Should you, or how to ask rich people for money.

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   WaffleCheeseposted 13 years ago

   So, I have a very wealthy uncle who owns a huge international company. No doubt you've heard about it, but to keep his identity a secret I shan't divulge.
   
   I got married at the end of January (thank you, thank you, now hold your applause for the end)
   
   My brother was married just 40 days after.
   
   The uncle promised us both a cash present for 2000.00. My brother received his, and I did not. My wife and I are not expecting it right now and have decided to just let the whole thing slide.
   
   My mother (her brother is the owner) has a different view. She is always wanting me to ask him for money for loans and crap.
   
   If I was wealthy, I'd think it would get pretty old to have people ask me for money. So I leave him alone.
   
   My parents loaned my uncle a bunch of money so that he could be where he is today. So they want me to tell him 'not to forget where he came from'
   
   Rich people don't know who they're friends are. So I leave them alone regarding money. However, he personally told me it was a wedding present I should be expecting.
   
   
   Please validate my feelings.

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      Ben Evansposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I concur with your stance.  I think working for your own money is the right thing to do.  If your uncle gives you a $200 it will be a windfall.

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   rebekahELLEposted 13 years ago

   That's a tough one. Are you very close with him?  Do you think he forgot?

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   WaffleCheeseposted 13 years ago

   My family is very, very, very close.
   
   I don't think he forgot, but I don't think it's on his priority list either.
   
   When you make a hundred thousand bucks a day (thereabouts) I doubt writing a 2 grand check would even be worth it.
   
   He worked hard for his money, so let's reward him for that. I don't want a handout, I'll just keep working my butt off selling incontinence supplies. haha

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      rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      if he promised you this gift, I'm sure he will keep his word at some point. I think you're right not to say anything. even if he promised this to you, I personally don't think it would be proper to 'remind' him.
      
      maybe it will show up at exactly the perfect time.

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   JulesGeromeposted 13 years ago

   I'm sure he forgot. But I think you did the right thing not mentioning to him his mistake. Now, if you're very close with him, why don't say something about it? Something light, like joking about it.

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   myownworldposted 13 years ago

   I personally would never ask....and I respect you for not doing so. It's his prerogative to give when and if he wishes to. It's only human to hope for it, but asking for it just doesn't feel right.
   
   And Congratulations on your wedding!

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      WaffleCheeseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you!!!!
      
      
      I totally deserved that .....
      
      haha

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   I'm with those who say you're right not to ask (at least not yourself).  If he's all that wealthy the task of sending of you a check is probably on some "to-do" list in some administrative person's computer.
   
   In fairness to your mother, she may know her brother well enough to know he wouldn't think "just asking" would be a big deal (especially if she knows he cares a lot about you).  Her relationship with him and yours are separate relationships, though, so I think your thinking is appropriate under the circumstances.

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   Rafiniposted 13 years ago

   It's not up to you to 'remind him where he came from'.  If anyone should it would be up to your mother since it's her brother and she (along with your father) loaned him money to begin with.
   
   I agree it's smart to not go 'begging' for the gift, but I don't have any other advice...Sorry.

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   Shadesbreathposted 13 years ago

   Let it go.  He'll think of it or not.  It was his gift to give (or not).
   
   While you bringing it up would probably prompt a, "Oh crap, I didn't send it?" from him, and he'd think nothing of writing the check, the real damage lies in how you are feeling right now thinking about it. Kill that feeling; it's poison. It's just money. Nice, but often cancer to families and to your soul.
   
   From your post and replies to others, you clearly know how all that works. Just gotta make yourself let it go.

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   sambasambaposted 13 years ago

   First of all your uncle is not obliged to give you a gift. It is his will to present you the cash. I dont think he must have forget the present.
   
   It is better not to ask him and show that you are not relying on his gift. He may have lot of money but you have to keep your respect.
   
   Just on a casual talk you mother could just remind him your pending present

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    Originposted 13 years ago

    I agree with everyone else who said don't ask him.

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       prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I agree with you hehe

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          Originposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Haha okies

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             prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Enjoy your memorial weekend, thank you, Can I be a follower?

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                Originposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                You sure can
                
                Although, I work a part of it.. so I guess I'll only enjoy a part of it hehe.

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                   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                   Enjoy working as well, thanks again

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    ediggityposted 13 years ago

    Leave him alone dude.  It's not like you had the money in the first place.  I don't understand why you don't try to go work for his company.

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