Understanding Becky From A Father's Perspective.

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Sunday, August 12, 2012



Before I even begin to start writing I would like to say that our daughter Becky has always been the center of our lives. My thoughts are not simple. I have within my mind ,endless views, and speculations on many diversified matters concerning Becky. I wrote a four hundred page manuscript on my thoughts in regard to my immediate family, and never touched the surface of all that I could have written about that involves Becky. There have been endless concerns in our lives, and in my mother, and father's lives which has much to do with Becky .

I do not know how to say this, but our lives involve a large degree of psychology that many people are probably not entirely aware of , that we are.

Understanding Becky is my desire. Understanding our daughter Becky is Joann's desire too . Our desires are to make our daughter's life comfortable, interesting, and as pleasantly happy as possible. As her parents, these are our intentions among many more intentions. This might sound very remedial, but disabilities can become more enhanced when people that need to help them, or care for them do not help them in the right manner.

There are many facts about Becky. One mosquito bite can cause her to have a high fever. In all our cars we have ever had we kept umbrellas in them at all times because if Becky gets wet , then that can cause fevers if she remains wet for very long. We guard her from insect bites, spiders, or bees because she has never been stung by a bee in her life, and never has been bitten by a spider to our knowledge. Becky seems to have a body temperature of a degree, or two higher than normal people at all times according to doctors. Certain movements made around Becky from ourselves , or others can cause her muscles to quickly tighten up, or become ridged.

Becky is not usually patient. When she wants something done, she expects it to be done right away. Maybe this is because she does not want to be ignored, and I can understand how she feels . However it can be difficult for us to do things right away in some cases . When Becky wants to go to bed, she is ready for bed immediately.

I usually make it a habit that when I want something to drink, I check to see if Becky would like something as well. The human body depends upon liquids, and to be hydrated so Becky is no different. I would like Becky to eat more. It is simply a matter of asking her if she is hungry.

I mentioned to the people that will repair mom's house that the house needs wider door openings. This would enable us to move Becky's wheelchairs more easily in the bedrooms so that we can take her out of her chairs more easily.

Becky looks forward to going places. I need to build another small business, a successful one that will help bring in more income because the right small business may still be possible in America.

What I would like to do is to build a small little shop. I would like it to have refrigeration, and what is necessary to pass board of health standards, and then I would like to create fudge. Maybe some hot dogs with good home made chili. I bet there would be money to be made. I use to sell a lot of fudge that I made years ago in our gift shop. It is a good money making endeavor if you can keep prices reasonable.

Well it looks like Becky, and Joann have come into the kitchen from the bedroom. I guess I will make coffee, maybe scramble them some eggs, and toast some bread.

God Bless Everyone.









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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Sounds like Becky does not have a strong immune system. Green and herbal teas given to her cold this summer might help with that. (Dollar Tree has these) Since I have been on teas every day I have not had a cold or flu and that has been many years now. I sweeten them barely with honey before I cool them down and I make up enough so I can have a glass a day for about ten days so I don't have to be making tea all the time. (I mix mine with fresh apple cider usually because it helps pain and I don't like to take a lot of pills that might hurt my kidneys.) I put tea in salsa and jelly jars I have washed and most all of them seal but I still put them in the fridge when they cool. I make sure none have caffeine so I sleep good too. I think it is good for everyone.

I pray Becky will have her porch soon. GBY


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BlossomSB 4 years ago from Victoria, Australia

Wider doorways is a great idea, it's really horrid continually getting fingers jammed when pushing wheel-chairs through narrow entrances.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Jackie Lynnley : Thank you so much again for the helpfull knowledge. Becky likes tea so I definitely will be shopping for honey , and apple cider. God Bless you dear heart for you're kind thoughts.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear BlossomSB : Yes dear heart it is. God Bless You, and thank you for all you're kind thoughts.


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Your love for Becky and your family is beautiful. Thank you for sharing..


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear always exploring : Thank you for you're wonderful, and kind thoughts dear heart. GBY.


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kashmir56 4 years ago from Massachusetts

I can see has you write this that the love for Becky and your wife is very beautiful but demanding . But has you know Becky is has i said before your gift from God, so in times of need you might want to ask God for some help.

GBY!


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear kashmir : Thank you somuch for writing, and sharing you're kind thoughts. You are a blessing as a friend. GBY.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago

Stars, The Lord knew who He was entrusting Becky's care to as her parents. He knew that you and Joann would Love her, take good care of her, be understanding and work diligently providing her with a comfortable living environment!

I think perhaps Becky just might enjoy you reading to her some lovely Children/Teen Bible stories that could be encouraging... Nothing you do goes unnoticed by the LORD! How wonderful that all of you have a nice cozy home to look forward to soon, as well as a nice cozy porch to shelter you from the elements so you can enjoy the outdoors too... Tea really is a great healthy herbal supplement to enjoy each day... Take Care!

In HIS Love, Grace, Mercy, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Mr.s Deborrah : Thank you for visiting dear heart. It is always a joy when you visit. Becky likes to be brought on our porch , and she waits for the disaster crew workers to return. It might be a while before they can return our way because their helping people with forest fires too. They said they hope to have us moved into mom's house by Christmas. Whatever they do is appreciated, and we are thankful for it. They helped a crippled girl in New Orleans by building a ramp for her. Wishing you , and you're family a pleasant summer, whatever is left of it. And hope you're not in much hot weather. God Bless You precious heart, and you're precious family too.


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James A Watkins 4 years ago from Chicago

It is so touching they way you love and care for Becky, and for Joann too. I have to echo Ms. Ogans above that "the Lord knew what He was doing" when He entrusted Becky to your care. I love you in Christ, my brother. Thank you for this thoughtful and thought-provoking message of love. It is very good.

james


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear James : Thank you for you're visit my dear friend. You have such a wonderful way with words. You're love for all that is good in this world has always been clearly obvious in all of you're educational writing. God Bless You, and Everyone You Cherish.

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