The effects of Moving after 22 years
Moving is always such an emotionally, traumatic thing for me as I think it is for most people. There are very few people that I know that actually enjoy moving unless you are moving in with a significant other or a new job has taken you to an exciting new location. For me these last few months have been very intense as I have been in this one city now for 22 years. I have moved at least 6 times within the 22 years but nothing as traumatic as this.
After finding out that I need to move back east to help with my parents as they are going into the decline of their senior years. I have had a myriad of emotions bubbling up to the surface and I have come to a place now that my move will be a positive thing for us all ( by us I mean my family).
I will have to start everything from scratch so it will be a huge challenge. The good thing is rent will be free and the internet will help a lot with advertising my new business and my relatives that have lived in the area where my parents are now,know a lot of people as they have lived there their whole lives. So this will help me tremendously.
The first transition of the move will come in November of this year as my lease will expire then and my friend Rickie will help me save a lot of money by renting a room to me for almost half of what I am paying now. So this way for the next year, I can pay down some bills and save some money for the big move out east in Dec. of 2014. The only problem is that he lives about 40 minutes away from where I am now. So I will have to make arrangements for clients that have normally come to my location. In this next year I will have to go through a huge amount of boxes and really decide what I want to carry with me into my new life. I need to decide what I really need and what can be sold or given away to Good Will or ARC. As I am not very organized and have accumulated a lot of things this is an extremely daunting task. I know for some people they would just take everything to the dump but I have to go through everything box at a time as I have old year books and photo albums and tax stuff that can't be thrown out and much more.
Starting now, the next step is moving things over to my friends house little at a time as he has a huge garage and then by the time moving day actually comes in November, it will hopefully just be 3 or 4 things and then I won't have to rent a van. I am trying to save as much money as possible in a short amount of time. But still anything can happen in a years time.
Moving after 22 years is intense to say the least but I am taking one day at a time and hoping and praying that this will all be worth it in the long run. I have been weighing all the pros and cons and in some instances coming to a neutral standpoint. So I am just following my heart and hoping for the best for all concerned. I have gone through my crying faze of missing where I am and a certain sense of freedom that I will lose when I move. But after talking to one of my clients who has lost both of her parents and misses them dearly, she was happy to have made the time to spend with them before they passed. Her sister on the other hand didn't get to say goodbye to them and has regretted that ever since. So I have the chance to spend as much time with them as I possibly can before they pass so I will never have any regrets after they are gone. I will know that I have done the right thing for both of them and that will bring me joy.
So the small sacrifices we make now really do matter and are worth everything in the big picture of things. This helps me put things into perspective as I transition through this next faze of my life. I hope for any of you going through a similar transition that you take one day at a time so you don't get too overwhelmed and that you try and enjoy the process rather than dread it. It is a form of emotional release to let go of things but it is also very empowering at the same time. Most challenges in life are. So breathe and know you are on the right path for your life and things can only get better from here. I like this saying from one of the Beatles songs "Ah La La La Life goes on...."