A Few Moments With School Bully, "Rob Dalton"

Vintage gang of greasers, early bullies
Vintage gang of greasers, early bullies
One harmful way to bully someone
One harmful way to bully someone
The late Vic Morrow as the head bully in "Blackboard Jungle," with Glenn Ford
The late Vic Morrow as the head bully in "Blackboard Jungle," with Glenn Ford

Meet "Rob Dalton"

Every town, big or little, has one.

Every school, big or little, tolerates one.

A bully. A heartless, selfish, ogre-type male or female who deliberately runs over innocent people, takes advantage of the oppressed and sleeps like a baby at night. I have never figured out this mystery or understood it. I really do not think that I want to.

“Rob Dalton,” was every bit the bully. From his long, uncombed hair to his wrinkled shirt, he was all in all, bully to be feared and people did fear this living, breathing organism of torment, for that was what “Rob Dalton” did with each opportunity that came his way, torment people just for the loud, boisterous horse laugh it gave him.

When I was in the tenth-grade, “Rob Dalton” was much the complexity to me. On one day, he was nice. The next day, he was “Satan’s first-cousin.” I could never see the “real” “Rob” for the cursing, vandalizing and harsh threats he spewed frequently at teachers and students alike. And what amazed me was my school administration was very soft and lenient with “Rob” for they feared a nasty lawsuit from his parents who had obviously mastered the art of looking the other way. “Poor “Rob,” we don’t want to stunt the expression of himself,” they were known to say in quieted meetings.

James Spader, famous bully in the 80's
James Spader, famous bully in the 80's
Bullies like "Rob" are nothing but cowards
Bullies like "Rob" are nothing but cowards
Bully in Karate Kid
Bully in Karate Kid
Boy driven' to tears by a bully
Boy driven' to tears by a bully

"Rob" really had it made

Actually, at times, when I was alone in the darkness of my room, I envied the freedom afforded to “Rob” each day of his life. He could jump on anyone he pleased, talk loud and vulgar and never be chastised. I wish now that before I graduated I had grown a backbone and walked into my principal’s office and simply asked, “Why?” I would give your favorite charity one-hundred dollars if my principal, the late Joe L. Sargent were here and could answer me. I am that serious about this issue I am having.

Here are only a few of the things that “Rob Dalton,” was famous for doing:

  • This guy would walk up to a girl talking to a guy and start flirting with her without saying "excuse me," or anything. And if the boy talking to the girl acted-up, "Rob Dalton," would either humiliate him with a horse laugh or slug to the jaw or sometimes both.
  • "Rob Dalton," would put firecrackers in the boys' restroom and light the entire pack while running for cover. He was so daring that he got away with doing this prank in the girls' restroom. He was the school's "best" troublemaker.
  • "Rob" would intentionally put his feet on his desk and when the teacher, mostly a female who might be good looking for her age, would scold him, he would wink at her and openly-flirt with her and him just 17 years of age.
  • "Rob" was such a master con artist that he conned a lot of his buddies to go out for football. "Rob" attended two practices, and then went missing. His buddies were so afraid of the coach, that they endured punishment and pain from their opponents for the rest of the year. They threatened to beat "Rob" within an inch of his life, but "Rob" knew the tactics of a sharp street fighter, so they backed down.
  • One of "Rob's" favorite pranks was to act pitifully in front of the cafeteria (lunch room) manager, and eat for free. His story was that his dad was an alcoholic and his mom wasn't able to work, so there was no money for him to eat. To make his tale more realistic, he would wear worn-out clothes on the day he wanted free lunch.
  • "Rob" got into a shouting-match one day with (a) "Mr. Shindley," the American History teacher and aggravated "Shindley," so much that he started to shove him, but "Rob," knowing what was coming, slapped "Mr. Shindley's" jaws so hard that the older man cried as the school principal accosted "Rob" and physically-removed him from school for two days. Did “Rob” learn his lesson? What do you think? Seriously?
  • Since "Rob" was new in school, and in our town, one teacher sent a note with "Rob" to give to his parents for them to come to meet her the next day for an important meeting concerning "Rob's" near-criminal behavior. But smooth "Rob," took full-advantage of the school's never seeing his parents, so he asked his uncle and aunt to show-up as his parents and promise the teacher who was complaining that "Rob" would be disciplined because of the way he treated her. But you know that guys like "Rob" were never disciplined by their parents for they were afraid of him. And the only discipline the "Rob's" of the world ever knew and respected was the law.
  • "Rob" loved to smoke cigarettes anywhere he could. But one day he was out of cigarettes and he resorted to pilfering through a row of cars belonging to our teachers. "Rob," with some clever snooping, found out that a couple of the men teachers would smoke during our morning break and after lunch, so he broke into one of their cars and make off with an almost-full pack of cigarettes. The poor teacher reported the theft to the police, but "Rob" was never apprehended.
  • "Rob" had a taste for alcohol to go along with his taste for nicotine. On many days he and his only pal, "Jim Burdette," would sneak off to "Rob's" car and sip a homemade Martini that "Rob" had mixed before heading to school. The guys never got caught. But as they walked through the "sea of students" in the hallways, one could smell the aroma of Gin coming from their breath.

"Rob" would do this often
"Rob" would do this often

I cannot leave you hanging. “Rob” did have a few good qualities:

  • He was quite intelligent when he wanted to be for he could “breeze-through” math problems with ease.
  • He was very nice, but only when he could profit by being nice to teachers or our coaches.
  • He was very sensitive about the ongoing violent protests in our country by (some) who opposed the Vietnam War.
  • He “could” be quiet “as a church mouse,” but that was only because some teacher had threatened to give him a failing grade for showing his butt in their class.
  • No. “Rob” wasn’t Satan. But by the same token, he was far from an angel.

"I do not know why Kenneth put me here"
"I do not know why Kenneth put me here"
Begging for mercy
Begging for mercy
Iconic movie, "Blackboard Jungle"
Iconic movie, "Blackboard Jungle"
Extorting the innocent
Extorting the innocent
Harrassing the innocent
Harrassing the innocent
Universal symbol for bullies
Universal symbol for bullies

A few moments with "Rob"

Then one day it happened. No one knew who designed it. But someone, somewhere, we never knew who, came up with a perfect way to deal and cope with “Rob Dalton.” It was a masterpiece-of-a-plan. It worked as smooth as a Swiss-made clock.

It started slowly and gained traction as the school-year rolled on by.

We simply ignored “Rob” and all of his mischievous-pranks and vulgar behavior. That was it. No teachers had to attend a retraining seminar to refresh themselves on “Law and Students.”

It was slow, but in the long run, it worked. Sure it was sad, cruel and harsh to administer. But “Rob” gave us no choice.

Yes, when “Rob” was being sincere, we did listen to him and give him the attention he needed. But not when he was being and acting stupid—bringing everyone down with him.

Three days before my tenth-grade was history, I ran into “Rob” walking outside our school building and kicking rocks obviously out of boredom. And for a fast moment, we talked as two old friends. This was an awe-inspiring moment since “Rob” never took the time in the previous months to get to know me.

Out of pure curiosity, I reminded him of the day when he had his uncle and aunt to pretend to be his parents to meet with the female teacher who was upset by his behavior, and I asked him, “Did your parents ever bust you for doing that?”

“Rob” let go a profanity and tears came to his eyes. Then without me asking, he added, “My parents never know anything about me. They are never home.”

“Oh, they work long hours?” I asked.

“No,” “Rob” replied. “They have my older sister in Charlotte to visit and they visit her for weeks on end.”

And there it was. All that “Rob” had really been needing all of this time was his parents’ attention. And to know that they were there for him.

I never saw “Rob “ again.

But what he said stayed with me years after I graduated and had a family of my own. Attention given is such a priceless gift to give your children or anyone who is connected to our lives.

When my daughter was born, I took every moment, even the moments when I did not feel like giving her my attention due to a bad stretch of days at work, but I did it. I sometimes had to make myself give her a few moments at bedtime or the next morning before she went to school.

So as a favor to me, please make an effort, if you still have children at home, to give them just a few moments of your time. It might be tough, but in the end, you will be glad that you listened to me just this once.

For I personally believe that you do not want to help build any more “Rob Dalton’s,” do you?

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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

What a wonderful insight into the life of a bully. They really are a sad group of people and perhaps one day we will better deal with and help them.


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whonunuwho 2 years ago from United States

Great story and fine message. Yes, we have all been bullied in our lives and at times, did get a quick glimpse into what made the perpetrators behave as they did. Thanks for sharing this good work my friend, whonu(Dave).


sheilamyers 2 years ago

I tagged this hub as awesome because of the moral of the story. There are some kids who are bullies or otherwise act out in class just so they can get the attention they crave and don't get at home. Sure, it's negative attention and kids often have to face the consequences for what they do, but we also need to dig deeper and discover the cause. Some of those those kids can be "fixed".


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

You know, Kenneth Avery, I've read quite a few of your posts but this one is the "cream of the crop," It is something I had long forgotten about happened during my "School Days." Today we have "Rob Dolton" as US congressman, presidents, corporations CEOs and all other positions that's causing this nation to "Bully" the entire world. "Rob Dolton" is in charge of the USA's FBI, CIA, Pentagon, CDC, FDA, and the rest of the oversight departments of our government. If you look at all you've said about "Rob Dolton" and the operation of the USA's government you will see that is exactly what is happening with this nation, the producer only nation with of the "Mushroom Cloud Makers" as warheads on ICBMs ready to launch and any nation which opposes it (Zachariah 5:1-4).

Thank you very much for explaining who "The House of Rolthchild" is which has bought all world governments.


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Rhonda Lytle 2 years ago from Deep in the heart of Dixie

Sadly, I saw too many Robs when teaching. What used to be one in every school is now two or three in every class. Labels like "Oppositional Defiant Disorder" and such are making it so much worse. By law, a student with such a label can't be disciplined by the school if the behavior in question is tied to the supposed disability. Basically, bullying has been legally approved if one has the right label through attrition. Not only does it hurt the kids with the labels, but all the other kids too. Kids that go through teen years with little, less or no discipline due to a label grow into adults that truly believe they are above the law. They are shocked when they land in prison. Other students perceive a clear and distinct disparity between the behavior expected of various groups. If law, authority and/or discipline does not apply equally to all, it is but a farce and the kids see this with glaring clarity though they would state it much more colorfully :). Worst of all, in my experience, these bullying kids are often really smart, natural leaders and could become some of the best contributors to society were they raised with love, understanding and enforced limits.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Rhonda,

You are right. Labels to me, is the same as a fence that keeps the kid from reaching out to us and visa versa.

And naturally, we are afraid of their physical meaness as well as their harsh language so there it is. We are in seperate camps.

But maybe one day, we can at least START to learn how to tear down the fences that need tearing down and getting to understand the bully and how they think.

I admit it. There ARE those bullies who do not want to be fixed or helped. They enjoy their rebellious lifestyles and knowing deep down inside that theirs is a vacant pathway when its all over.

Doing hubs like this depresses me, so I think I will resort back to my corny one-liners and comical texts. At least that way, we can ALL be happy.

Thanks for your Great Friendship.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

TheoNatureBoy,

Nice to meet you. I appreciate your name. And more-importantly, your comment was very appreciated. Thanks so much.

Your points are enlightening about "Adult Bullies," who now run the power organizations in our country. I had never viewed the area of bullies in this light. Thanks for the points to think about.

Oh, if Dr. Hunter S Thompson were still living. What kind of take would he give on bullying. But he did spend sometime as a member of Hell's Angels, risked his life by writing a dangerous essay on how they work, but even in his wildest thinking, he was not as pointed in this thinking as you are in your views on bullies.

Again, thanks.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear sheilamyers,

Thank you sincerely for what you brought out in your comment.

My reply would be that I believe that we on the other side of bullying, are really afraid to dig deeper, for what we might find.

We could find ourselves or a part of our selves staring back at us.

You are very profound and I am proud to call you and all on here and in my followers list, MY GOOD FRIENDS.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, whonunuwho,

Thank you also for your sensitive comment. I am surrounded by people of a higher I.Q. than mine.

And I love it.

Thanks, Dave, and all of my followers, for your participation in this hub.

And for teaching me each time we meet.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

eric,

I have to agree with you. "I" can talk up a storm all day long, but what I need to start making conscious steps /efforts to find out HOW I can be a difference in these people's lives.

Thanks, my friend, for being my friend.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

kenneth: You also wrote a profound comment when you said we're afraid to look deeper because we're afraid we might see part ourselves looking back. Most of us probably aren't as bad as the bullies we point our fingers at, but most of us have been in situations in which our egos got the better of us and we did at least a little bullying to get what we wanted. We don't want to admit that to ourselves. The other thing we don't want to face is the pain and fear we've deeply buried and forgotten that might sneak back out if we take a close look at those same things which cause the bullies to be bullies.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dearest sheilamyers,

How right you are. I forgot ego, the sworn-enemy of us all. Actually, Sigmon Freaud (?) referred to ego as "self," and I tell you. I can get myself in many troublesome moments when I let "self" call the shots. But when I consider someone else's feelings and really think about the action or words that "self" wants to use, I feel peace and not stress.

You always make me learn something and I appreciate you so much.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Kenneth, RE: Eric,

How you handled "Rob Dolton," hearing him explain why he was doing it, made a difference in his life. Once he got it out it probably changed him, he probably saw in himself why everyone in school had come to shun him, maybe his parents also, so it may well had been his own opener.

Y0shua, the Bible called Jesus the christ, told us "the sower went forth to sew" but he didn't say we get to stay and watch the seeds grow. That's why most people doesn't grasp what that book say, they want to see the change they cause in people but it is very probable we would not like the change it caused.

One experience I was allowed to see the change in less than 24 hours was a drunk, I believe he had been on a 16 week binge, who wanted off without DTs. He had a unopened half gallon of wine but he wanted sobriety, not another drink. He asked me to talk with him and he told m his story and asked how he could get off without the DTs. Each of the many time he asked during our hour conversation I replied "talk to your higher power." Finally he walked over to a brick building and flung and broke it against it and returned crying saying, "praise god, I took that bottle and flung it against the building and broke it, if someone had told me to do it I would have wanted to fight. Praise god I took it and broke it." We spent the night together and the next morning when he woke up that was the first thing out of his mouth and he added "I don't have the shakes nor DTs." I shared half of my money with him and sent him back to the town he had followed me back to Orlando, FL from.

That's a rare case. Most often than not I give instructions similar to that and never see them again but that night I was able to see the results. We don't always see the difference we make, like you with "Rob Dolton," you didn't see what happened but something changed on him, my experiences suggests it did.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Eric/TheoNatureBoy,

The verse you used was so fitting, as the scriptures are if we seek to place and use them for someone else first. I saw in yoiur comment, you totally removing YOURSELF from the problem and giving 100% of YOURSELF to this man who I am sure will always wonder who you were. Although you told him your name, but that was your name, not what or where you came from.

I confess my sin of anxiousness in wanting to see my harvest develop overnight. I can only assume that is a definite sign of a young Christian, as Paul called us, "babes" in Christ and still on the milk of the word.

Hey, Eric, words escape me right now, but I am VERY PLEASED and PROUD to call you FRIEND, for what you did was totally-mind-blowing to this old guy.

Wow! You could write a book about this and other encounters you must have had in your life. I would sure buy one.

I sincerely APPRECIATE you and this comment you shared. God bless and use you in your life.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Your being anxious was also addressed by Paul, "be anxious for nothing" or something like that. Your still being so suggests you may be spiritually conceived but not actually reborn. Since the made things reveals the unseen, the spiritual birth is not seen by others, to justify to others your rebirthing requires you having testimony of conception, gestation, trivial, and what you came out of. In my case, I came out of civilization's way of life and took the nomad / wandering messenger life for my birthing. During my gestation spirit was teaching me how to depend on it so when I gave up my job and all the requirements in Matthew 19:29 I was able to not be anxious. If you put "Elijah NatureBoy" in google you'll find my website first thing and on the left side is the Contents table, slide down it until you see AB OUT THE AUTHOR and my life story is under that heading.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

The0NatureBoy,

First of all, I am "born from above," (Hebrews Manuscripts translation) and I am a blood-bought believer in Christ. In the past few months I have been a lot slower and relaxed about life itself and the issues that used to worry me.

And yep, when I plant good seed, I naturally want to see a harvest of a person receiving Christ or being more approachable from people we worship with, and with that said, I am being taught by The Holy Spirit about how to strive to look at flesh like God looks at flesh.

THIS lesson alone can humble the most-daring Christian.

I love your comment and how I learned something else: You are to be applauded for having a website spreading the Good News of The Gospel and living for God without being tethered to society.

Bravo to you my brother.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Brother Kenneth,

In reading some of your other Hubs I believe I can safely say "you may be conceived but not born from above," however, that is my opinion relative to my understanding of John 3:8. I do hope you are. I would hate for you to be one of the "5 foolish virgins" with the attitude that "god will teach me when the time comes" and not be one of the 5 wise ones with the attitude that "since I will live in the self-reproducing environment once civilization terminates to give birth to the 'dead in christ.' I must prepare in advance for the world's end."

When we read Matthew 24 correctly we realize it is talking about the destruction of Jerusalem and the world so when he gave the parable of the fig tree (verses 32-34) he meant the death of the fig tree he cursed just before his crucifixion, represented Jerusalem, was when he spoke to the weeping mothers on his way to the cross. That happened in about 40 years later and less than the passing of a generation.

It also represent the Spiritual Israel [see verse 13] who endure until world's end [80 years max from Jerusalem's being reclaimed in 1948 per Psalm 90:10] when only those who endure would enter the first millennium [prophetic the wilderness of the historical Jews] and give birth to younger people to enter the Spiritual promise, the rapture after replenishing the earth (Rev. 20:5) for Revelation 21's spiritual civilization. Joshua called Jesus, the scout (John 14:3) will take us up one at a time (Matthew 16:1-16). Therefore, for your sake, I hope you are born from above.

Peace, brother.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

The0NatureBoy,

Brother, I appreciate your concern and opinon, but you will have to take my rebirth by faith. I AM born from above and washed in the Blood of The Lamb.

Fiction is what I mostly love to write except realiism in abstract/prose which I have a few poems of this fashion and comedy items, but do not judge or label me by my hubs.

I have studied the places you speak of and now that you mention it, have you studied Ezekiel for in a certain early chapter he states, "Woe onto those who teach my children to fly to save their souls," I have the translation and if I revelealed that, you might argue with me and I just do not feel like aruing, my friend.

I kept a doctor's appointment today and I am spent.

Thanks for your friendship and prayers.

Keep up both.

Kenneth and God bless you.


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vkwok 2 years ago from Hawaii

Here's hope that one day we can end this sort of thing for good.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

vkwok,

Thanks, my good friend.

Let's just keep a prayer vigil for our young people who have to face these cowards each day of their lives.

Personally, anyone who picks on someone weaker and it is not in fun, needs dealing with so they can learn to be a good person.

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