What It Takes To Build A House or My Story Of Almost Going Crazy

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This is my story about building a house and a home. I knew it wasn't going to be easy. I knew it was going to cost both time and money. I knew many things before we started this project to build a house without hardly any help from others. I never thougt I could get so close to going crazy.

Ideas For Our Future House

I've always known I wanted to build my own house. Many years ago me and my husband visited many house expos and interior fairs. We also drove around to look at houses. We wanted to get ideas for our own home. In year 2006 we bought a building plot in Finland. It was actullay just a plot with small trees on. We lived in Stockholm, Sweden then, but we wanted to move back to Finland in a near future to start building the house of our dreams. We both grew up in Finland and wanted to be closer to our families. We also wanted our own children to grow up where we did.

Things We Had To Do

In 2007 we moved to Finland and started chopping the trees and made a road to our building plot. We also had to get water and electricity to our future house. For the drain we needed an expensive cleaning system and we decided to have geothermal heating. There were so many things we had to do before we even started with the actual building. The first two years in Finland, we lived in an apartment a couple of miles from our future house.

This Is Where We Started

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Starting With the Garage

After all these preparings, we started building the garage in 2008. We had designed the house and the garage ourselves. We agreed on most things. With a little building help from our parent's we moved into the garage a year later. Now it's year 2014 and we still live in our garage. So, what happened?

Many Things Going On In Our Lives

We started building the house right after finishing the garage. We actually joked about living in the garage while building the house, and soon it was our reality. That meant we didn't need to pay the rent anymore. Finally we lived next to our future house, which meant that my husband just had to out to go and build the house in the evenings and weekends, when he wasn't working.

During this time we had many other things, than building the house, going on in our lives. We had recently moved back to Finland, and I hadn't lived there for eight years. It was like starting over again and learn the "Finnish way of living". Our son was one year old when we came to Finland and another baby was on it's way. My husband started his own company with his brother in the building business and they had to work many hours to get started. We could not afford to have anyone else building our house and my husband wanted, and still wants, to build everything himself. Our son would turn three years old and our daughter was a year and a half when we moved into our garage.

Starting With the House

My dad helped us when we started building the house.
My dad helped us when we started building the house. | Source

Much Work

I stayed home with our two little children for the first three years in Finland. My husband was building and I did almost all the chores at home. I started working 30 hours a week when we had lived in the garage for a year, and the children attended daycare. I also started studying full time a few months later. Who was building our house? My husband of course – the nights when he didn't fall asleep after work. His company suddenly had a setback one year, when their building burned down to the ground one night four days before Christmas, and he had to put more energy into his company. My husband didn't have much energy left for building our house. Who took care of the children and the chores at our home? I did – between the studies and the work.

More Time For Me

I finished my studies in May 2013 and since then I'm only working 30 hours a week. Now I have time to keep my home, the garage, clean. I also have more time to spend with my children and more time for my own interests. My husband is still building on our future house after his ten hours work days. I'm there to help him when I can.

The Garage And Our Home

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Venting System

In the darkest of December 2013 my husband was working on the venting system. He still is now in February 2014.
In the darkest of December 2013 my husband was working on the venting system. He still is now in February 2014. | Source

Remembering What Life Is About

Are we ever going to finish the house and move into it? It doesn't really matter anymore what year or day that's going to happen. We have had some busy years and there are still many things that have to be done before we sleep our first night in our new dream house. Right now we're trying to live a normal life. I can't give up on finishing the house, but it's still important to remember to live and do things that remind you of what life is about. Life is not about the material things. It isn't about the big house I once dreamed of.

Quality Time

I think life now is great. Even if we live in a garage, we have each other. The most important thing in my life is to spend time with my children. They need to be around their parents to have real quality time. Quality time can be about nailing boards with dad in the new house or choosing your favourite wallpapers with mom. It can be about going to IKEA to look at kitchens and sleep at a hotel for night, and just be together as a family. That last thing is our plan for this upcoming weekend.

Becoming Crazy

This house project is a much bigger part of my life than I imagined it would be. Maybe we are crazy doing this. I guess we are. We are one crazy family, building a crazy, enormous house and we spend crazy hours on it. If I'd knew how much money we are putting into this house, I would become crazy for real.

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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

You are braver than I am, Made. I know I would never do this. I do not have the patience or the knowledge to do so.....but I think it is fantastic that you did; now look at the wonderful home that your children will grow up in. Very interesting account my friend.


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

I'm not used to owning many things. That's not how I was raised. I just happen to live with a man, who thinks anything is possible, LOL! Many people here around do things themselves. That's actually how I was raised. People know they need to work to get what they want. My dad used tho say that it's good to have a mortgage, because then you know why you're working, LOL!

Thank you Bill!


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kidscrafts 2 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

Getting your house was a big adventure. The good news is, you can be pround of your accomplishments, the bad news is a house is never totally finished! I find that there is always something to do in a house!

Have a nice day!


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greeneyedblondie 2 years ago

Completely understandable. My parents built their dream house the state of Maine in the United States back in 2004 and it's still not done in 2014.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

Holy mackerel! You have the patience of a saint, Made. Do keep us informed of the progress. I'd love to see your new home when it's finished.


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Ruchira 2 years ago from United States

wow! building a home by yourself...this is super awesome Made.

You guys are almost there so hang on there cause the memories you as a family have made is priceless!

Congrats :)


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Oh, bless your heart! I have heard nightmares about building a house and I just do not think I could take it. However, you will have the home of your dreams forever to build cherished family memories.

Up and more and sharing

Blessings,

Faith Reaper


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Interesting! I can relate to this in a similar situation we are living in two-bedroom flat etc, now awaiting for the building licence to continue our building upstairs my husband wants to build our dream home time and effort and so much has happened along the way the obstacles are never ending. you are a courageous person to have come a long way.


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi kidscraft, there's always something to do when you own a house, bot indoors and outdoors. Thank you for stopping by.


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi greeneyeblondie, I'm glad to hear we're not the only couple, who can't seem to finish their house. Thank you!


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi bravewarrior, I guess I'm quite patient. I'll probably write about the progress. Thank you!!


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi Ruchira, I'll do my best. I try to live in the moment even if I dream about the day we can move in. Thank you!!


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi Faith Reaper, I didn't think building a house would take this much time of my life, but it's very interesting to follow the progress. Thank you so much!


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi DDE, many things can happen while you're building. Not everything goes according to the plans. Good luck with the licence and thank you for stopping by!


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carter06 2 years ago from Cronulla NSW

What a great job you've done, Made..a huge effort no doubt but so worth it..it's a real beauty too..but the point you made about what's really important is even more beautiful.. VUAB& I..cheers


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi catrer06, thank you for your kind comment! I appreciate that you stopped by.


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teaches12345 2 years ago

We almost built a home when we lived in the midwest, but the task was too great for us at the time. I admir your strength in getting this done and how it has helped your realize what is really important in life.


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi teaches12345, it's a huge task. There are so many things that have to be done that you never see when the house is finished. There's much work behind heating, electricity, water, heating, drain, venting etc. Thank you for stopping by to read this hub!


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MPG Narratives 2 years ago from Sydney, Australia

We started building our home 20 years ago with two young children and it's still a work in progress. I congratulate you on your patience, it is worth it as long as you don't think about the time, energy and money that goes into building a 'dream' home. The most important thing is your family being together, that's what makes a home special.


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Made 2 years ago from Finland Author

Hi MPG Narratives, thank you for your comment. It gives me hope. It's really important to do things together as a family even if you're building a house. Thanks!

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