How to organize if you're one of the creative, right brained people!

Creative people organize!

I am not naturally organized. Or clean, tidy, or a perfectionist. Home organization, closet organization, desk, drawer, garage, refrigerator and cabinet organization; it just comes naturally to some, but for those of us who are "out of the box" both literally and figuratively, it is a constant thorn in our side.

I will never have a Martha Stewart-like room in my home. I turned forty this year and decided it was time to admit some things to myself: My lot in life is not so unique, complex , or harried that I am unable to keep my house clean; my laundry done, my floor swept, baseboards cleaned, bathrooms sparkling, blah blah blah. That's right. I have had to admit to myself that it is something organic within me that makes me unable, unwilling, inadequate, unmotivated, etc- in the arena of "housewife". Which, by the way, was never my goal in life, but, as it turns out, is a fairly important barometer in the way people view , judge, label you.

Calling June Cleaver for backup here-

Here are some clues that you might also be lacking in these supposedly inborn "womanly" organizational skills. And I say that, not as a derogatory statement toward women at all, but men are not judged by the same standards. Women, however, look somehow disabled, imbalanced, lazy, if housecleaning does not come naturally to them.

So I am in my fortieth year of not doing these things well. My brother,on the other hand, by the time he was twelve, had started folding his underwear, and took over the ironing for my mother because she wasn't doing it to his standards. So I'm not sure which variables come into play here. Modeling? Apparently not, because my mom is quite like me in her abilities in housework and detail, but my brother is freakishly neat.( yes, I am saying that like someone who is incredibly neat has something a little wrong with them) Genetics? Maybe- I seemed to have inherited every one of my mothers traits- one of the most creative and unstructured individuals you will ever meet. While my brother may have gotten more of my father. Methodical, linear, a place for everything and everything in it's place kind of guy, although his standards have slipped after living with my artist, hippy, carefree mother for 47 years. And by the way, My father and mother are both incredibly bright, productive, vibrant individuals. Oh yeah, and both psychologists. No wonder I have issues?

The "nester" tendency

My earliest memories are of having all of my dolls and stuffed animals around me in a circle on my bed. All around me . My brother later chastised me for situating myself on the floor within what he lovingly referred to as my "nest". Papers, books, coffee, my cat, pens, surrounding me on the floor when doing my homework. I don't know why, but it's what I do. And no one taught me. This "system" is all my own. I like things out. I like things around me. I want to see everything, be comfy, cozy, and feel warm. Those are my driving motivations. Is it any wonder I can't "label" on stainless steel containers and stack them perfectly on my dust-free bookcase.......Is it any wonder- Martha?

It Looks easy! Why can't I do this?

So my whole life I have been inadequate in this area. Which only becomes bigger, I might add, and more intolerable to ignore. I am an an artist, a good teacher, loving mom, loyal friend, a listener, a compassionate person . So I have some good traits in here, and I don't judge myself too harshly for my inadequacies. But really, could it be that hard to be neat and tidy? It is that hard! Let's not sugar coat this, you fellow right brainers. This is difficult and demanding stuff we're talking about. It looks deceptively easy when you watch a pro at work or go into a sparkling clean home and think, " I could do this if I wanted to". But, really, no I couldn't. Not without Merry Maids help and it probably would not stay for more than an hour.

How do you know if you, too, are lacking this "1950's housewife" DNA? Thank God I wasn't born in that era. I would have been sequestered to my house, not allowed in social circles. Well, here are some tell-tale signs that you can use as a litmus test:

You might be a creative type with tidiness and organizational issues if :

1. We do not tend to have a good sense of time. If you've ever thought or verbalized something like -So I was at the store 20 minutes? A couple of hours? Whatever. Why does it matter anyway? Don't judge me!

2. If you have file cabinets, that you started to use as file cabinets., but somewhere along the way this went terribly wrong. You were a good girl and got your hanging files, your labels, your ball point pen and went to work with the best of intentions, yet somewhere along the way, your "urgent" file became lodged under a french press, hand weights, christmas decorations, last year's taxes or a birth certificate.

3. If , before your friend, mother in law, fill in the blank, comes over, you think you have a fairly good handle on looking like you should definitely NOT be on an episode of the "Hoarders". But the realization comes, as their eyes follow that drip of Hersheys chocolate on the bottom cabinet door, over to the - ugh- what is that in the cornerof the floor?- to the dirt on the baseboards, and over to the windows, which, up until this very moment, you never noticed the cobwebs on the screens. Then they MUST get into the refrigerator for a moment to help you find something. Or open cabinets to look for non existent matching tupperware lids. ....... And you feel like you've just been stripped bare and sentenced to a public flogging?

4. Have you always been the one whom people seem to feel the need to "help" with wardrobe issues? Collar's up, tags still on, shirt's inside out, the ketchup stain on your left boob? Bullseye! My worst was the day I accidentally wore two different shoes.... I mean, it was dark in my closet. Yep, someone noticed. I was surprised as well.

5. Do you have to drink a couple of glasses of wine before dishes seem like something you actually should do? Or must you be overwhelmed with anxiety before you can be motivated scrub something completely clean? Do you ever have to come up with fantasies like being a congenial , well endowed medieval milk maid to enjoy the chores you have to do around the house?

6. If your house looks too clean, it feels "sterile" and you have an urge to create a pile somewhere. See, you have to admit these things

7. You can be home alone and somehow make the house messy.

8. You cannot imagine how one would buy cute rubber gloves just for dish washing, remember to use them when washing dishes, have a place to hang them when you're done, then remember to use them the next time you do dishes.... and not, in the spur of the moment, use them to pick up dog poop, somehow spill bacon grease inside them, find one of them in the garden next spring.- (gloves should be interchangeable, right?)...

9. You begin to do laundry; you're going to get it all done! And end up painting the bookshelves.

Any of these indicators could give you insight into your Tidy I.Q. So these things are hard for us, right brainers. Harder for us than the average person. And we know we have these compensatory, wonderful traits of creativity, emotion, depth, intellect, etc. Benjamin Franklin was a member of the club- he admitted to not being as orderly as he should have been, and look what he accomplished?

But still, we find ourselves in turmoil over the state of our homes. We find we are not up to the challenge like we think we should be. Don't be ashamed! You just have to realize that the June Cleaver system does not work for everyone and that you generally have more fun in life anyway. Even if you could, you really wouldn't want to give up the things you do to keep your house immaculate. That being said, the definition of insanity is doing things the same way expecting a different outcome. If we don't adjust or modify what is comfortable at some point, we just keep doing the same inefficient things over and over again. (Where are my keys? How could my tennis shoes have disappeared? The remote control HAS actually gotten up and run away) You know, the things that make your life a little more stressful. We don't need that, do we?

We want a home that we can function in, that doesn't humiliate us when people pop over. So here are some ways to help assist you in keeping your interesting, creative life a little more sane, even when you tend to lean toward that right hemisphere a bit too much.

1.First, stop trying the "tried and true" filing systems. They don't work for us. Figured that out yet? Create your own.

- Forget alphabetizing. You will need to color code your files, even your papers, so that you can visually scan them and grab what you need without getting bogged down or distracted in the details.

-Get a corkboard and tack on important documents . You can use a highlighter and carry on the color coding system with this method. Again, everything is out in the open, but orderly, where you can see it, remember it, and organize it visually.

-Get stairstep file organizers for your desk for the files you use over and over again. This way, they are at your fingertips at a moments notice.

2.Get used to seeing the rooms of your house clean and organized. One of our problems with cleaning is we don't see what others see. We enjoy and look for beauty and things that stimulate us, but the mundane details are difficult. So start with your kitchen and get a "system" going.

-For one week make sure that your sink is sparkling every day. No matter what everything else looks like, you'll appreciate that sink and probably be motivated to make the rest of the kitchen look better too.

3.Think about the areas that cause you the most trouble daily. Is it never having your keys and purse where you need them? Decide for one week to put your keys and purse on the chair by the door. Or put a nail in the wall. and hang them. Is it the laundry. Get it all done. All of it. Make it look streamlined. Just once. Show yourself you can do it and how much better it looks. A lot of this is knowing we are capable of doing it Do what you need to do to remind yourself of what you're doing.

4. When you have to put something down somewhere, ie. cup of coffee when you carry up a load of laundry, verbalize out loud that you are putting the cup of coffee on the table, on top of the dryer, wherever it might be. The point is that you are making yourself be conscious of what you are doing just by saying it aloud.

5. Dry erase board calendars work too. That way, you won't lose your date book and miss that appointment. Get a large board and copy this months calendar. Put it where you have to look at it daily. Write down everyone's engagements - color coded, of course. Take a little extra time with this and see how much easier life becomes!

6. Keep color coded notebooks for different subjects. One for finances, one for kids discipline charts, one for personal goals you are working on. Keep them in a central place or in a larger binder and carry them with you if you want.

7. After you've established your fist clean area ( the sink) move on to the places people see the most. The entryway, the living room and guest bathroom. Make sure they look good every day, even if you have to go around with a hefty bag and throw stuff in to be sorted later that day. But "later that day" does not mean "someday" and then I accidentally put it out because I thought it was trash.

Do it your way. You can cheat a little! Problem solve and think outside the box. That's what we're good at ! Make the kids and the guy do a few more chores around the house. The main thing is to be more concious of what you are doing, where you are putting things and why. You are making your life easier, making more time for the life and people and things you love instead of wasting time rummaging through muck and disorder. Even the most hopeless cases are capable of improvement organizationally if we find the ways that work for us. Start today! One step at a time! I promise you won't be sorry. You will feel more empowered, less at the mercy of the mess making forces that control you. And when you have more control over those organization issues, your creativity will have much more room to bloom! Let me know how it goes for you. You may not ever be an organizational wizard, but you can learn to do things a different, more efficient way, one step at a time.

If you want to read more about creativity: read :http://grinnin1.hubpages.com/_1f0tbzjtr9ejm/hub/teaching-watercolor-to-adults

If your financial life could use a little "left brain" overhaul, read : http://grinnin1.hubpages.com/_1f0tbzjtr9ejm/hub/saving-money-by-clipping-coupons

And if you and your creative child have trouble getting out the door on time in the morning, you might want to read: http://grinnin1.hubpages.com/_1f0tbzjtr9ejm/hub/parenting-adhdresolveconflict


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Esmeowl12 5 years ago from Sevierville, TN

This is great! I laughed out loud as this fits my boss to a t. Do you know her?

I am definitely of the opposite personality but appreciate your honesty and humor. Thanks for brightening my day.


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PrettySunflower 5 years ago from Malaysia

At last! Someone understands....


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aquaponics4you 5 years ago from India

you really change my thinking by this great article


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grinnin1 5 years ago from st louis,mo Author

Esmeowl, thank you. I'm glad it made you laugh, although it would be funnier if it weren't true- ha!

Pretty Sunflower, I do understand. We're in this together!

Thank you aquaponics! I appreciate it the complement.


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Enlydia Listener 5 years ago from trailer in the country

I am a right-brainer too, and so this all made sense to me...it is not that we really enjoy a mess, it is just that (agh!) problem of not thinking it out like others. This was very motivational...and hopefully I will actually put some of this advice to use. Blessings and thanks for the encouragement.


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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, Oh how I laughed at this! you have explained me so well! I am left handed so therefore a right brainer, I have the excuse! hee hee! and my brother is the total opposite too! clean, clean clean! drives me to insanity! I haven't laughed like this in ages, rated up! hilarious!


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grinnin1 5 years ago from st louis,mo Author

Yes, Enlydia Listener and Nell Rose, we right brainers have to stick together! We can do it! Thanks a lot for reading and commenting. I truly appreciate it and am glad it made you laugh!


angela 4 years ago

I found myself reading this shouting, "Yes! Finally someone understands me!" I always tell people my unattainable dream is to be organized but I go into a catatonic state when I look at an area in my home or classroom that needs organization.


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grinnin1 4 years ago from st louis,mo Author

Angela, I think we are part of a small group of people who doesn't "see" the way the rest of the population does. We're busy looking at more important things(that's my excuse) and so the smaller stuff doesn't get taken care of.... which in turn eventually makes us frustrated and unable to see anything at all!!! Hence, the catatonic state. I'm right there with you, hope some of the ideas help.


Latisha 3 years ago

Oh, I chuckled so much with reading this article. I can relate to alot in this article.

I will turn 40 years old in December. I have done so much self-reflection and learning to accept myself. I have sisters who are so neat and organized. I developed a sense of hopelessness and not good enough over years - as I struggled with not being organized.

Family members giving you the side eye...as if you are the milkman's child. But in all in all, I have grown to love myself and I am learning what works best for me. And not to worry about anything else....

Thank you so much for this. I really needed it today:)


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grinnin1 3 years ago from st louis,mo Author

Good for you! I think if we can laugh at our shortcomings (and those that give us the side eye) and love ourselves enough to change the things that make us crazy, then we can let the rest go and get on with living! Thanks for reading and posting- us right brainers must stick together!


Stephanie 2 years ago

Oh, thank you for posting this. When you live in a culture where lies lurk- lies that say only abusive mothers have messy homes, or only lazy women don't have tidy homes, or if you can't keep your house clean you're not trying hard enough, or cleanliness is next to godliness- when these lies prevail and seem true, you start to believe that you must be the ONLY WOMAN EVER TO LIVE who cannot organize in the traditional sense. And here is this article proving that somewhere in MO, USA there lives a woman who has come to the same acceptance- that she cannot be that traditionally organized/neat/tidy "housewife. I laughed through this and and heaved a hefty and peaceful sigh of relief, and thank you for pointing out that while it may be tough to be traditional, we right brainers have amazing skillz (like problem solving) to work through these things! I can be okay with never ever ever having (or wanting) a "white glove" house, but, oh how I'd love to feel more confident when unexpected - or expected - guests arrive, and to have that peaceful feeling at the end of the day knowing I've done something good in my home. Well, I'm a problem solver, and this is a problem to solve.

Mostly, I'm so thankful to know that I'm not the ONLY one. :) Even though you live a thousand miles away. Or so.


Gretchen 2 years ago

So glad to meet a fellow right brainer/ messy girl :) We definitely aren't the only ones, but we are certainly in a smaller club than the rest. I think we're just more interesting, personally...Thanks for writing!


12 months ago

Thank you so much for posting this. Ive been forever struggling with these issues, starting to spiral out of control and you nailed it right on the head. This article was so helpful to me in more way than one so please continue what you do!

-Fellow right brainer

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