago, IL

I've always loved both writing/giving and receiving love letters!

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Elena. 7 years ago from Madrid

Kudos! Fabamundo hub on a topic that's close to my heart: writing letters :-)

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Jessie_Pratley 7 years ago

I have a box of love letters, too! It's so sweet to be able to look back on them and even read them with your love later on down the road.

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

Benson, Malinda, Elena and Jessie, thank you very much for your kind comments. Love letters are priceless, we should write to our loved ones more often :)

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charanjeet kaur 7 years ago from Delhi

This is such an interesting idea, in the times where emails have become more quicker and only way to communicate; love letters seem to have lost its charm. I have greeting cards which i got and i will always treasure them.. love this inspiring hub on love letters. will ask my hubby to write me a few lol...

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

charanjeet kaur : Emails are quicker, but only a real letter can last a lifetime. Instead of asking your husband to write you a love letter, why don't you surprise your husband sending him a love letter for your next special day.

Good luck :) and lots of happiness to both of you!

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Princessa 7 years ago from France Author

My Dear Christoph,

I just wanted to thank you! You know I don't think you realize how much you inspire me. You have filled my heart with joy and laughter :) I think I'll print your letter and put it in my little box of treasures ;-)

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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

I'm flattered and honored. I don't know if I deserve a place in your special box. Thank you!

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Patricia Costanzo 7 years ago from Behind the Redwood Curtain

Oh Princessa you make me long for the love letters my husband made me throw away. All smarmy and open hearted, to have them back would make me smile.

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barit 7 years ago from Russia

I agree - this letter - it is a historical document. Since the beginning of the emergence of writing - there, and love messages. In Russia, say - "that is written stylus - not an ax to cut" or even - "Manuscripts do not burn" ... Much more pleasant to receive and read this letter, filled with words of love, a loved one ...

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linjingjing 7 years ago

This article is very helpful to me

Raky 7 years ago

Nice thoughts and tips...Thanks

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Anath 7 years ago

Love letters are among my most treasured belongings. It is amazing the power and impact that a few words can have in your life.

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mistywild 7 years ago from Houston, TX (Proud Texan)

I am a very expressive person, on paper, therefore love letters or friendship letters come naturally for me. And my husband write me love poems. I agree that texting or email is not nearly as personal as a handwritten letter from or to someone you love.

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epigramman 6 years ago

.. you mean like - text messaging !!!!!

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libby101a 6 years ago from KY

I have received many love letters and you are so right! A letter seems to be more romantic than anything! And it proves that someone cared enough to take the time to show you their love the written word!

Thanks for the good read!

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theseus 5 years ago from philippines

I love your hub!!

Receiving a love letter is as much fun as writing one. But being a girl, it's such a nice feeling to know that my special someone made an effort to make me feel more special and loved.

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Barbsbitsnpieces 5 years ago from Napoleon, Henry County, Ohio, USA

@Princessa...This is one lovely Hub!

I truly believe technology is robbing us of the English language in more ways than one. Letter writing is a dying art. There's no art in abbreviations and text messages for me!

Amit 4 years ago

I am simple army

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InspiredMinute 3 years ago from Texas

Love this idea!!! This year I put a spin on Valentine's Day and decided to surprise influential people in my past with "love" letters or letters of appreciation, noting exactly how they had impacted my life and what it means to me today. I shared it in "Love Letters to Life Leaders" at InspiredMinute. Love letters need to make a come back and thanks for doing your part to help!!!

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