Who Should Visit Who !

Tuesday, July 17, 2012



It is the oldest subject in the book of old fashioned ideas. My mother never worried about who visited who. Every Sunday morning she would bring my brother, and his wife a large bowl of meatballs with spaghetti , and gravy, and every Sunday she would see her son, and other daughter in law.

My father in law was a different story. Rain, storms, or earthquakes, he expected everyone under the sun to go visit him. Once in a great while, Joann, and I would lift our crippled daughter, put her in our car, and then take a ride to visit the man who had no excuse for not putting his healthy legs in his pick up truck to come visit us. Because of his old fashioned ideas, he never fixed his driveway so we had to wade knee deep in flood water to dog paddle from our car to his house. Naturally we went threw problems, and high water to lift Becky, to manipulate her wheelchair in his sloppy mud ravaged yard so that we could visit him. Well I got fed up with that nonsince very fast , and so I did my best to avoid visiting him , and so for more than thirty years we never visited one another simply because of his ridiculous ideas. If he would have come to see us we would have treated him respectfully, but he visited friends of his, and never us. He died. My wife does not even care to visit his grave.

If you're healthy, and able, and enjoy driving around, then visit people who would be happy to see you. It is not easy for Joann, or I to visit relatives because it is not easy to lift our daughter to take her in, and out of cars, but our relatives all know how to walk, but they never visit us. None of our relatives on either sides of our families ever visit us. They all have good legs, and great cars, and most of them are pretty well off financially , so they can afford gasoline. When my mother, and father raised acres of strawberries, and vegetables on our large farm, some of our relatives came to see us. They would leave with strawberries, pecans, and enjoy my mother's delicious stew, and pasta gravy with great food, and have a fantastic good time. Now that we are only three people, and have a crippled daughter, none of our relatives visit us. I have not seen any of them for over twenty years, and to be honest I do not care if I never see any of them for the rest of our lives.

I learned one thing very important in my life. Some relatives are either greedy, or self serving, and think of nothing , but themselves.

Our friends are a hundred times better. My wife, and I have a really large bunch of great friends. Friends who are unselfish, not greedy, that think about animals, nature, God, love, kindness, or about sharing ideas.

I have never asked a single friend in my life for even one dollar. However our friends have given Joann, and I, and Becky priceless moments of friendship, and love . If I was a millionaire I would do something wonderful for all of our friends, each, and every one of them as far back as a life time.

So in closing this letter, the most important thing I want to say is, if you love someone, or care about someone, then do not make excuses. Put you're good legs in you're car , and go out, and visit anyone who you care to see. Never be concerned about who visits who, or who visited who last, because that does not matter at all . All that matters is if you love someone enough to want to touch that person, or see that person.


I have seen a lot of people who do not visit one another because of old fashioned ideas.Children should visit their parents, and parents should visit their children, and neither one of them should worry about who is supposed to visit who because life is not that long. Don't let years go by before you visit you're son , or you're daughter. You're daughters, you're sons come from you're existence, and you , and God gave them life . Don't get on some foolish telephone , and talk about who should visit who among other people, and then draw noble ideas as to who was supposed to visit who last .

Many people are guilty of being ridiculous over visitations concerning who visited who last, or who owes who a visit.

If you love someone, then see the person you love. If the person you love wants to see you, then chances are times may improve in a relationship. Working is no excuse. There is always fifteen minutes on a Saturday, or a Sunday to pay someone a visit. Communicate with people you love. If they care to communicate with you, then share a few minutes in you're lives with one another.

If you know someone who is crippled, or in need of a little bit more love, and affection in their lives, then visit that person. I do not need any money from anyone in this world. We do not really need anything from anyone on this earth, but sometimes it feels good when someone holds you're hand, or hugs you. It feels good to have someone to talk to at least once every blue moon.

All the money wrapped around the world fourteen times has about as much importance to me as an eye of a needle. I will be happy only when my daughter stands up , and can walk like other people. All the gold in Switzerland means nothing to me. The only value I hold in money is what it can do for the people I love. I threw away thousands of dollars worth of stuff, and gave away a few thousand dollars worth of furniture just because I would like a more comfortable home for my wife, and daughter. I have no love for money. It is nothing more than a tool to do things for the people you love.

There is no operation on this planet that can make my daughter walk. If I was a movie star , my daughter would still not walk. If Fort Knox brought enough gold bricks to fill up our house, that would not help my child to walk.

My only hope is that God is real, and that God exists, and that we did recieve miracles in our lives that proved that God exists. If God exists, then my child, and my wife will be very happy in Heaven someday. A sports car, or a trip to Paris, or none of that mean's a hill of beans.

Joann, and I , and Becky never wanted anything accept kindness, respect, and love because that is what we give to our friends. Love is what gets people threw their hard times. Love from brothers, and sisters, and friends, and from good mothers, and fathers, and God are the best gifts of life.



God Bless Everyone.


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

I know what you are talking about. When I took my mom in to take care of and no one could get any more of her money I never saw them again. As much as I could have used a day now and then if they had come and just visited Mom a little while to give me a break but in several years they never once did. They fooled me into letting her come near them at the end and I could no longer take care of her at home and they said there was so many of them they would be at that nursing home all the time! They never were and I was so far away I couldn't stay on top of things to make sure she got good care. It is heartbreaking what family members will do. My mom died all alone and I didn't have time to get to her and they didn't try. It is hard to have compassion for that. They will have to go to God for forgiveness there. They break our hearts, don't they?


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Jackie Lynnley : God Bless You Dear Heart. Somewhere in Heaven you're mom loves you, and that matters most. She had you, and God in Heaven, and whoever was decent in the nursing home to love you're mom.

One thing is for sure, she will always be in you're heart, and I do believe God is real.

All that matters is that we do our best to take good care of who we cherish, and maybe God will help us the best he can with the rest. God Bless You. You are a wonderful daughter, and I bet you're mother somehow knows that. As for those that were a let down, they are not worth even thinking about. God Bless You Precious Heart.


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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

I know exactly what you are talking about here. Very good points to ponder for sure. Life is too short to not love period. Voted Way Up. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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Mhatter99 4 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this. I who was the dreamer of thousands... how many did I visit when they where down and out? I, who was always ready to serve. Now no one can bear to see me.


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

Apart from my mother, who tried with limited tools, and a wealthy uncle, her brother, who loved me as long as there was distance between us, I have received much more love and companionship from friends encountered along life's journey.

We all think of you and Becky a lot, Stars, and are with you in your anguished love and frustration. God or no God, there are miracles every day which no one can explain in a universe still an absorbing mystery. And if love and caring ever provided the conditions for a miracle to happen, it is in your house.

Much love

Bob


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Faith Reaper : Thank you so much precious heart for you're kind visit, and wonderful thoughts, and words. God Bless You , and you're wonderful family.


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kashmir56 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Stars, sometime our friends are much better than some of our relatives, and that is just the way it is sometimes. Hope you and your beautiful family are keeping cool in the hot weather. It has been so hot here in the last 4 days i hope soon it will let up soon .

Have a great rest of the week my friend ! GBY !


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Mhatter : I know the feeling. God Bless You precious friend.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear Bob : I gather you're mom is , and angel in you're heart. And I will be forever grateful for you're kindness because kindness is one of the wonderful joys of brotherhood. God Bless You for being my friend. And God Bless You for being you, the wonderful person that you're dear mother, and God, made.


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stars439 4 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. Author

Dear kashmir : Thank you for writing, and God Bless You. You are right my friend. Please stay cool. It is really hot these days. I will pray for you, and you're family to somehow have comfort in these hot days.

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