From Young Love to Old love, Together the Same.

For as long as l am

Rummaging around amongst old photographs and scribbled notes, l recently came across a very shaky piece of paper with a hole in it. l recognised my own writing and began to read .

It was dated 1969, and it soon became obvious, as a smile spread over my face that it was a poem l´d written for my soon to be husband, all those years ago.

It contained two verses only , but l loved them so much that l´ve added another two, hoping they will still fit together , having been written half by an eighteen year old and half by the Grannie that is now me.

Summer of 1969.

For as long as l am what l am, l shall love you.

For as long as l am.

And l will never try to be more than l am,

Yet never be less than my all.

l shall love you as long as l am.

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For as long as l have what l have, l shall give you,

All that l have to give,

And l will never pretend to give more than l have,

But never give you less than my ALL.

l shall love you as long as l live.

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After forty two years, our love is the same,

l still love you as long as l am,

We have never shied away from the trials of life,

The bumpy ride, we have ridden together,

And loved as long as we can..

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The bond that was there when l wrote, how l loved you,

Has strengthened, has glued us so tight,

And we have never pretended it´s easy,

Yet, kept loving eachother, day and night.

l shall love you as long as l am..

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Somehow l prefer the 1st two verses, written back in 1969, when l was just eighteen, but the final two need to be there , when l hear voices in my head saying ´´It will never last´´.

Our parents said literally that. It won´t last, , our backgrounds were different, l was too young,He, being five years older had been ´doing his own thing´ since he was fifteen and from my parents´ point of view, was far too ´rough and ready´for a little lady like me.

Somehow l don´t think l even heard them. Young love can be deaf as well as blind.

Just as a child seems to remember a permanent Summer from their childhood, my own memories of 1969 are completely of love. Flowers in my hair, Happy gatherings for peace, long floaty dresses, barefoot whenever possible, and the boys..... all with long hair and beards.. Most of all my husbands deep green eyes.

When he looked at me with those beautiful green eyes, l felt no one had ever looked at me quite like that before.

´´Love is a perfect bond of union´´. is one verse in the Bible, taken from the New Testament,

Originally written in Greek. The implications of that Greek word for ´bond´ is that of a strong cement. One that would certainly stick solidly anything you could possibly want it too.

Perhaps in modern times we might compare it to superglue. True love is like superglue.!

Dave and l have certainly become super glued together over forty two years. It´s been needed at times. No one goes through forty two years of marriage on a cloud of problem free joy.

Somehow even as an eighteen year old girl, l must have realised that rose coloured spectacles fall off sometimes altogether, never to be put back on, sometimes for a while and soon we can wear them again. How else could l have written words like..´´Íf l can sit and grow old with you.... l have found the love of my life.´´ Or the words in the above poem...´´l will never pretend to give more than l have.´´ Maybe an óld head on young shoulders´ as an aged relative used to say about me..

Last week, Dave took me to see a ballet of The Snow Queen., l was as excited as a child until l noticed the look of horror on three of our grandsons. ´´´Gramps!´´ they exclaimed in unison, ´going to a BALLET!?´ ´Well at least he´s not IN it¨said the eldest boy. They see ´Gramps´as a rough tough, deep voiced Welshman who doesn´t suffer fools gladly. Poor loves, don´t know the other side of this man.

One elderly lady spotted ´the other side of my deep voiced Welshman´

It was at the end of the performance, when she touched my shoulder and said. ´My dear, l hope you don´t mind me saying so, but it is so unusual to see such a tender moment as l´ve just seen......the way your husband lifted your hair up , so you could get your coat on´..

l laughed, ´´l can´t do it on my own , my hair always ends up half inside my coat and half being blown in the wind. Not easy to brush out later.´´. The loving look in her eyes and the way she smiled at me, told me she has some beautiful memories of her own.

It was an unusual word to use ´tender´ to a complete stranger, l thought. Anyway, to that lady it was a tender moment that put a smile on her face. Nothing beats making someone else happy , even if for only a moment, or better still , for forty two years.


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bayareagreatthing 4 years ago from Bay Area California

Dim I am so speechless at how your story touched and warmed my heart. In a world so torn, your "glue" is something all would hope for! Thank you for giving us a peek at what marriage was meant to be when God said, "the two shall become one".


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caitmo1 4 years ago from Lancashire England

I can see myself in your position having married in 1966 and celebrated our 45th anniversary this year. It's certainly not easy but as time goes on we seem to act as one. We do things automatically without discussion we saeem to know what the other is thinking. I enjoyed the popem. Voted up, useful,beautiful, interesting.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

hey BAGT Great to see you.....

Thanks for the lovely comment.

Hope all is well with you and yours.

God bless, Dim x


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hello caimo1, pleased to meet you on hubpages.

Loved your comment. l can only say ´ditto´..


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Dim you have made me cry!

I thought your poetry and story so moving, just beautiful.

Thank you for sharing - best wishes MM


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Oh ! Movie Master, What a lovely comment, although l´m sorry to make you cry.

l was quite shockd , myself when l found those 2 verses from 1969. l just felt l had to do something with them, after all this time.

Take care.


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WD Curry 111 4 years ago from Space Coast

It was great! Once I got used to the way ya'll spell over there, I realized how it was full of color.

It reminded me of this little old Jamaican couple that I see around here. They must be ninety. They can't get enough of smiling at each other. Once they were waiting in a drizzle for the bus. He was holding the umbrella while she was leaning into him. You could see how their ancient bodies had worn and contorted to conform to each other. The two had become one.


jenubouka 4 years ago

What you have is a rare bond and all who gaze at your union are witnessing a living miracle, god gives us our soul mate, I believe, but it is up to each of us to relish this gift and never take it for granted. Your poem and story inspire me, I always envy love stories such as these, they help me still believe that true love exists in its intended purity of innocence


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hello WD Curry, pleased to meet you on hubpages.

l appreciate your perserverance in trying to understand English spelling. l have the problem the other way around sometimes.

Having a friend from Kansas helps.

Take care. Thanks for the feedback.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you jenubouka.,

l love your comments. You are becoming quite a loyal fan to me. l really enjoy your work too.

You are right about relishing the gift if we are granted it. l would never pretend it´s been all fun and games for 42 years. It´s what we´ve made it. Sometimes have been difficult to say the least, but now we are retired we both are so glad we pulled through those awkward, almost given up moments over the years.


jenubouka 4 years ago

That's what counts, to still love someone at the end of the day even if they have let you down, you still can find the core of strength in your love.

Always enjoy your writing..


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Beautiful comment. Thank you , dear friend.


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epigramman 4 years ago

.....well you, my dear friend, sweet lady of Dim Flaxenwick, are indeed one of the youngest ladies I know, in your heart, in your mind, love the way you write and the way you think - you have been a big big part of my life here at the HUB and I really couldn't have done what I've done without people like you.

lake erie time ontario canada 11:10am love the group photo at the very top


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Oh Epi, You would be a star with or without my little comments, bu l do really appreciate you saying what you did. You are a huge part of my hubpage life too.

Glad you liked the photo. Apart from my husband, me and the Spanish girl with long dark hair, everyone else is Canadian. Most from Toronto. Wonderful friends


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

A brilliant hub wich I thoroughly enjoyed.

So a vote up up and away is essential.

Take care and have a wonderful day.

Eddy.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

That´s very sweet of you, Eddy.

Thank you very much


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acaetnna 4 years ago from Guildford

Gosh this was so amazing. To have been together for all this time, you certainly do have a special bond and love. Your poem especially brought tears to my eyes, beautiful.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you acaetnna., It´s always a pleasure for me whe you leave a comment.

Glad you liked the poem


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blaise25 4 years ago from close to you...

So sweet of you. This is so moving. Love that is everlasting - that's true love. So happy to the both of you.

Beautiful and gold.

xx


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hi blaise,

beautiful comment from you,.

Thank you so much .

Dim x


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htodd 4 years ago from United States

Thanks for the great post..Nice


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you very much htodd.

Pleased to meet you on hubpages

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