Adoption Poetry: Waiting for my Chinese daughters

Adoption Poem

My adopted Daughter.
My adopted Daughter. | Source

Far Across the Sea

Far across the sea,

Far beyond the moon glow,

Far away for me,

Far away my heart goes.

Chorus:

I see the moon and the moon sees me

God bless the moon, God bless you and me


A mother’s love is long,

A mother’s love is deep,

Your mother waits for you,

Praying while you sleep.

Chorus:

I see the moon and the moon sees me

God bless the moon, God bless you and me


My prayers went up for you,

Before you were born,

Your name upon in my heart,

Your name written on my soul.

Chorus:

I see the moon and the moon sees me

God bless the moon, God bless you and me


No matter where you are,

No matter what you’ll be,

You know I wait for you,

Far Across the sea.


Chorus:

I see the moon and the moon sees me

God bless the moon, God bless you and me

Adopting from China

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Red Couch Picture--When everyone else was crying, Steffi seemed undisturbed.Two Chinese Girls. Is it over yet?Adoptive parents photographing!Out for a stroll in China
Red Couch Picture--When everyone else was crying, Steffi seemed undisturbed.
Red Couch Picture--When everyone else was crying, Steffi seemed undisturbed. | Source
Two Chinese Girls. Is it over yet?
Two Chinese Girls. Is it over yet? | Source
Adoptive parents photographing!
Adoptive parents photographing! | Source
Out for a stroll in China
Out for a stroll in China | Source

Adoption and Motherhood

I wrote this adoption poetry as a lullaby to my girls. It was the cry of a mother's heart to her children far away.

Waiting many months for my daughter's paperwork to be processed in China was an intense and often frustrating experience. Taking walks at night, I would think about my daughter in China, wondering who was caring for them, whether they were crying right then, and wishing I could be there to hold them and look into their face. As I walked, I often watched the moon and thought about the fact that the moon connected me to them as it traveled around the earth.

I would read books about the moon, like Margaret Wise Brown's, Goodnight Moon, or Arnold Lobel's Owl stories, to my Chinese daughter's siblings, telling them, "Look at the moon, because your sister in China can see it too." Thinking about this, I wrote this adoption poem about the moon for my girls. Writing adoption poetry was a good outlet for all my feelings when I knew that all I could do was wait.

Before we got our referrals, we had no idea where our daughters were located, what they looked like, or anything else about them. Yet we had named them, and prayed for them even before they were conceived. We prayed that God would take care of them and take care of their birth parents. We prayed for the nannies in the orphanage to have time, patience, strength and joy in caring for all the babies in their charge.

On my first adoption, I was able to meet the orphanage assistant who gave my daughter her Chinese name, Min Jia--which she translated as meaning "pretty and smart." At my second daughter, Steffi's, orphanage, it was clear she had received less personal attention, yet I knew that God was with her and by the time we had been home just a few days, she began to open up to everyone in the family.

The picture above is Steffi in China. You can see such a tentativeness in her expression. She seemed fearful and unsure of what to expect from us and the world. God prompted me to think of the verse, "I was despised and rejected by man," all during my time with her in China. The verse refers to Jesus, but I think God was bringing it to my mind as a realization that although the world did not see Steffi as valuable, God did, and he sovereignly had a place already prepared for her in our family, even before she was born. I don't understand all of that, but I feel the deep truth of it in my heart.

When I brought Steffi home, I kept on thinking of the children's story, Corduroy, which is about a bear who is bought by a little girl. As the little girl brings Corduroy up to her bedroom, he says, "This must be a home, I think I've always wanted a home." Steffi's expression upon coming to our home told me that she felt the same way, she had finally found the home she had somehow known was out there somewhere.

Within a short period of time, Steffi became a very different person from the frightened and sad girl I received from the orphanage in China. In fact, Steffi is perhaps the most popular person I've ever known. Even as a small child, people would stop her when we were in the store to say,"Hi Steffi! Good to see you!"

I didn't know these people! How could they know Steffi? I can only guess they had met her in Sunday School or at the park. She just has a magnetic personality. God has blessed both of my girls. China adoption has changed. There are no longer a lot of little girls available for adoption outside the country. My girls are part of a small group who have been given the chance to make a new life in a new place, surrounded by a family who loves them.

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VirginiaLynne 4 years ago from United States Author

Thanks so much RTalloni! We feel so very blessed.


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RTalloni 4 years ago from the short journey

So precious--thank you for sharing this part of your story from your life as mom to your Chinese daughters--just precious!


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VirginiaLynne 5 years ago from United States Author

tamarawilhite--thanks for your comment. I don't think we've ever thought about it as saving them, although I think to a certain extent that is true. I am aware of one orphange where in the early 1990s the children were mostly dying because of lack of food, disease and people who didn't know how to care for them. I do think the focus of the international adoption community and changes in China have reversed that dramtically. Now many children are in foster care. They may live at a poor level according to Western standards, but certainly they get adequate care. However, they do not have mothers and fathers. When they leave the orphange, they don't have a family to care for them. There is a sadness in that I can't even begin to touch.


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tamarawilhite 5 years ago from Fort Worth, Texas

Thank you for saving these children.


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VirginiaLynne 5 years ago from United States Author

Thanks so much for the comment vianasya! Steffi sometimes will come out to wave goodbye several times as I leave to go somewhere. Sometimes she seems so indomidable, but I know that the sweet vulnerable girl I picked up in China is still there.


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vianasya 5 years ago from Indonesia

The picture of Steffi here is really sweet and beautiful, VirginiaLynne. I hope she always has a wonderful life, filled with lots of love. :)


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VirginiaLynne 5 years ago from United States Author

Thanks prekdjr! I know I am very blessed to have them in my life. I gave them extra hugs this evening just thinking about it.


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prektjr.dc 5 years ago from Riverton, KS, USA

Simply precious. Your children are blessed to have such a sweet mother!


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VirginiaLynne 5 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Cresentmoon! I look at that picture of Steffi from the airport as we are coming home and she seems so tentative. She grew into the sweetest baby. Everyone loved her. Now as a 2nd grader she is called "lighting" by her softball coach for her remarkably fast running and unexpectedly strong swing (she's tiny). What joy and surprises these little ones bring!


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Cresentmoon2007 5 years ago from Caledonia, MI

This is very sweet and the little girl in the pic is adorable.


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VirginiaLynne 5 years ago from United States Author

Thanks PracticalMommy--I love all the Moon books, especially Goodnight Moon. I walk my dog each night and still look up at the moon and think about my girls waiting and watching it too.


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ThePracticalMommy 5 years ago from United States

How beautiful! I love that you incorporated "I see the moon and the moon sees me.." into your lullaby, making that connection to your girls so far away. Your words truly speak of a mother's love. :)

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