How To Make New Year Resolutions...And Keep Them!
For those who want to turn over a new leaf this new year!
New year resolutions! All these years I was the worst culprit ever in this matter. I made big, dramatic resolutions, and the halo round my head stayed till Jan 5th. On the 6th, poof! It was gone with the wind!
Now, I'm older and wiser and managed to keep last year's resolutions. At least the more important ones. No, I didn't keep the one about keeping the loo seat down!
Okay, let's get down to our tricks:
1. Kill the drama.
No fun, but keep it realistic. You know about yourself. If you know you will smoke on the 5th, don't resolve to quit smoking. Or do it, but don't get back to a pack a day, thinking you can never do it. Smoke that one, but resolve to smoke five a day or less.
2. Make it fun.
Enjoy keeping your resolutions somehow. How? Like some intelligent soul made exercise fun by inventing aerobics, that's how. Get more kisses from your loved one by cutting down on cigarettes or garlic or whatever. I don't know, think of something.
3. Enlist support.
Don't make secret resolutions, which you can happily break without risking the image people have about your will power, if any. Take a risk and tell people, and ask them to support you. Once a girl I knew asked me to help her stop smoking. I grabbed the cigarette from her lips and flushed it down the loo. I mean business! That's the kind of mean support you need, not kindly friends and softie well wishers. Tough ones!
4. Make a pact.
Get someone else who have the same problem of fragile resolutions, and form a symbiotic team. You help them, they help you.
5. Make a plan.
Convert wishes to plans, as the biz whizzes say. See how you can convert your resolution into a workable plan with short term and long term targets. Go draw a graph or something. Any toy, if it helps.
6. Do it yourself
My wife has a list of resolutions she thinks I ought to make this new year. I sympathize with that long suffering soul, but it will be of no use. Some have resolutions thrust on them, but those won't even survive the 5th. Don't give in! Make your own!
6. Fall in love.
Now, there's a good trick! Atleast for starters. This is also like making it fun, If you really fall in love you will want to scale the sky and pluck the stars for her or him, and as the space program is full up, you can lose weight or take singing lessons instead, or whatever it is you resolve to do. No, Dear, not me, I'm only advising these nice young unmarried people here. Since she's peering over my shoulder, let me add an extra to this tip: Fall in love with your existing spouse! She or he may think you are bonkers, but you can start something or lose something for your beloved mate. Happy,O Light of my Life?
7. Write it down and pin it up.
That will give you top of the mind recall and shame you into keeping it. Though it's not a good idea to have 'I'll keep the toilet seat down,' next to 'Home Sweet Home!' Kills the ambience for guests, if you see what I mean.
8. Get spiritual.
This will help those vegan resolutions or the smoking and imbibing ones. This is as effective as falling in love, if sincere. Fall in love or raise the spirit! Same thing, don't they say, 'God is Love,' or the other way around?
9. Progress is as important as success.
That's a wise saying Confucius would have wished he said. Don' be disheartened by a break in your resolution. Was there progress? Ah, that's the way to go! From there.
Have fun on the New Year, don't drink and drive and most important: remember to make resolutions! Take care!
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