Help Organize Yourself Or Someone You love

Clutter can drive you nuts
Clutter can drive you nuts | Source

I read someplace if wealth were determined by the amount of paper you had in your possession you would be wealthy. How true. In the first 5 years of our marriage we moved five times. You get tired of moving stuff. Upset when you move something you should have purged. The key is to get good at donating to friends, charity and trash.

Eventually we began to stay longer. When we were in the same place for six years I pretended we were moving every so often, going through the house eliminating unused or unneeded items. Somehow there was a yearning to get rid of more.

Rules to this game:

  1. You cannot throw out other peoples belongings without their consent.
  2. You must teach any children in the home when something comes in, something must go out.
  3. You must investigate all pockets and open all boxes to inspect contents before purging.

Living in married students housing with nine hundred square feet to store four bicycles, skis, baby stuff and books was tight. Being poor college students was self limiting.

The next move was to a house that was twelve hundred square feet, with an attached garage that was eight hundred square feet. Oh heavenly delight. The bicycles had their own snug home in the garage. They were out of the house for the first time in the eleven years of our marriage.

The only snag was the kitchen. The kitchen in our tiny apartment had twice the storage the house did. The drawers were so narrow I put my silverware tray in a cupboard. I had to come up with some creative ideas organizing things. Too complicated forget it (too much work). Look for ways that make sense for your organizing style.

The file cabinet and donation/disposal method are the most efficient tools for organizing my home. I am also fond of dressers for putting clothing into. Does the younger generation have a dresser phobia? My youngest hasn't had a dresser in years. He keeps everything in laundry baskets or hung up. I thought it was a younger generation quirk until discovering its hereditary. Dad doesn't have a dresser. He hangs all his clothing in closet, puts them in cupboards or laundry baskets. If it isn't easy he won't organize either.

He is an engineer, so believe me he is organized. I just don't like his organization techniques or the shear amount of stuff he organizes. Maybe there should be another rule to my game 4. You must respect others organizing methods. You don't have to like them.

Begin Slowly with a small area

In my mind something is organized if: I can find it when I am looking. If I can tell others where to look.  If someone you can dust a flat counter without difficulty
In my mind something is organized if: I can find it when I am looking. If I can tell others where to look. If someone you can dust a flat counter without difficulty | Source

Start Slowly

Expectations Unless you have an army of willing workers do not expect to put everything to rights in one day. Take small steps. Start with a workspace, cupboard or closet. Work at it for as long as it takes to clear out, throw out and neatly replace those absolutely essential belongings. Then celebrate! Take what you purge to Good Will then take yourself out for a Mocha. You deserve a treat for your hard work.

Having just spent a week with dad I am sorely aware that organizing clutter can be overwhelming. Dad's large three sided island, big enough to seat 5 people for a meal, was piled high. We had five people to feed and it needed to be cleared. Since he lives in a rural area without trash pick up we had to get creative. There was an enormous amount of papers. He hasn't felt well for some time and it just got away from him.

If you are organizing yourself you can skip this lecture. If organizing someone else listen closely.

Someone who has clutter overwhelming them needs to know you care deeply. Brother had been with Dad for a week when we got there. He had spent time pampering Dad. He took him to doctors appointments, rubbed his feet with cream, helped him pull on his compression socks and did some car maintenance.

Dad hadn't wanted to talk about the counter. A story for a different time.

Dad is actually my father-in-law. We have a very special relationship. I can say things to him nobody, except his mother would have ever gotten away saying. My husband, his brothers and sisters are always amazed what I can cajole Dad into doing.

After being married 18 months and while I was 14,000 miles from home, my father died suddenly of cancer. I wrote my father-in-law a letter adopting him. I told him I positively couldn't live without a father and he was enough like my dad to fit the bill. To my knowledge that was the only letter he never directly answered. He kept track of every letter written to him and always knew whose turn it was to write. If you wanted to make Dad happy you wrote him a letter. My own father wrote regularly when any of us kids was away.

If you are trying to get a parent or a child to purge . Take time with them. Find out what keeps them from letting go. If it is your parent, respect them, get them to tell you the history of the things they are holding onto. The history of Dad's island was simple; his sister wanted him to go through stuff and put a pile of it on the counter. He refused to remove the clutter because he was mad at her. There is always a story.

Beginnings And Simple Ideas

What can obviously be tossed?

  • The first step was to get rid of the peanut butter jars and Lean Cuisine trays. In my California town that stuff would have gone into the recycling bin. We hauled them away.(Be careful! Make sure that whoever you are organizing doesn't have a legitimate use for something you think is trash). I had to replace a few yogurt cups. Dad used them as measuring cups. His liquids are severely limited. Those were the cups he measured what he drank from.
  • File cabinet. Some of the of the stuff on the counter was important paperwork. As I sat looking at the stuff the light came on. A perfect location for a file cabinet. When I suggested to Dad that most of the stuff on the counter would be safer in a file cabinet. He looked at me for a long while then said." I'll give you twenty dollars to set it up". Oh how my heart was singing. (Remember your parents are not stupid. You have to give them a reason for doing things)
  • Donate. Dad has all the cookware from his mother and anything his siblings didn't want He needed these things when he moved south, but now not quite so much. Unless you are a chef you don't need six frying pans and ten pie plates. Now dad wasn't keen on giving the stuff away. When I suggested tax deductions for donations to Good Will he began to think about it. (You can go on line and determine the value of your belongings for donation)

Get Help

In Dad's case he needed help. His idea of house keeping and mine are really different. I don't know if he is a hoarder. Someone who is a hoarder needs a broader scope of help. One friend of mine dealt with her hoarding mother's kitchen in an amusing fashion. Her fiancé was coming to meet her parents. Arriving a few days before her fiancé my friend became the most clumsy college student there ever was. She would knock plastic containers off the counter and accidentally" step on them. More cottage cheese tubs and the like fell prey to her clumsiness."Oh Mom, I am just so nervous that Larry is coming. Do you think you will like him"? Not elegant, but the broken tubs were thrown out as was anything she could get out of the house without her parents notice.

People who are hoarders need professional help. Hoarders can be embarrassed by the mess they are in yet unable to let go of anything. Be gentle with them.

The Side Tracked Home Executives, helped me begin to get organized. Any system will work if you are diligent. Just remember when organizing yourself or others simple is best. A system that is to complicated leads to discouragement, Slowly go through one drawer or closet at a time. When you have gone through the entire house remember these rules, so you can keep your place tidy and well organized.

  1. If you take it out, you put if back.
  2. If it needs cleaning, clean it.
  3. If you bring something new into the house something old has to leave.
  4. Throw away junk mail as it comes in. Shred ads for credit cards and important documents.

Happy Organizing

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formosangirl 5 years ago from Los Angeles

Nice hub! I definitely could be more organized.


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Nefarious_Misery 5 years ago from on the move

I love the idea of PRETENDING to move every so often. I think I'll bring that one up at home.

Voted up and useful.


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thumbi7 5 years ago from India

I am very much in the process of organising one table a day or one room a day and teaching my girls the same thing. Thanks for a great hub.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

Great advices for organizing the home! I should really start to practice to take old stuff out when I bye new things. For some reason there is always to much things in the house.

Great hub,

Tina


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rebeccamealey 5 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

Good information. I am going to share this one with my daughter.Thanks!


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Helpful hub! How nice of you to help your Dad to get organized. I have been working on organizing and de cluttering. What a task! But it sure feels good when I complete a room or area. :) Thanks.


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

I could do with you here organising me!

I agree with nefarious Misery, your idea of pretending to move to have a clear-out is brilliant!

Great advice and tips, thank you for sharing, voted up.


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mljdgulley354 5 years ago

Great hub. Lots of good ideas, you just have to keep after it. We moved from a 3bedroom, 3bath house with a 30x40 garage, 12x12 shed into a 30ft fifth wheel. I got rid of everything. We are back in a 3bedroom 2bath house with a 30x30 garage and 8x10 shed. Been almost a year and my husband keeps saying how in the world did we accumulate so much already? Loved your hub


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tirelesstraveler 5 years ago from California Author

Vocal Coach and Movie Master, There is an amazing feeling of clarity when we clear-out the excessive goods.

Mljdulley354 how on earth did you ever make that move. You must have been ruthless? Bravo!


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breakfastpop 5 years ago

After reading your useful hub, I now appreciate how organized I am! Your advice is extremely worthwhile.


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tirelesstraveler 5 years ago from California Author

Thanks Pop- Your satire has set me on a new course of writing for hub pages. I also am grateful that I am somewhat organized.


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carolyn a. ridge 4 years ago

This is great! Thanks for helping your dad. You are absolutely right: start slowly. You could probabaly do your own reality show on how to live within 900 square feet, and have 4 bicycles! I love your 4 ideas. Hoarding is a very serious problem, and it does require professional help. I voted !!


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starstream 4 years ago from Northern California

We have moved too many times but the sorting helps to remember what we are actually using. I need to get more organized. thanks..


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starstream 4 years ago from Northern California

Oh yes... I just saw your great photo! YEA...lets get to work.


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

starstream- lol! Love your comment on the counter. It will be clean today. I promise. Cheers!


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The-BestMouseTrap 4 years ago from The heartland, USA

Hmmm, I could hub or I could organize, awww, I'd rather hub! Really good ideas. Since I started my internet marketing adventure, about a year ago, I have gotten lax on organizing. I usually do it in spurts by season. Influx of Christmas stuff will launch an new winter organization frenzy on Dec 26. Good information, voted up and all else. Merry Christmas


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

The-Best, I would always rather hub than clean, but in order to stay married I found the latter rather important in my husband's eyes. He's just about perfect so I give him some slack here.


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai

You are very true , there are lots of unwanted things you stack in your house to make it cramped and cluttered. Thanks for your suggestions.


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

mathira- Thank you for stopping and for following me. Happy New Years.


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oceansnsunsets 4 years ago from The Midwest, USA

Great tips for losing the clutter in life. I struggle with this sometimes, if I am honest, but love the feeling when things get organized. I like to be able to find things quickly, and feel comfortable in the space I am in. Great tips!


Sparklea 4 years ago

LOVE anything written about organizing! I'm in my writing room today trying to clear out clutter, and your hub came in handy. THANK YOU. My biggest problem is all the notes I have written that I might "need" some day for a writing project? Blessings always Sparklea :)


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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

oceansnsunsets and Sparklea- I love to be organized and get there about once a week if I'm lucky. Terrific of you both to visit. Thank you for your comments.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Love this hub. Clutter can cause a world of problems. GBY.

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