Being a surrogate mother
So after I graduated from being an egg donor, I have decided to take another step forward. Some people may take it to the extreme but some may not. I became a surrogate mother. It took me awhile to really ensure my safety on this because I know a mother's emotions you can not play with. Anyway when I started looking up agencies who handled Gestational Carriers (there's 2 types, traditional and gestational) i learned so many things. There is only 1 state (I believe) allowed traditional surrogacy, this meant they will fertilize your own egg, and it was Arkansas. I had no idea a lot of people from Arkansas need help getting pregnant?! Anyway again, California apparently allowed gestational surrogacy, this meant they get an embryo from somewhere and place it in you.
So when I finally decided to go ahead and do it, I place an add in a certain website. I described myself and what type of living environment I had and they next day or so I received like 15 emails. I was so shocked to find out that there were a lot of people out there who couldn't or wouldn't carry their own baby.
Sad but true, in some cases it has become a business. I am Asian and I chose a Caucasian couple. Yes, weird it may seem I gave birth to a pretty Caucasian baby girl almost 3 years ago. No, I am not sad, no I didn't feel lost, why? Well for one thing for it was definitely not my baby and 2 when I decided to this I already had my mind set.
So advice to potential surrogates out there, agencies or people don't just accept you because your healthy or you can carry a baby safely, the most important part is the psychological and emotional part of it all. Remember raging hormones can get out of hand, so you really have to be ready.
If ever you decide, try my tip, choose a couple or a person whose ethnicity is not exactly like yours (for gestational carriers) because when you are holding that baby for the first time you'd know right away he/she is not yours to keep.
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