Living in a Hotel Room, Starting Over, Home Lost

July 15, 2010 Updated July 22, 2014

Maid Service Doesn't Always Equal Luxury

There is an ever growing population of Americans who are finding themselves owning less than ever before. Large and small families, even singles who once had homes are losing them. This is not a topic that you hear much about, unless you are the one sitting in the Welfare office, having to let pride go, to ask for help. Apply for Food Stamps, you need them. The program is called SNAP now. (link below).

"Never say never."

Having been homeless through no fault of my own, I easily recall the shame, and how society portrays the homeless. It is human nature to push away from something so distasteful, because really they know, it could happen to them. The trend is to find fault, blame the victim, and run off to the sweet smelling dinning room you will "never" lose. Not you.

Homelessness, happens to the best people.

Stuff happens...anyone can get sick and miss work. Many Americans are a bad-week away from homelessness.

No wonder the victims of such a huge loss are treated like infected leeches. Who wants to catch this? No one.


What now?

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"Kicked to the curb" is another fond saying that is as cruel as the actionHotel Rooms may become your home for weeks, months or longerFinding yourself on life's highway can seem like the end, but it is only a portion of the entire journeyThis photo is used by permission of www.photo8.com"When Pigs Fly" that is when no more people will go hungry, or be homelessWhen a person or family falls through the cracks, the victim who fell is blamed, even though it is carelessness by those in a position to helpFinancial problems, can cause a person to feel like they are surrounded by darkness, and depression can be a Normal result
"Kicked to the curb" is another fond saying that is as cruel as the action
"Kicked to the curb" is another fond saying that is as cruel as the action | Source
Hotel Rooms may become your home for weeks, months or longer
Hotel Rooms may become your home for weeks, months or longer | Source
Finding yourself on life's highway can seem like the end, but it is only a portion of the entire journey
Finding yourself on life's highway can seem like the end, but it is only a portion of the entire journey | Source
This photo is used by permission of www.photo8.com
This photo is used by permission of www.photo8.com | Source
"When Pigs Fly" that is when no more people will go hungry, or be homeless
"When Pigs Fly" that is when no more people will go hungry, or be homeless | Source
When a person or family falls through the cracks, the victim who fell is blamed, even though it is carelessness by those in a position to help
When a person or family falls through the cracks, the victim who fell is blamed, even though it is carelessness by those in a position to help | Source
Financial problems, can cause a person to feel like they are surrounded by darkness, and depression can be a Normal result
Financial problems, can cause a person to feel like they are surrounded by darkness, and depression can be a Normal result | Source

Voices No One Wants to Hear, the Homeless

South Park - Homelessness

South Park can be considered obnoxious, loud and gross. South Park is offensive in many ways, but they do tell the truth. Their manner of presentation is feeding a big helping of tongue-in-cheek sarcasm and humor.

South Park addresses social situations, where the elephant in the room, has the spotlight put on. They have broached subjects that most prefer we keep hidden and secret. Secret is out.The Homeless are growing in numbers everyday. They are coming to your town...

The night of the living homeless - Clip

I Survived Homelessness, Maybe I Can Pass on Some Tips

Having survived homelessness, I can pass along some helps from that leg of my own journey traveled. I hope to make your life a little easier and give you courage to know; "this too shall pass." Life will not always be this way. You will once more be able to live in a home, and surround yourself with stuff again. For now, lets make your life a little better.

1). The best friend you have in the town, is your Librarian. Get a library card. Once you feel comfortable, let the librarian know your situation. They are a well-spring of information and resources. Most Librarians have obtained a Masters Degree, and research was a big chunk of that. They are filled with knowledge, and know how to find things. Most librarians I have ever known, may not seem personable up front (they are book people), but they are mostly public servants at heart, are kind, and will help you find resources.

a). Use the computer for networking, and find a social group that builds your esteem.

b). Make use of the multimedia resources; CDs, DVDs, and Videos. These are free to check out.

c). Take good care of the library items. These are shared resources. Keep your librarian as your friend.

Many hotels, and some apartments are set up for a transient population, and will rent a room, or a couple of rooms for a couple of hundred dollars a week. These usually include utilities, and furniture, and some maid service. This type of hotel often caters to the construction industry as well, so in slow times, they will include a small fridge and microwave. This is a start.

When your space is small, you have to make everything more compact. If you can afford acrock pot of your own. It is a wise investment and best if you can find a removable crock. Make sure to get a normal sink size tub that you can do your dishes in. The tub can also be used to store your own cleaning supplies. You will have to learn to buy groceries in much smaller bulk. Make the most of your trip to the store. Fruit will not stay good too long. You will have to prioritize your frigde space.

Keep in mind that hotel maids don't earn a lot of money, so if you do your own cleaning, ask to use the vacuum for your own room, you will get a good rep with the hotel staff. Other things that make a big difference is puting your trash all in one bag, or can outside of your door in the mornings when the maids are making their rounds. Do this with the towels and washrags too [gross side in]. You need all the friends you can get. You have learned that we all struggle, and you will get more empathy from them, than your 'used to be' friends and neighbors.



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Nick B 6 years ago from Normandy, France

Having done my share of living in one room--with far fewer amenities, I can sympathise with those who now find themselves in this position.

Good hub indeed :)


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you NickB! To have come through the other side, for me indicates I need to then turn, stick my arm through the divide, and lend a hand to the next wayfarer. Your comment means a lot. Giving voice to a "big secret". : )


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Hi Lilly-I wish I'd thought of these things when 'motel-hopping' with my husband and son around 15 years ago. We had to escape some gang-related problems in South Central Los Angeles and ended up on a Greyhound bound for Bishop, Ca. Why? We pointed to this place literally with our fingers on a map, determined to make a better life for our little boy.

On arrival, we found a very inexpensive room and it was our home for a year. We were not the ideal 'tenants,' however, and I wish we'd thought of being good neighbors-but we were terribly scared. You know, new place and all. We isolated until we found ourselves finally reaching out to this small town for help.

We've lived here since then, and it was the best decision we've ever made. We even bought a house!!

It took a lot of time, but leaving LA was a must, and I'm thrilled at the results.

Thanks for a great hub.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Lorie6, thank you for sharing a part of your life that was a tough time. Thank you for showing that Couples can survive and thrive after such times. Peace and Continued Prosperity and Health to you and yourn. : )


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SaMcNutt 6 years ago from Englewood, CO

I like your comment about the Library as a resource during the trying time of being homeless, or jobless. Libraries are close to my heart and I'm glad you pointed out there benefit. That said, wow, I think homelessness is much broader than people realize. I once remember working on a food shelter line in Chicago with a guy who worked on the line to feed his family (a 3 year daughter and pregnant wife) living in in an abandoned building. No one could ever have suspected his story, a humbling one. He was a hard worker and just had a difficult time trying to do the right thing for his family, but it wasn't enough to get out of their homeless situation.

His daughter didn't know anything different. She was sweet and happy, because her dad took care of her and her mom.

Sorry so long. Great advice.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

SaMcNutt, Not too Long! Thank you for your comments. I am hoping to bridge lives and experience to give courage to others. You have helped do this...Thank you!


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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Great hands Lilly. You reach right out and touch people that others can't. I guess the old adage that experience comes from mistakes and wisdom from experience is true. I enjoyed your story. =:)


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you Winsome, this means I am on the right track.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

Nice information from you. I never know about this before. Thanks for share with us.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

You are welcome.


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Maryanne Maguire 6 years ago from Santa Monica, CA

I had a nice electric skillet with lid that came in handy at times like this. GOod hub!


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you Maryanne! The only thing about the electric skillet is cleaning and it is more obvious one is "cooking" in the room, which is mostly prohibited. I have too though...Thanks!


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Patty Inglish, MS 6 years ago from North America

Useful Hub for everyone these days. In Central Ohio, I am meeting many single women ages 50-62 that cannot find a place to live; and some hotel/motels are converting to studio apartments, which helps them a lot. I can give this info to them.

Senior housing begins at age 62 here, with a very few at age 55 and with a long waiting list for all. A lot of scams in rental/sharing ads on Craiglist are trapping men and women trying to start over, with Identity Theft and other frauds and such. Apartment buildings are telling people ofer 50 that they are too old to rent there (illegal and hard to prove). I keep asking - if people live to be 100 and get laid off at 40-50 and can't live anywhere, what to do??


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you Patty, I am glad this can be used to help others...this is my intent.. I have 2 other parts to this so far, with many links to helps... http://hubpages.com/money/Living-in-a-Hotel-Room-S... and then http://hubpages.com/money/Moving-From-the-Hotel-Ro... and http://hubpages.com/business/Assignments-Working-F...


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scla 6 years ago from Southern California

Thanks for the help. Great and valuable information for anyone experiencing financial hardship that may find themselves in this situation. As a bankruptcy attorney I have heard of many difficult situations where people are unable to afford a place to live. It is truly heart breaking, but its great to know that there are people out there that you can turn to for some help.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you scla! I am honored that you have taken time out to read this Hub, and left an encouraging comment. I do hope to help others...it is getting rougher than ever out there. People need all the hope they can get. :0)


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

LillyGrillzit, well written, I hung on every word. I pray each day to be empowered to help more people. A smile and kind word is pure gold and I also hope others realize they need to practice the golden rule. Living in a Hotel Room Sorta Meals is a great resource packed with really helpful information. Oh may you be radically and abundantly blessed as I know you will always continue to pay it forward. Peace :)


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

katiem, thank you for good, kind and powerful words! This means a LOT to me! Thanks again...Peace


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Joe Badtoe 6 years ago from UK

Lilly

You have a heart that would put politicians to shame. It's folk like you that should be in govt because you've been there and you truly know how it feels.

As a small child from 6-10yrs I grew up in a homeless families unit here in the UK. I think the experience shaped my socialist nature as I've always preferred people to material shit.

Keep on keeping on Lilly you're a Saint.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Joe Badtoe, you have me blushing. More of a "Blues Brothers Sister" than Saint, but yes. Stuff doesn't matter more than people. Thanks for your HeartFelt comment, and the Read. :0) Peace!


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MartieCoetser 6 years ago from South Africa

You’ve said it so well: “Homelessness could be only one bad week away.” You gave me a new perception of homelessness. Thanks!


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Dear Martie, Thank you very much for reading and commenting on this subject. I know you are empathetic to others, I am glad I have shined some different lights on this subject. The very best to you. :0)


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Vicki.Pierce 6 years ago from Grand Rapids, Michigan

You are a great inspiration! Great article!


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you for your visit and sweet comments. LOVE your companion! I have a mumu, byrdgirl. She is Nanday/Jenday. :0) Come back anytime


ralwus 6 years ago

I too lived like that for a time. No fun for sure. Great advice.


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

ralwus, thanks for stopping by and your heartfelt comment. Always to help bro. The best :0)


ralwus 6 years ago

Ah well, I had a few moments to spare and do try to catch up when I can. Keep writing now.


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Tom Cornett 6 years ago from Ohio

Wonderful stuff to help here. I've been houseless but never homeless. May your days ahead be filled with smiles. :)


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Hey rawlus, I been strugglin' I have had a light-sensative migraine since the 18th of November, it has been hard to get the flow on white backgrounds. I am working on some stuff on my blacked out MS Word. Thanks again. I need to catch up reading too.

Tom Cornett, thank you for the visit, read and blessings. I thank you for the well wishes. They come at an ever perfect time. :0) The best.


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Misty May 5 years ago

I am soon to be in the hotel situation. I was lucky that my parents took me in when I became unemployed but they're no job's in the small town we live in and I have to spread out. Month to month living is so much cheeper until I can (hopefully) get on my feet again. Best of luck to you and thanks for the tips on living this way!

P.S. Home is where the heart is. Sometimes we may be houseless but never homeless :)


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LillyGrillzit 5 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Dear Misty May, Thank you for reading this Hub, and I am sorry you are facing this possibility. It is so hard to ask for family members to help us, and the job market is really bad right now. It seems as if you are weighing your parents down, but it will maybe worry them more for you to have to be out on your own.

How to work for a temp agency, staffing agency two has the links to US/Canada temp agencies. Robert Half International is really good at putting people to work. You can apply to work anywhere in the US with them. I work temp gigs with them off an on. When I think I am going to have to jump and run, they e-mail me with a spot.

I don't know your situation, or your parents, but if you guys can tough it out together, let them help you. I know no matter how little I may have, if any of my kids didn't have a home or job, I wouldn't care. If we all go to the gutter together, it would be better than knowing they were alone.

I believe in miracles, and other Hubbers have given me powerful and magical words that helped me make it. Misty May, hold on. Imagine, and write the home you want to be in. Write stories about your success, in your mind, heart and in print.

You are in my thoughts. Please keep in touch, and if your parents are loving and you can stand it, give them the choice on your leaving.

It is so hard to depend on others.

Thank you Misty May for sharing your life with me. You are a survivor, and your attitude is that of a winner. You will make it. I am wishing the Very Best for you and your family. Hugs

You are right about home is where the heart is. Blessings.

Lori (Hugs)


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Misty May 5 years ago

Thank you so much. Your a really caring person and I appreciate your thoughts and blessings. I was actually lucky enough I found out about a youth job training program and the department of labor is paying for me to have CNA training (plus paying for the supplies and transportation!) so I will have a better chance to find a job! It is an amazing program that I think if more people (22 and under thats the limit) knew about it, it would help so many people. I hope to learn more about the program and write a hub about it! My best wishes

Misty May(hugsback)


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LillyGrillzit 5 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Write a Hub about it. There is a lot of info, YouTube videos, people's stories. I was very good friends with a couple who met at Youth Corp. They both learned excellent skills that have always stayed with them. Congratulations. There is a big demand for CNA's and Home health. People my age and older are having to be babysat now, so that is totally job security. :0)


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Wendy S. Wilmoth 5 years ago from Kansas

Good article. Thanks for the shout-out to librarians. We appreciate it!


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LillyGrillzit 5 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Love your Librarian! Thank you Ms. Wendy! Thanks for coming by for a read, and leaving a comment.


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stayingalivemoma 5 years ago from Tempe, Arizona

I lived in a motel on two seperate occasions. Once for a year and once for about six months. It is a humbling experience.


Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

This is a good hub for those who need to cut down while still having a job. I am currently homeless (see my hubs) and there is no way I could afford a hotel room at a $100.00 per week. There isn't even any trading off being a chamber made in order to have a room. Libraries can be used for a short amount of time as in the use of the internet is usually 30 minutes maximum, you can not hang around there to stay warm etc. If you are homeless you can't take out a movie or a music CD. There is Nothing out there if you are truely homeless, I know, I am homeless.


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LillyGrillzit 4 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Sarra, thank you for reading this and commenting.

I am sorry your community does not have more resources; ie, extended time on the library internet, and will not allow you to hang out there.

I have been in the gutter, in alley ways, and around dumpsters as a child (11 - 15), and I guess I know what being homeless is.

I have lived in crack motels where I could not trade rent for work, but I worked for them, for a wage that allowed me to pay for a room for a night, and do laundry.

The Salvation Army in most communities offer a place to sleep and a meal or two, for the "truly homeless". Several religious and civic groups also have shelters, meals, etc.

In the winter of 1999 I was living in a campground when we were hit with the storm of the century. I had a nervous breakdown, and was given medication and told to keep taking it (without a dr to monitor). My last act before heading to the woods was applying for emergency food stamps. I had to wait 18 days for food. I lived rough as you are doing, but I had to end up going back to civilization [sic] to get help, and find resources (Temp jobs 2 shifts per day).

I am now about 6 days from homelessness again, and I only hope I can ward off this horrible "leporsy" as your Hub states it.

This Hub was not a competition on what constitutes true homelessness, and I am sorry for your feelings of angst and impossibility.

Somehow you have found a way to write and publish Hubs, you have a computer; something to watch movies, and listen to CD's on, so it sounds like you are a little better off than many.

Good Luck to you, I hope all of your needs are met soon, and that you can also have what you want.


Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

Watch movies and listen to CDs? Are you kidding me? I don't have time for that as I'm chopping wood and gathering kindling for fire starter. As far as the Salvation Army goes they don't provide housing or meals anymore I know I've already asked. I get wifi from the campground I live in and am sitting out in the cold. I will have to leave here soon so so much for the wifi. So I'm better off than most? I'm sorry no I'm not, I'm just like any other homeless person.


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LillyGrillzit 4 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Sarra your anger and meanness toward me is uncalled for. Pick on someone else okay? I had to go to the Salvation Army yesterday, they did give me some much needed food. Stop attacking me.


Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

I'm not attacking you LillyGrillzit. I'm just saying who has time or even the want to watch a movie? That is a luxury that I don't have. Wi Fi is only temporary for me. You are blessed that the Salvation Army helped you. They won't where I live. I did go to a food bank however and have canned goods. I am sorry for your plight as well. At least you live in a city where help is abundant and you can maybe get a Christmas Job. I live in the sticks where there is nothing around. I'll figure it out one way or the other. Good Luck to you.


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LillyGrillzit 4 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas Author

Thank you. I really mean good luck, because this is a horrible way to live. Always in fear that even after fighting your way out, to fall back in. I contemplated suicide the other day after being given a dirty look, a can of beenie weenies from a minister, a bus pass and a nickel. I am crying in the library, feeling pretty hopeless myself. Thanks again


Justsilvie 4 years ago

Lilly, well done series and very helpful and inspiring. I am looking forward to reading more from you.

@ Sarra, I know you have it very hard, but do you not have a son? Can he not help you get on your feet? I can't imagine he would want you to be homeless.


Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

Yes,my friend it is a horrible way to live and I don't wish it on my worst enemy. It's a hard fight and sometimes it seems easier to give up. Don't give up. You know, the more I meet people the more I love my dogs. People are mean and don't understand what it is like. Hell, gurl, if you were here we could join forces. I know you'll make it you are a lot younger than I am


Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

Justsilvie. Yes I do have a son and he doesn't care if I am homeless or not. I'll have to write a hub about it someday.

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