What It Takes To Build A House or My Story Of Almost Going Crazy
This is my story about building a house and a home. I knew it wasn't going to be easy. I knew it was going to cost both time and money. I knew many things before we started this project to build a house without hardly any help from others. I never thougt I could get so close to going crazy.
Ideas For Our Future House
I've always known I wanted to build my own house. Many years ago me and my husband visited many house expos and interior fairs. We also drove around to look at houses. We wanted to get ideas for our own home. In year 2006 we bought a building plot in Finland. It was actullay just a plot with small trees on. We lived in Stockholm, Sweden then, but we wanted to move back to Finland in a near future to start building the house of our dreams. We both grew up in Finland and wanted to be closer to our families. We also wanted our own children to grow up where we did.
Things We Had To Do
In 2007 we moved to Finland and started chopping the trees and made a road to our building plot. We also had to get water and electricity to our future house. For the drain we needed an expensive cleaning system and we decided to have geothermal heating. There were so many things we had to do before we even started with the actual building. The first two years in Finland, we lived in an apartment a couple of miles from our future house.
This Is Where We Started
Starting With the Garage
After all these preparings, we started building the garage in 2008. We had designed the house and the garage ourselves. We agreed on most things. With a little building help from our parent's we moved into the garage a year later. Now it's year 2014 and we still live in our garage. So, what happened?
Many Things Going On In Our Lives
We started building the house right after finishing the garage. We actually joked about living in the garage while building the house, and soon it was our reality. That meant we didn't need to pay the rent anymore. Finally we lived next to our future house, which meant that my husband just had to out to go and build the house in the evenings and weekends, when he wasn't working.
During this time we had many other things, than building the house, going on in our lives. We had recently moved back to Finland, and I hadn't lived there for eight years. It was like starting over again and learn the "Finnish way of living". Our son was one year old when we came to Finland and another baby was on it's way. My husband started his own company with his brother in the building business and they had to work many hours to get started. We could not afford to have anyone else building our house and my husband wanted, and still wants, to build everything himself. Our son would turn three years old and our daughter was a year and a half when we moved into our garage.
Starting With the House
I stayed home with our two little children for the first three years in Finland. My husband was building and I did almost all the chores at home. I started working 30 hours a week when we had lived in the garage for a year, and the children attended daycare. I also started studying full time a few months later. Who was building our house? My husband of course – the nights when he didn't fall asleep after work. His company suddenly had a setback one year, when their building burned down to the ground one night four days before Christmas, and he had to put more energy into his company. My husband didn't have much energy left for building our house. Who took care of the children and the chores at our home? I did – between the studies and the work.
More Time For Me
I finished my studies in May 2013 and since then I'm only working 30 hours a week. Now I have time to keep my home, the garage, clean. I also have more time to spend with my children and more time for my own interests. My husband is still building on our future house after his ten hours work days. I'm there to help him when I can.
The Garage And Our Home
Remembering What Life Is About
Are we ever going to finish the house and move into it? It doesn't really matter anymore what year or day that's going to happen. We have had some busy years and there are still many things that have to be done before we sleep our first night in our new dream house. Right now we're trying to live a normal life. I can't give up on finishing the house, but it's still important to remember to live and do things that remind you of what life is about. Life is not about the material things. It isn't about the big house I once dreamed of.
I think life now is great. Even if we live in a garage, we have each other. The most important thing in my life is to spend time with my children. They need to be around their parents to have real quality time. Quality time can be about nailing boards with dad in the new house or choosing your favourite wallpapers with mom. It can be about going to IKEA to look at kitchens and sleep at a hotel for night, and just be together as a family. That last thing is our plan for this upcoming weekend.
This house project is a much bigger part of my life than I imagined it would be. Maybe we are crazy doing this. I guess we are. We are one crazy family, building a crazy, enormous house and we spend crazy hours on it. If I'd knew how much money we are putting into this house, I would become crazy for real.
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