I would die for you, cry for you - a heroic love poem

Attempting to negotiate all the rights and wrongs of masculine and feminine. My Western ideas, ideals and unconcious behaviour, conditioned by religion and media, meeting head on her simple uncomplicated demands and behaviour. Chinese society deals with feminine in quite a different way, men are generally dominant and anyone steeped in women's 'rights' can find plenty to criticise - on the other hand many relationships seem to be fairly equally balanced and it is not so clear who is in charge, and I have met powerful women at many different levels in Chinese society.

My experience is that the general situation for modern Chinese includes a concept of 'equality' but this comes more in the roles assigned to male and female. I am exploring this on a very personal basis and finding it tough going to live up to Chinese standards in my own house. One of the things I love though - man is man and woman is woman with no blurring of the lines, this means I can be male (within the rules!) and she can be delightfully feminine.


All these pictures are courtesy of learningchinaholidays.com which offers learning holidays at Guilin University of Electronic Technology - International College. These economical short or long stay holidays give plenty of time to explore Guilin and the surrounding area here in the most beautiful part of China.

I would die for you

I would die for you

cry for you

lie for you



We twined in a lovers tryst, my Chinese love and I, and made a twisted knot

of promises and whispered tokens of our serious loves exchanges

I asked only for high flown golden spun ideals,

So easy now she keeps her Chinese word of trust unlimited and constant care

For her, my promise, such an easy thing she seemed to ask,

To wash each day by my own hand

The lace trimmed fragile pretty things, closest her sensuous skin

And where the simplest care lies every day refreshed unseen.

And when of course I failed, just once, her down turned eyes, and worse, no tear!

I poured out all my loud heroic western pledge to give my life for her

To die for her, to cry for her, to do it all for her

Everything I do; but, into the putty of that fantasy she gently pressed her care for me

Her trust and constant thought of me disclosed the dirty linen of my selfish soul

Hung out for all to see,

An empty space echoing every day

And still on guard, a hollow hero stood on feet of clay.


More by this Author

Comments 32 comments

notquitecorso profile image

notquitecorso 6 years ago from Portland, Oregon

simply beautiful...lovely.

ltfawkes profile image

ltfawkes 6 years ago from NE Ohio

Very nice, especially:

I poured out all my huge heroic western pledge to give my life for her



Sa`ge profile image

Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

such a simple thing to ask yet so revealing! and for all to see! it embarrasses both male and female! Beautiful, so beautiful! Thank you for sharing this GEM! ~aloha nui~

Joy56 profile image

Joy56 6 years ago

so you are back to when men were men and women were women. Can see nothing wrong with that, and it sounds like it pleases you too. Where is the sun hat in all this.

gulnazahmad profile image

gulnazahmad 6 years ago from Pakistan

lovely hub:-)

alternate poet profile image

alternate poet 6 years ago Author

notquitecorso - thanks for appreciating !

itfawkes - you got it, you are my hero :D

Sa'ge - thanks for stopping by again :)

Joy56 - not quite 'back' more kinda sideways, the male female thing has developed on slightly different lines to us. There is a huge variety from a few women more dominant to many more who are totally subservient, modern Chinese woman in a kinda middle class station are more likely to enjoy a more truly 'equal' status than anyone in the west. Sukie is quite clear that all things to do with money, jobs, all the 'outside' things, are my responsibility and she almost refuses to discuss or think about them. But 'inside' things, diet, home stuff, what we do in spare time, excercise, anything to do with our daily living - is NOTHING to do with me!

gulnazahmad - thanks for taking the time to comment :)

Nikkij504gurl profile image

Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

i loved the poem. beautiful

vanessasasha profile image

vanessasasha 6 years ago

It is very beautiful!

MartieCoetser profile image

MartieCoetser 6 years ago from South Africa

A touching poem! May all your dreams become reality. Yes, some of us were/are stuck in western ideas and religious concepts, while we'll never loose the truth and good in them when accommodating eastern (and other) good principles. We only gain wisdom and more ideas to create harmony and God's kingdom on earth.

alternate poet profile image

alternate poet 6 years ago Author

Thank you Nikki*** and Vanessasasha

Hi Martie - I try to write about the differences I see between the cultures, as it affects me and I can see myself. Thanks for dropping by.

valeriebelew profile image

valeriebelew 6 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

Very interesting, and lovely. (:v

SomewayOuttaHere profile image

SomewayOuttaHere 6 years ago from TheGreatGigInTheSky

that was beautiful AP...not everyone appreciates defined roles.....guess you've met someone pretty special too; "I would die for you"...i love that expression....that's what it is supposed to be all about isn't it? and you found it...

alternate poet profile image

alternate poet 6 years ago Author

Thanks Valeri - glad you found it interesting :)

SwOHere - After two divorces and a few 'interesting' realtionships in between, yes I have 'found it' big time, and like most things you wish for they are not as we imagined :D I find the words from the song hitting my Romantic (era) streak but a bit discordant now that I know the hero, like god, is dead. To prove every day that you love someone is so much harder than making those emotional and hollow promises.

Awful Poet profile image

Awful Poet 6 years ago from The Large Magellanic Cloud (LMC) (m-M)_0 = 18.41, or 48 kpc (~157,000

Very fine words here

ralwus 6 years ago

Good stuff here Ap. Rated awesome and beautiful. yes. Nothing more gorgeous than a china doll.

The lace trimmed fragile pretty things that hug close her sensuous skin' like those vines hugging that wonderful tree. yes. CC

alternate poet profile image

alternate poet 6 years ago Author

Hi again Awful Poet, nice of you to drop by :)

Hi rawlrus - thanks for the kind words, and yes nothing more georgeous - but she is a Chinese Princess, dolls don't fight back with that concentrated wild-cat quality :D

Daena B. profile image

Daena B. 6 years ago from Wenatchee, WA

And still on guard, a hollow hero stood on feet of clay....I like it a lot!

alternate poet profile image

alternate poet 6 years ago Author

Thanks Daena B. glad you like it :)

habee profile image

habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Great lead-in, and the poem was beautiful!

Nikkij504gurl profile image

Nikkij504gurl 6 years ago from Louisiana

i wish I had a love that would do anything for me, as i would do for him. I would die for him, am crying for him, I would do it all for him and more. Im giving him up for him, im letting him go for him, and doing nothing for myself because all i want to do is fight for him.

Joy56 profile image

Joy56 6 years ago

i agree with her whole heartedly..... Men should organise everything, and make sure there is lots of money for us to spend.....

Pearldiver profile image

Pearldiver 6 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

Simple powerful ways deserve no less words. Thank you for writing this work.

Astra Nomik profile image

Astra Nomik 6 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

Beautiful and full of eloquent flowing descriptions, lovely rich language of love. Very much liked this poetry. You make the whole Chinese aspect of it all somehow more appealing and interesting, lures me in...

Joy56 profile image

Joy56 6 years ago

Here i am again, and i see it is my third visit. Nothing is nicer than that a man loves his woman. Hope it stays this way forever, Nice chatting to you in the forums, Keep happy, it makes such good reading. Brenda xx

p.s. i really fancy a chinese meal now, but will have a long wait, as it is 6 in the morning shucks

NikiiLeeReyes 6 years ago

Beautiful; you wrapped me in from the frost sentence to the last. I wish you and your love the best. Blessed be--Nikki

Stories Inc. profile image

Stories Inc. 6 years ago

LOVE your imagery!

Micky Dee profile image

Micky Dee 5 years ago

Buttons up as usual! Great write! Nice pics too!

arb profile image

arb 5 years ago from oregon

I find from marriage, men and women, that western women are in charge of certain things and then we are in charge of the things we think we are in charge of, till they matter too she, who is always, really in charge. Good luck sorting this out in any culture!

attemptedhumour profile image

attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

Hi AP What a beautifully crafted piece of work, full of emotion and philosophy.

Astra Nomik profile image

Astra Nomik 3 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

I spied this gem of a hub hiding in the bushes. What a lovely poem. What a heroic tale. Writers like this are rare indeed.

Andi 23 months ago

I love reading these articles because they're short but inrtfmaoive.

Aseprw 23 months ago

I appreciate your kind and greueons advice a lot!. I have been trying it hardly and did not get those amazing results!. It is nice to see that you got my comment in a good way!God bless you!VA:F [1.9.10_1130]please wait VA:F [1.9.10_1130](from 0 votes)

    Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account.

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites.

    Click to Rate This Article