Family Meal Time Is An Old Fashion Essential

By Candace Green

Family meal time has been an essential form of family unity for generations.

Most of us can probably recall many table memories and often we can find ourselves smelling mamma's good cookin and daddy solving our daily problems.

In these modern times of fast food and paper plates many rarely take time to plan a healthy home-cooked meal and sit down with the family for fun, food and fellowship.

Work schedules are colliding as mom and dad get home at different times so the children raid the refrigerator for hot pockets and tv dinners.

After the microwave menu is heated ,kids run to the tv or video games for their connection with some fairytale personality that could care less if they had trouble at school that day.

There is just something very special when a home-cooked family meal is prepared and the family gathers around the set table, says grace and enjoys hot fresh recipes.

Mealtime can be a time of reflection, advice, compliments, laughter and many other ways of communication with the ones you love.

Without mealtime many parents stay out of touch with their children's grades, peer pressure issues, school calenders, emotional and spiritual needs.

I am not saying that parents that don't have mealtime do not connect with their kids. I am saying, " By eliminating these precious opportunities we can slowly lose touch." On the lighter side if we choose at least 4 to 5 times a week to gather around the family table, there will be a great improvement in family togetherness and intimate understanding of one another's feeling.

Think about it! At Christmas and Thanksgiving when the family comes in from across the nation and gathers in one place at grandmas house to eat her homemade noodles, hot rolls and pumpkin pies, how does everyone feel? There is usually drooling over the homemade food that grandma spent hours preparing, but enjoyed every minute of it. The air is filled with lots of laughter, jokes and timeless stories told. Lots of hugs, kisses and pats on the back are shared tenderly. Everyone temporarily forgets that life is hectic so they indulge in the gift of each other. When it's time to say goodbye, there is eager anticipation building for the next hello.

When we want to connect with old friends, church groups or clubs we usually plan our meeting around food. Food is definitely a powerful motivator.

Kids adore when mommy or daddy cooks for them, they often pay nice compliments, enjoy setting the table or even helping out with the cooking itself.

Messes are a big reason why many threw away family meal time. Train your children to help. Older children are capable of cleaning up it all, but younger ones may need a little coaching, but you can make it fun for them and less stressful for you. It's just all about taking some mental effort to strategize what works for you and then posting a priority on your memo list and doing it.

The health benefits of home-cooking is undeniable, though you still have to choose recipes carefully.

You can pass out a comment card after each meal to see how they liked your menu, when you see their ratings it will help you determine what really makes them rock at the dining table. You can also take requests, but you will have to explain that it can't be pizza every-time. (Note: Speaking of pizza, homemade pizza can be put together by a family assembly.)

The old fashion family meal time will never go out of style! When your family is grown do you think they will just reminisce on all the wonderful McDonald Happy Meals or Sonics drive through onion rings? Most I am sure will remember moms apple pie and daddy's spicy chili and most important of all they will remember the time you sacrificed (not just slaving in the kitchen), but to spend time with each other. The dividends are worth the investment.

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G-Ma Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

Yes very good my dear.. you have brought back the memories of when I was young..the oldest of four girls....the nights without a dishwasher that we spent washing dishes..and while we did so we sang songs together and spoke of our secret admiration for this boy or that one...and would we kiss him if we got the chance  tsk...tsk.. of when It was my job to take out the garbage and it was usually as the first star came out..and I remember "first star I see tonight..I wish I may  I wish  I might have this wish I wish tonight"  I said  it forever and it was always the same wish. did I ever get that wish??hummmm still wishing on that same star :o).....So in conclusion  eat dinner at least with your children and give them some responsibilities..we are the older ones suppose to know what is right and wrong and what they need to make it in the world and in Love..God Bless you my dear you grow on me more each hub you write....G-Ma :o) hugs


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In The Doghouse 8 years ago from California

I am a big advocate of family meal time. I think that gathering around the table is much more than eating. We have had many a great family chat, and learned many a principle at the table. I don't even think it matters what you cook, it is how you feel that is most important. Great reminder!


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singingmommy 8 years ago from OKLAHOMA Author

Thanks G-ma for the touching comments, you are sure good at giving them:.)

In the Doghouse, you are right, even if from time to time it's not a homemade meal, the togetherness is whats most important. Thanks for your wonderful comment!


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commentonthis7 8 years ago

good hub i like when the whole family get together to lot of memories


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mrs know it all 8 years ago from The Windy City Suburbs

coudn't agree more singingmommy. I cook a lot at home so I really look forward to this one time a day for all of us to regroup. I'm hoping we'll be able to continue that when the kids get older and busier.


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jim10 8 years ago from ma

I have 3 young boys and my wife works the opposite schedule to avoid daycare and to make enough money. It can be pretty hard sometimes for all of us to be at the table. But it is always at least me or my wife with the kids. We both think it is very important. I always try to get the kids to help me with making breakfast, dinner or desert together. I think it is great to make the food together too. I always helped my grandmother with cooking and we are very close.


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lemmyC 7 years ago from UK

I've just browsed through your hub - very impresssive!

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