Guide for Being A Good Neighbor

If you have ever moved to a new neighborhood or town, you will know that new neighbors can either make or break the experience for you. A smiley, or grumpy, face can quickly set the tone for your expectations on the neighborhood.

If you find yourself in the fortunate position of being able to give a warm welcome to a new family moving into your community, why not take up these tips from a moving and storage company in Durham to brighten their day?

Get them connected – A simple piece of paper with emergency numbers on it can have an immediate calming effect on someone who finds themselves in a strange new place. Take a moment and write down a few contact details of the area’s most important people: the local hospital or doctor, the nearest police station, and even include your number if you are ok giving it out. Try to assess their needs, and write down numbers to suit that too. If they have a pet, include the number of a vet you would recommend. A local family restaurant (include at least one that delivers), or even the address of or a map to the closest grocery or convenience store can help them out of a tight spot. If you have a fridge magnet to spare, pass that along to your new neighbors as well so they can immediately pop your note onto the fridge for everyone to see.


Lend a hand – Without intruding, find out whether the new family needs help of any kind. This is a sensitive time in their life, and there’s no telling what they might need. Make a polite inquiry, and be willing to do whatever they ask of you – move a couch or take the dog for a walk. If they have children, offer to distract them and keep them safe by telling them stories about the neighborhood or playing with them in their new back yard. If the new neighbors have pets, offer to babysit the animals while they settle in – animals are often anxious by such big moves and it may help to keep them calm removing them from the chaos. If you can afford it, why not feed the family that night by inviting them over for dinner or have food delivered, so they won’t have to dig for pots and pans in their new kitchen.

Make them proud to be local – Change is scary, and it helps to be reassured that you have made the right choice for you and your family by making the move to a new neighborhood. Reassure your new neighbors that they could not have chosen a better place by showing off the neighborhood a bit. A packet of brochures for clubs and organizations to get involved in, the local newspaper or a few menus from the local favorite restaurants will make them feel right at home. If they can find something as simple as that to connect to, be assured that they will find their feet quickly. If your neighborhood has a famous food that the locals are mad about, take the new neighbors a sample of it to introduce them to it right away. Your pride at being local is sure to rub off on them.

Remember that moving house is stressful. Offer your services, but remain respectful of the family and their current situation as they may want some time and privacy while settling in. Often a friendly face in a strange place is enough to put someone at ease.

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Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

This is great, wish I had seen it sooner. You give some really good advice. ^+

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RTalloni 2 years ago from the short journey

What a grrreat hub! Neighborhoods are such important parts of communities and yet neighbors have become so distant from each other. Expecting to see this highlighted many times over and awarded. Creating a new Pinterest board in my Solve It group to put it in called Community.

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Better Yourself 2 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks Jackie! It's never too late to build a relationship with neighbors.

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Better Yourself 2 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks so much RTalloni! I agree, building friendships with neighbors isn't as common anymore and it's sad. Growing up I knew all my neighbors and they knew us, but now I still have some neighbors who won't smile, wave or acknowledge me back. It's nice to know and trust the people near by so you can look out for each other.

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Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

A brilliant hub and so interesting.

Great work and I thank Jackie for introducing your work to me.

Here's to so many more hubs for us to share on here.

Enjoy your weekend and I vote up.


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Better Yourself 2 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks so much Eiddwen, and I'm glad you enjoyed the hub! Hope you enjoy your weekend as well!

And thanks Jackie for the intro :)

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Marie Flint 2 years ago from Jacksonville, FL

Cute hub. I've been in Jacksonville a little under a year and I'm still trying to adapt. One of the first things I found myself doing was picking up the trash along our street (categorized as a road).

I also met a nice lady who has horses and lets me get horse manure for my garden.

The man next door does wood working. I watered their plants while they were away. Now he's going to try to make a craft table for me. (I'll pay him, but the point is the willingness to help.)

I think I needed to read this hub because sometimes I feel a little alienated. I realize, though, that I am the one who has to make the choice about how I feel about my relatively new home and neighborhood. Your hub has helped me reassure myself that "it's all working out."

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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

Perfect advice! I like your specifics regarding numbers for a local vet, take-out, etc. So often these days people keep to themselves and don't bother to make an effort.

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Better Yourself 2 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks Marie! Moving away from all your used can be tough but it seems like you've found some great neighbors to help make it easier! All the best as you continue to transition!

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Better Yourself 2 years ago from North Carolina Author

Thanks FlourishAnyway! Agreed - people aren't as open to meeting new neighbors as they used to be, but hopefully this will reach some people and be an encouragement to be a better neighbor!

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teaches12345 2 years ago

I have moved several times over the past years and each time there was a great neighbor who welcome our family with several of the ideas you present. I try to get around to say hi to a new neighbor within the first few days. It is comforting to know someone cares able to provide information. Your suggestion to invite them to dinner or provide dinner is one that has really helped us in the past. Wonderful post.

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