Man Caves - Should Every Man Have One?

Man Cave

Civil War memorabilia decorate this man cave.
Civil War memorabilia decorate this man cave. | Source
Caveman knew what he wanted and took it.
Caveman knew what he wanted and took it. | Source

History of Man Cave

There are tons of web sites on the Internet full of man cave ideas and man cave accessories. What led to today's man cave? While today's version of a Man Cave is a sanctuary for men, just how did the Man Cave start? Early man was a cave dweller, the cave being his place of shelter. Because most of early man's remains have been found in caves it is believed that is where he lived, thus the Man Cave. Sometimes man and his family had to move from cave to cave during different seasons for food or better shelter. Of course, early man had to allow women and family to live in the cave with him. From what we know of cave men, they ruled the roost. If his woman upset him or he saw a woman he wanted, he hit her over the head, grabbed her hair and pulled her home to his man cave.

Soon man began to move out of caves and built shelter from animal hides and sticks. The man cave lived on in his memory though as he found he was no longer in charge of his dwelling. He knew he needed a place to be alone and remember his greatness.

My Husband's Man Cave

Main wall
Main wall | Source
Side wall...note the duck lamp made by my husband in high school.
Side wall...note the duck lamp made by my husband in high school. | Source

Today's Man Cave

Today a Man Cave is a place for man to escape. Somewhere he can be alone or with his friends and be a man. Paula Aymer of Tufts University calls it the "last bastion of masculinity", I'm just quoting.

A Man Cave can be anything from a room to a basement to a garage. It is just a name given a man's private space. What constitutes a Man Cave? Well, that varies by man. It's size depends on the size of the house and space available and perhaps the size of the man, not forgetting of course, the generosity of his woman. It's location is anywhere man or wife chooses it to be. DIY Network says, " there's an environment for every guy that makes him feel fulfilled", so it would seem safe to say there's a man cave for every man and man caves are as diverse as man.

A Man Cave can be tailored to fit a particular man's tastes; a pool room, a home theater, a fifties diner, a reconstructed dorm room, a room full of computers and technical equipment, an outdoor/hunting theme, it may include tacky items no woman would allow in her house! Remember, we said the sky is the limit and it is after all a place for men, not women so Shabby Chic is definitely out. Refrigerators and televisions are in though, after all you need a place to keep a cold beer and something to watch the game. You might want to add a comfortable chair or two if you have that big screen television.

The Man Cave Doesn't Have to be Big

Converted to man caves

Garage converted to bar
Garage converted to bar | Source
Another bar garage with pool table
Another bar garage with pool table | Source

Man Cave Décor

With the diversity available and differing tastes abounding, I repeat, the sky is the limit! It seems basements and attics are a favorite when they are available, however, any space will do as I mentioned earlier. A man's hobbies or likes influence how he will decorate his cave. Games are a big plus, both electronic and non-electronic, maybe dartboards or pin ball machines regardless of the overall theme of the room.

The first step would be to decide a color scheme, yes, even for a man cave. If there is a green pool table you may want to go with beige walls, that kind of thing. Of course a theme would make the whole process easier. It may be outdoorsy like my husband's or it may be a sports theme, or a bar with card tables. For instance if you were going with a New York Yankee theme you'd pretty much have your colors laid out for you in red, white, and blue. If you were to go with the Yankee theme, posters, old seats from a baseball stadium and other baseball memorabilia might fill out the room.

It is fairly typical for man cave décor to include a lot of wood. Not necessarily wood paneling but wood ceiling beams and lots of wood moulding and woodwork. It also seems most men prefer dark wood as it gives a richer, manlier appearance. Don't forget the lighting, it sets the mood of any room and the Man Cave is no exception. Another item you may not think is important is the floor, but like any room the right floor can set the tone of the room. Some men will prefer rugs while others will be happier with wood or tile floors.

Game Room Man Cave

Bob Vila's Blog - Essentials for the Man Cave

From designer Debbie Wiener on Bob Vila's Blog:

  1. A REALLY big flat screen TV
  2. A really comfortable recliner
  3. Creature comforts like rugs
  4. Galvanized metal ice bucket
  5. Lots of snacks

Man Cave furniture can consist of anything as simple as some bar stools to as elaborate as beautiful couches, end tables, and lounge chairs. Remember you want the Man Cave to be cozy and comfortable.

There are sites on the Internet which will list Man Cave "must haves". Some of these include, of course the big screen TV; personal draft beer dispensers, geeky gamer furniture, surround sound system, reclining chair, door (for privacy sake), phone, poker set, among so many others. As with any other room, the basics are the most important, the add ons do not necessarily have to be included right away but can be added on later.

Ultimate Man Cave - Beer Commercial

Does YOUR Man Need a Man Cave?

I would have to say no one actually needs a man cave but your man may want one or deserve one. Think back over what you've read here. A Man Cave is a place for a man to get away from the outside world, a place to relax and forget about stress, a place to call his own. I know, there are a lot of women scratching their head asking where there Woman Cave is, but let's give the guy a break.

Probably the most famous Man Cave we are familiar with would be Bruce Wayne's (that's Batman for those of you unfamiliar with Bruce Wayne). His Man Cave contained every gadget, gizmo, and tool he could ever want or use. The basic premise for the Man Cave, let your man have a space of his own he can retreat to and enjoy and he can decorate any way he wants!

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

As a matter of fact, the picture of Sam's man cave looks very much like mine, but I call it my writer's studio. :) Honest to God, that's where I spend most of my days, in seclusion, writing my butt off. LOL

Loved this hub, mainly because you could have been writing about me.

Good job, Mary! I hope you are having a great Sunday.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know my man needs one!!!!!!

LOL

Loved this. Voting up +++ and sharing

God bless, Faith Reaper


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Sharkye11 3 years ago from Oklahoma

I guess my husband has his own version of the man cave. He has an enormous shop building where he works on motorcycles. I'm not sure he really understands the true purpose of a man-cave though...he always wants me down there, lol! He also runs it like a business, so he never escapes from the outside world. But its where he goes when he is mad, upset, or just restless. He has it filled with cool motorcycle themed décor, custom shelving and storage...and three refrigerators. (he is a Diet Coke man, and says working on bikes is thirsty business.)

We compromise on the house stuff--I'm all about Star Wars and Zombies, and he is into Harley and Spongebob. I even made him a whole Harley themed bathroom. In return, he has promised me a Star Wars wall in the office. I guess a lot of women are a little pickier, so I can see where it would be fair to a guy to have his own room or building for his collections.

Great hub, and very interesting to read! Voting up!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

You know, its funny Bill, when I was writing this I swear I was wondering if you'd have a man cave! Knowing you do is no surprise, its the only way you could accomplish as much as you do....hope the rest of your Sunday is wonderful.

Thanks Faith Reaper, so many of our good men need one ;) God bless.

Sharkye it sounds like you and your husband have a really good thing going. Its his man cave and if he wants you there that just shows how important you are to him. I love Star Wars too but have so many things I love its impossible to put them in the house ;) Thank you so much for reading, commenting and voting!


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hawaiianodysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

Our upstairs bedroom/eBay storage/writer's office might be the closest thing I have to a man cave, but in reality, I have no man cave. I'm a wanderer, and so--in a sense--the big outdoors is my man cave whenever I go on my walks. In addition, I sometimes travel from town to town, city to city, state to state, and I thus have transient man caves, as it were, that other people call coffee shops or hotel rooms with wi-fi.

But on a romantic level, my very best answer is that my man cave is wherever my beautiful wife is. I mean, we're at that age and stage in our life where we don't have to be hanging all over each other to know that we know...and I never dared club her on the head and drag her by her hair (although I did fantasize about it once when I was losing an argument)...I mean, I can be sitting at my desk focusing so intently on the next word I need to puke out onto the rough draft so I can have an excuse to start all over again, and all I have to do is look 20 feet to my left where she sits in the computer room working on an eBay listing and intuitively know I am as comfortable as I will ever get to be.

That contentment, my dear Mary, is my man cave.

Aloha!

Joe


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Imagine, if every man could have his cave, more of the home will be their woman's cave....

I remember that it was the boys who always wanted a tree house and not US girls....

Beautiful hub, exposing a lot of concideration for the male specie of Homo sapiens :)


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

You are such a romantic and naturalist HawaiiO...your comment suits you. I hope you show your comment to your wife although I have a feeling she already knows all of this! Thank you for sharing these thoughts Joe! Aloha.

Good points Martie, I didn't even think of the tree house thing!


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bdegiulio 3 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Mary. I knew we were missing something in our home. Actually with all of the kids gone now we have more room than we know what to do with so I suppose I could designate a room as "my cave".

Really enjoyed this. I'll have to have me wife read this :) Voted up, shared, interesting, etc. Have a great day.


Vickiw 3 years ago

Don't quite know what to say about this, except that a friend's husband bought a fishing lodge out in the wilds of Northern Alberta somewhere, and calls it his man cave. They are an interesting lot, these men, and actually it is quite an endearing thing that they crave this space for themselves. Maybe vestiges of territorial claims, away from all intruders except those who drink beer, watch TV, and understand it a whole lot more than I do?! Fun Hub, I like it.


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wetnosedogs 3 years ago from Alabama

Sounds like a great deal to me. Great hub on a great idea. Did the original cave men really slug the women over the head? That is just not nice. LOL.


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DrMark1961 3 years ago from The Beach of Brazil

You know, this was really interesting until I read "The first step would be to decide a color scheme, yes, even for a man cave. If there is a green pool table you may want to go with beige walls" That is so wrong and only a wife could think that way! The whole point of the man cave is to have things that don't match. (Do you think the duck lamp would have gone anywhere else in your house?)

Beige walls--yeck! A real man cave would be painted in flourescent orange, have a hammock, and also feature several posters of girls in bikinis.

--DrMark1961--writing from his "man cave" on the beach.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

What a great idea! the funny thing was that in your first photo you have a deer on the wall, oh, well, deer....me too! haha! I think my woman cave is starting to turn into a man cave! funny stuff, and great for getting rid of him for the evenings!


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

My husband has a small den of which I am invited often. He has a ratty recliner and there is a sofa, TV and stuff where he keeps some of his papers. It is really small but he loves his little room..Should all men have their own..well that depends.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States

We have never had a man cave but one of my sons has one and just loves it. He seems to need a little private space. My husband just has his stuff set up in the living room. LOL I enjoyed your hub. Voted up!


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

Your fascinating man cave hub, Mary, inspired this:

If you believe your man is inclined to roam,

Then a man cave could help to keep him at home.


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

The notion of private space is an important one. My hubby and I have our own caves in our apartment to go to, for me to write, for him to do software development. It works well! Thanks for sharing, Mary!


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

You should see my friend Jerry's. It looks like a forest with a running creek.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Well Bill now you have some ideas. Please tell your wife I take no responsibility for any husbands wanting a man cave ;) Thanks for the votes.

Thanks Viki, I think that's just it, a place for like minded people - more men ;)

WND, that's the theory, they were after all, cave men ;)

DrMark, I loved your comment. How dare we invade the man cave! Now the beach is a whole other story my friend.

Nell, I guess we all have our own form of man cave, they just have a name. Peace at any price?

Carol, I agree. I think it depends on the man :)

Pam, I think its all about the space.

drbj, love your poem which makes a good point.

Michelle, you've hit the nail on the head.

Martin, a running creek? I'm envious.


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Mike Robbers 3 years ago from London

I only dream to have one of mine one day :) Nice post and very imaginative!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

One day you will Mike, its destiny ;)


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byshea 3 years ago

Great hub as usual! Since one of my websites is about garage flooring, I can relate to all the reasons men like to convert a garage into their own form of a cave. I think I've heard most of them.

My garage is my own retreat at times for my various projects, but it's not the most comfortable place in the house for me. It makes for a good bargaining chip however when I'm faced with adding something to the inside of the house that I don't particularly care for. I can usually get the funding for some "what do you need that for?" piece of equipment for the garage.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

I have to admit byshea, I wouldn't mind having that garage floor in my house. Using bargaining chips shows you are no longer pre-historic man but one your wife must enjoy living with!! Thanks for reading.


diogenes 3 years ago

Hi Tilly: It's definitely hard-wired in our psyche. Look at the way Brits buy these absurd beach huts for thousands of pounds and sit in them while it's snowing!

I don't think early man would have treated his women badly, perhaps when he fought with other tribes.

Caves have the advantage of maintaining a comfortable temperature year round and would have been weather and disaster proof to a great degree.

Bob


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Bob, I see you more as king of the castle....knights on white horses and all of that...with you sitting on the throne ruling the kingdom. I don't see you on a beach but then I've been wrong once or twice ;)


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Oh Mary,

In a 26 year marriage, a man cave is essential...for both of us! My Neanderthal has the entire basement carved out to his taste and this cave even has a door!

Wonderful subject...a fun read. Voted UP and across the board.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Definitely Maria, its not just about their private time, but ours too! Glad you enjoyed and of course, thanks for the votes.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Mrroberts.


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Very interesting and I certainly have my own place where I love to be at least while I'm writing. But I'd love to have my own exclusive place some day!

Voted up and useful.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Thanks for the votes Rajan. I guess everyone has a man cave "space" if not an actual man cave. Maybe someday....


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Vinaya Ghimire 3 years ago from Nepal

Mary, men are perhaps the same primitive thing. They want to hide themselves in a privacy.

In Nepal, we have a tribe that still lives in forest, for more than 20 years, government is trying to 'civilize' them but they destroy their homes and go back to to live in jungle again.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Man is certainly a strange animal Vinayya. We are all creatures of habit and many resist change even when it is for the better.


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ChristyWrites 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

The 'man cave' is certainly a buzz word right now! I love that you got the 'essentials' from Bob Vila, the great resource for this subject! I think technology is a must-have for most men's own spaces and they like just having a place as their own to relax. Well done, vote up and interesting.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

It was probably in my subconscious because we hear so much about it, I guess that's why I chose to write about it. Glad you liked it Christy. Thanks for the votes.


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Brett.Tesol 3 years ago from Somewhere in Asia

Up and awesome lol. I think that everyman needs somewhere for some space, after all it is said when men have problems 'they retreat to the cave' whereas women want to share. It is also a place to explore things they enjoy and for some time apart. I think having separate interests and space is vital in a relationship, as it gives you more to talk about, instead of 'nitpicking'. However, the modern man cave takes it to whole new levels!!! lol

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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

You know Brett, you're right, I never thought of it that way. I guess it plays into the whole Men are From Mars thing, we're just different! Thanks so much for the shares, they are really appreciated.


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

I think you are right in that a man should decorate his own cave. After all, it's supposed to be his space where he can get away from the world and that would include all domestic trappings would it not? A place where he can be himself and feel at home. Everyone needs some privacy, don't you think?

My former husband had his office (in our home) and the garage. I had an extra bedroom for my office, sewing room, etc. Even in law school he had his own office for study, etc. Before that no one had any space that was theirs alone. Now I have an entire apartment to myself and I like it.

Voted up and interesting!


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

Au fait, the main thing is that you LIKE it! Everyone needs their space, be it for a few hours, a few days or a lifetime. Thanks for the votes.


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phdast7 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

I like this, interesting and funny at the same time. The man who should have a cave left about 15 years ago and moved to New York to pursue fame and fortune as a writer. But in the 20 years we were together, we had three sons and a small house, so the best we could do was we each got a wall t ourselves in different rooms.

He had 1/4 of our bedroom with a long computer table and a book-case full of "his stuff and interests." My 1/4 was in this tiny den between the laundry room and the kitchen (which actually was a good location, so I could manage laundry, cooking, and get some work done.

I had a long table with my computer, books and papers on one end, and my sewing machine and various projects on the other. Now that my three sons are married and in their own places, have a room all to myself which has all the 1/4 stuff... and a desk and a file cabinet and two bookcases, etc. And I have a spare bedroom with a corner designated for framing art. Live long enough and you end up with all the space you need. Great Hub. :)


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York Author

How right you are Theresa...we start out alone and wind up alone, however, we appreciate it a lot more when we are older! Everyone needs a private space no matter how big or how small. Glad you now have yours.

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