Did you have to steal my dog?

 

I've only had two dogs in my life and I'm in my early 30s. My very first dog was Tangy. She was a beautiful Chow and mutt mixed. I was in high school when my cousin and I picked her up. I remember it very well, we drove down a long paved road then turned on a dirt road - the house sat on the right. The lady had four pups. My cousin and I each took one. I got Tangy home and I tried to love that dog the best I could but for some strange reason, she kept running away. She ran away 4 different times. Each time she would run away I would walk around different neighborhoods until I found her. I stayed in a small city in the South, so it wasn't that hard to track her down. After she ran away that fourth time, I gave up on having a dog. Instead I bought a pet that I knew wouldn't run away - I got a gold fish.

Many many years went by before someone offered me one of their dog's pups again. By now, I had had children and I thought it would be good for them to have a dog. She was a beautiful, white, long haired Chihuahua and since she was so tiny, naturally she was a house dog. We called her Lacey. I made a vow to take care of her. Her shots were current, I had her nails cliped and maintained and I gave her a regular bath. She was schedule to be spaced when she turned 6 months. There was an instance bond between my son and Lacey. He truly adored Lacey and she was more excited to see him than anyone else. I hardly ever let Lacey go outside, other than to use it because once I could visibly see a tick on her white coat from playing in the grass. From time to time I would leash her to the porch and allow her to sit outside with the kids. The neighborhood we lived in wasn't considered bad or considered the hood but some people's cars had been broken into at some point. On one warm afternoon I left Lacey on the back porch on a leash while I ran quickly to the corner store. I didnt leave her unattended for long but when I returned Lacey was gone. Someone had come on my back porch, unleashed Lacey and took her away. She was 5 month old. We all worried many nights about Lacey. We put up "LOST" signs and we search the neighborhood but we finally realized, Lacey wasn't coming back.

Almost two months had passed and although we still talked about Lacey, we had begun to except that she wasn't coming back. Then one day when I was working in the front yard a young boy, no older that 13 or 14, comes in my yard and says, "Hey Ms. Are you missing a dog?" I replied, "yes". He then says, "Do you want her back". I told him "yes". I asked the young man how did he know it was her.

He goes on to say one day while riding his bike and he saw the dog on the back porch so he took her and gave her to his Grandma. I had a sense of anger go through me and I wanted answers. I asked him "why would you do that? She didn't belong to you. That was my kid's dog." He apologized and promised that he would return her. A few days go by but no Lacey. I had not told my kids that she would be returning home because I wasn't sure if he would bring her. A few days later, he brought Lacey home. Lacey was excited to see me but I couldn't believe my eyes. Her white coat was near black. She was dirty beyond belief. Her nails were extremely long and the big shocker, she was pregnant. I asked the young man if they kept her outside. He said they did and that when Lacey got pregnant his Grandma didn't want her anymore. I didn't know what to do with this strange dog that use to once be the light in my kids eyes. I made a conscience decision. I decided to put Lacey up for adoption at Pet Smart. There was no way I could let my kids see her like that. To this day I still don't know if I made the right decision. Should I have pressed charges on the kid? Should I have kept Lacey and cleaned her up? Should I have kept her and just gave her pups away? I still don't know the answers and I guess I never will.

We are going to try getting a new dog for our kids in April for their birthday. Oh, just in case you were wondering, my cousin's dog was hit and killed by a car.

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wammytk profile image

wammytk 8 years ago from Iowa

Do you really want to know what people think?


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

Personally, I would have cleaned her up and kept her, and found great homes for the pups. That's just me though. I had a puppy stolen from me at the end of 2006. I would give the world to have him back in any shape, form, or fashion. He was an APBT puppy with his ears and tail; I wouldn't care if he came back with his tail docked and ears cropped. I would welcome him home with open arms. That's just me...


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wammytk 8 years ago from Iowa

My St. Bernard when missing 2 years ago and I still miss him. I would give anything to have him back, dirty, hurt, I would not care, just so I could find him. If your kids came home with mud from head to toe would you put them up for adoption???? I think you should stick to the goldfish.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

I've actually been thinking about this for a while, or since I commented last...

Do you think that you were really helping you children by getting their dog back, not telling them, and giving it away? I think that they wouldn't care as long as they got their dog back. They're children... I don't think they would really care about the shape of the dog as long as they got her back.

I don't know. That's just my thought, so I assume most people think that way. :-\


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wychic 8 years ago from Sheridan, Wyoming

wammytk said: I think you should stick to the goldfish

Not necessarily...goldfish take a lot more care then some people realize, personally I think one should not take in a dog unless they're willing to keep it for the rest of its life through thick and thin unless some life tradgedy leaves them unable to properly care for the dog anymore. How did the first one keep running away? Was she not kept in a fence? Just because a dog runs away doesn't mean she doesn't love you, it just means she has a sense of adventure and might even be bored.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

Please understand I thought my intentions were good. I really didn't know how to handle it. I though I was doing right by her by allowing her to be adopted by someone that could possilbly take care of her and her pups. I love dogs. I was a teenager when I got Tangy and no she wasn't kept in a fence. I kept her in the house until my mom told me to put her outside. I didnt have a lot of money so I homemade her a leash. I still do not feel good about my decision but at the time I thought I was doing the right thing.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

Yea... No offense, but I'd be terrible upset with your decision and I'd feel betrayed if I were your kid.

More than likely, the shelter kept her until she had and weaned the pups and then adopted them all separately. You could have done that, but keep the mom.

Sorry, but please stick with fish, maybe tropical fish as goldfish are complicated in that they need more cleanings than regular tropical fish. (They produce more waste.)

But, I do see where you were coming from ONLY in the sense that you wanted to protect your children. I do not see where you werwe coming from in the decision you made. If you love a dog you take care of it no matter what. Unless true unfortunate events occur that you cannot handle such as unforseen aggression that you cannot re-train.


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jaymz 8 years ago from USA

Wow... look at it from the dog's point of view...

She was finally home. So excited to see her owner again. And you shipped her off to live in a kennel to have her puppies surrounded by strangers. She was denied her home because of her dirty appearance and her health. Now, that sucks...

You were right when you said YOU didn't know how to handle it. Kinda sucks you didn't give you children the opportunity to decide what happened to their dog.

I'm still trying to figure out the comment about your cousin's dog... Where did that come from?


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helenathegreat 8 years ago from Manhattan

A kennel is also not an ideal place for a mother to birth, raise, and wean puppies. She needs an area where she can nest, and her puppies need to be exposed to children and other people so they can be properly socialized.

I'm sorry, but I think that you made the wrong decision. Before you get another dog, you need to seriously do some research on the proper care of animals. Go to the pets discussion board on Craigslist. They'll be able to point you in the right direction.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

Thanks for your comment


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Maddie Ruud 8 years ago from Oakland, CA

When you adopt a dog, you commit to it, come what may. Both my dogs were not loved in their first homes and came to me traumatized and malnourished, and by adopting them I effectively promised to give them permanent homes. Your dog came to you healthy and happy, and you say you "made a vow" to take care of her, but you abandoned in several ways, even before she went missing.

1) You did not spay her. There are too many dogs out there who need homes, too many dogs being put down every day simply for lack of them. Be responsible.

2) You left her alone, outside, in plain view. Not only does this invite theft and/or torment by passersby, but dogs can easily chew through a leash and get away.

3) You did not follow through with the boy who stole her. You ought to have offered to pick up the dog then and there, and thrown his bike in the back of your car.

4) You put her up for adoption the moment there something went awry (which, by the way, I think we can all agree you yourself contributed to in the above three points).

I only hope you don't treat your children similarly at the first sign of trouble in adolescence.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

1. She was to young to be spayed. She was on schedule to have it done but was stolen before her appointment. Please reread.

2. Since when is it my fault because I left my dog in my yard. Even if I left my purse open on my front porch it doesn't give anyone the right to take anything from my private property.

3. I didn't know this kid and of course I wasnt about to put him in my car!! Are you crazy! I really didn't know if he was telling me the truth or not. Do you believe everything someone tells you.

4. I didn't just give her away when something went wrong. Where are you getting that from? I'm sorry but you really didn't make any valid points with me.

I hope you all understand that I wasn't happy to give her up. Stop trying to put judgement on me. It's so easy to judge someone when you want to critize but I wonder if all of you have a clean slate. I'm sure you don't!! It doesn't have to be this situation but it could be another. I welcome your comments but dont try to label me because you don't know me.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

Thanks for a mature response FaireMaid. It seems that some people on here just want to start confusion. I'm a positive person and can do without all the negatively...so thanks.

Just to let you all know. I love my kids but not the same way I love my dog. I could never compare the two, so please stop asking stupid questions. Thanks!


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

Just to let everyone know I've decided to move up the date on getting a new dog for my family. We are going back to the Pet Shop first to see if we could adopt a new dog this weekend. I'll very excited and so are my kids. We are not so concern with the breed, we will let our son pick him out. My son wants a big dog so that's what we will be looking for. My next hub will be about my new dog.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

I respect everyone's opinion. I'm not looking for positive responses, I'm looking for mature one. We are all adults here. No one can tell me not to ever get a dog again. Who are you to make that decision for me....it's just your opinion but whatever the case....dont judge. If God forgave me, there's really nothing you can say.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

No one is truly trying to tell you to never get a dog again. It's jsut suggestions from your dog owning past.

I've been thinking about it since last night or so, but if you dog was old enough to get pregnant, you could have already had it spayed. My vet spays at 6 months. Dogs tend to go into their first heat around 1 year. I know vets that will spay as early as 12 weeks. Just a tip for future pet owning.

Good luck on your knew dog. I wish it well.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

There was a few people that suggested I not ever get a dog again. Thanks for you comment. She was scheduled to be spayed when she turned 6 months. She was stolen right around the end of 4 month close to 5 months. She was gone for almost 2 months before he returned her. We are looking at a Lab this time around. You're pretty cool!


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

Hm. maybe I'm just thinking of larger dogs coming into heat. I didn't dogs came into heat that young. Guess it varies by breed and individual. I'm going toh ave to check that out. Doesn't hurt to know more info. Ha.

Although, I'm not a fan of labs, I will admit their ok dogs to have. Easy to train. Great with kids and people.

Would you consider other breeds? I'd go in it with an open mind. You may see something that you and your kids like and that likes you back, and it may not be a lab or lab/mix.

Are you purchasing from the pet shop or adopting from a local shelter that goes to the pet shop? I'd recommend adopting over purchasing from a pet shop as those pups tend to be puppy mill dogs that can have mental and physical health concerns due to inbreeding and improper health care and such.

May I recommend my hub: http://hubpages.com/animals/dog_owning

It may help you with the new pup.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

A little off topic but: 

Spaying and neutering dogs as an early stage does not lock them into puppyhood. It more or less, lessens testoterone in males and estrogen in females. It can be a great way to prevent health concerns such as testoterone cancer and mamary glad cancer, but spaying and neutering before a first heat or before sexually active is a great way to reduce hyperactivity, humping, and other bad behaviors that can be avoided by lessening certain hormones.

Now, I don't agree with spaying at 6 weeks, but depending on the size of the dog 12 weeks is usually fine. Although, there is a big difference between a chihuahua and a great dane at 12 weeks. For smaller dogs 6 months to 1 year is a perfect age to spay and neuter, that's actually a perfect age for any dog of any size to get altered.

You do have to remember that when you alter a dog, it lessens hormones, so it can alter the growing abilities of the dog. Many reputation/"professional" dog breeders have it set in their contracts to not spay or neuter one of their puppies until 1 year or their first heat whichever comes first, as there is a possiblity that growing can be stunted to some extent when altering too early.

I've found that smaller dogs actually mature slightly faster than larger dogs. My yorkie was sexually active at 6-9 months, whereas my APBT is 8 months and not in her first heat. (She will be spayed after she is 1 year old.) If you mean in a mental sense, I find they are both about the same.


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

You really do know your STUFF when it comes to dogs. Thanks for the info.


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Whitney05 8 years ago from Georgia

I try. ;-) Ha. It's a passion of mine. I'm constantly trying to learn more and more about their training, health, and care. Much of what I know is from experience working with animal rescues and whatnot. I try to help.


wajay_47 8 years ago

Writerlady, I don't think what you did was such a horrible thing! Think of the puppy now and her offsprings. Small dogs usually get adopted faster than larger dogs. Puppies, the same. In most places, the SPCA or the adopting agency checks out these people before they're allowed to adopt. People seem to be overlooking the fact that it was a theiving little SOB that started this whole problem. I say slam the little b______d and his parents with a handful of legalities! And also, for those who didn't understand the last line about your cousin's dog - READ!


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writerlady 8 years ago from South Author

Thanks Wajay!!


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jaymz 8 years ago from USA

I did read and noticed the comment about her cousin getting a puppy when she did when younger, but the comment seemed to come out of nowhere. And didn't seem to have much relevant to the story. Sorry.


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C.S.Alexis 8 years ago from NW Indiana

I say life is about LEARNING> Okay so some people are being pretty hard on you. That is no reason for you to not have a dog.Treat the dog like a member of your family. Train it. That is best for you and the dog. I wish you the best with your new pet. Good Luck!


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Londonsmommy 8 years ago from Lincolnton North Carolina

Honestly I don't think you deserve to have any more pets. You gave up on your first dog and you definitely didn't show your second dog unconditional love. What were you thinking??? If you child was kidnaped and raped you would give her away!!


lillosmamma 6 years ago

Blah-blah-blah.. Seriously people chill out!

Most of you act like you are so much concern about the poor dog, but then tonight for supper you may have a nice plate of lamb, or chicken or whatever other animal is on the menu.. Seriously, shut up!

At the end of the day, the bottom line here is that “writerlady,” you got scared from too much unexpected and uncalculated responsibility all at once and so freaking early. I’m not saying you’re right or wrong. That doesn’t even matter right now anymore.

Obviously you didn’t expect your dog getting freaking pregnant after “2 days” that was in your house (metaphorically speaking).. This ultimately, brings me to a conclusion. Sometimes when we decide to adopt a pet, we don’t fully include all the possibilities of the accidents that can happen.

This is a sad story for that dog, but so is for other billions of animals that don’t even get the chance to see the light in the sky--ever.

My suggestion? Do as I do. First and foremost, adopt a male dog! Period. I had a Doberman for 11 years and I now have a Maltese that’s over 8 years old, both male. I travelled half a world with this stinky butt here that’s sitting right next to me while I’m writing this message hehe.. I actually got him in Italy..

I currently live in Hawaii, and for the record, in order to bring your pet here in Hawaii; you must prepare all the papers and the shots 3 months earlier. Otherwise they will take your pet and stick in the kennel for 90 days ($18.00 x day) Do your math..

So you see, yes it was hard to do all the moving and the papers with a dog around (more than once), but when you expect something, you know how to deal with it. Apparently you didn’t. Just try to learn from your mistakes or experiences and move on.. I’m sure your next pet will be super spoiled hehe ?

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