Cheating cheaters and the women that love them
Do you think he's sexy?
Not only is Santa real...
Everyone knows a guy who cheats on his girlfriend (everyone knows a girl who has or is cheating on her boyfriend too, but that is a totally different topic). Damn these men, they're doing the dirty on their womenfolk, and oftentimes they get away with it, even after she finds out about it. It's almost criminal really.
Why do women stay with men who cheat? Maybe you're a woman who is staying with a man who has cheated. Maybe you want to know why. There is certainly no better place for amateur psychological assessment than the Internet, so let's look at some possible options...
Could it be that on some level, the fact that he is able to sleep with many women makes him desirable? Does it give him added 'Alpha male' status in your eyes?
Test the theory: If you think it could be a case of 'Alpha male' syndrome, see how you react to other nasty Alpha male types. Do you think that Donald Trump is sexy, despite his hair and his uber obnoxiousness? Are you always attracted to the villain in movies? Do you understand where Eva von Braun was coming from?
Do You Have A Free Pass?
Once they catch their guy cheating, some women take that as a free pass to go out and cheat themselves. Woohoo! No more being burdened by infidelity! Now that he's done it, you can do it too. Of course there is the hurt, the betrayal, but you're free, free!
Test the theory: Do you already have someone in mind, naughty girl?
Poor Self Esteem
Maybe you're just plain old scared of being alone. He might be a less than stellar human being, but he does show up at home occasionally, and you haven't caught any STD's off him yet, as far as you know anyway.
Test the theory: Do you tend to agree with insults? If someone gives you a nasty look in the supermarket do you apologize frantically without really knowing what you did wrong? Do you watch the news with an uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach that the Middle Eastern situation, Global Warming, and the tragic story of Binky the Polar Bear cub might just be your fault?
Truth? You Can't Handle The Truth!
Denial ain't just a river in Egypt, honey. Do you get through the lonely nights by pretending that he's really out fighting crime, saving kittens out of trees, or performing other heroic acts? Do you think maybe even though he comes home with lipstick on his collar, his tie askew, and smelling strongly of perfume you can't afford to wear , he might really have just been stuck in an elevator with a restless delegation of business women?
Test the theory: Have you ever come to terms with the fact that Santa doesn't really live at the North Pole?
I'm sorry. I didn't mean that, of course he does.
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