Are Most Homeless People Drunks or Drug Addicts ~ Myths About Homeless People

Myths About Homeless People

  1. Homeless people are drunks who will spend any money you give them on alcohol

  2. Homeless people are drug addicts who use all their money on drugs

  3. Homeless people are just middle aged men

  4. Homeless people are just lazy

  5. Homeless people are criminals

  6. Homeless people don't want to work

  7. Homeless people just got to dependent on welfare

  8. Helping homeless people just makes them stay homeless and dependent.

  9. Homeless people chose to be homeless

  10. There are plenty of programs to help homeless get on their feet

My husband a couple days after his operation. At least for a few nights we knew where we were sleeping!
My husband a couple days after his operation. At least for a few nights we knew where we were sleeping! | Source

My Homeless Family

So as much as it hurts my ego to admit it, my family is currently homeless. Over the last week I have seen a lot of talk in various forums about homeless people, beggars, and the the holiday season. It sickens me to read some of the things people say about homeless. So I decided I would put a little more of myself out there in hopes of showing people a few misconceptions about homeless families.

One year ago we were an average middle class family. My husband had a great job with great benefits and a 401k with 6 months of emergency fund in it. I had a work from home position that while not great paying it allowed me to stay home with my children. We've always been frugal. I coupon, we rarely ate out, we never owned more than one vehicle at a time because there was no need for the extra expense, and we cut corners to recycle and reuse anything we could. We did not collect welfare. We were not drunks. We were not drug addicts. We were and still are far from lazy. (is it even possible to be lazy with three kids?).

In February of this year my husband woke in horrible pain in his face. The kind of pain that made him drop to the floor in agony. After a very long trip to the hospital and a couple of follow up appointments he was diagnosed with trigeminal neuralgia. A nerve condition that sends sharp stabbing pains all over the face. He went on temporary disability while they got medication figured out, When he got back to his job he was fired for missing too many days (mind you he was really sick these 5 days before the temp disability was approved). So after 3 years, my husband was suddenly without a job, or benefits to pay for his newly acquired $300 a month medication. He was denied for unemployment benefits because it was his fault (by missing 5 days of work) he was terminated.

That 6 month reserve was gone in 3 months. I got a second job, but the pay is only 1/4 of what he use to get paid. He job searched every day. At the end of October he finally landed a job through a temporary company. Now being homeless for several months we were very excited. Unfortunately 2 weeks after being on the job, my husband was admitted to the hospital for emergency surgery. Turns out he was so excited about the job he walked around for over a week with a ruptured appendix which had abscessed on his colon. Needless to say the excitement about maybe getting a place to live before Christmas was and is all gone. Temporary companies don't keep you. If you aren't there to fill the position, they get the next person. Once he is fully recovered he will be back on the job search again.

Would you CHOOSE to be homeless?

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So We Choose To Be Homeless Because We Love Getting Welfare?

This is probably the one that irks me the most. Why? Well because you get one person who goes out and talks to 10 homeless people and "discovers" that they all like being able to get welfare while doing nothing for themselves. This is B.S.!

The facts about homeless people -

  • Only 37% of homeless collect "food stamps"

  • Only 30% of homeless get "free healthcare" otherwise known as Medicaid/Medicare

  • Only 8% of homeless panhandle for money

  • 27% of homeless lived in foster care, a group home, or other institutional setting for part of their childhood.(myself included in this group)

  • 25% report childhood physical or sexual abuse.(another group I fall into)

  • 44% of homeless have actually worked in the last 30 days

  • 39% report mental illness issues

  • 28%-41% of homeless are families with children

The Real Faces of Homelessness!

Someone we know who works at Chucky cheese was nice enough to get us tokens so my boys could celebrate their birthdays this year.
Someone we know who works at Chucky cheese was nice enough to get us tokens so my boys could celebrate their birthdays this year.

What is the Cost of Moving Just Covering The Basics?

  • First months rent - $600
  • Deposit - $600
  • Electricity Deposit - $200
  • Water Deposit - $100
  • Gas Deposit - $250

These are costs that are almost impossible to do when working when you take into account that paying for a hotel on cold nights or food still having to be bought. For some of us who are lucky enough we also have to pay for storage for our belongings.

Use Your Brain Please

So next time you think that people who are homeless are just lazy people, I beg you to give up your home for a week and see how much work it is being homeless. Next time you think we believe it is easier to just live off welfare remember there are people like us who have yet to collect anything from the government ( though I did break down this week and apply for food stamps, I know, I know, I'm just mooching off you). The next time you think helping the homeless will hurt them, return to this page and look at my three children's faces. So blame the "liberals" for the welfare country that has been made, or blame the conservatives I really don't care. If you haven't been homeless chances are you won't truly understand.

Now let me go get back to being so lazy, as I begin my 50 hour work week!

UPDATE

We are no longer homeless!! YAY! My husband is working a good job with potentials for growth. I am no longer working 50 hours a week due to some troublesome medical diagnosis I got a few months ago. He is back to being the primary earner in our home as my health gets worse and his gets better. Our income is still far from what it once was, but we are surviving, paying bills, raising our family, and getting back on track!

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jrpierce 3 years ago from Ellijay, Ga

I am so sorry to hear of your situation and about your husbands health. It is a shame that so many people are living on the edge of homelessness and some fall over the edge because we can't make ends meet. It really only takes one serious health issue or major situation to ruin a family. It breaks my heart to hear of your situation and so many others as well. I know that many homeless people have stories such as yours and it's never our place to judge, only to offer a helping hand when we can.


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

As you know, I was homeless. I'm with you all the way on this one, and I am so damn tired of the mindless statements made about the homeless. 30% of homeless are children under the age of 18....did they choose it? Are they just lazy and looking for welfare? What a crock of shit.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Wow. I, too hope those who judge come back to this page. I am so sorry for your current plight in life. You've sent out a good message; we never know what to expect from life from one day to the next. My prayers are with you. I hope with all my heart your situation changes for the better - and soon.


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penlady 3 years ago from Sacramento, CA

I have never believed that the homeless want to be homeless. Anyone who even thinks that way is an idiot. I hate how people always judge the homeless as being the worst people in society.

Let me tell you: there are lazy working people! They just manage to somehow get away with it on their jobs. And those same lazy people live in houses.

By no means does a person having a place to call home and a job make them better than a homeless person. With the way the cost of living keeps rising and salaries decreasing, we're all just a half a paycheck away from being homeless.

Instead of judging, let's help one another.

Peeples, don't give up. Things will get better for you and your family. Please google about the homeless man in Georgia who found a lady's wallet, returned it, and now life is turning around for the better for him.

Stay strong, have faith, and you too will have better days!


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elle64 3 years ago from Scandinavia

I hope so much you get back on your feet ,quickly. All the best.Elle


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MizBejabbers 3 years ago

I am so sorry about your husband's illness and your situation. Honey, please get a lawyer. I see legal problems written all over your hub. There are laws preventing firing for a temporary health problem. They can terminate an employee if he is no longer suitable to do the work but not for a temporary health problem. I'm sure you can't afford a lawyer, so go to legal services for help. Almost every city has a legal services to help those who can't afford a lawyer. If you don't qualify for legal services, then accept any help you can get from your state's Human Services Department.

No you are not mooching! You are down and you need help to get back up again. By the way, your boys are beautiful! Don't let pride stand in the way of getting them help. Remember, your HubPages family loves you and we are all pulling for you! I hate that you had to write this hub, but I voted you up and awesome.


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Peeples, I am so relieved to have found this hub. I was worried about you. I wrote a hub answering your question about becoming homeless ... but I was too slow to be much help to you. Sorry.

Where are you now?


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

Wow, life really threw your family a curve ball. I don't know any homeless person who would deliberately choose that situation. No one should judge people in such a situation unless they have been there themselves. If you were in Australia I could help you out with a place to stay, but unfortunately you are in the States. I hope someone reads this who can help your family out. Just try to stay positive, and I think MizBejabbers advice is good about trying to get legal help. I wish you well.


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sallybea 2 years ago from Norfolk

peeples - I feel for you. I have seen so much poverty and homelessness since the first recession began. They say that the economy is improving - improving what!

Governments really are useless at giving the right people help when they really deserve it. The layabouts seem to get it when the ones who have contributed all their lives, paid their taxes etc., never get a dime.

I truly hope that your life has made a turn around and that things are looking better for you.


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LuisEGonzalez 2 years ago from Miami, Florida

I like your hub as it is insightful from a perspective that many of us do not know and take for granted. So far as your husband's UC claim being denied, as far as I know from my 13 years experience as a job counselor and UC specialist, I firmly believe that he has just cause and should contact a lawyer to fight the state on your behalf. I know of at least three cases (Florida) with similar circumstances where the individuals were successful in their legal actions.


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Mary McShane 2 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

peeples -I too am sorry for your situation. I live in Fort Lauderdale and the homeless population here is incredible. In the local government's attempt to take the face of homelessness off the streets of their Chamber of Commerce way of looking at things, they opened up more shelters to shuttle them into, so visitors to our wonderful resort don't see them.

Well we still see them and many get handouts from passersby. These are ALL not old drunks, drug addicts or sloths who don't want to work. These are people with families, who are often sleeping in a car nearby or behind vegetation along the beach bulkhead. I'm sick and tired of this issue being shoved under the rug and no one doing anything about it.

It takes a village. It really does. In a sense, HubPages community can be viewed as a village. We are strong in numbers. But are we strong in active members?

Sometimes a family, like yourself, falls on hard times and needs a helping hand. If the helping hand comes from the government and it is not enough, or government requirements are not met so that no help comes to the family, then it is time to consider another plan of action.

As much as I know you are a proud mother and wife, you and your family need help. And you need it now.

There was a forum question posted asking for your hubs to be linked so you will get funds from the HP program due to traffic.

While that is all well and good, it would still be a month or more before you see funds.

I propose that since we know you have a paypal account to get paid by HP, that we simply donate directly to your paypal account - anyone who wishes to do so, that is - and that way the funds will be there for you within a few days and not wait for a month until HP payout date.

It would mean putting your paypal address out here on a hub for public knowledge, but you can also safeguard that by asking a team of three or more whom you trust - give them your paypal address and when someone asks to help let them give it out individually, which can take a long time also.

OR

Just post your paypal address directly on a hub.

I don't see anything wrong with putting your paypal address on a hub, after all - your password info is protected, it is only your address you would be revealing.

I am prepared to pledge $25 to your paypal account.

Will anyone get in line behind me?


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amiebutchko 2 years ago from Warwick, NY

Peeples, I am so very sorry for your circumstances. I can only imagine how horrible the past months have been for you. I have three children and it is easy to see that this could all happen to anyone at any time. I hope your husband is ok, with his health issues and I urge you to stay strong through this very difficult time. You are an excellent writer. Thank you so much for your story. I wish I could help.


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

Sounds like a good idea Mary.


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Mary McShane 2 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

I'm sharing this hub on HP Followers, on my Google page and Facebook, so more are aware of the plight of this family. Please share it to your own HP followers to get more attention to hub and to whatever other media outlet you are able to post. This family needs help now. TY


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amiebutchko 2 years ago from Warwick, NY

Peeples, I have kids and lots of clothes. If you ever are in need, fan mail me and I will figure out how to get them to you. OR, yes, put your paypal on a hub. I will certainly pledge as well. Gosh! We all could be you, so please consider.


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NateB11 2 years ago from California, United States of America

I was thinking of the possibility of crowd-funding to help you out of your situation. Here are some crowd-funding sites that I think are viable for raising money to get you out of homelessness: gofundme(dot)com, crowdtilt(dot)com, giveforward(dot)com.

Maybe IndieGoGo.


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Mary McShane 2 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

gts68 noticed on her blog there is a donate button with credit card and paypal links. I am going to use that to donate to her. Here is the blog address. Donate button is top right.

http://movingpastincest.blogspot.com/


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ahorseback 2 years ago

Peeples , I too am sorry for all of this , not many people realize that many of us are but a very short way from homelessness and hunger , I grew up this way too . I remember well the shame of a naïve young boy when the came to shut off the electricity or the phone would go dead or the sherrif showing u at the door with an eviction notice , fortunately my mother was just like you! My Father drank himself to this state , my mother found ever way possible to take care of us six boys at home ! We went hungry occasionally but not for long ! We ate alt of humble pie that's for sure ! Have faith Peeps , you are a survivor my dear ! I know this isn't much advice , but write about this - it will help! I hope your husband is better ! ........Huge hub hug !Ed


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Peeples.....I am a hopeful, optimistic person. I also believe in the kindness and compassion of MOST people. I am thinking that getting some help through placing your story in the local newspaper, would be a good start. Do not hesitate to call the newspaper or actually visit them.

It is possible that someone with a nice, "reasonably" priced apt will offer you and your family a place to live.......forego the security deposit (at least temporarily) and that a group like Salvation Army, Goodwill, United Way, a Church or Community Civic group can pool enough donations to pay for your 1st. month's rent.....just for the boost to get you on your feet. This is a time when it is vital to make use of the various charitable organizations. This is why they exist.

IF you are willing to give your legal name and the town & State in which you live......there could be hubbers who would be willing to send you some cash via Western Union, to help with gas, used furniture, if necessary, etc.

No family who has worked hard and has 3 children should be home less. This is unacceptable and egregious. The paypal method is also a good alternative to getting some funds to you.

Please have faith and hold on to hope, peeples and we are with you......it is good that you have spoken out.......Here to help, Paula


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ChristinS 2 years ago from Midwest

I am so sorry this has happened. I have been on the brink a few times in life and you need to know that the people who would judge you don't matter. It's disgusting that people demonize the poor, but the fact of the matter is many of us are one heartbreaking situation away from having the very same thing happen. I wish you all the best and I will send you a donation just as soon as I am able. DO apply for any and all assistance you qualify for - you are the exact type of person that system was designed to help. Most people on assistance are the working poor - and there is NO shame in it.


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tsadjatko 2 years ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

What a beautiful family! Best of luck.

From first hand experience with the homeless I can say that there are all ten types of people among the homeless but personally I have never met a single person in my life who described the homeless as any of the ten myths you list and I have worked with food banks and outreaches to the homeless at different times in my life. Of course you probably wouldn't come across anyone at a charitable outreach to the homeless who would paint such a group of unfortunate people with any of those 10 brushes and anyone who would express such simple minded, uninformed opinion , well they wouldn't be among friends or associates of mine.

I do accept the fact though that there are simple minded, uninformed people who buy into these myths, they are likely to be the same people who are bigoted about racial issues but thank God they are in the minority, or are they? Having been there have you experienced that these myths are the rule rather than the exception or do you find that most people are supportive?


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cclitgirl 2 years ago from Western NC

I will never, ever understand why we as a country are so averse to creating programs that will help people, and in turn, our society, flourish. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Life just sucks sometimes. And when my mom took in a homeless man when I was quite young, I learned an incredible lesson early on: the face of homelessness can be anyone. I can only imagine the pain - physical and mental - the anguish you, your husband and boys have had to face. Situations like this are getting all too common in this country and my heart breaks. I know you have explored every option, too. I'm not sure how I could help. But, reading stories like yours helps spread awareness and I will share. Hugs. Thinking of you.


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PegCole17 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Your warm and heartfelt story touched my heart and you've been on my mind all morning. I would love to have an easy and fast remedy to tell you or some direction to give. I'm sure you've tried every agency and charitable organization that you can imagine. In these times of hardship where many so people face the situation you find yourselves in, it points to the fact that our system is failing.

I'm deeply sorry you've had to face this incredibly difficult challenge and I admire your tenacity and your strength. You are the glue that holds your family together and I'll be praying that you see better days soon.


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Marketing Merit 2 years ago from United Kingdom

Words sound shallow, but I am genuinely sorry to hear of your plight Peeples, especially having young children. I sincerely hope that life improves for your family, in 2014 and that your husband makes a full recovery. Best wishes, keep strong and take care.


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NateB11 2 years ago from California, United States of America

Just wanted to say that on the forum thread started about this Luis Gonzalez said he'd look into crowd-funding. Probably should keep communication on that, to keep it clear what's being done, where, etc.


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Just Ask Susan 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

My heart goes out to you and your family. Not sure what I can do to help other than sharing your story in hopes that people will come forward and help you out in anyway that they can.


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Jo_Goldsmith11 2 years ago

Hi,

I don't know when you will read this. But I am going to tweet the heck out of this! I am so sorry that you and your family has had to endure all of this! :(

We are here for you in Prayers and we will not forget you! When you can, send me an address, so I can help out with what I have, financially. Also, I will be sure to bring this to the attention (with your permission) to some of my contacts with big time publishing channels. We need to stand together and demand stuff like this not to continue. And those who wish to keep good people down, like you and yours, they need to be stopped by exposing who they really are and what they stand for "greed".

Blessings and Prayers coming your way..hang in there. :-)


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Jo_Goldsmith11 2 years ago

Just let us know and please keep us posted. okay?


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Mary McShane 2 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

Until Luiz's plan is in place, I thought donating using her paypal address was good, so I accessed it via her blog. In the right top corner there is a donate button, when I clicked it, it went straight to her paypal with her name on it. Anyone still wondering how to help, this is a good start.

Until she ok's another plan, that is.

Here's the blog link:

http://movingpastincest.blogspot.com/


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varonny 2 years ago from TORONTO

I am so sorry to hear about your situation and your husband's condition. Hopefully this will end up in a much better note for you and your family.

I have never been homeless (to date) but sometimes am quite worried to fall in the same situation. Most people are just a couple of paychecks away from being homeless and not necessarily to their fault. We never know what can happen.

Educating people is probably the best way I can help you and your family, and anyone who is in a similar situation as yours. So I will share this in every single social media account I have in the hopes that people can open their eyes.

Hope it turns out better for you and hopefully fast.


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savvydating 2 years ago

Awesome, beautiful hub. I am so sorry that you are going through this horrible time. Your children are beautiful and I am glad that you broke down and decided to get food stamps. There is no shame in that, espcially given your circumstances. When I was growing up, we had to live in other people's home half the time. We moved every year. I went to 13 different schools. My mother worked long, hard hours at a nursing home, but there was never enough. She wore old underwear with holes. But finally, things got better... mom never gave up trying, but her health sufferred as a result of her heartbreak. She died at age 60. Had more people stepped up to the plate (like my father, for example) mom might have been able to do better. The good news is that my mother's life gave me compassion. I do not judge homeless people. It's pure nonesense to do so, and I despise people who mock the poor. Voting up.


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Kathryn Stratford 2 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

Oh my goodness, I feel like crying as I read this, and look at the photo of your kids. I have heard those assumptions many times, and even though it may be the case for some, I don't think that accounts for the majority of the homeless. I have never been in that position, but I have been close. And even being close is really scary.

My thoughts go out to you. Thanks for sharing this with us, even though it means you have to bring your own family in it to show us that the myths aren't usually true.

I wish you well, and I hope things work out in time.

~ Kathryn


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btrbell 2 years ago from Mesa, AZ

Milisa, I am so sorry that you and your famil are going through this. I find it ironic that you should have to educate the very people who are usually the ones to abuse the system. I do hope that things have improved for you. I have taken the liberty of adding your "donate" button on my facebook page. There are many people who are able and willing to help. I don't know where you live but I know that many of hubbers would love to help you out in any way that we can. Please let us know what we can do.


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Earl Noah Bernsby 2 years ago from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

I'm going to re-tweet this Hub, share it on Facebook, and tell the next person I talk to face-to-face to read it (just for good measure). I realize how small and insignificant those actions are in alleviating the plight of you and your family, but I thank you for sharing your story. Everyone here should read this Hub ... Oh, look! An ad selling [insert_product]! Boy, I sure could use one of those!! *clicks ad*


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

Im not sure where to start everyone but please excuse any really horrible typos as I no longer have a computer and am responding via phone. First, thank u all. When I wrote this I was simply trying to bring attention to a problem, not myself. I've always been the type to put myself out there if I thought it could help others but I've never seeked anything personal from it. I have been off HP for a little while due to work and lack of internet. We have found a month to month home. Its only two bedrooms and a bit crowded for us but it's a home! I'm not sure how long we'll be able to stay because I simply can't afford it on my own. My husband has an interview Monday at 9. We are hoping something works out.

I appreciate people wanting to help but I am not comfortable putting my full name out in the open. I will though give my current email address. It is not linked to HP. It is wchardin@yahoo.com

I haven't logged into my blog in a while but I guess I will Havering see if I can manage to log in from my phone.


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

srry all my phone only lets me write a certain amount at one time. I really do appreciate the outpouring of kindness. It really is amazing being part of this community. For those that email me I don't mind providing some of my basic info but for my family's sake I will be cautious. I truly hope u all understand my caution. Please everyone remember the message of this hub. It is the whole point of writing it. Thank u to everyone who shared via twitter and Facebook. Thank u all for simply reading and caring!


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Good luck at the interview. Hope he gets the job. Keep writing to us and we'll keep doing what we can to help. Let us know which city you're in, for instance, so if there's any hubbers nearby who might be able to help they'll know to email you.

Is your email linked to your paypal? There's a few of us who would like to send you a little cash. (You're not allowed to say 'no' to a gift ... and you never have to repay it. You just have to be pleased the world still has a few friendly faces in it, and not get too depressed about your circumstances.)

Take care. Love to your family. :)


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

Ltm you are very kind. I am in upstate south Carolina. Yes my PayPal is connected to the provided email address. Thanks again for the kindness.


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

http://www.gofundme.com/6hjdts

Hi all after a lot of deliberation with my husband I have created this page for those of you who wanted to share. I greatly appreciate everything y'all have done!


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Mary McShane 2 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

shared on Facebook.

The pin it button didn't work, so I screenshot the page and created a Pinterest board to feature this family with Milisa's link to the gofundme page. I'm hoping this helps and gets some response. Stay safe, you and your family are in my prayers Milisa.

http://www.pinterest.com/marymcshane1/jan-26-2014-...


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Hendrika 2 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

Your situation is awful, and I understand it only too well. We live in South Africa and after 1994, like so many white civil servants, my husband was given a "package" which meat a lump sum of money and cheers.

Everything went fine until we lost everything due to a bad investment, we were acting on wrong information from the person of the insurance, and we lost everything.

I tried for many years to make a living from internet marketing as I could not get any other work, after I spent what little we had on computer training as I was totally computer illiterate at the age of 52. I really do not have the gift of the gab and was therefore not very successful. I worked 70 hour weeks but no use.

In the meantime my husband, visually handicapped got a job as a caretaker of a complex for a very small salary as he gave up any hope of getting a job at the age of 65. People does not even want to look at his CV

In the meantime I got a job doing the back office of a webshop that also does not pay very much and we are not homeless for the fact that our son helps pay the rent and we took in someone as a lodger to also help pay. For this we had to get the permission of the owner of our unit.

So, I agree, not all people choose to be homeless, sometimes you simply cannot help it. The many squatter camps in South Africa bears testimony to that. And please do not think it is only the Black People living in squatter camps, there are Blacks People,Brown people, Indians, Whites, you name them and you will find them squatting around the cities.


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Hello Hendrika. How wonderful that your son helps you out. :)


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Just sent $100 US to your email address via paypal, peeples. Forgot to attach a message. Probably looks a little rude and odd that it didn't come with an encouraging note. lol.

It won't go far, but I hope it helps. :)


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Here's an update from peeples, sent to my email ...

___________

Thank you so much. What y'all did made it possible for us to keep power on by paying the other half of our deposit. My husband was told they will have a job assignment starting in a week. So we are very happy things are working out. Again your help is amazing!

Thank you,

Milisa

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So there you go, I am the queen of living off the grid but I have just contributed to the profits of a power company. lol. Happy to do so, under the circumstances.

Mind you, the next time I have some spare cash, peeples, I'm sending you a solar light. :)

Keeping my fingers crossed about your husband's job.


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rls8994 2 years ago from Mississippi

I know you have read this many times from everyone that's comnented but I am so sad for you and when I look at the picture of your beautiful children my heart just breaks. I have went through some tough times and still going through some tough times but nothing like your situation. I will be praying for you and your family and I hope your husband feels better soon :)


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GoodLady 2 years ago from Rome, Italy

Thanks for sharing your story, for hanging on in there and keeping us updated. You are brave and God Bless. This a well written piece. What a plight. What a terrible reality to find yourself in in this day and age. It is awful.


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liesl5858 2 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi! Peeples, I am sorry to hear about your situation. It could happen to anyone. I just pray that things will get better for you and your family. Stay positive.


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Thinking of you still. Love to your family.


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jo miller 2 years ago from Tennessee

I have a friend going through a similar situation at present. She is single with just one son college age. He is managing to hang on to his college at present with grants, scholarships and work. She was in a profession, lost her job, and the only job she could get was in fast food--part time. She works regularly but makes max 800 per month. Her rent was $650. She couldn't pay and got evicted. Now she is in temporary housing but doesn't know how long that will be available.

We're trying to help.

Good luck to you and your family.

Good luck to you and your family.


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cfin 2 years ago from The World we live in

I know this will be a bit of a rant but there is a point behind it.

I had a good job in the US but my wife and I really wanted to move back to Ireland. My father had told us to come and stay with him until we were all set. Little did I know that accepting his hospitality would leave us homeless for a short period. His new wife was very unwelcoming and yelled at us a lot. She made it unbearable to stay there. We picked up our two year old and left, pretending to be all set. Our funds were dwindling and I choose the first job that came along in a far away city and turned down 5 interviews. We choose the first rental house we could find as we could only afford a B&B for 4 nights. It got worse.

My new job had promised me a 12 month contract, and when I arrived, they handed me a 6 month-er. The house we rented was meant to be furnished. When we arrived the first day, they had removed all the furniture. The beds were soiled. The landlady would not answer her phone. We were completely alone. I got really sick because the heating wouldn't work and my first day of work was a disaster, coughing and spluttering. My second day I had to call in sick. Needless to say, my third day started with them trying to force me out already.

The house continued to fall apart, our car broke down, my wife and 2 year old became just as ill but we couldn't visit the doctor as we had no internet to figure it out, my wife had no medical, as she was foreign and in the middle of the green card process and my job suddenly changed my pay schedule so I would be paid monthly (i.e not for another month).

We couldn't afford the rent on the dingy house we were renting. Our dreams were in pieces and we had no money. On chance a friend emailed me from the US when I was at work offering me a job back at where I used to work.

I cried like a baby that night. We both cried. I had always wanted to move back to Ireland and had I gotten a good job and had support everything would have been perfect. But it wasn't. My father had let me down. Everything was terrible and here I was calculating how much I could get for my car and the price of flights back to the US.

We up and left the dingy house and sold the car for a decent price. We stayed at my moms apartment for a few nights, the 3 of us in one room. My mother is not wealthy, but we were just glad to have somewhere to sleep and she is a wonderful person. After that, we flew back to the life I had faked for 2 years previously. Unsure where we would sleep and without a house, car, or any kind of money.

We stayed at my wife's dads house and he loaned us a truck for a few days. We were lucky enough to find a place that didn't require a deposit. It was a miracle to us. We fully knew we couldn't afford it. I had worn my best clothes and faked the business look to get a place and I had pretended to be "uninterested" as the place looked dingy. They ended up saying "well hey, we can drop the deposit if you will take the place".

The next few days consisted of desperately trying to go from place to place and find somewhere to sleep until we could move our 3 airport sized bags of possessions into our apartment. I started work in the middle of a payroll cycle and received $200 the next week. We had that $200 for food for the next 3 weeks.

My wife is the best for sticking strong through it. At the time we pretended for our daughter like it was all fine. Those 3 months were hell. Not just because we didn't have a house, but because we never felt at home. We felt lost and felt worthless. I can't believe how far we have come now. Life can fall apart so quickly, but it can also come together just as fast.


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

cfin. what a terrible journey your family had. I am glad it all came together again. This is a good testimony of survival and perseverance.


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Hi cfin. I am left with an overwhelming sense that you and your wife are perfect together. How lucky you are to have survived such an awful experience and both still keep your focus on your child and each other. Many people never face such a test ... and of those who do, often their relationship is a casualty.

My best wishes to you and your family. I am pleased things have come together again for you. :)


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peachpurple 22 months ago from Home Sweet Home

USA government are very helpful and supportive to the homeless people. In our country, you will get kicked into the street and beg


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ThatMommyBlogger 13 months ago from The Midwest

Excellent article. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I will keep your family in my thoughts, and I pray that you never find yourself in difficult times again.

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