This is a great question. I used to think I had the final say until I ended up separated from my husband. Now I think we mutually listen to each other's opinions and come up with a solution together that works for both. But if we are really in a dead-heat and can't find a compromise, I will usually let him have the final word. I've found from experience that unless your friends have amazing marriages (which they rarely do), then they're probably not the best people to get advice from.