Selling my Beautiful Home

The time has come

I just listed my beautiful Independence, Kansas home for sale. It has been on my mind for quite a while but the final decision to do this happened about 2 months ago. After considering my options, it had become evident that I must leave this home and return to the west coast; to my home in Napa, California. This hasn't been an easy decision.

There are so many wonderful attributes to this area in the Heartland of America. Beautiful vistas, rolling hills, huge, open sky which is almost always filled with amazing clouds, amazing sun rises and sunsets and incredible lightning storms. The pace here in America's prairie is a little slower, a little gentler and a little more considerate. People are friendly, commerce is welcoming and smiles are abundant.

I bought this home in the fall of 2008. I had coveted this lovely historical house for months, having rushed to the seller's agent with money in hand to make a viable offer the first time it was available, only to have the sellers decide not to sell the very morning my appointment to purchase was scheduled. I was vey disappointed but kept in mind that, more than likely and typically the case, this beauty would emerge on the market again before a year had passed. True to a tee, my agent called one morning to tell me the home was for sale again. I rushed into the office with my offer. Long story short, my offer was accepted and I became the proud owner of a beautiful 1875 - 3 story home.

Over the period of a year, my friend and partner, Al, and I worked on this home. Changing the color scheme, adding doors, knocking out walls which had been recently installed by former owners purposely covering over passage ways between rooms, creating a small entertainment area and bar out of the laundry room (moving that to the huge basement), opening windows which had been painted shut, and more...we transformed a good looking home into a beautiful grand Victorian. We lifted contemoprary carpet to expose beautiful vertical wood flooring, replaced a faux wood floor in an upstairs bathroom with 3/4" reclaimed 11" barnboard. The result turned out beautifully.

It has been a labor of love; particularly when I was the winning bidder for an antique oak mantle with beveled mirror and ornate decorative carving. This replaced the '70's fireplace surround which had been installed, taking the feel and look of the living room back to it's obvious, original appearance.

Now, it has come time to part with this fine home and walk away form all the work we've done.

I've always had a difficult time leaving people, places and things. To say that I am a person who easily becomes attached to ... just about anything...would be the understatement of the decade. I attribute lifelike qualities to all things I value; making it extremely hard to leave valued parts of my life behind..

And, I feel like this is my baby; a creation of Al's and my imaginations. So much love and thought went into recreating the glory of this home. We do well working together on projects.

I've been working nonstop for the last two months in preparation for the market. Shining the glorious grand staircase and wood floors, filling in areas where crown moulding had gaps or little areas in need of attention, fine tuning everything. While doing these things, I thought; "why didn't I take the time to do this finish work before?" As is probably typical, I 'lived with' many imperfections which became glaringly obvious when I decided to sell my home...things which weren't that big a deal until i imagined others walking through with "x=ray" vision and skepticism. So, it's been a whirlwind of activity trying to accomplish so much before the spring arrives, bringing the perfect weather for open houses and walk in visitors.

This is very hard. I keep on going back and forth, back and forth, trying to contrive ways in which I can continue to handle this and all the other responsibilities I have, somehow, burried myself under. Too much! Still, I look around, thinking, "well, I could go on for another year, I have ways to keep this home and.....and....and..." No. This is madness.

So, each day that passes, I am allowing myself to absorb the truth: this IS way too much for a single woman to deal with. At least, this single woman. I am becoming lost in all the urgency and monetary outflow...all the need, all the demands. No! Now is the time to start "downsizing," begin to separate from the things that own me. If not now, when?

I rest assured that whoever buys this home will love it and appreciate how beautiful it is. A century + in age, this fine lady has withstood time and tide and come through with grandeur and pride. I can, at least, be happy that my friend and I contributed to her wellbeing and longivity.

Some views of my soon to be former home

Beautiful stairway
Beautiful stairway
Built in 1875, this grand lady has withstood time and weather
Built in 1875, this grand lady has withstood time and weather
Dining room with gorgeous, huge bay window
Dining room with gorgeous, huge bay window
Two doorways and mantle we added which opened up the living room to dining room to bar/entertainment area
Two doorways and mantle we added which opened up the living room to dining room to bar/entertainment area
Cool very long second story room which has back stairway to kitchen and main stairway to landing to this room
Cool very long second story room which has back stairway to kitchen and main stairway to landing to this room
Dining room pocket door we installed into bar. We had lots of great parties here
Dining room pocket door we installed into bar. We had lots of great parties here
dining room
dining room

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Gaytina 5 years ago

I don't see you that often anymore but sad that you will be living a long distance. Maybe when I go to California I can drive a little farther and we can meet up somewhere! I am so glad we are friends.


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Lucky Cats 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Gaytina, anytime you are in Ca....you are so so welcome to stay at my home..there's lots of room and we could have so much fun. And, if you bring your great sibling(s)...then you can "camp out" at my downtown home..lots of room there, too. We will talk further as the time draws near...yes, this is a difficult move.


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Amy Becherer 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Dear Lucky Cats, we have the same taste in homes. I love the exterior, too, with the perfect fence for critters! I adore the flood of natural light that opens the home to the beauty of nature. It is gorgeous. I, also, develop attachments, even to my cars! My vehicles are chosen for the way "I feel" about them. It was difficult for me to leave my home in Hillsboro, MO, because it felt so much like "home". I was lucky to find an apt. with hardwood floors, high ceilings and the ambiance of 1941, when it was built. Surprising to me, it does feel like my new sanctuary. I am curious about your draw to California. After my grandfather died a terrible death at 61 years old to melanoma, my grandmother got on a bus, alone, and headed to Barstow, CA, where she fulfilled a dream with her own business in a health food store. She lived there happily until she had a stroke. Her sons brought her back to DeSoto, MO, where she lived very unhappily until her death 6 years later, in a place where she would not leave her room. Life is short, Kathy, go with your heart, which is leading you back to your feelings of home, happiness and fulfillment.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

Hi Lucky Cats,

So sorry that you have to leave your beautiful home and it must be hard to leave.

However it is the end of one era and the beginning of another.

I wish you well and take care

Eiddwen.


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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Your home is absolutely beautiful. I'm sorry you have to leave it. To bad you can't have someone move the whole thing to California.


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Pamela Kinnaird W 5 years ago from Maui and Arizona

Beautiful home, you have. I know it's hard to list and sell a home where love has been. I wish you well -- I hope you continue to have courage and strength. Bright days ahead.


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AliciaC 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

What beautiful photos and what a beautiful home! It is a shame that you have to leave it, but hopefully there are great things in store for you in the future.


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Chatkath 5 years ago from California

Wow Lucky Cats - I don't know if I could do it - well I guess I would just as you are but I love your home, it has so much character...my sister has been looking for a similar older house in the Bay Area for months now, finally settling on one in Redwood City for close to a million, not nearly as big as yours of course. Looking forward though, I understand, changes are part of life, how well I know that ;) I hope you are able to look to the future and do what is best for you!


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Lucky Cats 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Amy, thank you so much for your kind and understanding words. Chatkath, AliciaC, Pamela, AA, Eiddwen, yes it is very hard leaving this place. This has been a lifechanging experiment...something that started over 4 years ago. I challenged myself; a self dare, to try something entirely new and different...unlike travel, where one visits but does not stay, this move was for real; something I just had to try..or else, I would have wondered, "what if?.." Well, after 4 years, I found I need the support and environment of the W. coast; where, honestly, the attitude may be a little more 'in your face,' but I feel at home there. I have been yearning to return home for about 6 months now, and so, it is obvious that is where I must go. I'm keeping the animal sanctuary in the country here...but letting the town home go...too much! Thank you for all the comments. I just bit off a little more than I can chew!


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Tamila Roberts 5 years ago from Canada

Wow, that's quite a house you have there. I wish, it was possible to afford one that easily. :)


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Lucky Cats 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Oh, Tamila....don't be fooled by the pictures. Here in SE Kansas, the home prices are so low..I could not believe the gorgeous homes available for next to nothing. Pair that with the fact that my friend and I do almost ALL the work, repairs, improvements, etc. and costs lower appreciably. Believe me, I couldn't afford this home on either coast or most places in between!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore

What a fabulous house...just gorgeous. Good luck with the sale and the future.


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Lucky Cats~~

My husband and I lived in a quaint 3-story Victorian home for over 15-years... your BEAUTIFUL pictures brought back memories of our first home together... we left only because the neighborhood had taken such a decline in safety... I was so anxious and never thought I would find another place like it as we had totally redone it (just like you...) and so enjoyed the act of renuvating... well, we love our new place and are presently making it over to suit us... it will never be our first place... I guess things happen in life for reasons and we adjust better than we ever think we will.

I do know that with the taste I see in your pictures... your next home will be just as lovely and I wish you the very best... take good care. Voted UP & AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL...!


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Lucky Cats 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

AMY, I bet your home is just beautiful. To be such an incredible artist in both word and with brush, it could not be any other way. Another example of "sisterhood." JANE..your writing is amazing!!!!! Artistry in itself. MARCOURJOR, I am so glad to meet you and read your wonderful work. I understand leaving, thinking that "I'll never have it like this again..." But, after all these years and many moves, YES, it will be even better...that's how life works...Much love to all! Kathy aka Lucky Cats


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JayeWisdom 5 years ago from Deep South, USA

I'm glad you got to live in the home and enjoy it for a few years. The photos show it is lovely, so it's obvious you put a lot of hard work into it. Sorry you must leave it now, but you can look back at all your pictures and relive your memories of the house and how much you enjoyed living in it. I hope the current housing market allows you to recoup your investment. Good luck in California! Jaye


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

Beautiful home but I understand wanting to be where you feel more comfortable and sometimes we have to be where our careers take us. Good luck.


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Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

Beautiful home you had. Sorry you had to leave it. Hopefully you have found something in California that compares. Best of luck!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi Mr. Archer. Happily, I have a similar home though, not as large. The one featured here, was close to 3,000 sq. ft. My current one, upstairs/downstairs, is about 2500. But, it is very sweet. I've done extensive work on it, as well; along w/my best friend, Al and, most recently, my friend, Richard, worked w/me on the front entry way. Thank you so much for visiting and, we are in 100 % agreement!

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