How to Keep Your Relationships Happy!
Want to Keep Your Marriage Happy?
I can't tell you how many times I have gotten myself into trouble with my mouth! For the first 10 years of my marriage I thought it was my duty to straighten my husband out!
I've just celebrated 34 years of marriage, so through all those years, I had to have figured out a few things, because I'm still alive. Yes, those first few years were rough, and it's a wonder we didn't kill each other.
Today, I can say, I'm happy and all though things are not perfect, (and as long as we are human, they won't be), I have learned a few things.
One of the big things I learned after many years, was that I didn't have to be the one who WON every arguement! I thought I did. For some reason I felt that I had to prove myself. I learned that proving myself just meant I went to bed unhappy because he was still convinced he was right, and I was convinced I was right.
I've learned to pick my battles. There are not very many things that are that important that I should lose my joy over them. Now, I have learned to laugh when he does something that use to make me mad. When I first started laughing, it really through him for a loop. He didn't know how to act. It then became funny and we both have learned to laugh about it.
In Proverbs 15 verse one it says, "A soft anwer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." I sure wish I would of known that years ago. It could of saved me a lot of WRATH!
Today, I take this Proverb very seriously and I don't allow my emotions to get involved, for the most part. (Again, I'm not perfect, just working on it). Now, I stop and think before I answer, and sometimes I do have to pray for the Lord to help me (and He does), and then, I speak back to my husband in a soft answer. It's saved a lot of heartache and trouble and has allowed me to have peace and happiness in my home.
Try it sometime, you might like the results!
Something to ponder....
Until next time....