Successful Dating and Relationships - 2
2. Who you really are? Your personality type and state of awareness
Have you thought why some people naturally make friends easily and are very animated, cheerful and bubbly, while others are reserved and hide their emotions?
Everyone is born with a unique set of inborn characteristics, which determine the way they respond to situations and people.
Understanding your unique personality type will give you the important answers why you always behave in one way and not in other, why you are attracted to one type of people and don't like others. Knowing the personality types helps enormously not only during the dating when you need to understand the natural inclinations of the other person, but in life in general when you interact with your friends and colleagues.
People are naturally attracted by the opposites in each another because subconsciously they seek to fill the missing pieces in their own personalities. One partner's strengths fill the other's weaknesses. Sometimes, these differences can become a downside if not understood and appreciated. Once knowing the unique personality type combination of ourselves and our partner we can honour and respect them for the qualities they have and this way to create a life lasting harmonious relationship.
The ancient Greek physician Hippocrates, known as the father of the medicine, over 400 years BC proposed that there were four fundamental personality types, or temperaments. They are:
- Sanguine, which means cheerful.
- Choleric, which means irascible, quick-tempered.
- Melancholy, which means excessively gloomy.
- Phlegmatic, which means slow or unexcitable.
The four personality types are described below:
The Popular Sanguine types are lively, sunny, outgoing personalities, who always attract the people around them with their fun-loving temperament. They are humorous, fascinating and outspoken and they can turn even a trivial story into a hilarious event.
The Popular Sanguines are always seeking the attention and approval of those around them. They can add fun and drama into every situation, easily initiate conversations and have the enviable ability to become best friends with everyone in a group.
They see the excitement in every situation and can animatedly tell a storey about that. The Popular Sanguines are very warm and natural people and always tend to make a physical contact with the people around them. They always hug, kiss, touch or pat their friends.
Usually the Popular Sanguine is called "the talker".
Here are some of the strengths and weaknesses of the Popular Sanguine:
- Good sense of humour
- Cheerful and bubbly
- Turns disaster into fun
- Charming and inspirational
- Loves people
- Makes fiends easily
- Talks to anyone
- Gives to everyone
- Always late
The Powerful Choleric is an outgoing, outspoken and dynamic person who is always aiming and goal orientated. While the Popular Sanguine is the talker, the Powerful Choleric is the achiever. The Powerful Choleric communicates very easily with people and is very confident that everything will turn all right if he/she is in charge.
Goal orientated and with strong leadership qualities, the Powerful Choleric usually succeeds in whatever they choose. Opposition only strengthens their determination.
The Powerful Cholerics regarding of their gender and age have the natural inclination of getting their own way than getting along with others.
The Cholerics seek appreciation and loyalty from others. They strive for being challenged, easily accept difficult situations and expect approval for their achievements.
Their ambition and determination can turn them into workaholics, make them opinionated and stubborn, and leave them insensitive to other's feelings.
Usually the Powerful Choleric is called "the doer".
Here are some of the strengths and weaknesses of the Powerful Choleric:
- Born leader
- Motivates family to action
- Organises household
- Short tempered
The Perfect Melancholy is an opposite of the fun-loving Popular Sanguine and because "the opposites attract", they usually get into relationship and merry. The Perfect Melancholy is serious, thoughtful, deep and perfectionist. The Perfect Melancholy is called "the thinker".
Their precision for the details and the logic may discourage and depress them when they see the obvious faults of their partner. Because of that they need sympathy and compassion in order to express themselves. They need their own space and time to think before they speak or act.
The Perfect Melancholy is careful, organised and task-orientated. They flourish on order and logic and because of that they are very reliable to complete a promised job on time. Their perfectionism is towards themselves as well and this can make them pessimistic and self-critical, measuring to their high standards.
Usually the Perfect Melancholy is called "the thinker".
Here are some of the strengths and weaknesses of the Perfect Melancholy:
- Serious and purposeful
- Talented and creative
- Sensitive to others
- Keeps home in order
- Neat and tidy
- Hard to please
- Too sensitive
- Will not talk
- Not spontaneous
The strong-willed Powerful Cholerics usually are drawn toward the Peaceful Phlegmatics who easily agree with them and will not enter into dispute. The Phlegmatics are easy going and diplomatic types. They dislike risk, surprise or a challenge and need time to adapt to the new situation. Although they avoid stressful situations they cope and work well under pressure.
Because they naturally try to avoid difficulties, their lack of discipline and motivation makes them to procrastinate in the absence of the strong leader. There is why they team well with the Powerful Choleric.
The Peaceful Phlegmatics are soft-spoken and introvert, but they enjoy being around people. Although they do not need to talk as much as the Popular Sanguine, they have good sense of humour and seem to say the right thing at the right time.
The Peaceful Phlegmatics are earthy, steady and stable. They tend for security and create and offer safety for their partners. In conversations they are negotiators instead of fighters.
Usually the Peaceful Phlegmatic is called "the observer".
Here are some of the strengths and weaknesses of the Peaceful Phlegmatic:
- Good listener
- Hides emotions
- Good parent
- Is not upset easily
- Good under pressure
- Good sense of humour
- Lost in the crowd
- No opinion
There are no good or bad personality types.
Usually one of the personality types is a dominant in every person. Whatever is one's personality type it is important to know that when focusing on the strengths and through learned behaviour improving their weaknesses, it is possible to achieve great success in personal plan, carrier or a family relationships.
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