Writing Exercises - H.O.W. to Better Yourself and the World - Part Two

My precious Ashley
My precious Ashley | Source
Ashley was always up for adventure!
Ashley was always up for adventure! | Source
My son and I attended the memorial service held in Billings, MT, where "Montana" is buried alongside his parents.
My son and I attended the memorial service held in Billings, MT, where "Montana" is buried alongside his parents. | Source
My brother drove up from South Florida the day after Montana died, to support my son's grief.
My brother drove up from South Florida the day after Montana died, to support my son's grief. | Source
My brother and me two months before he was hospitalized.
My brother and me two months before he was hospitalized. | Source

I found Billybuc’s hub offering exercises to better our writing skills a challenge I wanted to meet. The more I wrote, the more I discovered this is a good exercise for all of Mankind, regardless of whether or not you are a writer. In working these challenges, relief and clarity come forth as a result. This could be a step towards more harmony in the world as people learn to lose their baggage by setting it free to dissipate in the winds of change.

In part one, I left off with five of the ten traumatic experiences we are asked to list and expound upon. I begin today by finishing that list.


Write a list of 10 traumatic experiences in your lifetime. Why is each one meaningful?


  • Ashley dying – Ashley was a Seal Point Himalayan and the love of my life. We spent 17 years together. She and I had been through some rough times and some awesome times as well. She was the coolest cat I’ve ever had. Although she was declawed, she was fearless. I’ve seen her chase dogs – big dogs, at that – out of our yard. She once chased a Springer Spaniel away from my neighbor’s toy poodle by jumping on its back and growling at it. The dog was petrified and would not come around when he saw Ashley! She died of old age at 17 ½ and it broke my heart. My neighbor made a coffin for her and I’ve got her buried in my back yard where I planted a garden around her. I was always chasing her out of my gardens (Ashley Lynn, get out of the garden!). It was only befitting I give her her own special resting place. I mourned her death for well over a year. That was over 13 years ago. To this day when I feel blue, I sit by her garden and talk to her. She was the best!
  • Wreck on I-4 – Eleven years ago I was travelling I-4 headed to see my boyfriend. My left rear tire blew out at 80 mph. I panicked and did what you’re told not to do: I put my foot on the break. My car spiraled out of control, crossed over three lanes, went down the decline off the highway and sped backwards along a chain link fence. I remember thinking over and over again I’m going to die! I’m going to die and Christopher’s with his dad. He’ll never see me again! Miraculously the car came to a stop ten feet from the swamp. I was unhurt but badly shaken and the car was totaled. To this day, I cannot drive on any highway. I fall into a sheer state of panic. Now, if I can’t get from point A to point B via back roads, I stay home.
  • My son’s father’s death –Montana was diagnosed with bladder cancer when my son was 13. He was offered experimental surgery by a training hospital in Maryland where they removed his bladder and fabricated a new one out of his large intestine. Two years later during one of his weekends with Christopher, he called me and asked me to take him to the hospital; he couldn’t stand the pain. Eleven days later he died. Although I was remarried, the pain of losing him was unbearable. The pain in my son’s heart was even more unbearable. I no longer remember the bad times, only the good. I remember the love we shared and it was awesome. My son and I became closer when his dad died, but my heart still bleeds for both of them.
  • My son being arrested – Two years ago I got a call in the middle of the night. My son had been arrested for possession of marijuana. I wasn’t even aware he’d left the house! I went outside to smoke a much needed cigarette and discovered Christopher had stolen my car! Thank God the cops didn’t know that. You see, he had a rather loud car at the time. He figured I wouldn’t hear him leave the house if he took my PT Cruiser. Needless to say, I let him sit in jail until his arraignment the next morning. He has paid his penance and is back on track. Oh, in case you’re wondering… no, he no longer smokes pot.
  • My brother’s brush with death – My brother became very ill a couple of years ago and had to be hospitalized. He had lost a tremendous amount of weight and was jaundiced. His organs were shutting down on top of it. At one point, a priest was called into my brother’s hospital room. That is never a good sign my friends! Somehow Dana became stronger and was released. Today he is healthy as a horse, with the exception of needing hip surgery. His doctors are amazed at his recovery. It just wasn’t his time. Thank you Lord!

This concludes the second exercise suggested by Billybuc and this hub for today. My word count is nearing 1,000 so I’ll close for now. The series will continue on another day, as there are four more challenges left to share.

Conduct this exercise for yourselves. You will find it very cleansing. You’ll also find that you are much stronger than you think!

Peace,

Bravewarrior




Shauna L Bowling

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

I love the work you are doing in becoming a better writer. Excellent stuff here, Sha, and bravo for reaching deep down to call upon your emotions. Make sure you share this on H.O.W. We have a busy day ahead and I've got to run. Have a great day my friend.

love,

bill


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Love you too, Bill. I just shared on FB H.O.W.


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CloudExplorer 3 years ago from New York City

A very powerful heart felt hub here Shauna and I will definitely make my way to Part 1. I think death is a fact of life that is very tough for many of us to deal with because our loved ones are so close to us, our heart is embedded into each and every life experience we have together, all the memories. Losing such folks hurts to the core of our existence, and I think how you handled many of these experience of you own was quite amazing indeed.

I have wrote about my mothers influence on my life here, and also that of my Grandfather, I too decided not to think about any of the negative experiences of that of their lives and chose to focus more on the positive. You have left me thinking here about give this a try, I have been working on a unique creative writing exercise of my very own, but Bill is a good man and has suggested on truly valiant one indeed. I'm so glad that you decided to follow his advice and try it out for yourself.

Awesome stuff here, and I'm off to part 1 now. Thumbs up and outta here.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Mike, Bill has been a huge factor in my growth as a writer. When he speaks I listen!

I didn't realize how many trials I've gone thru in my life until I started writing them down. I always considered my life pretty much atrocity-free. Guess not, huh? But I overcame and that's all that matters.

Thank you for your awesome comment!


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

Again another wonderful hub..not fun things but you are able to talk about them and still enjoy life and hopefully not dwell. I felt with your chart that you had many challenges...


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Yes, I have Carol, but I'm a strong Pisces. As you know, there is no middle ground to Pisces; they are either weak or strong. After going through this portion of the exercise, I'm pretty damn proud of myself. I smile every day and see the good in everything. You have to force me to see the bad - and good luck with that! :-)


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

When push comes to shove..........

I am awful proud of you too, Sha. You are beautiful and strong, both inside and out...

This is meaningful and inspirational writing. Voted UP and UABI.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

I love you my Pennsylvania friend!


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WillStarr 3 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Very well written. It sure held my attention.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you, Will. You might want to check out part one. I has the first 5 of the 10 but I got wordy, so had to break it up. I've also just posted part 3.


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Bravewarrior, a Pisces handling all this trauma used the power of all the other signs - as you know, all 11 signs eventually culminate in Pisces. Those who don't know this, and don't use the power in them, simply die in many ways. But this is astrology..... at the end we are all human, able to choose between fight, flee or fall.

You are a warrior and a winner and I am proud to have you as an online friend. In real life we might paint the world red. Not with blood, but with fiery words of encouragement to all those tending to flee and/or fold when adversary strikes.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Martie, we would be a formidable force indeed! I'd have to throw some purple in there - my favorite color and the color of passion!


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Suzie HQ 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

Hi Shauna,

Another compelling read my friend, how you walked away from that car unscathed, I will never know but you did and someone was looking out for you . You are an inspiration for us all and an example of how we can achieve and forge ahead through the worst of times and come out stronger. Votes ++++ shared, Bravo oh brave one!


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida Author

Suzi, I don't know how I escaped unharmed, either. You're right - someone was definitely looking out for me!


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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Dear Sha -

You truly are a brave warrior and my eyes are filled with tears as I write this. I am eager to read part 1 now.

Thank you for being all that you are. So beautiful in every way...so unique and strong. I, too am a Pisces. We always swim upstream when we face opposition. We are optimistic and see the beauty in others when no one else can. You continually reflect all this and oh, so much more. Hugs to you,

Audrey


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WillStarr 2 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

"I, too am a Pisces."

So am I.


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SANJAY LAKHANPAL 2 years ago from Mandi (HP) India

The hub gives a shock followed by another shock and so on. The technique is straightforward, rather it could be made more dramatic for the sake of writing only. Every sub- title has a story hidden in itself.


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DreamerMeg 2 years ago from Northern Ireland

Some very deep emotions there. You are very brave to share them and to write about them with so much feeling.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Audrey, I didn't know you are Pisces. That explains so much about you. You're a survivor and see the beauty in life - a pretty awesome trait to have.

Thanks for reading my friend!


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Will - go Pisces! Awesome. When's your birthday?


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Sanjay, I suppose I could have been more dramatic, but I wrote it as I did because I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me. They were traumatic experiences and I survived. That was the message. Strength and survival.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you Meg. I'm an emotional person and I guess it comes through in my writing, especially when I write about my life. Life always comes with some ugliness just as it is also full of beauty. To share one without the other would be deceptive. I am who I am because of what life has thrown my way and how I handled each situation. It's one reason I call myself Bravewarrior.


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rebeccamealey 2 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

The name Brave Warrior sure fits you, Shauna. Blessings!


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

Thank you Rebecca. Enjoy your day!


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WillStarr 2 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

February.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida Author

I'm March 3rd, Will.

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