Living as a family - Moving on

A small part of our front garden. (copyright)
A small part of our front garden. (copyright) | Source

Living as a Family

Making the moving on decision

Living as a family, as I described in an earlier Hub, was a five year plan, that has now turned into nine years. Now it is time to 'move on' !

Over the last 2 or 3 years my husband and I have found that the amount of work needed to keep the hundreds of rose plants, garden,hedges, pruning and lawns looking as they should,had become a full time job, leaving no time,or very little to do other things.

The rest of the family had their own lives,priorities, and young children to take care of and did not have the time to put into the upkeep of the gardens and lawns. They did what they could when they could. Having full time jobs,spare time was extremely limited.
With this in our minds we have all decided to sell this large property and each family buy their own smaller home.

This decision did not come easy for any of us and has taken some considerable time to reach, there was a lot of soul searching,is this what we really want. Discussions on a daily basis, we shared our ideas and needs, they shared theirs. Some days things went forward, other days things went back, and eventually everything was worked out and we were all more than happy with our final decisions. Big smiles all around. :) :)

Our back paddock.Lots of room to run and play for our Grandchildren.(Copyright)
Our back paddock.Lots of room to run and play for our Grandchildren.(Copyright) | Source

The work begins

First there was repairs and maintenance on the property, which fortunately there were not a lot, and did not take too much effort or time.
Next came the garden,cutting back shrubs, pruning, mulching and all the rest of it, There was not a lot to do there either, but it does all take time. I must say the garden looked a picture when we had finished.
Then came the slashing, mowing, whipper-snipping of the grass and lawns.
It was all pretty full on, but everyone pitched in which made it a lot easier.
We have had so much rain over the past three or four weeks, the lawn mowers were getting bogged,which made things a little harder, (this is our summer). We got there in the end, and were more than happy with ourselves. :)

This is a large property and we are all too busy doing other things to look after it as we would like to and it should be. The roses alone are a full time job.

Baby Wattle Bird getting his own lunch.(Copyright)
Baby Wattle Bird getting his own lunch.(Copyright) | Source

Choosing a Real Estate Agent

Next was to choose an Estate Agent, that was a nightmare on it's own. Out of 9 that came to look at and discuss our needs and expectations re our property only one had any clues on selling acreage and his body language was spot on plus we all liked him. So now we had our Agent, thank goodness for that.
The "For Sale" Signs are up. It has just hit me, this is for real and it is all happening .

This Duck dropped in on his way home.(Copyright)
This Duck dropped in on his way home.(Copyright) | Source

Garage Sale

Three of the five garages were full of stuff that we had collected, some of it was never unpacked when we moved here. It was like Christmas going through things that we had long forgotten we had, so we figured that if we had not used it in nine years it would have to go, apart from some items that were special to us.

Next came the Garage Sales (Yard Sales) where you put all your unwanted stuff in and around your garage, put a sign out the front of your home, and people drop in to check it out and haggle over the price. It is fun, no one likes to pay what you are asking. It makes it very interesting,and you get a little money for stuff that you don't want or need anymore.

It was an eye opener for me, being a novice at garage sales, Items that to me were worth very little, folks would pay more then we thought they were worth, and things we thought were worth a little more they only wanted to pay half the price. It,s a strange and wonderful world.
Our Granddaughter was only three months old when we moved here, she is now over nine. She wanted to have her own stall to sell clothing that she and her brother had grown out of, plus unwanted toys, she sorted it, set it up and priced it all by herself, had her moneybox ready to collect the money. It was beautiful not one person tried to beat her down on price.( there was nothing over two dollars.) She was so excited and proud of herself, walking around smiling at everyone that came in, and I guess making sure that no one took anything of hers without paying. (that,s not nice but unfortunately it happens). She loved it and wants to do it again soon. She is a beautiful and very polite little lady, and oh so very much loved, as is our Grandson.

The Hard Part

Our Grandchildren were a little upset when told that we would be moving away from them, we did explain to them that they could come for holidays anytime that they wanted to, that helped a little, but they were not fully convinced.
Also they did not understand that their new home (land size) would be a lot smaller than this property, yes they have visited friends that live on small blocks, but have never lived on one themselves, also these small blocks do not have very large water tanks as we have, they would not be able to hear and see all the different birds, rabbits, foxes, frogs, etc.
It will be a whole new experience and learning curve for them.

Baby Black Cockatoo, they come at the same time each year.(Copyright)
Baby Black Cockatoo, they come at the same time each year.(Copyright) | Source

The Future

Moving day is going to be a very sad one for both of us, (although we are trying to stay positive. ) I get a tad emotional when it comes to my children and grandchildren and am not looking forward to it at all, I keep telling my self that we are not moving overseas or to another state, just 300k,s down the road. ( Self is finding it hard to get the message)

I would not change Living as a Family one iota, It was a fabulous, wonderful and a very special time of my life.
Now it is 'us' time and all being well we hope to see more of our beautiful Country and we will be taking Oliver with us He is all decked out,ready to go.

So if any folks out there are thinking of living as or with your family just try it, it's great, more so if there are Grandchildren involved. :) :)

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victor67 5 years ago from LAGOS

I believe that divorce has not done better, i believe prayers will work out when all has failed.


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Darlene Sabella 5 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

This is at the point for me I am facing. I really want to put this off for a long as I can, yet it rolls around in my head all the time. Your hub was so special, and so true and I enjoyed reading it. Rate up love & peace darski


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Twilight Lawns 5 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

This hub has broken my heart on several levels. The property looks lovely and thought of splitting up a family is awful. Asian families and many south Europeans families keep the family unit as a whole. The wattle and the fauna made it so endearing for me, an ex WA man... all it needed was a Pink and Grey Galah, and I would be shedding more tears than I am now.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Victor67. Hi. Divorce I hope you don't think I meant that we were getting a divorce. No divorce's happening here :) :) We are just downsizing to smaller homes.

Thank you for your comment. :) :)


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Darlene Sabella. darski Hi. This was a very hard decision for all of us,as it will be for you.

Not knowing all of your circumstances, I hope this goes some way in helping you reach your right decision.

This property is beautiful, but a lot of hard work.

The only difference will be is that we will be living on much smaller blocks at different addresses, and our family is and will always be very close.Nothing will change there.

As Agvulpes and I are no longer spring chickens, there are things we want to do and places we want to go,we feel now is the perfect time.

Thank you so very much for your lovely comment, also for your vote of confidence. love and peace to you and your family. :) :) Oliver also sends you a :)


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Feline Prophet 5 years ago from India

Must be a bitter sweet time for you and the Noble Fox! All the best - may your move be smooth and may you enjoy your travels together! :)


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Twilight Lawns. Hi. No heartache and tears. It is a great time for us all,full of excitement and adventure.

This property is beautiful and we all love it, the reality is , it is just too big and we all have other things that we want to do.

Our family is in no way splitting up as such,just moving to smaller blocks at different locations.

We will always be there for one another, no matter what,just not at the same address for now. Maybe we will live this way again down the track, who knows.

Our children want to do certain things with their young children, and Agvulpes,Oliver and I want to visit more of our beautiful country and revisit other parts.This is the absolute right time to do all this.

We do have Galas come by on occasions,they are a beautiful bird.

I do know certain cultures are surrounded by family all their lives and I think that is wonderful.

Maybe you will come back to Australia one day.We think it is the greatest country on earth.

Thank you so very much for your lovely comment. I am sorry that it upset you, that was not my intention.Bye for now. :) :)


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Feline Prophet. Hi. Yes you are right it is.

We will miss one another terribly,I personally my Grandchildren,but we will only be a phone call away, and frequent holidays have already been talked about.

Its sad and exciting all rolled into one.

Thank you for your lovely comment and your good wishes, they are very much appreciated by both of us. :) :) Oliversmum and Agvulpes.


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GusTheRedneck 5 years ago from USA

Hellop oliversmum - Well , my bride, the boss here of so many years now that I have lost count, decided that we were NOT going to move from our small home out into the country - to some 100 or more acres on which both of us could get lost and hungry (and tired and worn out, etc.). There went my "empire."

I can understand the desire to downsize. Thanks for the very fine article.

Gus :-)))


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Alexander Mark 5 years ago from beautiful, rainy, green Portland, Oregon

I admit that I haven't read the previous hub, but any kind of life change is difficult, even if it's the right thing to do. I know it doesn't compare, but I am selling my beloved station wagon because it is old and I prefer a 4X4. But my family memories are tied up in station wagons, and I feel like I'm cutting off a limb. But I want to move forward too and I know it's right. It sounds like you have made a similar but much harder decision. Hope you don't have to live too far away from your family.


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Mrs. J. B. 5 years ago from Southern California

I know you have given this a lot of thought. I know that you are doing what is best.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

GusTheRedneck.Hi. I am still smiling reading your comment.

Your bride sounds like a very wise lady. 100 acres sounds like a lot of land to get lost, hungry and worn out on,you would have to take a cut lunch in case you could not find your way back.:)

I can loose myself on 2 acres.

You may have lost your "empire" but you still have your bride which is the most important thing.

Thank you Gus for understanding our situation and your great comment, it was uplifting.:) :) Oliver also sends a :) to you both.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Alexander Mark. Hi. No worries,

I believe as you get older,change takes a little longer to come to terms with.

We all believe that it is the right time to do our own thing for a while.

I do understand about your beloved station wagon,but you will still have all your memories to carry with you for ever.

Moving forward is very hard, but if it feels right at the time,then it must be right.

If all goes to plan we will be about 3-4 hours away from them, not too far really.

Good luck with the hard decision that you have to make.

Thank you so much for your lovely comment, it is very much appreciated. :) :)


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Mrs.J.B. Hi. Yes we did think long and hard and all ended up on the same page. Our decision was right for all of us to do our own thing at this time.

We are now looking forward to the next phase in all our lives.

Thank you so very much for dropping by and leaving a nice comment. :) :)


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Hello, hello, 5 years ago from London, UK

A very informative hub written from the heart.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Hello, hello, Hi. It will be a little strange at first,it,s been 8 years, but we are all looking forward to the future.

Thank you so much for your lovely comment.It was nice to hear from you. :) :)


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maggs224 5 years ago from Sunny Spain

An excellent hub I enjoyed reading it very much. Like the good book says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven:”

As one season closes another one opens it sounds like you are embarking on your new season at the right time.

Some times when we try to hang onto something past its season it spoils it is good to let go before that happens. That way you leave with the most wonderful memories and with few regrets.

You have had an enviable season with your family, and I expect the next season to be no different in its outcome.

New time, new season and new purpose wow what an adventure thanks for taking us along for the ride and I look forward to reading about your new journey.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

maggs224. Hi. Thank you so much,it means a lot to know that you enjoyed this particular season in our lives.

We have had many wonderful times in our lives,and have been blessed with such a wonderful family, but now is the right time to close this page and open another for all of us and having absolutely no regrets and the most beautiful memories to take with us all.It feels good.

You are so right you do have to know when to change seasons.

Agvulpes,Oliver and I are very much looking forward to a new and exciting journey.

May be there will be another story to write about,time will tell.

Thank you again for your lovely comment, it is very much appreciated.:) :)


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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

Hi Oliversmum, yes it's a tough decision that you simply have to make. We all slow down and that time is getting closer for my wife and I. You will still have your work cut out in the new place, as there is always something that needs attending to. good luck with the move, i'm hoping that you will let us know thing pan out and that the transition period is not too stressful. Cheers


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

attemptedhumour. Hi. Yes it was,but now the decision has been made and everyone is happy about it, we are all looking forward to the future.

There is always some chore that needs to be done and if it is not done today it can be done tomorrow, it wont matter.

Thank you so much for your good wishes. Maybe there will be another chapter to write about down the track,I hope so.

Thanks again for your great comment. I do appreciate it when you stop by. :) :)


imranhaider 5 years ago

nice activity


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

imranhaider. Hi. It is a lovely way to live. Now it is time to do something different with our lives.

Thank you for your comment. :) :)


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marshacanada 5 years ago from Vancouver BC

This is a good story in progress. I can relate to the difficult decisions you make OLIVERSMUM.

My partner lives in the country.Her kids bought her large plot of land with three houses when it became too much for her and the kids and grandkids are very close. Its a wonderful way to live and raise children. But its a lot of work-especially you had such a garden. I live in Vancouver in a city house and visit regularly.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

marshacanada. Hi. Thank you. Now that the decision has been made, we are now all looking forward to the next phase in our lives.

Your partners children must be similar to ours, I can understand that living on a large block can get the better of you, as it did in our case, but it has been an absolutely wonderful time in our lives and would not have missed it for anything.

You must enjoy your visits to the countryside,it is a whole new world.

Thank you so much for your lovely comment. :) :)


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toknowinfo 5 years ago

Change brings with it a lot of emotions. But it seems you are embracing it in a wonderful way. I wish you luck in this newest chapter of your life. Thanks for sharing.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

toknowinfo. Hi. Yes it certainly does.

Now we are all looking forward to what lies ahead.

Our grandchildren are now getting very excited, a whole new world is now opening up for them as well.

Thank you so very much for your good wishes and your great comment, it is very much appreciated. :) :).


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Peggy W 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

I could relate to opening those boxes that had been packed for a number of years and discovering "treasures" all over again. At one point, my parents had moved so often that they had a number of packed boxes...just like yours. My dad said why not donate them and get rid of them. Prior to doing that, my mother and I had our own "Christmas-time" of opening boxes and discovering things we had not seen in years. Some were kept...others donated. It was fun!

Good luck and best wishes on your new journey!


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Peggy W. Hi. Yes it was exciting opening all the boxes,especially my collection of dolls.

Our grandchildren were over the moon, as certain things were handed down to them that had been in the family for years.

Your dad was right, we did donate a lot of things that were still in good order, and hopefully made other folks lives a little happier. It was a good feeling.

Thank you so much for your lovely comment and good wishes. :) :)


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howcurecancer 5 years ago

A very touching story.


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Rossimobis 5 years ago from Biafra

This is inspirational and it kept me on for one hour because i read it four times. Voted up.


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

howcurecancer. Hi. Thank you. A new and exciting time in all our lives.

Thanks again for your lovely comment. :) :)


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Rossimobis. Hi. Thank you so very much for spending all that time reading my story, it made me feel very proud.

It is a whole new and exciting time in all our lives, which we are looking forward to.

Thanks again for the lovely comment and voting it up. :) :)


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Pollyannalana 5 years ago from US

That granddaughter sounds like a jewel, I wish I had one of them. Good luck.

Polly


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oliversmum 5 years ago from australia Author

Pollyannalana. Hi. Sorry for the delay in answering your comment.

She is beautiful on the inside as well as the outside, We are so very lucky to have her, as well as our grandson, he also puts a huge smile on our face every day.

Maybe one day your wish will come true, I hope so.

Thank you so much for your lovely comment and good wishes. :) :)


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billips 4 years ago from Central Texas

What a lovely hub - yes, a bit sad in some senses, but also exciting and optimistic - I made a huge move a short time ago - from a large, wild lot on a small island to a new smaller house on a smaller and not so wild lot - a move of 1500 miles - my 25th move - I have always found moving exciting, new places to see, new friends to meet,and a chance to clean out all that accumulated clutter - really a whole new life - and of course I am now only ten minutes away from my sweet daughter - life is one great adventure and every moment should be savored, as it will not come again - I hope you will be content and happy in your new home - best regards and a Happy Christmas to you and yours - B.

P.S. the roses are lovely - my favorite flower.


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oliversmum 4 years ago from australia Author

billips Hi. Thank you.

We have now moved and waiting for our home to be built.

Its beautiful where we have chosen to live, and are excited and looking forward to this next page in our lives.

Saying goodbye to my children and Grandchildren was hard.

Christmas Eve/Day won't be the same either,but they are only a phone call or email away.

You lived on an Island, that must have been wonderful. Was the weather wild or the environment.

Moving that many times,you must have it all down pat.

Also being close to your daughter must be wonderful for you.

Yes everybody should do what they can while they can and stop and smell the roses along the way,(no pun intended)

The Roses were beautiful,We did bring a lot of our favorite ones with us.

Thanks again for your lovely comment.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.:):)


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katyzzz 4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

So sad, if only some other family members could have taken it on, but life does move on. Wonderful hub, great property, sorry about this late comment


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oliversmum 4 years ago from australia Author

katyzzz. Hi.

katyzzz. Hi.

yes it was sad, and the property was beautiful.

We have now all moved to our individual smaller property's and are extremely happy and excited with the new season in our lives.

Thank you so much for your comment, it was nice to hear from you.

Merry Christmas.:) :)


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2patricias 4 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

You were very brave to decide to move. I think sometimes people try to hold on to existing situations, even as they recognise the need for change. This can turn what was a happy situation into something to be endured rather than enjoyed.

I see that you are pleased with the way things turned out.

well done.


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oliversmum 4 years ago from australia Author

2patricias Hi. Our family as a whole decided it may be time to move on.

Different generations need to do different things,but it took a long time to actually start the ball rolling and do something about it,but we got there in the end.

We are all thrilled with our new homes and very happy with our decisions.:)

Our grandchildren are coming to stay at Easter,so the Easter Bunny has to be advised in advance on where and how to find them.

Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. :):)

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