Divorce Party? A Friend is Having One!
I have a friend, Kerri, whose divorce is finalized in August of this year. She is in her early 30's, chose to be a stay at home mom to raise her two little girls, even if she has her degree in Interior Decorating and worked in the field before marrying. So, you may be thinking, what else is new? There are countless of moms and dads who are raising their children on their own, a task I admire. What's new to me, is that I received an invitation to attend with my mate, in August 15-17 a two day party to celebrate the finalization of her divorce and a new chapter in her life.
She is not gloating that she is free, or sinking into despair, even if it was emotionally hard at first to actually go through with the divorce process; there were a lot of fears she had to deal with first; angry words between husband and wife, and concerns, such as how was she going to earn a living while raising her two young daughters alone, as she has not worked outside the home for years.
She thought to herself, there are parties and celebrations for many things, why not one for divorce? As it's a significant change and achievement for her, as she has grown from this experience. She is able to understand that when one chapter of our lives ends no matter how painful, another opens, and it can offer us opportunities to let go of anger and blame or to stay stuck in our past; we all can learn from our experiences, and reinvent ourselves, and reinvent herself she has.
Her ability to use her divorce as a stepping stone into a greater life, didn't happen overnight, as she has been a student of the spiritual path for over 15 years, and had experiences that changed her connection to reality. Yet, being human, there have been times, when life became emotionally challenging for her as she let go of what no longer worked in her life. Any form of death, be it the physical loss of a loved one, or separation, or any change takes courage to transcend it.
During the three years or so prior to her divorce, she lost a significant amount of weight and came to terms with her lack of self worth caused by weight problems during most of her life, and published her book "Uncovering The Divine Within" by Kerri Kannan, that chronicles her spiritual journey. She immersed herself in opening up to prosperity, letting go of the fear of lack, and understanding her need to be taken care of by others, one reason she married her well to do husband, instead of trusting herself. As she explored her inner world, she found the courage to let go of a marriage that was stifling her spirit as she dealt with her husband's addiction to alcohol.
She is still figuring out ways of earning a living, so has decided to empower others by giving lectures and workshops while connecting to like minded people who fully support her path and choices; Its funny, how when we make changes, and increase our awareness, we begin to attract a different level of friends, who genuinely are supportive of one another, and the old ones who are not in alignment with our shifts, leave our space.
In her words this is her mission " to help people to see that it is only our self doubt that stands in the way of our dreams and once we can release the doubt, we start believing in ourselves and find that we have always had all our answers but have denied ourselves. I help people find themselves again and to lead the lives they were born to live."
Not an easy task unless one believes in oneself and above all have the ability to trust in the universe.
All of us are unique, and not everyone would be receptive to having a divorce party; as an example, if I were to separate from my mate, I know it would be deeply hurtful for me, as he is my playmate and the best friend I have ever experienced in my life, but I understand fully the intention behind her celebration, as Karen Ellis wisely observed in the comments in this hub. "It's kind of like a right of passage, going through a new door and shutting the old one behind you". http://hubpages.com/profile/Karen+Ellis. I am open to new ways of looking at things, to continuously grow even when life gives us lemons, which the words of her invitation nicely sums up, part which I share: I have omitted her address for privacy's sake.
You and a guest are invited to please join me for a party to celebrate the finalization of my divorce and the beginning of a new chapter in my life.
The party will be a two day event at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
There are hotels nearby and I have a limited number of beds and plenty of room for air mattresses, sleeping bags and tents.
RSVP by August 1.
With a positive attitude, her passion and her ability to transform her pain into the evolution of her being, I see her succesful as a role model for many women and men as well, in making higher choices and living life fully.