YOU CAN'T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT - Trust Me

Fake one's look good too! ha
Fake one's look good too! ha
Ahhhh....what a great life!!!!! ha ha
Ahhhh....what a great life!!!!! ha ha
What would you do to get it?
What would you do to get it?
How to spot a rich guy...it is a website you know......ha
How to spot a rich guy...it is a website you know......ha

That Palace You Wanted.....

Do you remember when you were oh so little with GREAT BIG dreams and lots of GREAT stories you used to share with your friends! Man, could you really make them sound GOOD! At the time you thought that the extra little additional "made up" details did not make a difference, but "yo and behold"....THEY DO NOW! Maybe not "way back when" but in the real world and in a life of "survival," you are what you SPEAK! And LIVE and EAT! ha

I decided to write this little "diddy" cause you see before that word was a "famous rapper/producer" it meant "a little something." Just a little something that made a small difference. Like maybe if you are reading this "little diddy" right now I may make you think. My mind is racing today and I have discovered "WHY!" Well you say.....that is fantastic!!! And I say, YES IT IS!!

You see my dear friends, "You Can't Always Get What You Want" (like Mick Jagger said or sang) and let me tell you why! Good, solid dreams are built on very steady "foundations." You can't just say, "I have worked so hard, so therefore I DESERVE my palace! AND my rich boyfriend and that beach house in that fake place in that great romantic movie!!! NO, NO, NO!!!!!! You can't just wait for an inheritance that may never happen! I know quite a few people that are depending on this one which is sad because truly most of their parents have atleast a good 10-20 years left! And on top of that, they just "WAIT, and WAIT and WAIT! And in the process they do not advance in their chosen careers or do anything for themselves and this makes them STUCK. Capiche?

OK, what is my point? Here it is.....SO, you have a list of things you want. GREAT! Sounds like a good plan. NOW, what the hell are you going to do to get it? Wait for someone to do it for you? I asked a few good friends what they wanted in a man or relationship. One of them made a list of things she wanted in her future mate and honestly, she was not going to find him! The list went on and on.....thank God she finally found someone who fit a few things on this list! YES, she learned to compromise and realized that LOVE was a very important piece of the puzzle and guess what! HE IS NOT PERFECT!!!!! Wow! SHOCKER!

Another sad example of values that basically turned me off from someone that I was very close too was her obsession with all things "material." When she spoke of meeting a potential mate and she was getting near her mid-forties (which by this time is very hard to meet someone if you are unwilling to compromise and look past some faults in an older partner), the main "THING" she wanted was a financially successful man to take care of her so she can have her own life and live the life that she is accustomed to thanks to a family member who has supported her for many years. SAY WHAT? I mean why not just go and meet a pimp? OK, I will stop now, but really....may as well be "hired help." I mean how do you bring this sort of person around something or someone "normal?" Normal does not fit into their fake idea or dream that will never happen. Cause remember, if you marry someone for money...you definitely PAY FOR IT!

Alright, I will stop kidding around. The point is "Do you really know what you want?" Because if you do not, you will NEVER get it! All of us need a plan if we really WANT something. When it comes to career, love, family, friendships, relationships and everything else. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? In 10 years....I know exactly where I will be. Do you?

Just remember, if you want LOVE you need to look past all the "frosting" and realize that "You Can't Always Get What You Want" if you are looking for something that is completely UNREASONABLE! So next time you get a job offer and it is not perfect or close to what you want (but you need the money), think about where it can lead too. And if you meet that "special someone" who does not have that HUGE castle and brand new Mercedes, look deeper. And if you "do not know how to look deeper" or your list is way too long or your idea of a castle is BIGGER then the one in Cinderella, then "YOU WILL NEVER GET THERE!" UNLESS ofcourse if you win the lottery! And even then, you will eventually go through all of your money spending it on unstable foundations and things that mean NOTHING!!!!

I bet that little cottage in the country doesn't sound that bad right now? Hmmmmm?

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SilentReed 5 years ago from Philippines

I don't think it is advisable to make a list of what an ideal partner should be or have.Then the mystery of love will be lost. Although I would agree with one of my mistresses (er...in my hub :)) Ninon de L'Enclos who says “A sensible woman should be guided by her head when taking a husband, and by her heart when taking a lover.”


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Lord De Cross 5 years ago

Excellent! We want so many things as we grow older. By the time we reach a certain age priorities change. Voted up Gpage!

LORD


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Thank you Lord de cross! I appreciate you stopping by here and leaving your comment.

All the best, GPAGE


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Alastar Packer 5 years ago from North Carolina

G you have a very special gift for getting to the heart of the human condition. People waiting and making big plans on the parental inheritance to them, should instead be doing their best to make the last years the happiest of their parents lives. The rewards non-materially will far outweigh the gold which time doth corrupt and turn to dust. Of course its fine to get material possessions if one wants and works for them. Dreamers dream and doers do. And generally that's what they wind up with--either empty dreams or the fruits of real self effort. There's a reason the lotteries are called by some the idiot tax. Another great one G.....


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

SilentReed.....thanx for leaving your comment. I'm not so sure I agree with the mistress Ninon? I have tried what she said and it still failed!! ha.....by taking what she said it would mean that a woman may have to have two men in her life!!!....ha ha I recently met an older French woman whose husband died a few years ago. She told me how amazing he was and they were married for more then 40 years, maybe 50. He was a very wealthy business men who did good things for others and charity. But after a while she admitted to having a "lover" for 23 years.....hmmmm? Well, as my father used to say "to each his own!" Best, GPAGE


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

ALASTAR! Thank you so much for being here and leaving your much appreciated comment! Like you said material possessions are ok if you work for them. I believe that sums it up perfectly! I wrote a song a while ago that has to do with "dreaming" but dreams need to be put into action and a plan must ensue or they will just fade away. Like years, months and days. Yes our priorities change as we grow older and that is a good thing. Idiot tax is a good one! Never heard that one! People should appreciate their aging parents instead of what they will get. I know what it is like to lose them. Sad that so many people do not take the time to show their love to family members. They did a study about senior citizens receiving flowers and how it changed their moods. It was amazing what flowers did for a few days after they received them. Lifted their spirits a lot!!!! Just the simple things matter most. G


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Lisa Gateley 5 years ago from La Vergne, Tennessee

This is pretty epic. As I was reading there were people's names that I know scrolling through as I came to a spot that reminded me of them. So many people are just plain lazy and our current society doesn't help much to remedy that. So many are scared of a little hard work and it's just plain sad! You're awesome my friend!


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viryabo 5 years ago

We "can't always get what we want". This is so true, and the earlier in life we get this message and allow it to sink in, the better for us all, nay, the world.

Just imagine, if we let this stick, there'll be no more wars and no more strife, but people always feel they must get what they want, and thus regret, disappointments or rancour raises its head.

We get out of life what we put into it. Nothing more, nothing less, so if we want our 'castles' built in the sky, we have to be prepared to first BUILD a tall sturdy ladder to get up there, and then be ready to work hard, setting one brick at a time, mortar and all, until our dream becomes a reality.

And if we get only halfway there, we would have made a great effort at achieving something much better than what we have. Like the country cottage with the beautiful surrounding woods.

Great hub G.

Blessings.


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub, GINA. You wrote this form your heart. I know that we want something "perfect". But sometimes it hard to achieve this. This was naturally happened to us. And what next? Stress is a good answer for the people who can't get what they want. I hope we can see everything wisely, just keep positive thingking and let everything flow like a water. Remember, God never sleep. As long as we pray and do the best, I believe everything goes well.

We live in modern era where everything need some "money", it's like materialistic era. But, do we can live like this forever? know we can't. We can't buy "love", "heart" and "happiness", right! We should run and walk in the straight line. By the way, I really curious with Mick Jagger's song. I'll search this song soon. Thanks, GINA for your kindness to write and remind us about this. You are one of the best woman I've ever known among the others. Well done and my pray always for you. Take care!

Blessing and hugs,


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Lisa....Thanx so much for such a fantastic comment! So happy you could relate to what I am saying...I went to your profile and it seems you are a very strong young lady! With a good head on your shoulders too! Nice to see you here! Best, GPAGE


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Hey Viryabo!!! Great thoughts and lovely comment....YES! So many things would be different if people got their priorities straight! I can go on and on! If people would work hard and be happy with anything that they achieve, life would be better for them! I know so many people who are never satisfied! I always tell them to count their blessings....and even if some of them hit the bottom and then get back up.....they never change their habits!!!!! I mean who wants to live on a roller coaster forever?!!!!! NOT ME! Give me a good book and candle light in a little, comfy, peaceful place and I am there! Thanx for your heart and kind words always!!! G


The human condition 5 years ago

Many dreams die at a young age. Manny for example kept dreaming to no avail. Of plans he had many just a few keep him dreaming of new ones however.

Who here can raise their hand when the bell tolls and proclaim perfect execution?

Our dear Manny no. No planning included being executed for a crime he did do.

His last words..." I am dying now thank god ".

This is brutal but it's an old story. Every day the dreamers die and the best laid plans of mice and men etc.

Thanks for writing your page which created this comment!


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James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

A little cottage in the country sounds wonderful to me.

I enjoyed your article. You give good advice and you write so well. I hope everything is going great for you. I am glad you are still writing on HubPages. :-)


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

JAMES!!! So nice to see you here as always!! Things are going well in my personal and professional life (thank goodness!) Not an easy year for sure!.....I hope you are doing well too! A little cottage with a beautiful garden and a very peaceful place and people that I love and care about sounds divine!!! I hope you are doing well also....lovely to always see you here since you were here for me in the beginning! I'm still here! Harder to keep up with the comments right now, but still writing and checking in!!! Best, G


jenubouka 5 years ago

Loved the info. gave up on my yellow brick road, and am dealing with the realities of asphalt. There are about 5 more things that I want to be when I grow up. i have already con-quested my first it just took about 10 years.

Thank you!


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Hey there Jenubouka! Sounds like a great new adventure!! I'm so happy for you! Thank you for being here and sharing....VERY much appreciate it!! Best, GPAGE


jenubouka 5 years ago

Always, jb


Ausseye 5 years ago

What do I want?????.....the bit of nature that matters...giving something of yourself to and for the future.It doesn't offer a great return now but it's potential is the appreciation in the future...just like having written something that sparks a light..as you have just done. The me me me generation is the past and the future has lovers that are the things of dreams, inspiration is a warm feeling.


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

Ausseye! Thank you so much for your wonderful comment!!! Sorry it has taken me a while...a bit of chaos the last few days, but all is good! Dreaming of an amazing future of love, inspiration, lovers embraces, warm and cozy feelings and good chocolate!!!!!

Best, G


SJmorningsun25 5 years ago

Nice one, GPAGE. You are so right, especially in America where we have a very strong entitlement complex. (And to be honest, I have no idea where it came from since the immigrants who came here had to work their butts off to make a meager living.) Maybe that's the problem with our economy--not enough people are willing to actually get their hands dirty and work. Voted up!


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California Author

SJ! you can say that again!!! I don't think a lot of people here know what hard work is!!!! Anyway, thanx for stopping by and leaving your comment. Very much appreciated!!!! Have a lovely day! GPAGE

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